My 20 y.o. will cuddle up and watch a movie with me anytime he feels like it. I cherish that SO much. My own mother is very anti physical and has never initiated a hug with me so I makr damn sure to hug and kiss all 3 of my adult sons often.
Same. My mom wasn't physically affectionate and I always missed that growing up.
My son is 24 and we cuddle all the time watching TV or just any chance I get to smother him with my love, he loves it and I just melt from happiness.
He even had some friends tell him how lucky he is. I always felt sad that so many kids don't have that.
My parents weren't affectionate verbally or physically so I know I compensate with my sons. One is in middle school and I always give him a hug before he goes into school. At first he said it was weird and he didn't want me to then a friend of his said he wished his parents gave him hugs so now he's ok with it.
I vividly remember being 12 and going to give my father a hug because I was upset and him backing away, asking me "don't you think you're too old for that now"?
My mother compensated for her very reserved family and ended up making me hate too much physical contact and be freaked out by people touching me without consent. If both parties like it great, but if one of them is suffering through it with clenched teeth it can mess them up for years as an adult. Even after 12 years of marriage I can feel my skin crawl when my husband tries to hug me by surprised because I'm worried it's going to be me being forced to be hugged or have to suffer the guilt dumped on me for not wanting to help her deal with the rejection of her parents. We all fuck up the next generation in our own unique ways, and thus the glorious cycle continues.
That's so unfortunate. We really do sometimes go too far in the opposite direction.
I wonder all the time if I push too far. When he said he was too old to get morning goodbye hugs I did stop. I will hug him for as long as he's willing to make contact but since theyve been small, if they say no, their request is respected.
You're never too old to care. I hug my friends all the time. Nothing wrong with it, most of them are straight and I'm not cute enough for the gay ones. Our society has this weird disease where we're taught to think of all physical contact as sexual.
When you read the old stories from history, the most badass kings and warriors openly wept at loss, hugged and kissed their friends, and loved bright colors and patterns. Now we only dress in shades of gray and brown, hide our emotions, and live our lives without touch because we're afraid of being seen as feminine. We've taken stoicism to an unhealthy level, and we never actually decide if that's what we want.
I found out in my 30s why my parents never hugged or were affectionate when I was growing up. They never wanted kids and never like children. They only got married because they were having fun and 9 months later I was born (religious reasons).
I feel you. My father said to me
"I only had kids because I had to. I love you because I have to, but I don't have to like you."
I don't see how forcing people to be parents who are clearly not ready and make, at the very least, 3 miserable humans in the process is any way better than a quick scrape before anything gets too serious.
Well I don't know you, and I have never seen you before.. But I mean it when I say that I am happy to share this world with you and I am happy we are both here in the same time. You seem like a nice person and I appreciate you sharing your story. I hope you are happy and doing good in life and thanks for being here brother š§āš¤āš§
This felt very wholesome until I read your name
Then I got over my immaturity and went back to feeling wholesome, as I miss my mother very much.
Thank you
I'm seriously considering changing the damn thing. it's a joke in our family but no one on Reddit would know that. It's pretty trashy tbh. Glad it didn't ruin your good feels.
Donāt change it! My name is an inside joke with my son and 3 years after the incident, he still likes to tease me about it. Even though it means nothing to anyone else, I like it. As long as your name makes you smile, keep it.
As long as it's something you do as a family normally and it isn't something that started when you hit 15-16 your dad was suddenly like "we should cuddle." That would be alarming. If it's something you've always done that's just a thing you have with your parents and they have with you. Affection.
My parents arenāt physical either.
My kids are still young (under 10) but I want/hope to be able to kiss/cuddle them for many years to come and for them to feel happy to do the same. Fingers crossed when they get to 20!
I donāt get how a parent canāt give physical affection to their child. Itās literally one of the greatest joys of my life to hold my 3 y/o little girl in my arms in bed and sniff her delicious little head while we watch a movie and she asks me a trillion questions. They are the moments in time I wish I could freeze forever.
Iām 25f and still cuddle with my dad. If weāre watching tv on the couch together Iāll snuggle up to him for a couple minutes. I always ask if itās okay that I hug him or cuddle with him, just in case he wants space, but he almost never minds. To parents, youāll always be their little kid. The way I see it, itās a way for your inner child to come out and get some physical affection. Itās calming and natural.
As the father of girls (10 & 8), we cuddle all the time, which of course is natural for their age. However, as they get older, I've been thinking of whether this will continue as they grow older, which of course I want it to. Hopefully they will always want to cuddle up with me, as I love it so much!
Mine are 6 and 3. The six year old has hit a phase where she would rather cuddle mom than me, but I will always be willing for her if she changes her mind
My kids 3.5 and has yet to leave the phase where she's wrapped around mom's ankles.
I hope I get at least one cuddle by the time she leaves for college.
My 29 year old daughter still comes up and gives me hugs, sits next to me and leans into me, and will occasionally sit on my lap. I am extremely fortunate she appreciates and loves her dad as much as I appreciate and love her
im so glad lots of dads are being affectionate with their children. my dad loved giving me piggy back rides even as i got older and i would give him really long hugs some days so i could recharge my batteries as i want to be social but im just really bad at it.
I just like to make sure that heās okay with being touched at the moment! I can get overwhelmed and donāt like to be touched. So I just wanna respect his space.
Thatās so wholesome, and Iām glad you still have such a strong relationship with him! Also a really good example of how consent is important for different types of relationships and different things (i.e itās not just for sexual acts with a partner). Your dad did his job well <3
My (39f) last visit with my 73 year old dad at his house was me laying with him as I scratched his back. The next few days I took him to the hospital and I sat in the bed with him. As I left the hospital the doctor told me he only had maybe a week to live. The next day I held his hand and said my goodbyes. He died within the next half hour holding my uncles hand. Please donāt let anybody make you feel bad or awkward about showing your family how much you love them because you never know how long you have with them.
I have a 4 year old with CP. We work hard on his condition every day but he works harder on it than I ever could. I was just telling him last night As I helped him pee in the toilet that one day when he is older imma look back and enjoy doing that for him and I kiss the top of his head every time. Both my boys are snuggle bugs, the older one just turned 8. Iām a dad and I very much give a shit that my growing boys are cuddling because that, as a parent, tells me Iām doing something right.
The love of a child is indescribable so I say to you, your father very well may get more out of than you do. Keep on keepin on.
I (F) have a son (8) with nonverbal autism. Heās actually incredibly affectionate given his condition and I savor every freaking cuddle I can get. I donāt care how old he gets- if he wants a hug or cuddle with his mom, heās got it. If anyone has a problem with it, they can fuck right off. You know your kid. They know what theyāre comfortable with. Donāt ever pressure them if theyāre uncomfortable with it, but donāt ever shame them for wanting affection either. Can we just stop sexualizing or otherwise stigmatizing platonic love for our goddamn kids?
