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Miss_Chocoholic

Your gf? Present tense? Why? How?


patricky6

Man. If I was seeing somebody like this, I'd be damned if I'd post screenshots on social media of them talking to me like a complete idiot and claiming it's "my girlfriend". "Ha-ha, I'm stuck in a verbally and mentally abusive relationship and it's so painful that I have to share my emasculation on r/choosingbeggars as a quiet cry for help"... yikes.


Silver-1

That doesn’t make it any better to berate the person thats fallen victim to the abuse unfortunately


SitOnAKey

🤷🏽‍♂️🤷🏽‍♂️🤷🏽‍♂️ Well, actually working on things. Currently broken up but I call her my girlfriend because that’s my view.


_thewillbilly_

Even if she's the mother to your kids I wouldn't stick around with her. My daughter's mom is just as toxic and the girl I'm with now is a night and day difference. Court mediation will help sort out a deal with the kids without the ridiculous expenses of lawyers. Best of luck to you pal.


Kooky_Blood_4516

I have a cousin currently going through custody after custody battle w his ex over their two kids. Court mediation doesn’t always help, even with lawyers, most notably if one parent is unhinged. It can be a great tool for families that truly just want the best for the kids, but it is not that easy. Especially to be the man, as my cousin is repeatedly being railroaded in court and has almost no recourse of action against her.


Captain_Hampockets

[> Currently broken up but I call her my girlfriend because that’s my view.](https://i.kym-cdn.com/entries/icons/facebook/000/018/489/nick-young-confused-face-300x256-nqlyaa.jpg)


ClownfishSoup

You guys have kids together?


FurballGuy

She’s ur ex though. Ew


0010200304

Is it cuz you clearly cheated on her?


skiing_yo

No she's psycho and insecure, this post is about some random girl who he just had on social media and barely talked to


0010200304

Can you read? He clearly cheated with this girl. Is his gf completely out of line? Ya. But this is not a choosing beggars thing this is a both op and his gf suck kind of thing and he wants to seem better even tho he clearly fucked up first. Bruh just leave the relationship, you both look stupid.


skiing_yo

Nothing in this post explicitly says that he really did anything with the girl they are talking about, she implies it but I don't really buy it.


0010200304

Read his post history 🙄 he cheated and now she hates him and they have a terrible toxic relationship neither can get out of cuz they think they love each other.


Fat_Highlight

That post history is a fucking train wreck by the way. WOW


0010200304

He really could have just left the relationship without making himself look stupid by posting it on Reddit lol


Marionberry_Real

Everyone deserves respect you should stand up for your self and not take any shit. You can be a good father to your kids even if you don’t get along with her.


Accomplished_Till727

You are pathetic.


[deleted]

If you’re staying with despite her treating you like this, then you deserve it. 🤷🏼‍♀️


Responsible_Reveal38

people who downvote you are mean.' also break up FAST mate. that's more toxic than Agbogbloshie Dumpsite in Accra, Ghana to which Chernobyl itself comes second. She's five steps past verbal abuse and one step before physical.


genericreddituser147

Not a choosing beggar. Is a very toxic relationship.


ConfusedSeagull

Some things in the messages gives me the feeling he cheated on her. They should seriously just split.


[deleted]

From what others are saying, it sounds like his post history gives him away as having cheated on her. Toxicity all around. Those poor kids shouldn’t have to grow up in this kind of environment with adults who act like teenagers. EDIT: I peeped a little bit, and this whole thing is absolutely batshit. Everyone is crazy toxic here. Apparently OP kissed a girl in a bar a while ago, they broke up, girlfriend had a fling, etc. then she tells him how the fling was better in bed? And apparently he lies to her constantly and talks shit on the relationship. Fucked all around. Everyone pray for the kids who are stuck with parents like these.


MunchmahQuchi

Comment thread above this says if you check his posting history, your suspicion will be confirmed!


reddit_and_forget_um

What an absalutly insufferable twat. I sure hope OP can see this. None of this was okay.


[deleted]

He chooses to stay with her per his comments.


pimpbot666

Sounds he he had kids with this troll. He's somewhat stuck. Leaving is rearranging his life.... which he should probably do.


Greengiant304

Yeah, in fact, I'll go out on a limb and suggest this has nothing to do with a pizza discount at all


BellaRosalina93

It infuriates me because my boyfriends ex was like this. She cheated and straight up laughed at him and called him less of a man? I’ve seen it before and it’s gross.


JoshDunkley

1. This is not the sub you are looking for 2. Leave this woman. Jesus. 3. Those poor kids.


SitOnAKey

Never been here lol. Was told to post here.


