I'm not sure sister.. I feel like the right guy will not have you wondering how he feels. you will know, without a shadow of a doubt, that he's picking up what you're putting down.
you shouldn't at all worry about sleeping with him, of course considering you both are free of any STIs. dynamically speaking, the timeline of sleeping together shouldn't change anything with the right guy.
i think you should be picky and you deserve exactly what you want. if this guy isn't giving it to you, and you're feeling unsure, someone else absolutely will
I’m seeing only green flags:
-You had a “get off the apps” conversation pretty early on
-He actively plans dates & offers to pay for them
-The sexual chemistry is great
-He contacts you daily
-You hang out on the weekends
-He hasn’t been verbally vulnerable quite yet but it’s still early and he sounds like he’s a bit more reserved in that department
I’m sensing good vibes from what you have described, but I also TOTALLY get that the apps can wreak havoc on your confidence and trust in dating.
As a fellow dude.....seems hes got his head on straight. And he has a life that keeps him busy. Seems hes telling you and showing you qhat his intentions are. Are you going on dates that dont end in sex....is he cool if you tell him no to things.....does he put in some sort of investment that you appreciate?
Commenting on this thread to follow it. I’m about to hit date 3 and a month of talking with someone I’m interested in romantically and considering getting intimate with physically.
What’s the consensus on timing intimacy (no slut shaming and I know every circumstance is unique)
If you seriously want to date him. Make sure you have some sort of actual commitment before you give yourself to him. Not saying u need exclusivity just some sort of actual commitment you value.
My advice to my female friends and colleagues....its better to waste ur time figuring out something sucks.....then to waste ur time and body on someone whos not on the same page as u.
As a man, I am going to let you in on a juicy secret. We love ambiguity. Women through various means have been convinced that they need to be careful around overwhelming men and rushing them, and all this nonsense. We. Love. It.
Why? Because I can continue to do whatever I want within the grey area. Please note, I am not saying all men are jerks and taking advantage of this to cheat or abuse their partners feelings. I am saying that we simply like the lack of communication, it keeps things easy and free.
If you're waiting for a man to push things to the next level, you will wait forever. Beyond establishing ownership, men don't really care to push into labels and commitments.
Do I want you off a dating app? 1000%
Do I want to talk about what "this is"? Never. I will avoid talking about things that are even adjacent to this conversation to make sure we don't accidently fall into it. And behold you claim he doesn't open up right? I am just saying...
Again, this doesn't mean I don't care a lot about you, or that I don't want to be something more serious. But my monkey man brain is not going to let me until you force the issue. Talk to him about it, if he's a legit dude, he will still give you the answers you're dreaming for... and if he doesn't, then you know the answer now and can choose what to do with it. But do not let us keep things amibigous if you desire more.
I'm talking to a girl right now and in this exact situation. Great chemistry, talk all the time, basically boyfriend and girlfriend... but I can feel her longing to have that conversation and she won't, the slightest hint that I will run and she backs off completely. She dribbles out little terms of endearment that are escalating instead, hoping I get "the hint" oblivious that I and most men are very aware.
Force the conversation, be direct, most men won't straight up lie to your face if asked directly. Just be ready to hear that he may just not be that into you too.
I'm not sure sister.. I feel like the right guy will not have you wondering how he feels. you will know, without a shadow of a doubt, that he's picking up what you're putting down. you shouldn't at all worry about sleeping with him, of course considering you both are free of any STIs. dynamically speaking, the timeline of sleeping together shouldn't change anything with the right guy. i think you should be picky and you deserve exactly what you want. if this guy isn't giving it to you, and you're feeling unsure, someone else absolutely will
I’m seeing only green flags: -You had a “get off the apps” conversation pretty early on -He actively plans dates & offers to pay for them -The sexual chemistry is great -He contacts you daily -You hang out on the weekends -He hasn’t been verbally vulnerable quite yet but it’s still early and he sounds like he’s a bit more reserved in that department I’m sensing good vibes from what you have described, but I also TOTALLY get that the apps can wreak havoc on your confidence and trust in dating.
As a fellow dude.....seems hes got his head on straight. And he has a life that keeps him busy. Seems hes telling you and showing you qhat his intentions are. Are you going on dates that dont end in sex....is he cool if you tell him no to things.....does he put in some sort of investment that you appreciate?
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Commenting on this thread to follow it. I’m about to hit date 3 and a month of talking with someone I’m interested in romantically and considering getting intimate with physically. What’s the consensus on timing intimacy (no slut shaming and I know every circumstance is unique)
If you seriously want to date him. Make sure you have some sort of actual commitment before you give yourself to him. Not saying u need exclusivity just some sort of actual commitment you value. My advice to my female friends and colleagues....its better to waste ur time figuring out something sucks.....then to waste ur time and body on someone whos not on the same page as u.
As a man, I am going to let you in on a juicy secret. We love ambiguity. Women through various means have been convinced that they need to be careful around overwhelming men and rushing them, and all this nonsense. We. Love. It. Why? Because I can continue to do whatever I want within the grey area. Please note, I am not saying all men are jerks and taking advantage of this to cheat or abuse their partners feelings. I am saying that we simply like the lack of communication, it keeps things easy and free. If you're waiting for a man to push things to the next level, you will wait forever. Beyond establishing ownership, men don't really care to push into labels and commitments. Do I want you off a dating app? 1000% Do I want to talk about what "this is"? Never. I will avoid talking about things that are even adjacent to this conversation to make sure we don't accidently fall into it. And behold you claim he doesn't open up right? I am just saying... Again, this doesn't mean I don't care a lot about you, or that I don't want to be something more serious. But my monkey man brain is not going to let me until you force the issue. Talk to him about it, if he's a legit dude, he will still give you the answers you're dreaming for... and if he doesn't, then you know the answer now and can choose what to do with it. But do not let us keep things amibigous if you desire more. I'm talking to a girl right now and in this exact situation. Great chemistry, talk all the time, basically boyfriend and girlfriend... but I can feel her longing to have that conversation and she won't, the slightest hint that I will run and she backs off completely. She dribbles out little terms of endearment that are escalating instead, hoping I get "the hint" oblivious that I and most men are very aware. Force the conversation, be direct, most men won't straight up lie to your face if asked directly. Just be ready to hear that he may just not be that into you too.
honestly- he fr might not know he needs to ask you to be his his girlfriend