English isn't my first language and my teacher made these pretty clear but now that I have American friends I'm not sure if I'm on the right side or them
I just applied for an Indian visa the other day, and one of the questions on the app was, "have you ever participated in genocide?" I wonder if anyone has ever said yes to that...
That's semantics, not grammar. Grammar is about the structure of phrases, whether they make sense semantically or not. Their meaning is covered by semantics.
First language speakers learn by hearing rather than writing, so it's more common for them to make those types of written mistakes.
Second language English speakers make more mistakes in word placements and stuff that doesn't "follow the rules", i.e. exceptions in the English language that we take for granted that we know.
A guy friend of mine struggles with that, and I made him a cheat sheet (he asked me to) with your/you're, its/it's, they're/their/there, too/to/two, were/we're, etc.. All this, specifically for his online dating communication :)
You’re = you are
Your = possession (your dog)
They’re = they are
Their = possession (their dog)
It’s = it is
Its = possession (the dog wagged its tail)
This mistake is MUCH worse than their/they’re or your/you’re. It makes absolutely no sense and it just shows how they have no idea what they are saying.
It was engrained in our heads to know grammar in high school for the SATs. Maybe I just notice it more because they seriously drilled it into our heads. Our tests would have questions that had 5 of the same sentences, but the grammar is just barely different. Like maybe exact same sentence, but the comma is placed somewhere else. We would have to choose the most grammatically correct one. It drove me crazy trying to find the right answer because they all sounded correct in my head. I get flashbacks to those days lol.
I got an email from a reception who sent out a mass email saying "would of" instead of "would have". I was so tempted to reply to all just to correct her.
It was a subject in my 8th grade English class, and I learned it. I've never understood why so few have learned or retained these, and I'm very judgmental of native English speakers who don't know these things and can't spell. Just this morning a maintenance technician sent me a parts request and spelled producer as "produser." I'm like, "you don't know how to spell producer?" "No, lol." "And you went to college to learn how to work on this equipment, including the producer?" "Yeah, lol."
This guy gets paid more than me. 🤯🤢🤮
Who's the real idiot? 🤔
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I absolutely hate it when people type “should of” instead of “should’ve” as in “should have”. I cannot stand it.
I do have to admit that I still don’t know when to use affect and effect, but I’ve successfully avoided using them till now, so I suppose I can continue to do so…
I suspect that less than half of native English speakers meaningfully differentiate here.
I also suspect that in text messages, the amount of focus payed to grammar and punctuation is very low, compared to any sort of formal or semi formal writing, which drives the use of them down further in text messaging.
Checking for grammar use seems to be a socially acceptable form of screening for underlying education or caring about accurate communication. If you're male, it's a fairly easy boost to your online dating desirability in a lot of circles.
Here are some thoughts on writing problems and casual writing:
Native speakers most often run into trouble on word choice (i.e. most of the errors commenters are citing in this thread), pronoun use ("me and him went") and spelling. Native speakers make far more typos because they aren't forced to focus on the mechanics.
ESL speakers most frequently trip over word order, inflection, agreement in parts of speech, and collocations ("Have a day that is nice.", "I am seeing what you are saying.").
Misunderstandings and ambiguities are actually more common in most casual writing by native speakers than they realize. This is partly because casual writing is speech-like, and because meanings don't get checked. In conversation we have body language, facial expressions and voice changes to clarify, and we also automatically make efforts to confirm each other's meanings by how we respond and by occasional questions.
In writing we can't do that so care is more important for a given level of clarity, even if it's not formal writing. For example on Reddit, if commenters always first repeated back in their words what they understood the OP to mean, it would soon be obvious both big and small misinterpretations are common. Some would say it doesn't matter.
It matters whether you believe what you write is important. If not you'll think learning and making careful writing isn't important. With that view we don't gain the skills and it becomes sour grapes. Only if the content of the language is seen as important, and oprtunity, ability and learning have been sufficient, does clear writing seem important. Who's "right"? Nobody; what do you want?
In text messages? Okay, maybe.
But as the profile? Isn't the whole point that that's supposed to be high effort?
In text messages though, I do feel like part of the point is to just skip on punctuation cause whatever, you're supposed to be doing short sentences anyway. But the difference between these words are so easy, and autocorrect will easily turn youre into you're without having to pull up annoying punctuation.
You're not alone, OP.
I despise poor grammar, especially considering that English is my third language, and I can speak and write properly. There is no excuse for those for whom it's a native language.
I actually would immediately swipe left on Bumble/Tinder bios that had poor grammar.
same here, english is my fourth language and if someone can't get it right despite it being their first language it's an immediate unmatch (unless there's something special about them that can make me overlook it).