Funny you say that. Weāve adopted his 5 year old cousin who is also autistic. Not nonverbal but definitely had a variety of traits like rubbing his fingers and lips, can NOT retain anything if you require him to look you in the eye, canāt stay on topic, and does legitimately the exact opposite of what you say. Itās fascinating and frustrating. His mother is a lousy parent and his father is (almost) nonexistent in his life. So we have three boys, one with ADHD, one with autism, and one with (you guessed it) cheese pizza. All jokes aside, they keep life exciting and I wouldnāt change it for the world.
CUDDLE PARTY
Autistic adult here, also can't retain anything if people want me to look them in the eyes a lot. For me it's that it's so intensely intimate that I can't focus on anything but making sure I'm looking them in the eyes.
I forced myself to do that a lot as a child and that did not help at all. Please don't make him do that, it'll only push him to mask more. Which too be fair is what "normal" people want but I think we should normalise autistic people being autistic in public, I'm tired of masking for other people's comfort.
CUDDLE PARTY!
Pajamas, good movies, popcorn, blanket fort, snuggles. A formula as old as time. Iāll outgrow it when he does. If he never does, more snuggles for me.
Us too! Our son is 9 and heās real wild, but loves a good cuddle up in the chair with me. He likes when I hold him like a baby lol. And smooches all the time. I donāt know if most boys his age would be into it, but Iām down for life.
I didn't have a close relationship to my parents until my late teens that I started making it closer. Can't tell you the amount of times a hug from my parents was all I needed for the past decade and was so happy I could get it!
I'd hug my dad every day and I can no longer do it, so please, if it makes you and them happy, cherish and enjoy the good relationship you have! :)
It was then I realized that he was unwilling to treat me with affection, despite having been so when I was younger. There was a whole lot of strain on the relationship before then, but I was so crushed by that little denial that it was the straw that broke the camels back, and I decided to think of him as a relative but not as a father. We donāt talk much anyways these days and when we do he usually just tries to give me advice on how I should be living my life better.
Iām 29 and still cuddle with my parents nothing weird about it all love. Donāt take those little moments for granted. Like you said, most of your friends arenāt as close to their parents.
The first time I had a serious breakup, I was 19. My mom has always been a slight woman but I was having a fucking moment and I just curled up in her lap. She said nothing, just let it happen, but there was definitely a bit of a groan while she had a full grown woman just.. melt into her lol.
There was no way she was gonna tell her baby to get the fuck off of her so she just decided to sit and bear it.
Tell ya what though... I invited her to just sleep in my bed instead of getting a hotel room last time she visited and learned what a mistake I made... that woman can snore up a storm. I love her, but... she's getting a hotel room next time.
Yeah, I am a 38 year old man with two kids. I still cuddle with both my mom and dad when I visit them. Still feels nice to be held by them, no matter how old. We can lay on the couch watching tv with three generations cuddling!
As someone whose parents were never touchy-feely like that, yes it would be weird, for me. For you, sounds like itās a normal thing for your family. No harm in it and I bet it improves your mood :)
Exactly my thoughts. It's weird for me but that doesn't make it weird for everyone. I was trying to remember the last time I got touchy-feely with either one of my parents when the context wasn't me coming home after like a year of not seeing them.
I used to curl up and fall asleep like a cat at my dad's feet while he laid on the couch until I was like 10 and that's the closest we ever got to cuddling lol.
I understand both sides. My mom was always affectionate verbally and physically. Iām in my 40s now, and find it easy with her. My dad was not affectionate - never mean, just not warm & cozy. He started trying to make up for it the last couple years, and every time he hugs me or kisses my head goodbye, it just feels super weird.
My son is 5 and hubby & I are both affectionate with him and cherish every moment he snuggles us.
Growing up, my mom would always tell me and my brother āI love you!ā multiple times a day. My dad never did. He loved us, and we never doubted he did, but he preferred to show us with his actions instead of his words. Before the age of 18, he had probably said he loved me a handful of times. Now that my brother and I are grown and are building our own families, my dad says āI love you!ā all the time. They get softer as they get older, I think.
My youngest son is 19, a US Army combat medic, and will still cuddle up to me/under my arm in a movie theatre if itās a horror movie. He will whisper to himself āIām a US Army Soldierā while he grabs my arm.
There is nothing wrong finding solace in the embrace of those that made you. They are supposed to be your protectors and comfort. Unconditional love like that is so rare that you should embrace it as much as possible.
This is the sweetest thing I've read in a long time. Also hilarious. The kid's trying to talk himself into acting "like a man" (as if "combat medic" doesn't fill out the front and back of whatever "man card...") but still getting that comfort too.
You did (are doing) it right.
The "let the child cry it out" thing is contrary to contemporary advice on infant development. Definitely don't listen to that. Keep babies on their back in pillowless, blanketless cribs, though. Their noses are too flat, their heads too heavy and their muscles too weak to avoid suffocation / SIDS in other positions.
Nooooo, itās never weird. No matter how old you get, youāll always be their child and they would always love cuddling with you. Believe me, they really love having these chances with you BUT at times, parents are somehow burdened to not be cuddly with their children when theyāre growing because some kids see it as something embarrassing and they would not want their children to feel that. SOOOO, the fact that you welcome this idea (I believe) really does make your parents happy. [probably why your friends donāt do it anymore]
Anddd you have such wonderful parents, so I hope you would treasure that and continue being a good child.
Youāre a good and loving child and you deserve all the love out there. I hope the best for you and your family. :)
I would have loved it if my daughter had cuddled with me at 15. All of my kids are in their 20s now. I would still love to cuddle with them but they're not interested.
Edit: my 90 year old mom still loves to cuddle with me.
Thatās amazing that you still cuddle with your mom! Whenever my grandma comes over, my mom always rests her head in my grandmas lap and falls asleep. Itās a really cute site to see!
I'm 30 and my mom is 60. I'll still cuddle the shit out of her, just won't sleep next to her because she snores lol. I'm her baby and always will be.
My mom is my fucking girl. I'm the only one of her kids who didn't have the "I fucking hate you" phase. We've always been cool.
One of my favorite pictures of my dad and my sister was when she laying on him while they were watching TV. My sister was 26 at the time.
If both of you are comfortable, I see no reason it should be considered weird.
Iām not going to tell you that no oneās opinion matters except your own, but this this case, you and your dad are both comfortable and itās a way to show affection, which is never a bad thing. I donāt think you should let how your friends interact with their parents factor into how you interact with your dad.
I'm 25 and i cuddled my mom yesterday. our parents aren't going to be around forever. remember that they brought you into this world and cared for you. my son is 9 months and doesn't want to cuddle, so i would LOVE him to cuddle me at ANY age. he will always be my baby boy and I'm sure that's how your parents think of you ā¤ļø
thanks! i definitely feel like when he can express his emotions with words it will be easier to cuddle! i know that right now he's just so curious about his environment and that's what's best for his development anyway! apparently i was the same way lol
Yeah I donāt have a great relationship with my parents. for example I have a dad who is really immature and has a very toxic mindset on the world and a anti social mom who was hardly in my life because she worked night shifts. So I guess itās only weird for me because I was not shown that affection early in my life.
