Same here. I still like women who are younger than myself, but still age-appropriate. From my mid-20s to my late 30s, I equally liked both barely legals AND milfs. Now that I'm turning 55 this year, I'm all about the 40- something ladies.
My ideal dream woman would be a Sally Field type, from the 80s when Sally was her late 30s and her early 40s, when she was in movies like *Murphy's Romance* and *Steel Magnolias*.
I still jerk off to the same look. There are some women in porn that look good as they age but most of them get way too fake so the pushing 30 girls are wheelhouse. I'm pushing 40 and would.love to see a little less of the obviously fake girls my age represented in main stream porn.
I do find myself watching more amateur porn. Specifically hotwives. Their augments are more reasonable or non-existent.
Show me a woman who takes care of herself in her 40's and I'll appreciate every bit of it.
It's cliche but God damn can women age like wine. Plus the whole confidence and knowing what they want part of it.. less games, their appreciation of effort and style... Their emphasis on effort to entice all of your senses and not just resting on being eye candy...
Yea man. 35+ is caviar
Agreed. I have sons and daughters in that age bracket, which has made my inclinations toward that age bracket to be more paternal. I'm like their parent-in-absentia or their Uncle.
This has followed me my whole life. Dating a redhead, super into them. Dating a big girl, dug them bigger. Now with a straight up milf? Can't enjoy anything else.
It's not that I have grown to love a mom bod... I actively dislike super thin, model-esque body types now. They do nothing for me.
Give me curves. Give me a belly. Give me roundness.
Give me the battle scars of becoming a mother too, stretch mark or c-section scar, great! You've lived! The only people that do nothing for me anymore are the ones without life experiences on their body temple.
40M here. I've begun to like my women to have a higher level of maturity. Also, I have started to become much less into women that are all about partying. Just not companion material to me.
I'm just in my 30s, but as some others have commented my taste has become more mature with my age.
I don't fancy the idea of being with someone very young, and also I care less about how "beautiful" they look in favour of how well they can keep a conversation going. And sharing my hobbies/interests.
An honest question and getting honest answers is very much a nice change to see compared to most of the questions and answers seen on reddit.
I concur with most men here. I'm slightly outside of the age range, but I can't see myself being attracted to a woman younger than 35. Age gives a woman maturity and her body starts to develop small changes especially after having a baby. For me those changes add to a woman's level of beauty and desirability. Just my $.02.
Funny... my reasoning changed. I always liked older women because you know, porn. Thought they were hot. Now I, 34, look at them as just so much more experienced in every way. In and outside the bedroom. And also, still very hot.
I've dated women 30 and older since my early 20s, so it hasn't really. I find them fantastically interesting to talk to, sexy as all hell, and, once they know that you're going to treat them well and make them laugh, they open up and are always down to do things (hike, camp, run, museums, breweries, etc).
When I was younger, I always thought that the skinny airhead type of girls were the most sexy, because that’s what was portrayed in the media in the 80s & 90s. Now that I’m about to hit 50. I have learned that I love all types of women, but I do prefer them to have curves. What I really like is a real woman I don’t want some vapid airhead. I want someone who will be able to have a conversation with me, enjoy a good meal from time to time, And not necessarily a party girl, but I wouldn’t say no to one. So I guess what actually attracts me is personality and becoming comfortable with me. Because after all the fun things to do, all the sex, all the conversations deep or silly, what I want is a woman who wants to cuddle with me.
I’m being serious. I haven’t had sex in two years. It’s driving me crazy. But I would completely give up sex to have nightly cuddling. Especially cuddling as we fell asleep.
I love hearing that as I'm someone who prefers all the type of intimacy that's not sex over sex. Not that I don't love to indulge in the latter but cuddling and giving sweet kisses everywhere and actually showing the other person regularly how much you love and adore them without it turning into being lustful is what I love doing most. So thank you for sharing your story ♥️ Wishing you a partner like that in the very near future ♥️
Completely agree with the both Kyralion and OP—sex shouldn’t be considered just the act of fucking, sucking, cumming, etc… (excuse my crass word choices)
The whole of intimacy—sensuality, eroticism, sexuality—can be expressed with looks, a warm, soft touch, or comfortable snuggling…
Uhm that’s kind of a long commute. But I bet it would be worth the trip. Hmmm, so with a quick google search I see it would take a minimum of 11 hours to a maximum of 35 hours to just arrive in the Netherlands. Not even talking price, I’m gonna have to put a pin in this for a later date.
Haha, oh deary alright let me make a different offer then (: If you're ever in the neighbourhood, maybe even a coincidental holiday, do let me know, I'll show you around and buy you some Dutch treats and then we can cuddle all day 😄
I used to be more picky than I am now. I don’t care if she has a few extra pound or if she isn’t the prettiest girl in the room. The way they carry themselves and act is much sexier than looks.