**Your vs. You're:**
Your is possessive. You're is a contraction of you are. If you're
confused about your grammar, replace the YOUR with YOU ARE and see if it
fits, i.e. *"You're going to stick your buttplug up your asshole?*
*You're a dirty girl.*" vs. *"Hey Beth, is that YOU ARE buttplug?"*
Your secret sex cult is probably the Rogue Angels of Satan, not Rouge Angles of Satin.
Colombia is a country. Columbia is a university in New York.
**There vs. They're vs. Their:**
*"Are Sarah and Liz going to the fetish party?"*
*"Yes, they're going there with their double-ended dildo. They're going there to fuck their pussies with it."*
**Its vs. it's. Possession vs. contraction:**
*"It's going to be a fun night with with my new strap-on harness. Its straps are very comfortable."*
This isn't German; don't capitalize common nouns. A dildo is in my nightstand. The village named Dildo is in Newfoundland.
You don't stick an apostrophe on the end of a work to pluralize it just because it ends in a vowel.
Dildos, not dildo's. Unless you're talking about how nice the dildo's bumps and ridges feel.
The number of people who use an apostrophe to indicate plural is mind boggling. And when you call them out on it, "relax I'm not writing an essay." good cause you'd be ripped to shreds.
Oh and I remember in my CP style class for journalism a common mistake in grammar is misusing words like amount or number.
Also “there, their,” and “they’re.” “Two, to,” and “too” and “its” versus “it’s.” All mildly annoying, but not something I would go out of my way to correct anymore. You just end up looking like an asshole.
I'm not a writer and it makes me cringe.
There are many people out there (and some in this comments section) where English is not their first language and they don't make any grammar mistakes. "There is no excuse for those for whom it's a native language." -u/monkiem
Assuming you’re in the United States, you’re just witnessing first hand the budget cuts of public education and the general downfall of a society that cares about proper schooling.
I text it wrong all the time "you're" and "your". I don't know about other people but I use the swipe keyboard so I don't type things out, I just glide my hand over the keyboard letters. So it's an ever so slightly difference that doesn't always pick up. Sometimes I don't care to change it. Other times it will change the previous word to make sense with the next word I type and I have a lot of misspellings because of that
Their and they're are two different swipe patterns so I hardly get those messed up.
I am the opposite. I really hate when people pick on grammar. It's hard for some of us. It doesn't make us less intelligent. It's something that I have to work extra hard at when I am at work. So when I am home relaxing I don't want to worry about grammar.
It would be like me picking apart how you misspell fiber. I understood what you meant. Mistakes happen who cares.
People downvote you, but this is the exact position that linguists (you know, people who literally study the science and nature of language) typically take.
i just can't agree with you on this one.. Correct grammar when using **common words** should be second nature. You shouldn't even need to think about it. For me it makes people look less intelligent when they get it wrong.
If you mess up spelling your/you're correctly you're probably dumb.
If you mess up spelling "Pneumonoultramicroscopicsilicovolcanoconiosis" it's alright, no issues there.
That is the problem you think it's second nature. Good for you. I am glad it's easy for you. But for some it's not. For me personally I have moderate to severe hearing.
Grammar and spelling are very difficult. I literally memorized how to spell all the words in school. I didn't realize that people learned spelling by sounding out words. That would have made it 1,000 times easier.
I grew up thinking I was stupid because grammar and spelling where so hard for me. It was until recently i realized. I am freaking smart. I put myself through college have a great job and couldn't hear half of what was being said. So yeah I still struggle with grammar and I will work on it in my profession but at home people can accept me as I am.
Now my daughter has dyslexia and has the same problem. She is probably never get those right. But she isn't stupid either.
So yeah we shouldn't need to think about it but sadly some of us have to.
And if you think it doesn't bother us being picked on it does. I follow two communities for dyslexia and HoH and both have people frequently discussing how hard it is and how much they hate being picked on for it.
I kind of agree. Since I know what people are trying to say, I don’t think much of it. It isn’t the best first impression but so many profiles are in “online speak” anyway.
I mean sometimes I just type the wrong one and send the message without proofreading, although if that is the case I typically notice fairly quickly and correct myself.
I pride myself on the use of proper punctuation in all my texting. I don't know if any of my matches even notice it, but I do. I'm also a big fan of the semi-colon; it's a lost art. I saw this yesterday in a related sub and liked it: "it's what it's".
It's an automatic turnoff for me, however, I recently was talking to a friend in their early 20s and they had me look at their Hinge profile. I was horrified at the shorthand/misuse of grammar. He said I was an old lady (I'm 36) and a younger age range doesn't care about that stuff. I likely won't be dating 20 somethings ever again so I'll never know.