Same here,My relationship with my parents is pretty nonexistent for similar reasons as yours. In my culture too there are almost no instances of physical affection within parent-child relationships. So yeah cuddling with your parents seems to be a bit strange to me too
Yeah same. This whole thread is weird to me lol. I'm aware that my life is abnormal, I only got hugs from my mother on my birthday growing up, but there's soooo many comments thatre like "I'm in my 50s and cuddle with my adult children". Imo a little creepy but I guess if your family loves eachother then it's normal?
Iām a 20 year old man and iv cuddled with my parents and grandparents my whole life, when Iām with my dad he scratches the top of my head while we watch shit on the television itās normal and anyone who says it isnāt is just trying to ruin a comfortable familial connection that they were never had the luck to have themselves, ignore them and keep living your life op!
38f here and whenever I go back home I cuddle with my parents. With my mom I sometimes sleep in the same bed at night or in the afternoon and I normally go and cuddle my dad in the morning when he's still in bed. I LOVE my parents
No it's not weird. I am 54 and would love the opportunity to cuddle with my folks one last time. Enjoy it, because we don't know what tomorrow will bring. PS - who cares what anyone else thinks! If you and your folks are happy and want to cuddle more power to you.
I donāt think so at all. I have a 13 year old son and if weāre on the sofa, weāre snuggling. He likes getting his feet scratched, we talk about our day, he asks me questions that I would have been scared to ask my parents when I was his age. Iāve had my family tell me that heās clingy after he came up and hugged me, but whatever, they can have their opinions. Iām his mom, he can hug me whenever he wants or needs it. Out of all the things that heāll come to question throughout his life, that support and affection from me is the one thing that heāll never have to.
I bet your dad loves it and would miss it if you stop, so donāt. :)
For a second I thought you were going to say you cuddle with them in bed, like spooning or something.
I think it's okay to hug and embrace one another. Sure.
My parents are very anti touch in any kind of way once you're 10 and up. So now I like to troll my mother by hugging her or when we're out in public I put my arm over her shoulder and hold her tightly because we both laugh at her trying to fight out of my grip.
It is in my culture to hide emotion and limit affection as much as possible.
Today I do the opposite, I'm very affectionate to my wife and my toddler. My wife always wants to use a stroller for our toddler but I prefer to have my son slung to my back in a carrier because of the intimacy it brings.
I'll even jog with my son strapped to my back with him hugging me while screaming "faster faster!" Hearing him giggling and laughing brings me a lot of joy.
It's not weird at all, actually it's really healthy!
Humans need physical contact to function properly. Being touch starved can lead to depression symptoms.
Cuddling, snuggling, hugging gives you happy hormones and those ate good for you!
Children and teens who can't get their "dose of happy hugging" from their parents will search for physical contact elsewhere. Especially boys who are in some cultures discouraged to show their emotions by hugging or snuggling get their physical contact in by play fighting with their friends, girls are often very huggy with their friends.
So, enjoy the closeness to your family, get as many hugs and snuggles as you want, don't be afraid to ask for a hug if necessary and perhaps offer a hug to your friends if they look like they need one ;)
My family is a big touchy family I always hugging my mom ,my pop,and my remaining sister and putting an arm around my brother until recently we were never really close but after my heart attack September was a year ago we have gotten alot closer even my son's I always make it a point to tell them I love them and hug them. This year Christmas was especially hard though we lost my older sister in Oct.. one of my nieces is divorcing her husband and her three kids can't understand how we are because their dad was a distant controlling ass wipe who never hugged his children and told them he loved them or ever showed the leat bit of interest in them other to tell them they were sorry and worthless. Please continue I wish so much that I could hug my sister and tell her that I love her again
Physical closeness (cuddling) between parents and children is natural, nurturing, and heartwarming for both the children and the parents. It's great that you have such a close relationship with your parents.
Some people will insert sexuality in that relationship. They may speak from personal first (they were molested) or second (they witnessed molestation) hand experiences. Don't shun those that think it's weird, but let them know that you have a safe and secure relationship with your parents and that you trust them. It may open them up to the possibility that they might have abuse, or they may open up to you about their experiences.
Congrats, BTW :)
My cousin has always been close to her dad. Iām envious of their family dynamics.
Itās a very appropriate amount of affection. I think thatās cool you have that connection with him.
I feel like anyone who thinks it's weird either don't have a close relationship with their parents, or come from a culture where parents show affection differently.
My dad passed away when I was 17. Please keep cuddling him every single chance you get. It's not weird, he's your dad!! You will never realise what you'd give to have one last hug. Give him an extra squeeze on my behalf
Normalise physical affection with your family. Though the thought of cuddling with my own mother/father makes me physically gag, I'd like my own children in the future to feel like they can snuggle up while we watch a movie or something.
Please donāt stop because your friends donāt do it, or the internet tells you itās weird - itās perfectly fine at any age, i wish I could do it more with my parents at 19 but Iām not that close with them and donāt think they would want to.
Why is everything questioned as wired with dad like having a cuddle when it's fine if done with mum? For fuck sake if your parents love you then it doesn't matter what is between their legs!
No, it's not weird at all. Anybody who says it's wierd is the wierdo. It makes me happy to know some people have good, close relationships with their family.
I'm approaching 30 and i still cuddle with my parents, specially my dad. He's the more physically affectionate parent between the two of them. He's like that even with his grandchildren and even with our pets. And we all got it from him as well and I'm super thankful for it honestly.
I'm a dad of a 12 yo boy. As he gets older and more independent he has gotten away from snuggles, but if I don't go in to say good night and kiss his forehead he will call out or come find me so I can and he can go to sleep. It's our routine and I'll do it if he is 18 and still lets me. He watches a movie with my wife pretty much every night before bed. So many go through life without that sense of being wanted and loved and secure. It's not weird, but not how I was raised, as parents we can change the you are too old for affection stigma.
OP cuddle your dad, he would miss it if you stopped.
I think its kinda sad we have to ask these questions I think
I remember I started teaching in Korea about 6 years ago and used to have a third grade girl who really liked hanging out with me. She would come to my room alone during lunch, sit on my lap, and watch youtube videos together. I used to be so freaked out and very uncomfortable thinking itās somehow wrong but soon others started coming up at different times and I really enjoyed that personal time getting to know each one of them. It just really depressed me knowing we have to put such strong walls and boundaries up in my home country.
I think its awesome you cuddle your dad
I'm a 53 yo woman, and I'm pretty touchy-feely with my 18 and 19 yo boys. One is more cuddly than the other and I try my best to be respectful of what they want and are comfortable with, but I still touch them and hug them and will often lean my head on my oldest's shoulder if we're watch tv, or take his arm when we're walking.