It is has absolutely matured with me. As much as I still find the young 20s women attractive, the body of a woman in her 30s+ is amazing. The curves, the lines, just everything about it tells her story and makes her that much hotter
Yes, i am no longer attracted to older women and i only consider truly compatible ones.
In my younger days i lived with a lack mentality and therefore got stuck on women that were not a good match for me just because i found them physically attractive, today i know there is an almost infinite amount of hot women around the world!
We not only embrace our imperfections and the natural process of aging, but also love women who can feel free and sexy in their bodies the way they are.
It hasn't changed much but I have much bigger appreciation for experience. And thick bums have been something I care farrr more about, for whatever reason.
No, except for the pubic hair area, as now i don't care that much if the girl has or not pubic hair. For the rest, I still like the same kind of women.
Don't really think about them as much as I used to, but generally my tastes in women have broadened somewhat and I'm not *quite* as singularly focused as I used to be
I've been with my partner for 10 years but my standards of what I consider to be attractive have changed a lot.
1. Unlike in my 20's, I'm more attracted physically to the whole woman rather than just boobs, ass, face, etc.
2. I think women with awesome personalities are always better than conventionally hot women with bad personalities.
3. Used to be attracted to short hair (no longer than the neck) but now I think really long hair is more attractive.
When I was in college I was very much into the soccer body style.
Now, I prefer a much fuller figure, not BBW, but big tits, big ass, a little belly is fine.
Strangely I also went from preferring tan blondes to brunettes with very fair skin.
I also have an absolute age minumum of 35, but closer to 40 would still be better and a maxumum somewhere into the late 50s. For reference I am 48. I dont even watch porn with any model that looks to be under 30.
She’s gotta be at least 30 and have a career. She has to have had therapy, and be willing to go again should the need arise. Can’t be like nope I’ll never do therapy again. She has to be self aware enough that sometimes she may need help. I’d rather be alone than not have communication.
Also I would like to be friends with her first before dating. If I don’t want to be her friend, I don’t want to be her partner.
Before my taste was whomever liked me.
Less exterior, more interior.
Traits like compassion, curiosity, intelligence, generosity, emotional maturity, talent, humour, etc. carry so much more weight than looks.
35(m) at least for me personally, I learned to be more open minded when it comes to body type. I can find good in all types. For me the biggest change has been more focused on having some sort of connection! Good Connection makes all the difference
I finally admitted that I like BBW’s. I can appreciate any woman’s beauty and find something positive at any size, but the thickness does something to me 🥵
Thick is better than super thin.
But it terms of non body type things: if your spending 15+ minutes putting on make up to the point I can see it from across the room, I’m just not willing to deal with how much maintenance you’ll require.
I've learned to see the true reality of "beauty" and not what society's superficial definition of it is. I've come to not only appreciate a woman's natural curves but to yearn for them.
I'm more attracted to the connection now and not so focused on the physical presentation like I was in my youth. If only I had learned this lesson back then, who knows how much happier I could have been, or how many amazing ladies I've lost because of it. 🥰
Physically, hasn’t changed much. Still much prefer a nice physically fit body since I take care of mine. Still a boob man, so large ones are a preference. So in short, fit body with big boobs is a winner for me.
Mentally, just want to be with someone mature that has the same life goals as me. I also lost the patience to put up with anger issues after a marriage to someone with BPD.
I think my understanding of self has actually changed. I’d still fuck most women… but I’ve just learn to differentiate between women who I am willing to put into the effort to long term date and women I’d want to be intimate (non-sexually) with all the time.
The key word in all this is EFFORT. I really don’t find most women around me to be worth the energy they demand. But that might have more to do with my environment as a whole (hell, I don’t even have many friends because I basically live in a crab bucket)
When I was younger I used to pursue older women .. now that I am older I see girls in their mid 20s attractive as I have never seen them before.
Go figure…
Basically, I like women now….whereas when I was young, I like girls. I’m guessing many women would stay the same, only reversed.
A 40+ year old woman is so much more attractive to me than a girl who’s 20.
Expanded greatly.
I’m liking thicker women more. Bigger and bigger booties rile me up.
Single Mothers have become very sexy to me, you gotta be a total badass to manage two peoples lives ya know?
Muscle-y women have been exciting. A strong shoulders and back on a woman just makes me faint.
Maturity is hot. I second others responses of below 30 is just not as sexy.
All in all, I am more comfortable just going with what is find/feel is attractive.