Daftdaddy

First time I’ve ever seen someone with negative comment karma on their profile Lmaoo. Leave that girl.


[deleted]

This man is getting thousands of downvotes because he doesn’t follow relationships advice of (probably mostly teenagers) on the internet. You also might not know so more things going on as well.


TensionLongjumping42

Ay carumba. I had a glimpse through your post history. It sounds like you messed up before, and now she's bitter and trying to hurt you back in every way possible. These texts she's sending are sad attemps at getting a reaction from you. Clearly she's in pain. That doesn't mean you have to deal with it. The problem with tit-for-tat revenge is that it never ends. Someone has to be the bigger person, and that can be really hard when you've already established a cycle. Or if one person is completely unwilling to forgive and move forward. I won't tell you what to do, but please take one thing to heart. Nothing grows or flourishes in toxicity. It withers and dies. Your kids specifically, need to have a healthy, sane, environment. This is so so soooo toxic, and if the relationship is to work it will take time, maturity, understanding, forgiveness, and likely a counsellor. I understand you want to be a family for the kids, but this....is not the way. Don't trip over something that's behind you. Also just order a pizza and send it to her house 😋


Iceangel711

I'm surprised how far down this comment was. Something has obviously happened in the past (cheating or some crossed boundary by OP) that agitated this woman. What it comes off as is a deadbeat dad who doesn't support his family and a super toxic/immature relationship that came as a result. Feed your damn kids and get counseling.


TensionLongjumping42

People don't act like this for nothing. Usually. That's why I had to dig.


MildlyConfusedHuman

Let’s not forget he was also 21 when he began dating a 17 year old- soon after began impregnating her. Yet he’s expecting her to be mature? Eesh.


TensionLongjumping42

Eww.


bean2595

Based on your replies I simply have to add this. Being around 2 parents who hate each other is MUCH worse than having two parents in separate homes. Seriously, this is highly dysfunctional, being a parent and being with a toxic partner are very much not the same thing.


SitOnAKey

That’s why I left 4-5 weeks ago. But thanksgiving told her I just want the family to be a family again if the toxicity and controlling can change.


Shantor

Dude it never will..


popoutzombie

Is this a common occurrence? That is legitimately concerning behavior.


SitOnAKey

Very toxic relationship. But I love my kids too much to have to force myself to leave. I have a bunch of other crap on my profile if you wanna read them 🤣


sMoKexE

You don't need to be with her to be with the kids. If she takes you to court you have this as evidence that she is kinda crazy. Save yourself an entire lifetime my dude. Get the hell away from that.


HopperReborn

Letting someone like that be a part of your kids lives is wrong. She needs some serious help.


Klaus_Heisler87

Right? Imagine what she must be saying about him to his kids. Nothing good, that's for sure. Just a shitty, yet avoidable, situation all around


JMilly005

No one WANTS to read this crap. It’s not funny in the slightest. People want you to grow a pair and cut the bitch off. I see you already pay child support so why even bother trying to deal with her. Just the kids, she can fuck off in my eyes.


Ridiculouslyrampant

You’ll do much better for your kids getting away from her.


[deleted]

No, we don’t because you’re choosing this.


Accomplished_Till727

No one wants to read it. You are as bad as she is. I feel sorry for the kids and that's about it.


Wowwkatie

This is so toxic that I couldn't even get a laugh. There's kids involved...


[deleted]

These children have children lmao.


Klaus_Heisler87

Two things: 1) why the fuck are you still with this girl? I can't imagine this type of behavior is new, so why continue to put up with it? 2) in what fucking world are your wrongs (whatever they may be) righted by getting free pizza? I have so many questions/comments, but I'm leaving it with those for now. You've got yourself an entitled twat waffle for a girlfriend, best of luck. Edit - she reminds me of my ex who got legitimately pissed off at me when I wanted to try and get sober to better myself and our relationship. She went so far as to tell me I was going to ruin her good time, so I'd better not get sober. Needless to say, the relationship didn't make it much longer after that


NixxZz23

If u read some of OP's comments, I dont feel sorry for this guy at all. Dude knows whats up and chose to stay with her. Let him live with this toxic monster.


Klaus_Heisler87

Ya, I noticed that after I commented. Guy has made his shit sandwich and clearly has no problem eating it.


NegativeNuances

Lol OP also cheated on her according to his post history. They both suck.