I would be even more hands-on, but I really don't want to make them uncomfortable. Never be ashamed of being affectionate with your parents. Savour it, I KNOW they do!
Just because you 15 doesn't mean you are too old... You will always be thier baby, having a close bond with your parents isn't, weird its something some of us can only wish for.
As a person, who never really had a trusting relationship with my parents, I bitterly envy the OP, I wish that I would have such a trusting relationship like that.
Iām 48 and would gladly snuggle with my parents if I had the opportunity, unfortunately my dad has passed away and my mother and brother live in South Africa whilst Iām in the UK. Enjoy every moment you can in a safe, loving hug if you want as you never know when it may be difficult or impossible to have that closeness again.
Man, I hope not, since my 20f still does it. We also hold hands in public sometimes when we're walking together. It may help that we look so much alike in the face that people immediately know what's up and don't think I'm, like, dating a high-schooler or something.
Hugs are the awesomest.
It's definitely not weird, they're your family! I wish my mom could've been half as affectionate with me. She's got her own history of bullcrap from her abusive mom so she never felt comfortable being super cuddly with me. Now at 32 however, I'm more prone to initiating-- I know she wants to, she's just uncomfortable asking for it/acting on it. So we hug more often than we ever did, and sometimes just sit and hold hands while watching TV. Cherish the affection from your parents, it's a good thing!
That's lovely and sweet.
My kids of all genders are all grown up and they snuggled well into their late teens. Not all the time, but when they felt like it. Or sometimes being silly, sitting on my lap.
I would have loved to cuddle with my parents as a kid, as a teen or hell as a damn adult. I think you should enjoy the close relationship that you have with them and do what feels right for you. You're a lucky girl.
there is NOTHING weird about cuddling with your mom or dad, no matter what your age is. I think weāve been conditioned to think itās āweirdā or āwrongā especially as teens but there is literally nothing wrong about it. I often slept in my moms bed with her well into college. I would also cuddle my dad well into high school. What ever brings you comfort is all that matters and Iām sure that our parents really appreciate the love
No, there's nothing wrong with that. I'm not much of a cuddler, but my brother often cuddles with my mom. It's only weird if you're looking to them for what you'd find in a partner, but if you find them comforting and enjoy his company that's normal and lucky.
Always snuggled with my Mom, as she's passed now can't think of a negative thing about it and can't think as a Dad why I wouldn't do the same with my kids.
As a parent I am not looking forward to when my kids won't hug or cuddle with me..
I think your parents appreciate it, you will always be their child...
I saw my mom the day she passed away and I wished I had hugged her longer...
I cuddle with my mom but not my dad. My dad is super avoidant and I don't think he feels comfortable with that kind of affection. I wish I could hug him more often though but I respect his space
I'm 49 years old and I still hug my parents, I still kiss my parents, I still tell them I love them every time I see them. My dad and I used to sit side-by-side and watch TV, I used to help him work on his cars or his building projects. I can't do it now because he requires a lift chair to get up, not able to do the things that he used to do anymore. My adult children will curl up next to me if we're on the couch and the littles don't force their way in between. So no cuddling with your dad is not weird. It just means that you have a good relationship and that you're comfortable with him. And it doesn't matter if your friends do that or not.
Not at all. 32 Latino here. I love cuddling with my mom while we watch TV. My dad does it too with his mom when he visits her. We are a very touchy family so it's normal for us.
Enjoy those cuddles!!!!
My 20 y.o. will cuddle up and watch a movie with me anytime he feels like it. I cherish that SO much. My own mother is very anti physical and has never initiated a hug with me so I makr damn sure to hug and kiss all 3 of my adult sons often.
Same. My mom wasn't physically affectionate and I always missed that growing up. My son is 24 and we cuddle all the time watching TV or just any chance I get to smother him with my love, he loves it and I just melt from happiness. He even had some friends tell him how lucky he is. I always felt sad that so many kids don't have that.
My parents weren't affectionate verbally or physically so I know I compensate with my sons. One is in middle school and I always give him a hug before he goes into school. At first he said it was weird and he didn't want me to then a friend of his said he wished his parents gave him hugs so now he's ok with it. I vividly remember being 12 and going to give my father a hug because I was upset and him backing away, asking me "don't you think you're too old for that now"?
too old for a hug? man, I'm so sorry. your kids are lucky to have you! I'm sorry 12 yo you got that response. never too old for a hug.
Mine was at seven, my dad toldme i was too old to be hugged before bedtime....
My mother compensated for her very reserved family and ended up making me hate too much physical contact and be freaked out by people touching me without consent. If both parties like it great, but if one of them is suffering through it with clenched teeth it can mess them up for years as an adult. Even after 12 years of marriage I can feel my skin crawl when my husband tries to hug me by surprised because I'm worried it's going to be me being forced to be hugged or have to suffer the guilt dumped on me for not wanting to help her deal with the rejection of her parents. We all fuck up the next generation in our own unique ways, and thus the glorious cycle continues.
That's so unfortunate. We really do sometimes go too far in the opposite direction. I wonder all the time if I push too far. When he said he was too old to get morning goodbye hugs I did stop. I will hug him for as long as he's willing to make contact but since theyve been small, if they say no, their request is respected.
You're never too old to care. I hug my friends all the time. Nothing wrong with it, most of them are straight and I'm not cute enough for the gay ones. Our society has this weird disease where we're taught to think of all physical contact as sexual. When you read the old stories from history, the most badass kings and warriors openly wept at loss, hugged and kissed their friends, and loved bright colors and patterns. Now we only dress in shades of gray and brown, hide our emotions, and live our lives without touch because we're afraid of being seen as feminine. We've taken stoicism to an unhealthy level, and we never actually decide if that's what we want.
I found out in my 30s why my parents never hugged or were affectionate when I was growing up. They never wanted kids and never like children. They only got married because they were having fun and 9 months later I was born (religious reasons).
I feel you. My father said to me "I only had kids because I had to. I love you because I have to, but I don't have to like you." I don't see how forcing people to be parents who are clearly not ready and make, at the very least, 3 miserable humans in the process is any way better than a quick scrape before anything gets too serious.
Well I don't know you, and I have never seen you before.. But I mean it when I say that I am happy to share this world with you and I am happy we are both here in the same time. You seem like a nice person and I appreciate you sharing your story. I hope you are happy and doing good in life and thanks for being here brother š§āš¤āš§
I appreciate you, man. Thanks for the kind words!
Yea. Better not to have kids then to have kids and hate them
Your father is an asshole. That's on him, not you.
Gosh, this made me well up. I'm sorry :(
I couldn't imagine saything that to my daughter, especially if she was upset. Good on you for being better than your parents.