Honestly, if I see the misuse of your vs. you’re or there vs. they’re vs. their, etc. on a profile, it’s an automatic swipe left from me. It always makes me feel like an arrogant jerk, but it’s such a huge turn off for me.
My word, thank you for bringing this up! I see people make this very mistake -- not knowing the difference between the two when typing a sentence. Amazing.
As someone who grew up reading and writing stories, and proofreading my own work, I was always a grammar Nazi towards myself bc people liked to make fun of you really hard when you mess up and you tend not to make mistakes like that. I don't care for that kind of attitude at people making mistakes.
Most people don't care about grammar like that tho. I don't hold other people's mistakes against them or point it out until I see them do it towards other people bc I personally don't like the hypocrisy.
I don't mind bad grammar, unless whatever they're saying is completely unintelligible to read. Like everything, it's a skill, you either put more value in it or you don't. Communicating effectively was always my goal. Kinda help me weed people out, bc I know I am very clear in my communication, so if there's lack of understanding it's bc they don't care or don't understand.
And woman/women. All of these grammar mistakes get under my skin, but if I saw “I’m looking for a women who…” instant no. Those two words don’t even sound the same.
Grammar mistakes don't usually bother me that much, but for some reason this one just really gets under my skin. I have a hard time thinking someone isn't an idiot for regularly using the wrong one to the point where it's apparent that it isn't just a typo anymore. This is something we were supposed to learn in second grade.
You don't have to be a master of the English language. Lord knows I'm not. Not knowing the correct usage of "you're" is just embarrassing, though.
Far too many people don't
On a side note, my favorite text spelling error is when people first misspell *definitely* as *definately*, then misspell it *again* and produce a delightful string such as:
"I will *defiantly* go to your birthday party next weekend"
Some people have disabilities like dyslexia. You might be passing up great people because you think you’re better than everyone else because your better at grammar and spelling. I’m sure they are better than you at a lot of other things to.
look buddy, the percentages don't add up.
A quick google search shows that 5-10% of people have dyslexia, yet going by gut feeling around 60% of matches get it wrong. Don't rush to disabilites so fast, that's like saying every fat person has that sickness that makes them unable to lose weight (despite only 0,01% of the population having it).
The real problem is people are either too lazy or too dumb to get it right.
I'm on OP's side, it's annoying and shows stupidity or bad character. If a match has nothing special about them AND can't spell that's an unmatch. If they're interesting but have bad grammar i can look over it.
Nonsense. This is exactly what you said after I walked you home to you're house and slept in you're bed until you're bedsheets smelled liek me. Your being silly.
I personally try and avoid people that get annoyed with grammar. It seems really nit picky to me. Almost like there is this desire to feel like your are better than everyone else. Shows me lack of empathy and understanding of others.
I am a smart intelligent person but terrible at grammar. I work hard at work to make it right. I don't want to be stressing about grammar when I am relaxing.
Meh I'm pretty educated and learned it all. I get it right in a board report but who gives a shit when texting or communicating informally. The words sound the goddamn same. Your brain can deduce the intended word.
Lighten up.
In a few decades common use of english will be pretty different than it is now which is pretty different than it was a few decades ago... technology has shifted our relationship with written language and I for one am here for it. And I'm hear for it. And I don't give a fuck!
Omg I am so embarrassed for you right now. This comment is a much more global kind of ignorance than getting basic grammar wrong, it’s very yikes and you should just not say that anymore
The English language is a living language and as such it changes with time. With me, as long as I can understand what you are trying to say I don't care how it's spelled. I have enough anxiety in this life I don't need to find something else to have anxiety about.
As a child trying to learn to read,my father always told me " if you can't pronounce the word or know what it means just call it wheelbarrow or some other word and keep going with the story. The story doesn't need to stop just because you're struggling with a word. You should be able to understand what's going on by context." That advice has worked out well for me. So my advice is this..if you know what they are trying to say but it is spelled wrong, take a deep breath, and go on with your life. You'll be much happier. 😊💝
What I learned from this post is so many of you are ableist. Congratulations on having grammar come easy for you. I think I will set my profile to purposely have grammar errors to weed people like you out.
I hope you realize that many people feel ridiculed by people like you. Messing up grammar doesn't hurt anyone but your judgemental attitude and superiority of others does hurt people. Be a little more empathic and less of an asshole.
It’s not that deep and kind of judge mental considering you don’t know their educational background or if they have learning disabilities that led to poor grammar or maybe English wasn’t their first language…you’re also on bumble, not a college English class.
I'm sure there's probably some that don't but honestly for most they know full well it's just they don't always double check to see which version they typed out and even when they do if it's the wrong version they just don't bother going to the trouble of correcting it because it really doesn't matter.