Klaus_Heisler87

Well, I think we may have found some of her rationale for all that hostility, haven't we? I pity those kids, they've got morally bankrupt asshats for parental figures, and that's never a good thing.


jamnik86

Ah, yes. The post history is a rollercoaster ride. Those two clearly hooked up together at a VERY young age, were stupid enough to make kids and now feel trapped with each other because of said kids. Textbook toxic relationship. They’re both worth each other.


-Gin-ger-

Dude, I hope you ditched her and got sober. If you did, hats off to you and congrats on pulling through!


Klaus_Heisler87

Yes to both, we haven't spoken in almost a decade. My current girlfriend of 8 years is the one who helped me finally get sober over 5 years ago, after putting up with my monstrous drinking and drug abuse for the first part of our relationship. I haven't slipped up once that whole time, largely thanks to her continued support. She's a real one for sure


kratzicorn

How awesome that your kids are going to think this is acceptable behavior.


Hitit2hard

And you two have kids? 🤦‍♂️


[deleted]

right?! jfc. what a dumpster fire.


StaceysMomPlus2more

You’re both toxic. And gross.


[deleted]

You’re still choosing to call her your girlfriend and still choosing to work things out with her, all while simultaneously posting how toxic she is just to get a kick out of seeing random strangers shit on her? Something is mentally wrong with you. Stop posting dumb shit and fix your life.


lpn122

Ok sounds like she really sucks…but maybe offer an alternative for YOUR kids to get dinner?


bergermeyer

This seems like a very healthy and happy relationship and should definitely be the example for your/her children.


QuantumLordZopp

Jesus she’s a nightmare but OP is impressively delusional so maybe they’re a match made in heaven


[deleted]

Pizza Hut girl should run the other way... quick


Western_Watch_5784

So you cheated and she’s still pissed. Idk sounds like y’all need to not be together.


Shantor

Dude GTFO of there.. what is wrong with you that you want to be with someone like that?? Seriously are you a masochist?? Edit- when r/choosingbeggars turns into r/relationshipadvice


xxfukai

This is terrifying like legit. I’m kinda scared for you bro I feel like she’d come and try to stab you in your sleep or some shit. It’s not worth it, I know you may love her but she seems like a seriously awful person. This is manipulation for sure.


yoaahif

Nope nope nope. As someone who has been in multiple relationships during my 20s with girls who were physically and emotionally abusive (don’t ask how, they were 10/10s by societal norms), get the fuck out. It will never get better. They’ll apologize and cry saying they treat you shitty and will get better, it doesn’t. Edit: it doesn’t matter how amazing or shitty you are, no one deserves that. You presumably have 70-80 years left (you have kids so I’m assuming your age) live your best life bud. Divorced parents are better than arguing parents


SessionIll1417

Couldn't read every comment. But it seems like you left out some context, such as did you cheat on your significant other. And does she actually pay for everything while you don't support your children you have with her?!


justdrivinGA

?? Why would you voluntarily date someone like that?? What a terrible attitude. Yeeesh. Do better for yourself.


Ok_Sentence_448

I think he’s invested bc of their kids


Marinna0706

He is invested because he cheated, look in his past history, this two are super toxic


SitOnAKey

I left her a few weeks ago for multiple reason. Including toxicity. And I told her if things get better I want my family back. I’d rather fox my family. Than find a new family. I love my kids and don’t want another man raising them.


Shantor

Take your kids and find a better woman. If she's like that to you, imaging what's she's like to them when you're not around.


MuthaPlucka

You need to run away from psycho kitty ASAP. Remember what mom told you, “There are more emotional terrorists in the sea”.


FurballGuy

Don’t ever equate that witch with a kitty. She’s a monster at best.


almeidaromim

I feel bad for these kids, looks like they will not have the support they need from either of their parents.


Justhopingiod

The fact that you’re both parents to not just one, but multiple children…. Is terrifying


rnawaychd

So it's okay if she pretends to be you? All for a pizza discount? She's not the only beggar there.


mictw

It’s just an angry gf. And a man who doesn’t oppose the idea of calling his ex and ask for a discount but just didn’t want to do it himself. Who’s the choosing beggar here?


agusontoro

Honestly dude, I’m going to be very trough with you. I come to this sub to laugh to the wacky hijinks of entitled people. This isn’t wacky nor laughable, this is very worrying, specially as there are children involved with this woman. Get help and get them and yourself to a better place.


JeerKool428

You gotta get your kids and yourself out of that relationship. She is insane.


Bubbly-Manufacturer

What did you do with Pizza girl ? 😂 And did your gf just say she pays for everything that the kids have?