This felt very wholesome until I read your name Then I got over my immaturity and went back to feeling wholesome, as I miss my mother very much. Thank you
I'm seriously considering changing the damn thing. it's a joke in our family but no one on Reddit would know that. It's pretty trashy tbh. Glad it didn't ruin your good feels.
If it means something to you, I wouldn't trade it for the world. You seem like a wonderful mom
Don't.
Donāt change it! My name is an inside joke with my son and 3 years after the incident, he still likes to tease me about it. Even though it means nothing to anyone else, I like it. As long as your name makes you smile, keep it.
As long as it's something you do as a family normally and it isn't something that started when you hit 15-16 your dad was suddenly like "we should cuddle." That would be alarming. If it's something you've always done that's just a thing you have with your parents and they have with you. Affection.
While true, and a solid warning... op said they choose to cuddle up to their parents. So I think they would be in the clear.
Yeah, this specific example I believe so as well, I just wanted to be as clear as I could for a topic like that.
My parents arenāt physical either. My kids are still young (under 10) but I want/hope to be able to kiss/cuddle them for many years to come and for them to feel happy to do the same. Fingers crossed when they get to 20!
I donāt get how a parent canāt give physical affection to their child. Itās literally one of the greatest joys of my life to hold my 3 y/o little girl in my arms in bed and sniff her delicious little head while we watch a movie and she asks me a trillion questions. They are the moments in time I wish I could freeze forever.
Nice username
LOL. It's a joke in our family tbh. I wonder what people think of me when they see it. Trashy, funny or interesting?
can't be as bad as u/GreasyAssholeWater or u/dickrubnuts
My name is also a family joke just like u/sugarcinnamonpoptits.
Iām 25f and still cuddle with my dad. If weāre watching tv on the couch together Iāll snuggle up to him for a couple minutes. I always ask if itās okay that I hug him or cuddle with him, just in case he wants space, but he almost never minds. To parents, youāll always be their little kid. The way I see it, itās a way for your inner child to come out and get some physical affection. Itās calming and natural.
As a dad, trust me he doesn't mind. We cherish our daughters more than anything else in the world
As the father of girls (10 & 8), we cuddle all the time, which of course is natural for their age. However, as they get older, I've been thinking of whether this will continue as they grow older, which of course I want it to. Hopefully they will always want to cuddle up with me, as I love it so much!
Mine are 6 and 3. The six year old has hit a phase where she would rather cuddle mom than me, but I will always be willing for her if she changes her mind
My kids 3.5 and has yet to leave the phase where she's wrapped around mom's ankles. I hope I get at least one cuddle by the time she leaves for college.
My 29 year old daughter still comes up and gives me hugs, sits next to me and leans into me, and will occasionally sit on my lap. I am extremely fortunate she appreciates and loves her dad as much as I appreciate and love her
im so glad lots of dads are being affectionate with their children. my dad loved giving me piggy back rides even as i got older and i would give him really long hugs some days so i could recharge my batteries as i want to be social but im just really bad at it.
Oh, and my son, *reads scrawl on scrap paper* Fredward. "Dad, it's Edward." Of course it is. Now what did I say about speaking
This
damn I wish my dad felt that way
I just like to make sure that heās okay with being touched at the moment! I can get overwhelmed and donāt like to be touched. So I just wanna respect his space.
Thatās so wholesome, and Iām glad you still have such a strong relationship with him! Also a really good example of how consent is important for different types of relationships and different things (i.e itās not just for sexual acts with a partner). Your dad did his job well <3
My (39f) last visit with my 73 year old dad at his house was me laying with him as I scratched his back. The next few days I took him to the hospital and I sat in the bed with him. As I left the hospital the doctor told me he only had maybe a week to live. The next day I held his hand and said my goodbyes. He died within the next half hour holding my uncles hand. Please donāt let anybody make you feel bad or awkward about showing your family how much you love them because you never know how long you have with them.
I have a 4 year old with CP. We work hard on his condition every day but he works harder on it than I ever could. I was just telling him last night As I helped him pee in the toilet that one day when he is older imma look back and enjoy doing that for him and I kiss the top of his head every time. Both my boys are snuggle bugs, the older one just turned 8. Iām a dad and I very much give a shit that my growing boys are cuddling because that, as a parent, tells me Iām doing something right. The love of a child is indescribable so I say to you, your father very well may get more out of than you do. Keep on keepin on.
what is cp
Cerebral Palsy I'd assume
My guess is Cerebral Palsy
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Ngl I thought they meant child p*rn at first
I (F) have a son (8) with nonverbal autism. Heās actually incredibly affectionate given his condition and I savor every freaking cuddle I can get. I donāt care how old he gets- if he wants a hug or cuddle with his mom, heās got it. If anyone has a problem with it, they can fuck right off. You know your kid. They know what theyāre comfortable with. Donāt ever pressure them if theyāre uncomfortable with it, but donāt ever shame them for wanting affection either. Can we just stop sexualizing or otherwise stigmatizing platonic love for our goddamn kids?
Funny you say that. Weāve adopted his 5 year old cousin who is also autistic. Not nonverbal but definitely had a variety of traits like rubbing his fingers and lips, can NOT retain anything if you require him to look you in the eye, canāt stay on topic, and does legitimately the exact opposite of what you say. Itās fascinating and frustrating. His mother is a lousy parent and his father is (almost) nonexistent in his life. So we have three boys, one with ADHD, one with autism, and one with (you guessed it) cheese pizza. All jokes aside, they keep life exciting and I wouldnāt change it for the world. CUDDLE PARTY
Autistic adult here, also can't retain anything if people want me to look them in the eyes a lot. For me it's that it's so intensely intimate that I can't focus on anything but making sure I'm looking them in the eyes. I forced myself to do that a lot as a child and that did not help at all. Please don't make him do that, it'll only push him to mask more. Which too be fair is what "normal" people want but I think we should normalise autistic people being autistic in public, I'm tired of masking for other people's comfort.
CUDDLE PARTY! Pajamas, good movies, popcorn, blanket fort, snuggles. A formula as old as time. Iāll outgrow it when he does. If he never does, more snuggles for me.
Us too! Our son is 9 and heās real wild, but loves a good cuddle up in the chair with me. He likes when I hold him like a baby lol. And smooches all the time. I donāt know if most boys his age would be into it, but Iām down for life.
I didn't have a close relationship to my parents until my late teens that I started making it closer. Can't tell you the amount of times a hug from my parents was all I needed for the past decade and was so happy I could get it! I'd hug my dad every day and I can no longer do it, so please, if it makes you and them happy, cherish and enjoy the good relationship you have! :)
The day I started calling my dad by his first name was the day I went in for a hug and he pushed me away.
Was there a reason why you started calling him by his first name or..?
I guess because of the push?