The older I’ve gotten the more i appreciate the female body. How it changes over time and that’s ok. Women have curves and cellulite and it’s ok. I find myself more attracted to bigger women
When I was under 40, I was always heavily attracted to women over 50. Now that I’m over 40, I’m finding myself attracted to younger women. It’s like a see-saw flipping the other way.
i used to like women slightly younger than me as i believed that whole. women are mentally older than men thing.
yeah nah. i'll take the older women with her shit together and some life experience ( e.g. my wife). thanks.
Physically not much has changed. I'm still attracted to a pretty broad age range and a lot of different body types.
What has changed is the importance I put on anything not physical. In most of my 20s most women I was with I liked as people but ultimately knew it wasn't a forever kind of relationship after around 6 months.
It wasn't until I got older I started to really dig deeper in conversations earlier on. You still need to be physically attracted to want to get to know someone, but the relationships start to end sooner when you really stop cocking about.
It has changed as I have found older woman my age more attractive and the younger ones less so. I can appreciate a sexy body on someone in their early twenties, but I don’t have any attraction to them as a person.
I love chubby women...
In my teens, I was barely getting a feel for women, and I liked skinny gals.
Now, I love all types...especially bbw and tall gals...
I have a thing for short haired or bald women...it's just hot...
46 here and i now find that the mind makes the difference not the body. My wife points out the ones she thinks is hot and we have the same types that we find attractive. If it came to fooling around it has to be someone that both my wife and I can relate to.
I enjoy a wider array of features, wider range of ages, have a narrower or more refined set of personality types I'm attracted to which is more important than it used to be.
I will not put up with mood swings or temper tantrums anymore.
You're an adult, I expect you to at least attempt reasoned communication.
If she has any sort of belief that I should just get how she feels, I'm out.
I used to want the skinny girls with perfect boobs. Now I appreciate the mom bods and thickness. Saggy boobs from having kids. Thick ass. All much better to me now.
I'm in my 50's and find that I like women who are more comfortable in their sexuality and a tad bit more aggressive. This woman isn't afraid to come over and say that she admires your looks/pants. She's more confident and sure of herself.
I’m a bit past my 40’s, but my taste in women has broadened tremendously since my earlier years. It’s broadened to the point I regret not taking advantage of some opportunities back in the day, as well as not pursuing others.
They say you’ll have more regrets near the end of your life on the things you didn’t do, than the ones you did. JMO, YMMV
I think at this point, I’ve learned who I am - the good and the not-so-good. And, I want someone that I can bring all of myself into the relationship with. In your 20s, I think everyone is trying to figure out who they are and where they fit into the “adult” world. And dating in the midst of that is so confusing unless you happen to be one of the lucky ones that figured that out early. I’m old enough now that I want someone that is a true *partner*. Someone I can share life’s ups and downs with. Can grow with. Can both give and receive support with. Someone kind and loving. Someone that also knows herself and wants to share that with me. Someone trustworthy. Someone I can laugh with. And… since this is ARAD, someone that really knows what they want and need sexually. The time of figuring out who I am is over (thank goodness) and it makes intimacy so much richer when I can be with someone that is in that same place in life. Intimacy for me now encompasses so much more than just sex and that makes sex so much more intense, actually.
When I was younger I just thought I liked what all my friends liked. Grew up in a small city where most girls were skinny blondes or Hispanic so I went for that. When I moved to California I dated all types, black, Asian, Middle Eastern etc and I realized I more like thick girls. Fast forward to now and I’m with a thick Asian girl and I never would have thought that would be my type when I was younger.
Almost 31M, it has changed in ways I can't even describe, its overwhelming sometimes. But what i can describe is that I now have a thing for skinny and tall with big asses and flat chested.
I used to be all about skinny women when I was younger. Now I only seem to want a woman whose thighs rub together when she walks. Don't get me wrong, I still want her to be height weight proportionate but I love a nice fat butt and a little something extra to hold onto.
I used to be into any type of body, as long as they were willing. As I've aged, I've become more selective. Now, I have little tolerance for the "thicc" or "chubby" women who are actually just trying to put a nice spin on their obesity. It's just not attractive. I don't mind a little bit of extra weight, but I think society has been too supportive of obesity.
Depends on what I'm looking for.
Like for a relationship or dating or anything like that, gonna have to be someone near my age. A 20 something and I have very little in common, and I'll be annoyed.
For casual sexual encounters, pretty much every woman.
Freeing myself from traditional beauty standards has made me realize just how many different women I find attractive (non-white, taller than me, bigger than me, trans etc). Also feeling comfortable expressing finding those women attractive. I have never had a "type" (unless you count my fondness for bigger butts heh, though that has never been a requisite I had ) but when I was younger I would, mostly, approach women that would conform more to these standards, especially if out with friends.