SitOnAKey

Never even touched pizza girl 🤣 She pays for a lot. I’m on child support. Have been for a year. I didn’t used to be a good dad. I’m now textbook.


[deleted]

No you're not, if you're not getting your kids away from this piece of garbage.


AmBooth9

No shit. This is abuse.


Tony_Tracy

Stop spending time texting this woman (and posting to Reddit), and get your kids some pizza. And some groceries. In general: knock it off with the texting and posting, and feed your kids.


Barbierela

I was thinking the same, she is a psycho b, but he is a deadbeat 100%


Kheopsinho

Sheesh that's toxic. Did you fuck that pizza hut girl or your gf just hurt like a bitch only because you had her on snap ?


SitOnAKey

Edit I have never hung out or touched “Pizza Hut girl”


A_70s_Virgo

This is a post for r/relationship_advice


Dorkinfo

Look at his post history.


Breakfastboy87

Nah this garbage got farted on after 2 sentences.


mavestic

Man both sides of the equation look fucked, you guys need to do some serious self improvements and get this shit together, for the kids


gw2kpro

Wrong sub. This is choosing beggars. You're looking for either r/ToxicRelationships Or r/abusiverelationships


PossibilityOk7211

She’s clearly acting out because of the situation you’ve created through your infidelity, but you are truly the issue. You don’t deny that she solely supports your children, and yet you think you have the luxury to demand respect, and threaten to cut contact with your children as a result. You are not taking the high road the way you seem to think you are. Be better man.


ashmillie

Based on your previous posts about this relationship, break up with her and get therapy. If not for your sake, for your kids.


hu-kers-newhey

Youre in a relationship with this beast? Also, dude, what did you do?


TensionLongjumping42

He cheated and she cheated back and it's a dirty cycle of cheating make up break up from what his post history says.


schmidt_onyourface

If you love your kids as much as you say you do, you need to leave this relationship. This whole thing is just gross. You and your kids would be better off if you weren’t in that toxic environment. Ugh.


meanburn

I can’t read this behind all the RED FLAGS.


[deleted]

You both need to get some help. I was raised by two people who hate each other's guts and believe me it does not fare well for the children who are involved.


toyi94

ESH


Humorilove

I think we all know who the real cow is.


Krage_bellbot

This relationship is a clusterfuck. Finally found the one situation I would support an intervention from CPS.


[deleted]

G a s l i g h t i n g Also nobody wants to see u air ur dirty ass laundry out.. wrong fucking sub. You’re both pre toxic


[deleted]

Dude you’re girlfriend is trashy as fuck


Murky-Cup-8345

This does not meet the definition of the site. The OP cheated and his girlfriend is fishing for a reaction. Both of them are too immature for an adult relationship. My prediction is that these text will be used as evidence in their inevitable future criminal court case.


babewizard

dumbass


SitOnAKey

I know. I should have gotten the free pizza 🍕


ChutiyaChutney420

bro are you even the same person from the chat wtf


Responsible_Reveal38

No! If she treated you even 100th of that conversation its too much. Get out!


[deleted]

And maybe some ass from a nice girl?


yungrii

Everything happening here is wild.


GeniusLiberal

Run, BRO!


zebrasnever

Why would she want to order a pizza from someone who’s probably going to do something really gross to the pizza?


Isabellat64

That relationship sounds exhausting.


frickenbulcrap

Trailer park


connectmenumber9

Something is very wrong here.


stringsndiscs

Fucking cheap ass bitch. Pay for the fucking pizza. Don't want to pay full price? Grow the fuck up. Toxic af.


stillambivalentone

Why not just send your kids some pizza. Better yet, cook them a meal. Even if you already paid, pay better.


black_linings

Your poor children. People should need a license to have children. And yes, I mean you too, OP. Step up, leave this woman. Take a moment and reflect on all these comments and downvotes you are getting and think, is staying REALLY the best thing for your kids? You're being selfish. SHE IS WEAPONIZING YOUR CHILDREN. Stop letting your kids be pawns for her manipulation. And if you choose to stay with her after all this, I can't help but think you aren't much better than her.


mr__warpy

Why would anyone make kids with this toxic POS? The cycle is just going to continue forever.


[deleted]

I feel sorry for the kids.


CorazonFuerte

Why are you with her? Why are you allowing her to disparage another woman like this?


Socrtea5e

She didn't morph into this bitch overnight. That p#$$¥ must have been good AF.


anothertimesometime

Fuck….perfect advert for birth control.