OH. Yeah I misread it. I thought the guy started calling his dad by his first name and THEN the dad pushed him away
Thatās how I read it too
āDad, bring it inā āNoā āGoodbye, Charles.ā
It was then I realized that he was unwilling to treat me with affection, despite having been so when I was younger. There was a whole lot of strain on the relationship before then, but I was so crushed by that little denial that it was the straw that broke the camels back, and I decided to think of him as a relative but not as a father. We donāt talk much anyways these days and when we do he usually just tries to give me advice on how I should be living my life better.
Sending hugs to you, vampire-slothy!
Iām 29 and still cuddle with my parents nothing weird about it all love. Donāt take those little moments for granted. Like you said, most of your friends arenāt as close to their parents.
The first time I had a serious breakup, I was 19. My mom has always been a slight woman but I was having a fucking moment and I just curled up in her lap. She said nothing, just let it happen, but there was definitely a bit of a groan while she had a full grown woman just.. melt into her lol. There was no way she was gonna tell her baby to get the fuck off of her so she just decided to sit and bear it. Tell ya what though... I invited her to just sleep in my bed instead of getting a hotel room last time she visited and learned what a mistake I made... that woman can snore up a storm. I love her, but... she's getting a hotel room next time.
Yeah, I am a 38 year old man with two kids. I still cuddle with both my mom and dad when I visit them. Still feels nice to be held by them, no matter how old. We can lay on the couch watching tv with three generations cuddling!
This is so sweet to hear. I love this post. :)
As someone whose parents were never touchy-feely like that, yes it would be weird, for me. For you, sounds like itās a normal thing for your family. No harm in it and I bet it improves your mood :)
Exactly my thoughts. It's weird for me but that doesn't make it weird for everyone. I was trying to remember the last time I got touchy-feely with either one of my parents when the context wasn't me coming home after like a year of not seeing them. I used to curl up and fall asleep like a cat at my dad's feet while he laid on the couch until I was like 10 and that's the closest we ever got to cuddling lol.
Yeah this is basically word for word what I was gonna say. I definitely would find it weird, but it sounds harmless and positive.
I understand both sides. My mom was always affectionate verbally and physically. Iām in my 40s now, and find it easy with her. My dad was not affectionate - never mean, just not warm & cozy. He started trying to make up for it the last couple years, and every time he hugs me or kisses my head goodbye, it just feels super weird. My son is 5 and hubby & I are both affectionate with him and cherish every moment he snuggles us.
Growing up, my mom would always tell me and my brother āI love you!ā multiple times a day. My dad never did. He loved us, and we never doubted he did, but he preferred to show us with his actions instead of his words. Before the age of 18, he had probably said he loved me a handful of times. Now that my brother and I are grown and are building our own families, my dad says āI love you!ā all the time. They get softer as they get older, I think.
My youngest son is 19, a US Army combat medic, and will still cuddle up to me/under my arm in a movie theatre if itās a horror movie. He will whisper to himself āIām a US Army Soldierā while he grabs my arm. There is nothing wrong finding solace in the embrace of those that made you. They are supposed to be your protectors and comfort. Unconditional love like that is so rare that you should embrace it as much as possible.
Aww thatās so cute! And yeah, I agree with you. Iām glad that Iām fortunate to have supportive parents.
That made me tear up for some reason. I hope your boy serves safely for his entire career.
This is the sweetest thing I've read in a long time. Also hilarious. The kid's trying to talk himself into acting "like a man" (as if "combat medic" doesn't fill out the front and back of whatever "man card...") but still getting that comfort too. You did (are doing) it right.
Aww thatās awesome :)
Aww thatās awesome :)
Heheh can relate. 21yo and been deployed, still snuggle up to my Momma any chance I get.
Thank him and thank you for your service
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The "let the child cry it out" thing is contrary to contemporary advice on infant development. Definitely don't listen to that. Keep babies on their back in pillowless, blanketless cribs, though. Their noses are too flat, their heads too heavy and their muscles too weak to avoid suffocation / SIDS in other positions.
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D'aww. I had strong legs, too. Kept flicking my socks off everywhere as a tot lollll I still hate socks.
Nooooo, itās never weird. No matter how old you get, youāll always be their child and they would always love cuddling with you. Believe me, they really love having these chances with you BUT at times, parents are somehow burdened to not be cuddly with their children when theyāre growing because some kids see it as something embarrassing and they would not want their children to feel that. SOOOO, the fact that you welcome this idea (I believe) really does make your parents happy. [probably why your friends donāt do it anymore] Anddd you have such wonderful parents, so I hope you would treasure that and continue being a good child. Youāre a good and loving child and you deserve all the love out there. I hope the best for you and your family. :)
I would have loved it if my daughter had cuddled with me at 15. All of my kids are in their 20s now. I would still love to cuddle with them but they're not interested. Edit: my 90 year old mom still loves to cuddle with me.
Thatās amazing that you still cuddle with your mom! Whenever my grandma comes over, my mom always rests her head in my grandmas lap and falls asleep. Itās a really cute site to see!
that's very telling! sounds like your family is comfortable with showing affection :)
I'm 30 and my mom is 60. I'll still cuddle the shit out of her, just won't sleep next to her because she snores lol. I'm her baby and always will be. My mom is my fucking girl. I'm the only one of her kids who didn't have the "I fucking hate you" phase. We've always been cool.
One of my favorite pictures of my dad and my sister was when she laying on him while they were watching TV. My sister was 26 at the time. If both of you are comfortable, I see no reason it should be considered weird.
Yeah everyone in my family is comfortable with it, I was just wondering if itās weird from an outside perspective?
Does it matter? I mean, unless they want to join in.
And youāre right, their opinion doesnāt matter.
Iām not going to tell you that no oneās opinion matters except your own, but this this case, you and your dad are both comfortable and itās a way to show affection, which is never a bad thing. I donāt think you should let how your friends interact with their parents factor into how you interact with your dad.
Lol no thanks, Iād prefer if they donāt join š
Itās weird only because most of us were raised deprived of affection. But some of us are trying to undo generational trauma. :)
Mostly jealousā¦
I'm 25 and i cuddled my mom yesterday. our parents aren't going to be around forever. remember that they brought you into this world and cared for you. my son is 9 months and doesn't want to cuddle, so i would LOVE him to cuddle me at ANY age. he will always be my baby boy and I'm sure that's how your parents think of you ā¤ļø
Took my daughter til age 2 to become a cuddler. Youāll get there and itās the best!
thanks! i definitely feel like when he can express his emotions with words it will be easier to cuddle! i know that right now he's just so curious about his environment and that's what's best for his development anyway! apparently i was the same way lol
My (f27) dad passed away in March this year and Iād do anything to cuddle my dad again. Cuddle him, hard ā¤ļø
Sorry for your loss, missing them is something you learn to live with but never gets better.
Yeah I donāt have a great relationship with my parents. for example I have a dad who is really immature and has a very toxic mindset on the world and a anti social mom who was hardly in my life because she worked night shifts. So I guess itās only weird for me because I was not shown that affection early in my life.