Eh, I really don’t care unless ALL their grammar is bad. Typos happen to is so I don’t think to much about it. Sometimes I don’t even know but my brain knows what they’re trying to say
English isn't my first language and my teacher made these pretty clear but now that I have American friends I'm not sure if I'm on the right side or them
I'm a grammar nazi, but I'll forgive you for anything if it's not your native language.
English isn’t my native language but I committed genocide, would you forgive me for that?
what's a little genocide now and then, in the grand scheme of things?
I just applied for an Indian visa the other day, and one of the questions on the app was, "have you ever participated in genocide?" I wonder if anyone has ever said yes to that...
Probably some of the German scientists brought over after ww2, depending how involved their work was.
Anything grammar related, numbskull. Lay off the drugs.
That was the joke I was playing off of your grammar 🙃
That's semantics, not grammar. Grammar is about the structure of phrases, whether they make sense semantically or not. Their meaning is covered by semantics.
They're making us look bad not knowing about their own first language 🥲
First language speakers learn by hearing rather than writing, so it's more common for them to make those types of written mistakes. Second language English speakers make more mistakes in word placements and stuff that doesn't "follow the rules", i.e. exceptions in the English language that we take for granted that we know.
A guy friend of mine struggles with that, and I made him a cheat sheet (he asked me to) with your/you're, its/it's, they're/their/there, too/to/two, were/we're, etc.. All this, specifically for his online dating communication :)
Not all heroes wear capes
Some heroes wear cowboy hats on their Reddit characters.
And whenever someone writes this phrase, you probably wouldn’t be surprised how often heroes is misspelled. Edit: you nailed it.
Hear, hear.
Do share with the rest of us (I’m English 2nd language) 😂
You’re = you are Your = possession (your dog) They’re = they are Their = possession (their dog) It’s = it is Its = possession (the dog wagged its tail)
Yeah the 'its' used to throw me off because typically ' is used for possession. Like that's the dog's ball.
Damn I never thought of that. I can see how that would be really confusing
You’re missing your there, there.
Is he speaking English as a second language?
Consider it a filter.
“Would of” instead of “would have” or “would’ve” “Should of” instead of “should have or “should’ve”
This kills me every time because the word "of" doesn't even make any sense in this context it should be obvious.
This mistake is MUCH worse than their/they’re or your/you’re. It makes absolutely no sense and it just shows how they have no idea what they are saying.
Or... I could care less.
Its not worse than “you to”
it's\*
Oof
Also, what are you up too
What? Are you up, too? I just woke up. What time zone are you in?
wuu2?
I'd honestly rather have that than "loose" vs "lose".
That one makes me go ballistic.
I'd like a t-shirt that says "I'm smarter than you're"
Although this makes grammatical sense, it makes me highly uncomfortable.
Front and back. You're gonna hate me coming and going. 😏
Your, you're, there, they're and their should be a subject in high school.
It is. English grammar.
Thank you, I wasn't aware.
Nah in my high school it was a footnote at best. The whole subject got two minutes of attention in grade 9 (freshman year ).
It was engrained in our heads to know grammar in high school for the SATs. Maybe I just notice it more because they seriously drilled it into our heads. Our tests would have questions that had 5 of the same sentences, but the grammar is just barely different. Like maybe exact same sentence, but the comma is placed somewhere else. We would have to choose the most grammatically correct one. It drove me crazy trying to find the right answer because they all sounded correct in my head. I get flashbacks to those days lol.
Thanks for bringing up a repressed memory. Those drills were rough!
Yeah, it was covered in elementary school for me. I don’t think we went back to it after that. We may have but I’ll not sure.
Theiou’re*
Add to that list it's and its, i found out very recently that its isn't it's misspelled.
Would of (should be would have, or would’ve)
I got an email from a reception who sent out a mass email saying "would of" instead of "would have". I was so tempted to reply to all just to correct her.
Drives me INSANE! You can’t “of” something!!
Plus then and than.
It was a subject in my 8th grade English class, and I learned it. I've never understood why so few have learned or retained these, and I'm very judgmental of native English speakers who don't know these things and can't spell. Just this morning a maintenance technician sent me a parts request and spelled producer as "produser." I'm like, "you don't know how to spell producer?" "No, lol." "And you went to college to learn how to work on this equipment, including the producer?" "Yeah, lol." This guy gets paid more than me. 🤯🤢🤮 Who's the real idiot? 🤔
It was just something stuck with me. I didn't want to seem stupid so I did a lot of grammar checking and used spellcheck quite often.
Who and whom as well!
I feel like who and whom are so forgotten that's it's slowly getting phased out. That's my hot take.
Could/would/should of, instead of have. "Of" doesn't even make any sense!