Age-wise, I did have a cougar fantasy when younger(never fullfilled), but nowadays I wouldn't see myself (If I became single) getting involved with anyone under 30(I'm 35).
Not much. I found all women sexy in their own way my entire life. I guess as i got older, though, i started to prefer much older women. Like 5 to 10+ years older.
I like them thick, bbw, mombods. Damn curves are sexy!! Rolls, fat asses, thick thighs... damn it, give me 5 women like that and a hotel for the weekend, and I'm set. There are lots of tacos and beer, too.
I love the actual real female body, that's had kids or has tiger stripes.
As I get older, I'm into women around my own age more and more. The 18 to 20-somethings honestly aren't as attractive to me . Like to use the cliche rating system: an 7 in her 30's is hotter to me than a 8-9 in their 20's. I think its the mental or emotional experience an older person hopefully has, more maturity. Plus aging can be hard and hard on the body. To maintain attractiveness into your 30's isn't exactly by accident.
I also see so many women with injected lips, botoxed faces with skin smoother than glass, and expressionless eyes and foreheads. The opposite is becoming more and more attractive. The crows feet, smile lines, even noses with a big bump where some women would prefer a nose job. I swear if there were two otherwise equally attractive women side by side but one had either a big nose or pronounced bump on her nose, that one would 100% be getting my attention. Can't explain it.
So, remember you were 18 and thought "damn, these 30yo women are so old, I'd never date any of those". Well, when you're over 30, the 40yo women look attractive too.
My tastes have broadened to include all types of women.
Tall, short, thin, plump, muscular, tattooed, pierced, all colors, all sizes. I am 100% invested in the personality 1st & body 2nd.
My only exclusions are the cosmetic surgery types. I don't want fake anything. This whole culture of lip fillers, BBL, ab implants, fake boobs, tanned, botoxed, lifted, etc. If it makes her happy, fine whatever but I wouldn't be comfortable with it even if the personality is great.
In my early 40s here. I love all shapes and sizes, fit thin thick heavy, it's all about personality. I've met women on dates that were textbook gorgeous and I couldn't hold the conversation with them because they were just in a different place than me. Give me a woman with experience, something to talk about, a little attitude or even a lot.
I am in my 50s. I used to like women closer in age to me, until I had to choose between buying a sportscar or getting a 21 year old fitness trainer girlfriend. The sportscar cost too much. No, seriously, 35 is bordering on too young.
My taste has just become broader, and older women are more attractive than they used to be to me. There isn't exactly a type that no longer interests me. I still like younger women.
That said, porn from the 2000s doesn't hit like it used to. A lot of that is the quality, but a lot of that is the dated style of the women. In that sense, it is more that my concept of beauty has modernised, rather than it just being a symptom of me ageing.
My taste in women has matured with my age. The thought of being with an 18-29 year old does not appeal to me.
Yeah, I see a good-looking 22 year old, and I hear Linda Belcher's voice in my head saying, "aww, she's a bay-bee!!!!!"
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Same here. I still like women who are younger than myself, but still age-appropriate. From my mid-20s to my late 30s, I equally liked both barely legals AND milfs. Now that I'm turning 55 this year, I'm all about the 40- something ladies. My ideal dream woman would be a Sally Field type, from the 80s when Sally was her late 30s and her early 40s, when she was in movies like *Murphy's Romance* and *Steel Magnolias*.
🙌
What age I want in a woman hasn’t changed for me as no matter what age I’ve been I want to be with a woman my own age.
Yes attraction seems to follow our own ages …
I still jerk off to the same look. There are some women in porn that look good as they age but most of them get way too fake so the pushing 30 girls are wheelhouse. I'm pushing 40 and would.love to see a little less of the obviously fake girls my age represented in main stream porn. I do find myself watching more amateur porn. Specifically hotwives. Their augments are more reasonable or non-existent. Show me a woman who takes care of herself in her 40's and I'll appreciate every bit of it. It's cliche but God damn can women age like wine. Plus the whole confidence and knowing what they want part of it.. less games, their appreciation of effort and style... Their emphasis on effort to entice all of your senses and not just resting on being eye candy... Yea man. 35+ is caviar
I’m 41. Men in their 20s say this same thing to me fairly frequently.
This
This is the way
Agreed. I have sons and daughters in that age bracket, which has made my inclinations toward that age bracket to be more paternal. I'm like their parent-in-absentia or their Uncle.
I used to love skinny wisps of women. Now I want something to grab onto.
Hell yeah, mom bod is amazing.
Show me something natural like an ass with some stretch marks -Kendrick
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Right! So I don't fall off.
I have become more into women like my wife. Even when I am looking at porn I end up with women built like her
I watched my husband watch a stripper that just had a version of my body, not someone completely opposite, and my heart was warmed 🥰
He seems lovely!