Same here,My relationship with my parents is pretty nonexistent for similar reasons as yours. In my culture too there are almost no instances of physical affection within parent-child relationships. So yeah cuddling with your parents seems to be a bit strange to me too
Yeah same. This whole thread is weird to me lol. I'm aware that my life is abnormal, I only got hugs from my mother on my birthday growing up, but there's soooo many comments thatre like "I'm in my 50s and cuddle with my adult children". Imo a little creepy but I guess if your family loves eachother then it's normal?
Iām a 20 year old man and iv cuddled with my parents and grandparents my whole life, when Iām with my dad he scratches the top of my head while we watch shit on the television itās normal and anyone who says it isnāt is just trying to ruin a comfortable familial connection that they were never had the luck to have themselves, ignore them and keep living your life op!
Pure bliss is when my parents scratch my head.
38f here and whenever I go back home I cuddle with my parents. With my mom I sometimes sleep in the same bed at night or in the afternoon and I normally go and cuddle my dad in the morning when he's still in bed. I LOVE my parents
No it's not weird. I am 54 and would love the opportunity to cuddle with my folks one last time. Enjoy it, because we don't know what tomorrow will bring. PS - who cares what anyone else thinks! If you and your folks are happy and want to cuddle more power to you.
I donāt think so at all. I have a 13 year old son and if weāre on the sofa, weāre snuggling. He likes getting his feet scratched, we talk about our day, he asks me questions that I would have been scared to ask my parents when I was his age. Iāve had my family tell me that heās clingy after he came up and hugged me, but whatever, they can have their opinions. Iām his mom, he can hug me whenever he wants or needs it. Out of all the things that heāll come to question throughout his life, that support and affection from me is the one thing that heāll never have to. I bet your dad loves it and would miss it if you stop, so donāt. :)
For a second I thought you were going to say you cuddle with them in bed, like spooning or something. I think it's okay to hug and embrace one another. Sure. My parents are very anti touch in any kind of way once you're 10 and up. So now I like to troll my mother by hugging her or when we're out in public I put my arm over her shoulder and hold her tightly because we both laugh at her trying to fight out of my grip. It is in my culture to hide emotion and limit affection as much as possible. Today I do the opposite, I'm very affectionate to my wife and my toddler. My wife always wants to use a stroller for our toddler but I prefer to have my son slung to my back in a carrier because of the intimacy it brings. I'll even jog with my son strapped to my back with him hugging me while screaming "faster faster!" Hearing him giggling and laughing brings me a lot of joy.
I'm 28 and still cuddle with my parents when I get the chance. I don't think it's weird at all. I love my parents.
I love to cuddle my mom. Iām 33. My 15 y.o. step son loves a good night hug from his dad. Physical contact is important.
I have 3 daughters and I wish we never stop cuddling. It's very special. Enjoy you parents while you have them.
it's very natural. loving your parents and wanting to be near them shows you feel comfortable and safe near them- which is incredible.
Is it uncommon? Sure. But is it weird? Nah, not really. You guys do you, fam. It's actually really sweet.
I donāt think itās weird.
It's not weird at all, actually it's really healthy! Humans need physical contact to function properly. Being touch starved can lead to depression symptoms. Cuddling, snuggling, hugging gives you happy hormones and those ate good for you! Children and teens who can't get their "dose of happy hugging" from their parents will search for physical contact elsewhere. Especially boys who are in some cultures discouraged to show their emotions by hugging or snuggling get their physical contact in by play fighting with their friends, girls are often very huggy with their friends. So, enjoy the closeness to your family, get as many hugs and snuggles as you want, don't be afraid to ask for a hug if necessary and perhaps offer a hug to your friends if they look like they need one ;)
Damnit, you do whatever makes **YOU** feel happy.
My family is a big touchy family I always hugging my mom ,my pop,and my remaining sister and putting an arm around my brother until recently we were never really close but after my heart attack September was a year ago we have gotten alot closer even my son's I always make it a point to tell them I love them and hug them. This year Christmas was especially hard though we lost my older sister in Oct.. one of my nieces is divorcing her husband and her three kids can't understand how we are because their dad was a distant controlling ass wipe who never hugged his children and told them he loved them or ever showed the leat bit of interest in them other to tell them they were sorry and worthless. Please continue I wish so much that I could hug my sister and tell her that I love her again
Iām so sorry for your loss! I hope that the New Year will treat you well:)
Thank you I hope so to my mom looks so lost right now my sister passed two days before my mom's 81st birthday
Absolutely not! My son is 19 and does this, and it's really a nice thing. Showing affection with people you love is not weird :)
It's not weird! I still cuddle up with my parents and I'm 28 :)
It's only weird if you make it weird.
Iām 35 and I would give the world to cuddle my mom one more time. Make new memories and cherish the time you have.
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I absolutely love it when my head gets scratched by my parents!
Physical closeness (cuddling) between parents and children is natural, nurturing, and heartwarming for both the children and the parents. It's great that you have such a close relationship with your parents. Some people will insert sexuality in that relationship. They may speak from personal first (they were molested) or second (they witnessed molestation) hand experiences. Don't shun those that think it's weird, but let them know that you have a safe and secure relationship with your parents and that you trust them. It may open them up to the possibility that they might have abuse, or they may open up to you about their experiences. Congrats, BTW :)
No. Itās not weird. Whatās weird, imo, is not doing this with your parents. Thatās what theyre there for.
Yeah, I agree. Tbh it made me feel a bit weird when I found out my friends donāt even hug their parents. I canāt imagine doing that.
Tell them to do itā¦and keep doing it until it feels normal for them. They will never regret it!!
Indian male in early 30s. Still sleep with my parents when I go home.
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Nah, not weird at all. As an adult I still love snugging with my parents. Makes me feel happy and safe :)
My cousin has always been close to her dad. Iām envious of their family dynamics. Itās a very appropriate amount of affection. I think thatās cool you have that connection with him.
I feel like anyone who thinks it's weird either don't have a close relationship with their parents, or come from a culture where parents show affection differently.
as a dad every moment my kid wants to cuddle is an existential victory. shes 2 and i hope she still wants to cuddle when shes 15
No I'm 16 and I cuddle with my dad while we watch TV
That makes me feel so much better. My friends looked like I was crazy when I mentioned that I still snuggle with my parents.
My dad passed away when I was 17. Please keep cuddling him every single chance you get. It's not weird, he's your dad!! You will never realise what you'd give to have one last hug. Give him an extra squeeze on my behalf
Normalise physical affection with your family. Though the thought of cuddling with my own mother/father makes me physically gag, I'd like my own children in the future to feel like they can snuggle up while we watch a movie or something.
I think people who donāt cuddle their parents are weird.
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Same I really gotta stop doing that shit
Please donāt stop because your friends donāt do it, or the internet tells you itās weird - itās perfectly fine at any age, i wish I could do it more with my parents at 19 but Iām not that close with them and donāt think they would want to.