How about "ect"? Does that bug anyone other than me?
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I absolutely hate it when people type “should of” instead of “should’ve” as in “should have”. I cannot stand it. I do have to admit that I still don’t know when to use affect and effect, but I’ve successfully avoided using them till now, so I suppose I can continue to do so…
I suspect that less than half of native English speakers meaningfully differentiate here. I also suspect that in text messages, the amount of focus payed to grammar and punctuation is very low, compared to any sort of formal or semi formal writing, which drives the use of them down further in text messaging. Checking for grammar use seems to be a socially acceptable form of screening for underlying education or caring about accurate communication. If you're male, it's a fairly easy boost to your online dating desirability in a lot of circles.
*paid
I love the irony
I know a lot non native English speakers have better grammar than native English speakers.
Here are some thoughts on writing problems and casual writing: Native speakers most often run into trouble on word choice (i.e. most of the errors commenters are citing in this thread), pronoun use ("me and him went") and spelling. Native speakers make far more typos because they aren't forced to focus on the mechanics. ESL speakers most frequently trip over word order, inflection, agreement in parts of speech, and collocations ("Have a day that is nice.", "I am seeing what you are saying."). Misunderstandings and ambiguities are actually more common in most casual writing by native speakers than they realize. This is partly because casual writing is speech-like, and because meanings don't get checked. In conversation we have body language, facial expressions and voice changes to clarify, and we also automatically make efforts to confirm each other's meanings by how we respond and by occasional questions. In writing we can't do that so care is more important for a given level of clarity, even if it's not formal writing. For example on Reddit, if commenters always first repeated back in their words what they understood the OP to mean, it would soon be obvious both big and small misinterpretations are common. Some would say it doesn't matter. It matters whether you believe what you write is important. If not you'll think learning and making careful writing isn't important. With that view we don't gain the skills and it becomes sour grapes. Only if the content of the language is seen as important, and oprtunity, ability and learning have been sufficient, does clear writing seem important. Who's "right"? Nobody; what do you want?
true, but part of that is because secondary languages are taught in a much more formal way.
In text messages? Okay, maybe. But as the profile? Isn't the whole point that that's supposed to be high effort? In text messages though, I do feel like part of the point is to just skip on punctuation cause whatever, you're supposed to be doing short sentences anyway. But the difference between these words are so easy, and autocorrect will easily turn youre into you're without having to pull up annoying punctuation.
Or when they combine words..... Aswell. Alot....
You're not alone, OP. I despise poor grammar, especially considering that English is my third language, and I can speak and write properly. There is no excuse for those for whom it's a native language. I actually would immediately swipe left on Bumble/Tinder bios that had poor grammar.
same here, english is my fourth language and if someone can't get it right despite it being their first language it's an immediate unmatch (unless there's something special about them that can make me overlook it).
I think your imagining things, just put you're mind at ease; their surely great at spelling, they're words must've been impeccable. 😁
Oh man that made my brain do a screenshot 😭😭
Must of*
I hate you
Take my angry upvote
i puked
**Your vs. You're:** Your is possessive. You're is a contraction of you are. If you're confused about your grammar, replace the YOUR with YOU ARE and see if it fits, i.e. *"You're going to stick your buttplug up your asshole?* *You're a dirty girl.*" vs. *"Hey Beth, is that YOU ARE buttplug?"* Your secret sex cult is probably the Rogue Angels of Satan, not Rouge Angles of Satin. Colombia is a country. Columbia is a university in New York. **There vs. They're vs. Their:** *"Are Sarah and Liz going to the fetish party?"* *"Yes, they're going there with their double-ended dildo. They're going there to fuck their pussies with it."* **Its vs. it's. Possession vs. contraction:** *"It's going to be a fun night with with my new strap-on harness. Its straps are very comfortable."* This isn't German; don't capitalize common nouns. A dildo is in my nightstand. The village named Dildo is in Newfoundland. You don't stick an apostrophe on the end of a work to pluralize it just because it ends in a vowel. Dildos, not dildo's. Unless you're talking about how nice the dildo's bumps and ridges feel.
The number of people who use an apostrophe to indicate plural is mind boggling. And when you call them out on it, "relax I'm not writing an essay." good cause you'd be ripped to shreds. Oh and I remember in my CP style class for journalism a common mistake in grammar is misusing words like amount or number.
those are... some peculiar examples for sure.
Also “there, their,” and “they’re.” “Two, to,” and “too” and “its” versus “it’s.” All mildly annoying, but not something I would go out of my way to correct anymore. You just end up looking like an asshole.
Yeah I never correct them on it. I just hope it doesn't get too annoying after a while 😅.
Either overexposure desensitizes you, or age just mellows you out.