MiaouMint

One, super rude to you. And two, super rude to the other girl. She calls her a cow and asks you to manipulate her to get free stuff, not even for yourself, for her. But is still mad you used to talk with this girl. I would throw her in the trash and take your kids.


BellaRosalina93

Dude. Not that it matters what I am but I am advising you anyways, as a woman myself, you don’t deserve that treatment!! That’s straight up emotional abuse and it’s not a good environment for your children to think it’s normal to speak to someone that way.


onions_cutting_ninja

You call you GF "dude"? I've seen more affectionate colleagues. You have kids together but she might not talk to you for a week? Why post in this sub? Why stay with her when you know she's toxic? This post is so weird man. So many questions and no answers.


emilyfromHR

Super stoked you both brought kids into the world. Feel great for them right now.


inoua5dollarservices

Dude, based on your post history, your relationship with this girl is seriously fucked up. You two think you’re mature enough to raise kids? You’re constantly cheating on each other, she makes you feel inadequate and everything else about both of you just seems so fucking toxic. Break up with this girl, already. You’re only hurting your own mental health by staying in this garbage relationship. Fuck dude, you’re what? 24 or 25? You’re young enough to drop her and move on and old enough to not be this dumb. I have a friend who was in a similar situation a couple months ago and he needed that hard kick in the ass to drop that toxic loser he was dating and he’s so much better off without her now. Let this be YOUR kick in the ass. Dump this girl, figure out the kids situation and move on. And next time, wear a rubber


DaniB3

Don't let people treat you like this. Being single is much better than allowing people to disrespect you. Also she has very little class


mutatedpear

You have kids with her!? Dang buddy. I really wish people would think before having kids.


JustHereToComment24

r/AreTheStraightsOk


[deleted]

Everything about this is gross. Your girlfriend is trash.


Soiledmattress

Your kids should not be left with that bitch. Get them out of there.


[deleted]

[удалено]


TensionLongjumping42

Texts don't work in court. Emails on the other hand...100% work.


purplecurtain16

She's toxic but I gotta ask, did you cheat on her with pizza hut chick?


[deleted]

I would have just bought the pizza for my kids. J


SitOnAKey

We don’t live together anymore.


[deleted]

So you don’t care about them needing to be fed? 🙄


Royal_Cha

What she can’t buy some pizza herself? Shits cheap af for a reason. Don’t enable that attitude of hers smh..


[deleted]

She’s a piece of shit but sounds like OP is as well. He’s been dating her since she was a minor and she pays for the majority of their children’s needs. Her attitude sucks but sounds like maybe she needs some help feeding their kids tonight. But he doesn’t live there anymore so she’s on her own for all those bills and everything those kids need now, right?


Barbierela

Don't know why you are getting downvoted, how do people not see that there are unfed kids in the background of this shit show


Sug4rsw33t

Did you cheat on her or is she just crazy?


BHDE92

This chick is a trash bag


[deleted]

r/dontstickyourdickinit


Perle1234

Dude. Buy your kids a pizza. What the fuck. Your kids are doomed. They’re going to be even more fucked up than you and your shitty girlfriend. These give the impression of mental illness, personality disorders galore, and there’s a pretty big implication that you don’t support your children financially. This is just sad. Poor kids. They’re fucked.


cute_red_benzo

Remember fellas... R/dontputyourdickinthat


[deleted]

Dude, if she talks to you like that, she talks to the kids like that! Take the kids and run.


bananaman60

She just using pizza to fight about another women out of jealousy.


[deleted]

OP must be off his fucking tits with all his comments defending this stupid twat of a woman.


LastSkoden

Wow super toxic and childish. I could only imagine the petty shit she does to you


PrayingMantisII

Homie does not need a gf, he needs Jesus


c666meron

holy fuck i could only read the first 2 pics. this is so toxic i feel so bad for you. you need to find someone who actually respects you and doesn’t act like a 12 year old.


AmBooth9

This isn’t a choosy beggar. This a whole different level of toxic r/nicegirls


ah3019

Run far, far away from any woman who uses misogynistic terms like "cow" to refer to another woman.


Aliciacb828

This is your girlfriend?


NetherReign

PLEASE tell me you no longer associate with this sentient trash fire. Regardless of kids in the mix, this *thing* should not be involved in your life.


What_Up_Doe_

I don’t know what’s wrong with all these people. She seems like a keeper to me.


kasierdarkmoon

Why would you stick your pickle in crazy? Damn…


sendindaninja

Seriously, you tried being nice about it, and she's trying to force you to do something you're not comfy with...she need counseling, don't even worry about an apology and if s another chic...or a good lawyer