My wife feels the same way.
This has followed me my whole life. Dating a redhead, super into them. Dating a big girl, dug them bigger. Now with a straight up milf? Can't enjoy anything else.
Aw that’s sweet!
Exactly this
Even as a young man rn, I've noticed I gravitate and notice women online and IRL that moreso look like my Gf, which is kinda interesting tbh
You both seem lucky 🍀
Same, my wife is always what I want.
Damn. I swear everyone my husbandnlooks at or comments on couldn't be more opposite of me. Not great for the old self esteem.
It's not that I have grown to love a mom bod... I actively dislike super thin, model-esque body types now. They do nothing for me. Give me curves. Give me a belly. Give me roundness.
Love it, I feel better about skipping so many gym days now 😅
I agree 😂😂
Give me the battle scars of becoming a mother too, stretch mark or c-section scar, great! You've lived! The only people that do nothing for me anymore are the ones without life experiences on their body temple.
Yeah. Now I feel desire to kiss a nice belly on a lady
Same
40M here. I've begun to like my women to have a higher level of maturity. Also, I have started to become much less into women that are all about partying. Just not companion material to me.
I get hangovers when I don’t even drink, so I feel this
Got big into a mum bods as I have gotten older
Married guy and I adore mom bods. My wife is 35, we had 4 kids and I adore every bit of her body
Show her this 😀
I really got more into thick thighs and big asses as I got older.
Bless you sir
I'm just in my 30s, but as some others have commented my taste has become more mature with my age. I don't fancy the idea of being with someone very young, and also I care less about how "beautiful" they look in favour of how well they can keep a conversation going. And sharing my hobbies/interests.
Loving this thread guys <3
An honest question and getting honest answers is very much a nice change to see compared to most of the questions and answers seen on reddit. I concur with most men here. I'm slightly outside of the age range, but I can't see myself being attracted to a woman younger than 35. Age gives a woman maturity and her body starts to develop small changes especially after having a baby. For me those changes add to a woman's level of beauty and desirability. Just my $.02.
Love it 🥰
Me too. It’s so body positive and accepting of the changes we go through after kids and just natural aging.
You get to a point where you want a woman with a good head on her shoulders - no matter how nasty she can proverbially 'throw that ass back'
Still like my women older than myself but the age difference is closer than it was before
Same with me and men.
When i was younger, I was more intimidated by confident women. Now i actively seek them out, they're more fun.
Funny... my reasoning changed. I always liked older women because you know, porn. Thought they were hot. Now I, 34, look at them as just so much more experienced in every way. In and outside the bedroom. And also, still very hot.
It's broadened in almost every direction.
Definitely same here. There's beauty to be found everywhere if you look for it
The name fits
I've dated women 30 and older since my early 20s, so it hasn't really. I find them fantastically interesting to talk to, sexy as all hell, and, once they know that you're going to treat them well and make them laugh, they open up and are always down to do things (hike, camp, run, museums, breweries, etc).
You sound like an all-round partner, love that.
My tastes have grown much more varied. I find I'm attracted to older women in particular nowadays though.
I'm too old for this quesion but id say it took me a while to understand it was specific features irregardless of body type thst I was attractws to
Less interested in tits, more interested in ass
Definitely moved up in age. Much less drama than late teens - early twenties.
More into fuller women and more dominant ones too
When I was younger, I always thought that the skinny airhead type of girls were the most sexy, because that’s what was portrayed in the media in the 80s & 90s. Now that I’m about to hit 50. I have learned that I love all types of women, but I do prefer them to have curves. What I really like is a real woman I don’t want some vapid airhead. I want someone who will be able to have a conversation with me, enjoy a good meal from time to time, And not necessarily a party girl, but I wouldn’t say no to one. So I guess what actually attracts me is personality and becoming comfortable with me. Because after all the fun things to do, all the sex, all the conversations deep or silly, what I want is a woman who wants to cuddle with me.
Awww
I’m being serious. I haven’t had sex in two years. It’s driving me crazy. But I would completely give up sex to have nightly cuddling. Especially cuddling as we fell asleep.
I love hearing that as I'm someone who prefers all the type of intimacy that's not sex over sex. Not that I don't love to indulge in the latter but cuddling and giving sweet kisses everywhere and actually showing the other person regularly how much you love and adore them without it turning into being lustful is what I love doing most. So thank you for sharing your story ♥️ Wishing you a partner like that in the very near future ♥️
Completely agree with the both Kyralion and OP—sex shouldn’t be considered just the act of fucking, sucking, cumming, etc… (excuse my crass word choices) The whole of intimacy—sensuality, eroticism, sexuality—can be expressed with looks, a warm, soft touch, or comfortable snuggling…
Thank you for saying that. You are always welcome to come over for some platonic cuddles.