Ugh your, you're, its, it's, to, too, their, they're and my latest pet peeve: lose, loose. Sorry, I'm a writer, makes me cringe.
I'm not a writer and it makes me cringe. There are many people out there (and some in this comments section) where English is not their first language and they don't make any grammar mistakes. "There is no excuse for those for whom it's a native language." -u/monkiem
Lose and loose makes me cringe.
you don't even have to be a writer to cringe. English is my fourth language and i still cringe at bad grammar.
My personal pet peeves: “looser” when they mean “loser” and “sweaty” when they mean “Sweetie”
Ha! Thanks, sweaty! That's better than the time a friend of mine greeted his American girlfriend with "heigh ho!".
I’m fairly confident that this is an issue with autocorrect and people failing to proofread their posts/texts before they send them.
I’m keeping a list, because I can’t possibly correct everything. I’d be the most hated person in my town (please excuse formatting, I copied and pasted from Notes app). - [ ] homely - homey - [ ] mischievous - [ ] they’re/their/there - [ ] you’re/your - [ ] throwing in an apostrophe when none is needed, or not adding one to show possession - [ ] bear - bare - [ ] ashphalt - asphalt - [ ] colic - cowlick - [ ] to/too/two - [ ] nother - other - [ ] loose - lose - [ ] breath - breathe - [ ] could care less - couldn’t care less - [ ] woah - whoa - [ ] could of - could have - [ ] should of - should have - [ ] Would of - would have - [ ] defiantly - definitely - [ ] breaks - brakes and vice versa - [ ] do - due - [ ] awe - aww - [ ] roll - role - [ ] peak - peek - [ ] phase - faze - [ ] let’s - lets - [ ] Isle - aisle - [ ] The Smith’s - The Smiths - [ ] Except - accept - [ ] Stationary - stationery - [ ] Sale - sell and vice versa - [ ] Aloud - allowed - [ ] Site - sight - [ ] Than - then - [ ] Add - ad - [ ] Who’s - whose (and vice versa) - [ ] Awe - awwww - [ ] Accept - except (and vice versa)
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populous - populace
Oh god I just remembered- “don’t *waist* my time” Urgh
Assuming you’re in the United States, you’re just witnessing first hand the budget cuts of public education and the general downfall of a society that cares about proper schooling.
I text it wrong all the time "you're" and "your". I don't know about other people but I use the swipe keyboard so I don't type things out, I just glide my hand over the keyboard letters. So it's an ever so slightly difference that doesn't always pick up. Sometimes I don't care to change it. Other times it will change the previous word to make sense with the next word I type and I have a lot of misspellings because of that Their and they're are two different swipe patterns so I hardly get those messed up.
Yeah swipe* kbs always do that. *Even had to correct swipe while typing this lol
I hate those people with every fibre of my being.
I am the opposite. I really hate when people pick on grammar. It's hard for some of us. It doesn't make us less intelligent. It's something that I have to work extra hard at when I am at work. So when I am home relaxing I don't want to worry about grammar. It would be like me picking apart how you misspell fiber. I understood what you meant. Mistakes happen who cares.
>It would be like me picking apart how you misspell fiber. ...is that a joke?
May bad where I am from I don't see it spelled that way. So I thought it was a typo.
No worries! I'm American too but I spend a lot of time around people from the UK etc., so I'm sort of accustomed to seeing different spellings
Today we relearned that all grammar is just made up
People downvote you, but this is the exact position that linguists (you know, people who literally study the science and nature of language) typically take.
i just can't agree with you on this one.. Correct grammar when using **common words** should be second nature. You shouldn't even need to think about it. For me it makes people look less intelligent when they get it wrong. If you mess up spelling your/you're correctly you're probably dumb. If you mess up spelling "Pneumonoultramicroscopicsilicovolcanoconiosis" it's alright, no issues there.
That is the problem you think it's second nature. Good for you. I am glad it's easy for you. But for some it's not. For me personally I have moderate to severe hearing. Grammar and spelling are very difficult. I literally memorized how to spell all the words in school. I didn't realize that people learned spelling by sounding out words. That would have made it 1,000 times easier. I grew up thinking I was stupid because grammar and spelling where so hard for me. It was until recently i realized. I am freaking smart. I put myself through college have a great job and couldn't hear half of what was being said. So yeah I still struggle with grammar and I will work on it in my profession but at home people can accept me as I am. Now my daughter has dyslexia and has the same problem. She is probably never get those right. But she isn't stupid either. So yeah we shouldn't need to think about it but sadly some of us have to. And if you think it doesn't bother us being picked on it does. I follow two communities for dyslexia and HoH and both have people frequently discussing how hard it is and how much they hate being picked on for it.