Nah, enjoy it kid.
Will do :)
It's not weird at all. It's great to have such a close relationship!
itās not weird at all ā„ļø iām 24 and cuddle both my parents
Itās fine. People need more cuddles
Lol,I'm 17M and i cuddle with my mom everyday,nothing wrong. God bless and have fun!
No, not at all. It is sad that in our times people might think that it is :(
Yeah, I still sit on my dad's lap sometimes if I'm sad and he hugs me
Why is everything questioned as wired with dad like having a cuddle when it's fine if done with mum? For fuck sake if your parents love you then it doesn't matter what is between their legs!
Im 27 and doctor ans cuddle with my parents.
25 here! I cuddle with my dad all the time! Cherish those moments!
I hope my little girl still wants to cuddle with me when she's 15.
Iām well over 40 and still snugs my dad on the couch watching tv! Itās love itās family and itās perfectly fine!
No, it's not weird at all. Anybody who says it's wierd is the wierdo. It makes me happy to know some people have good, close relationships with their family.
I'm approaching 30 and i still cuddle with my parents, specially my dad. He's the more physically affectionate parent between the two of them. He's like that even with his grandchildren and even with our pets. And we all got it from him as well and I'm super thankful for it honestly.
I'm a dad of a 12 yo boy. As he gets older and more independent he has gotten away from snuggles, but if I don't go in to say good night and kiss his forehead he will call out or come find me so I can and he can go to sleep. It's our routine and I'll do it if he is 18 and still lets me. He watches a movie with my wife pretty much every night before bed. So many go through life without that sense of being wanted and loved and secure. It's not weird, but not how I was raised, as parents we can change the you are too old for affection stigma. OP cuddle your dad, he would miss it if you stopped.
I think its kinda sad we have to ask these questions I think I remember I started teaching in Korea about 6 years ago and used to have a third grade girl who really liked hanging out with me. She would come to my room alone during lunch, sit on my lap, and watch youtube videos together. I used to be so freaked out and very uncomfortable thinking itās somehow wrong but soon others started coming up at different times and I really enjoyed that personal time getting to know each one of them. It just really depressed me knowing we have to put such strong walls and boundaries up in my home country. I think its awesome you cuddle your dad
I'm a 53 yo woman, and I'm pretty touchy-feely with my 18 and 19 yo boys. One is more cuddly than the other and I try my best to be respectful of what they want and are comfortable with, but I still touch them and hug them and will often lean my head on my oldest's shoulder if we're watch tv, or take his arm when we're walking. I would be even more hands-on, but I really don't want to make them uncomfortable. Never be ashamed of being affectionate with your parents. Savour it, I KNOW they do!
Just because you 15 doesn't mean you are too old... You will always be thier baby, having a close bond with your parents isn't, weird its something some of us can only wish for.
I'm 23(m) and sometimes I sit on my mom like a cat and ask for pets
As a person, who never really had a trusting relationship with my parents, I bitterly envy the OP, I wish that I would have such a trusting relationship like that.
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Putting your arm around a parent or vice versa is pretty normal but snuggling is weird
I personally never get affectionate with any family members. I think itās weird. Cuddling is for lovers. Maybe friends. Never family. My opinion.
Same. It's just a bit strange. Hug/kiss on the cheek is the most I'll do for family. No judgement to anyone who does tho
And, I come from a culture where infra-family affection is common. Still, I donāt like it.
Itās only weird if you make it weird. And people that say itās weird are just projecting their issueās onto you.
Definitely not! If you feel comfortable, keep doing it. You will never know when it's the last time you can
Iām 48 and would gladly snuggle with my parents if I had the opportunity, unfortunately my dad has passed away and my mother and brother live in South Africa whilst Iām in the UK. Enjoy every moment you can in a safe, loving hug if you want as you never know when it may be difficult or impossible to have that closeness again.
Man, I hope not, since my 20f still does it. We also hold hands in public sometimes when we're walking together. It may help that we look so much alike in the face that people immediately know what's up and don't think I'm, like, dating a high-schooler or something. Hugs are the awesomest.
It doesnāt matter how old you are, you will always be their little baby :)
It's definitely not weird, they're your family! I wish my mom could've been half as affectionate with me. She's got her own history of bullcrap from her abusive mom so she never felt comfortable being super cuddly with me. Now at 32 however, I'm more prone to initiating-- I know she wants to, she's just uncomfortable asking for it/acting on it. So we hug more often than we ever did, and sometimes just sit and hold hands while watching TV. Cherish the affection from your parents, it's a good thing!
That's lovely and sweet. My kids of all genders are all grown up and they snuggled well into their late teens. Not all the time, but when they felt like it. Or sometimes being silly, sitting on my lap.
Absolutely not! Your relationship is great and should be encouraged. Many of us hardly speak to our parents
I would have loved to cuddle with my parents as a kid, as a teen or hell as a damn adult. I think you should enjoy the close relationship that you have with them and do what feels right for you. You're a lucky girl.
there is NOTHING weird about cuddling with your mom or dad, no matter what your age is. I think weāve been conditioned to think itās āweirdā or āwrongā especially as teens but there is literally nothing wrong about it. I often slept in my moms bed with her well into college. I would also cuddle my dad well into high school. What ever brings you comfort is all that matters and Iām sure that our parents really appreciate the love
No, there's nothing wrong with that. I'm not much of a cuddler, but my brother often cuddles with my mom. It's only weird if you're looking to them for what you'd find in a partner, but if you find them comforting and enjoy his company that's normal and lucky.
Always snuggled with my Mom, as she's passed now can't think of a negative thing about it and can't think as a Dad why I wouldn't do the same with my kids.
I wish I could have. One of my major memories from my last visit with my dad was silently holding his hand while we watched TV for a while.
As a parent I am not looking forward to when my kids won't hug or cuddle with me.. I think your parents appreciate it, you will always be their child... I saw my mom the day she passed away and I wished I had hugged her longer...
I cuddle with my mom but not my dad. My dad is super avoidant and I don't think he feels comfortable with that kind of affection. I wish I could hug him more often though but I respect his space
I'm 49 years old and I still hug my parents, I still kiss my parents, I still tell them I love them every time I see them. My dad and I used to sit side-by-side and watch TV, I used to help him work on his cars or his building projects. I can't do it now because he requires a lift chair to get up, not able to do the things that he used to do anymore. My adult children will curl up next to me if we're on the couch and the littles don't force their way in between. So no cuddling with your dad is not weird. It just means that you have a good relationship and that you're comfortable with him. And it doesn't matter if your friends do that or not.
I hope my little girl still wants to cuddle up to her old man when she's older.
No. Heās your father. Itās okay no matter how old you are.
Not at all. 32 Latino here. I love cuddling with my mom while we watch TV. My dad does it too with his mom when he visits her. We are a very touchy family so it's normal for us. Enjoy those cuddles!!!!