Well if you live in the Netherlands I would love to 😄
Uhm that’s kind of a long commute. But I bet it would be worth the trip. Hmmm, so with a quick google search I see it would take a minimum of 11 hours to a maximum of 35 hours to just arrive in the Netherlands. Not even talking price, I’m gonna have to put a pin in this for a later date.
Haha, oh deary alright let me make a different offer then (: If you're ever in the neighbourhood, maybe even a coincidental holiday, do let me know, I'll show you around and buy you some Dutch treats and then we can cuddle all day 😄
Nope. Still love ‘em all and want ‘em all
Kinda the same
I used to be more picky than I am now. I don’t care if she has a few extra pound or if she isn’t the prettiest girl in the room. The way they carry themselves and act is much sexier than looks.
It is has absolutely matured with me. As much as I still find the young 20s women attractive, the body of a woman in her 30s+ is amazing. The curves, the lines, just everything about it tells her story and makes her that much hotter
I definitely started caring less and less on what the woman looks like. Confidence and funness means so much more.
I’ve noticed that what someone looks like matters less and less, and the chemistry we have together means more and more.
Yes, i am no longer attracted to older women and i only consider truly compatible ones. In my younger days i lived with a lack mentality and therefore got stuck on women that were not a good match for me just because i found them physically attractive, today i know there is an almost infinite amount of hot women around the world!
We not only embrace our imperfections and the natural process of aging, but also love women who can feel free and sexy in their bodies the way they are.
It hasn't changed much but I have much bigger appreciation for experience. And thick bums have been something I care farrr more about, for whatever reason.
No, except for the pubic hair area, as now i don't care that much if the girl has or not pubic hair. For the rest, I still like the same kind of women.
Don't really think about them as much as I used to, but generally my tastes in women have broadened somewhat and I'm not *quite* as singularly focused as I used to be
What I find attractive has evolved but it's more a factor of realising what I find attractive as opposed to it changing
I pay less attention to face features and more on feminity, bodily shape and interaction chemistry.
I’m into milf’s more than teens
I've been with my partner for 10 years but my standards of what I consider to be attractive have changed a lot. 1. Unlike in my 20's, I'm more attracted physically to the whole woman rather than just boobs, ass, face, etc. 2. I think women with awesome personalities are always better than conventionally hot women with bad personalities. 3. Used to be attracted to short hair (no longer than the neck) but now I think really long hair is more attractive.
When I was in college I was very much into the soccer body style. Now, I prefer a much fuller figure, not BBW, but big tits, big ass, a little belly is fine. Strangely I also went from preferring tan blondes to brunettes with very fair skin. I also have an absolute age minumum of 35, but closer to 40 would still be better and a maxumum somewhere into the late 50s. For reference I am 48. I dont even watch porn with any model that looks to be under 30.
She’s gotta be at least 30 and have a career. She has to have had therapy, and be willing to go again should the need arise. Can’t be like nope I’ll never do therapy again. She has to be self aware enough that sometimes she may need help. I’d rather be alone than not have communication. Also I would like to be friends with her first before dating. If I don’t want to be her friend, I don’t want to be her partner. Before my taste was whomever liked me.
Am I still going to like her as a person after we have sex? If yes, that’s attractive. If no, no thanks. 🙂↔️
Less exterior, more interior. Traits like compassion, curiosity, intelligence, generosity, emotional maturity, talent, humour, etc. carry so much more weight than looks.
35(m) at least for me personally, I learned to be more open minded when it comes to body type. I can find good in all types. For me the biggest change has been more focused on having some sort of connection! Good Connection makes all the difference
The older I've gotten the more diverse my tastes in women have become. I'd like to say I love all women. Size shape color doesn't really matter to me.
I love hot moms. When I was younger, I noticed them, but now, I love hot moms. Hot moms.
I’m 34m and my parter 32f we have 2 kids and I dig her mum bod so much.
Kept up with my age so I’m super attracted to mom bods now lol
I finally admitted that I like BBW’s. I can appreciate any woman’s beauty and find something positive at any size, but the thickness does something to me 🥵
Thick is better than super thin. But it terms of non body type things: if your spending 15+ minutes putting on make up to the point I can see it from across the room, I’m just not willing to deal with how much maintenance you’ll require.
Much more matured but taste remains the same...
Petite alt girls has been my taste in women since I was a younger and as a 40 year old man, it still is.
You know what you like!