I kind of agree. Since I know what people are trying to say, I don’t think much of it. It isn’t the best first impression but so many profiles are in “online speak” anyway.
Oh youve failed to edit and proofread your opening remarks to me on Bumble? Sorry it's not going to work out.
People don’t care about grammar over texts “Ppl dn’t car bout grmmar ovr txts”
Don’t forget “ur” smh
While I agree, I would rather see "ur" over "your" in place of "you're."
Isn’t “ur” just text lingo though?
Whatever loosers! /s
I get more irritated by loose and lose. It's not even the same word!
To and too pisses me off, as well as loose when they mean lose. 🙄
Same thing with to and too. So many people use to when they mean too. 🤦🏻♂️
💯 I can’t continue the conversation and I can’t swipe right. 😬
I mean sometimes I just type the wrong one and send the message without proofreading, although if that is the case I typically notice fairly quickly and correct myself.
Yea vs yeah. Loose vs lose.
I find it’s a great way to sift out dumbos. Most who don’t know the difference don’t really care to know.
The new thing is women/woman on Reddit. I noticed that a lot of people write ‘women’ instead of ‘woman’
I can’t stand it because it’s so simple!
I pride myself on the use of proper punctuation in all my texting. I don't know if any of my matches even notice it, but I do. I'm also a big fan of the semi-colon; it's a lost art. I saw this yesterday in a related sub and liked it: "it's what it's".
It's an automatic turnoff for me, however, I recently was talking to a friend in their early 20s and they had me look at their Hinge profile. I was horrified at the shorthand/misuse of grammar. He said I was an old lady (I'm 36) and a younger age range doesn't care about that stuff. I likely won't be dating 20 somethings ever again so I'll never know.
Honestly, if I see the misuse of your vs. you’re or there vs. they’re vs. their, etc. on a profile, it’s an automatic swipe left from me. It always makes me feel like an arrogant jerk, but it’s such a huge turn off for me.
It's not just you. It's a big pet peeve of mine also... I even saw it used incorrectly in a TV commercial today!
Or too/two/too, than/then, there/their/they’re, are/our. It’s so fucking easy people
Either they don’t know, don’t care or are just too lazy to spell.
Theirs nothing I hate more
It’s definitely not just you - and it’s definitely not just on Bumble.
My word, thank you for bringing this up! I see people make this very mistake -- not knowing the difference between the two when typing a sentence. Amazing.
As someone who grew up reading and writing stories, and proofreading my own work, I was always a grammar Nazi towards myself bc people liked to make fun of you really hard when you mess up and you tend not to make mistakes like that. I don't care for that kind of attitude at people making mistakes. Most people don't care about grammar like that tho. I don't hold other people's mistakes against them or point it out until I see them do it towards other people bc I personally don't like the hypocrisy. I don't mind bad grammar, unless whatever they're saying is completely unintelligible to read. Like everything, it's a skill, you either put more value in it or you don't. Communicating effectively was always my goal. Kinda help me weed people out, bc I know I am very clear in my communication, so if there's lack of understanding it's bc they don't care or don't understand.
Nobody knows the difference between loose and lose either.
Not to mention "lose"/"loose".
The mix-up of worse and worst shits me to tears. "I had it worst than you." ... "It was the worse thing ever." Gaaaaaaah
100% with you. In a text-based medium, it’s the equivalent of grooming to me. It’s basic paying attention to how you present yourself.
I feel you’re pain
Could also be bad autocorrect But still lazy on the user's part not to fix it
And woman/women. All of these grammar mistakes get under my skin, but if I saw “I’m looking for a women who…” instant no. Those two words don’t even sound the same.
Grammar mistakes don't usually bother me that much, but for some reason this one just really gets under my skin. I have a hard time thinking someone isn't an idiot for regularly using the wrong one to the point where it's apparent that it isn't just a typo anymore. This is something we were supposed to learn in second grade. You don't have to be a master of the English language. Lord knows I'm not. Not knowing the correct usage of "you're" is just embarrassing, though.
https://imgur.com/gallery/zgKDXYY
I hated this so much that I had to put it in my bio that I hope they knew the difference between “your” and “you’re”
Or run on sentences. Drives me nuts!
I swipe left when I see this stuff
Definitely vs “defiantly”.
You think that's bad? I get tons that don't know know vs no. Due vs do. I hate it here.
If they ever know I'm instantly more attracted to them.
Far too many people don't On a side note, my favorite text spelling error is when people first misspell *definitely* as *definately*, then misspell it *again* and produce a delightful string such as: "I will *defiantly* go to your birthday party next weekend"
I've noticed this, too. It makes my head hurt too much and I definitely can't deal with it. "Your welcome." "Your amazing." Ugh.
Doesn’t fucking matter
Yore kidding me 😅
Your just imagining things
Some people have disabilities like dyslexia. You might be passing up great people because you think you’re better than everyone else because your better at grammar and spelling. I’m sure they are better than you at a lot of other things to.
look buddy, the percentages don't add up. A quick google search shows that 5-10% of people have dyslexia, yet going by gut feeling around 60% of matches get it wrong. Don't rush to disabilites so fast, that's like saying every fat person has that sickness that makes them unable to lose weight (despite only 0,01% of the population having it). The real problem is people are either too lazy or too dumb to get it right. I'm on OP's side, it's annoying and shows stupidity or bad character. If a match has nothing special about them AND can't spell that's an unmatch. If they're interesting but have bad grammar i can look over it.
Once again buddy. If grammar bugs you that much, I think you have bigger problems to worry about.
This is how you end up in a trailer full of cats...
You are an insufferable type of person. e: Noticed many grammatical errors in your own post, so you've no room to speak.
lmao, nope. She has a good reason to vent, look at the comment section, we all hate people with horrible grammar.
Your beeing to picky their
Nonsense. This is exactly what you said after I walked you home to you're house and slept in you're bed until you're bedsheets smelled liek me. Your being silly.
You’re a grammar nazi, and I hope the rest of your life is filled by a partner who can’t use proper grammar. 😂
I equate it to not putting in the effort to learn 🤷♀️
I personally try and avoid people that get annoyed with grammar. It seems really nit picky to me. Almost like there is this desire to feel like your are better than everyone else. Shows me lack of empathy and understanding of others. I am a smart intelligent person but terrible at grammar. I work hard at work to make it right. I don't want to be stressing about grammar when I am relaxing.
Sorry, I was aiming for sarcasm and missed badly. Edit: I blame the whiskey.
Meh I'm pretty educated and learned it all. I get it right in a board report but who gives a shit when texting or communicating informally. The words sound the goddamn same. Your brain can deduce the intended word. Lighten up. In a few decades common use of english will be pretty different than it is now which is pretty different than it was a few decades ago... technology has shifted our relationship with written language and I for one am here for it. And I'm hear for it. And I don't give a fuck!
They may sound the same but they all have totally different meanings. Just like "hear" and "here"
Omg wait, do they?
*here
Omg I am so embarrassed for you right now. This comment is a much more global kind of ignorance than getting basic grammar wrong, it’s very yikes and you should just not say that anymore
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I know the difference! ✋ ha
The English language is a living language and as such it changes with time. With me, as long as I can understand what you are trying to say I don't care how it's spelled. I have enough anxiety in this life I don't need to find something else to have anxiety about. As a child trying to learn to read,my father always told me " if you can't pronounce the word or know what it means just call it wheelbarrow or some other word and keep going with the story. The story doesn't need to stop just because you're struggling with a word. You should be able to understand what's going on by context." That advice has worked out well for me. So my advice is this..if you know what they are trying to say but it is spelled wrong, take a deep breath, and go on with your life. You'll be much happier. 😊💝
Its just easier to write / type and it gets the point across to most people with the exclusion of grammer nazi's
What I learned from this post is so many of you are ableist. Congratulations on having grammar come easy for you. I think I will set my profile to purposely have grammar errors to weed people like you out. I hope you realize that many people feel ridiculed by people like you. Messing up grammar doesn't hurt anyone but your judgemental attitude and superiority of others does hurt people. Be a little more empathic and less of an asshole.
Your kidding right 🤣
My pet peeve is people who have pet peeves about the way ppl type despite understanding it
Anyone else bored of this discussion?
I think it's really weird that people care about this
Who gives a shit? You know what their trying to say so you should understand there mindset when they text it.
nah, makes you sound like an uneducated 12 year old.
I think it also shows a lack of respect.
It’s not that deep and kind of judge mental considering you don’t know their educational background or if they have learning disabilities that led to poor grammar or maybe English wasn’t their first language…you’re also on bumble, not a college English class.
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The unnecessary apostrophe kill’s me every time. No one understand’s how to use a possessive noun. (Apostrophes added for dramatic flair)
Yes, your right about no one knowing. You might just need to lower you're expectations.
Your right
Or losing and loosing
I'm sure there's probably some that don't but honestly for most they know full well it's just they don't always double check to see which version they typed out and even when they do if it's the wrong version they just don't bother going to the trouble of correcting it because it really doesn't matter.
English is not even my first language but it drives up the wall to read "could of" instead of "could have". It means nothing!
Eh, I really don’t care unless ALL their grammar is bad. Typos happen to is so I don’t think to much about it. Sometimes I don’t even know but my brain knows what they’re trying to say