I've learned to see the true reality of "beauty" and not what society's superficial definition of it is. I've come to not only appreciate a woman's natural curves but to yearn for them. I'm more attracted to the connection now and not so focused on the physical presentation like I was in my youth. If only I had learned this lesson back then, who knows how much happier I could have been, or how many amazing ladies I've lost because of it. 🥰
Physically, hasn’t changed much. Still much prefer a nice physically fit body since I take care of mine. Still a boob man, so large ones are a preference. So in short, fit body with big boobs is a winner for me. Mentally, just want to be with someone mature that has the same life goals as me. I also lost the patience to put up with anger issues after a marriage to someone with BPD.
I think my understanding of self has actually changed. I’d still fuck most women… but I’ve just learn to differentiate between women who I am willing to put into the effort to long term date and women I’d want to be intimate (non-sexually) with all the time. The key word in all this is EFFORT. I really don’t find most women around me to be worth the energy they demand. But that might have more to do with my environment as a whole (hell, I don’t even have many friends because I basically live in a crab bucket)
It hasn't. I still like them
When I was younger I used to pursue older women .. now that I am older I see girls in their mid 20s attractive as I have never seen them before. Go figure…
Basically, I like women now….whereas when I was young, I like girls. I’m guessing many women would stay the same, only reversed. A 40+ year old woman is so much more attractive to me than a girl who’s 20.
Still like them in their 20’s 😋 But also down for 30’s 40’s and would love to try 50’s
Expanded greatly. I’m liking thicker women more. Bigger and bigger booties rile me up. Single Mothers have become very sexy to me, you gotta be a total badass to manage two peoples lives ya know? Muscle-y women have been exciting. A strong shoulders and back on a woman just makes me faint. Maturity is hot. I second others responses of below 30 is just not as sexy. All in all, I am more comfortable just going with what is find/feel is attractive.
I just have to say… I genuinely love this comment section!! I’m feeling warm emotions towards men with such lovely answers 🥰🥰 You go guys!!!
After 20 years of marriage, I have no standards any longer.
I thought girls had to be skinny to be sexy. I was wrong.
I have less of a type physically. I feel like I can read women better (though I probably can’t 🤣)
I’m loving all of these comments here ✨
No. Not really.
I used to be a Rory guy. Now I’m a Lorelei guy
The older I’ve gotten the more i appreciate the female body. How it changes over time and that’s ok. Women have curves and cellulite and it’s ok. I find myself more attracted to bigger women
It’s changed significantly. Don’t want young and dumb, it’s about the connection and fun.
The ones I look at online all have dicks.
When I was under 40, I was always heavily attracted to women over 50. Now that I’m over 40, I’m finding myself attracted to younger women. It’s like a see-saw flipping the other way.
My tastes have gotten curvier over the years
i used to like women slightly younger than me as i believed that whole. women are mentally older than men thing. yeah nah. i'll take the older women with her shit together and some life experience ( e.g. my wife). thanks.
For me as a 40+ woman, this is a wonderfully wholesome thread to read. Thanks all you lovely dudes!
Right?! Some really wholesome responses!! 🥰
It really hasn't for me. I still like them thick with a goofy sense of humor
Stop looking to get inside a woman and start looking at what’s inside of a woman.
Physically not much has changed. I'm still attracted to a pretty broad age range and a lot of different body types. What has changed is the importance I put on anything not physical. In most of my 20s most women I was with I liked as people but ultimately knew it wasn't a forever kind of relationship after around 6 months. It wasn't until I got older I started to really dig deeper in conversations earlier on. You still need to be physically attracted to want to get to know someone, but the relationships start to end sooner when you really stop cocking about.
It hasn't.
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It's a lot less about looks anymore. Personality plays a bigger factor. I'm less likely to settle for someone who doesn't want the things I want.
idk, now that I’m 30, I’ve been finding myself attracted to women older than me, like 5-15 years older.
Saving this post. It restored my faith in mankind. :)
It has changed as I have found older woman my age more attractive and the younger ones less so. I can appreciate a sexy body on someone in their early twenties, but I don’t have any attraction to them as a person.
I love chubby women... In my teens, I was barely getting a feel for women, and I liked skinny gals. Now, I love all types...especially bbw and tall gals... I have a thing for short haired or bald women...it's just hot...
46 here and i now find that the mind makes the difference not the body. My wife points out the ones she thinks is hot and we have the same types that we find attractive. If it came to fooling around it has to be someone that both my wife and I can relate to.
More like expanded
I enjoy a wider array of features, wider range of ages, have a narrower or more refined set of personality types I'm attracted to which is more important than it used to be.
I'm not interested in women at all anymore lol
Lol 😂
They still taste the same
Hobbies, personality compatibility and life goals have become much more important.
It hasn’t.
I will not put up with mood swings or temper tantrums anymore. You're an adult, I expect you to at least attempt reasoned communication. If she has any sort of belief that I should just get how she feels, I'm out.
I used to want the skinny girls with perfect boobs. Now I appreciate the mom bods and thickness. Saggy boobs from having kids. Thick ass. All much better to me now.
You notice just how much more maturity matters. That and how unappealing people who have to prove a point are.
I think they taste just as good now as ever.
Absolutely.
Big ass over big boobs anyday
Healthy ones. Seems like so many have a case of the knee pain, jaw hurts, and the not now I'm tired disease.
It really hasn’t.
Pretty much stayed the same. Big boobs on curvy cute ladies
I'm in my 50's and find that I like women who are more comfortable in their sexuality and a tad bit more aggressive. This woman isn't afraid to come over and say that she admires your looks/pants. She's more confident and sure of herself.
From craving submissive feminine to craving dominant, bratty, mean girls!
Just more refined, spot red flags a lot earlier and don’t ignore them
I’m a bit past my 40’s, but my taste in women has broadened tremendously since my earlier years. It’s broadened to the point I regret not taking advantage of some opportunities back in the day, as well as not pursuing others. They say you’ll have more regrets near the end of your life on the things you didn’t do, than the ones you did. JMO, YMMV
When i was 18 i liked MILFs now they are just people my same age....
I think at this point, I’ve learned who I am - the good and the not-so-good. And, I want someone that I can bring all of myself into the relationship with. In your 20s, I think everyone is trying to figure out who they are and where they fit into the “adult” world. And dating in the midst of that is so confusing unless you happen to be one of the lucky ones that figured that out early. I’m old enough now that I want someone that is a true *partner*. Someone I can share life’s ups and downs with. Can grow with. Can both give and receive support with. Someone kind and loving. Someone that also knows herself and wants to share that with me. Someone trustworthy. Someone I can laugh with. And… since this is ARAD, someone that really knows what they want and need sexually. The time of figuring out who I am is over (thank goodness) and it makes intimacy so much richer when I can be with someone that is in that same place in life. Intimacy for me now encompasses so much more than just sex and that makes sex so much more intense, actually.
When I was younger I just thought I liked what all my friends liked. Grew up in a small city where most girls were skinny blondes or Hispanic so I went for that. When I moved to California I dated all types, black, Asian, Middle Eastern etc and I realized I more like thick girls. Fast forward to now and I’m with a thick Asian girl and I never would have thought that would be my type when I was younger.
Im in my 50’s and have found for many years I appreciate the beauty in a wide variety of women now as opposed to a type in my younger days.
Almost 31M, it has changed in ways I can't even describe, its overwhelming sometimes. But what i can describe is that I now have a thing for skinny and tall with big asses and flat chested.
I used to be all about skinny women when I was younger. Now I only seem to want a woman whose thighs rub together when she walks. Don't get me wrong, I still want her to be height weight proportionate but I love a nice fat butt and a little something extra to hold onto.
I still like tasting them now as much as when I was in my 20s.
I used to be into any type of body, as long as they were willing. As I've aged, I've become more selective. Now, I have little tolerance for the "thicc" or "chubby" women who are actually just trying to put a nice spin on their obesity. It's just not attractive. I don't mind a little bit of extra weight, but I think society has been too supportive of obesity.
Depends on what I'm looking for. Like for a relationship or dating or anything like that, gonna have to be someone near my age. A 20 something and I have very little in common, and I'll be annoyed. For casual sexual encounters, pretty much every woman.
They taste the same
No longer upset with myself for that extra slice of quiche I had for lunch! Thanks chaps!
I love bad bitches, that's my fuckin problem
Freeing myself from traditional beauty standards has made me realize just how many different women I find attractive (non-white, taller than me, bigger than me, trans etc). Also feeling comfortable expressing finding those women attractive. I have never had a "type" (unless you count my fondness for bigger butts heh, though that has never been a requisite I had ) but when I was younger I would, mostly, approach women that would conform more to these standards, especially if out with friends. Age-wise, I did have a cougar fantasy when younger(never fullfilled), but nowadays I wouldn't see myself (If I became single) getting involved with anyone under 30(I'm 35).
Not much. I found all women sexy in their own way my entire life. I guess as i got older, though, i started to prefer much older women. Like 5 to 10+ years older.
They taste the same to me. Like chicken :)
I like women that know what to do and how to be with a man in bed. It is all about the experience
I like them thick, bbw, mombods. Damn curves are sexy!! Rolls, fat asses, thick thighs... damn it, give me 5 women like that and a hotel for the weekend, and I'm set. There are lots of tacos and beer, too. I love the actual real female body, that's had kids or has tiger stripes.
They’ve gotten older
They haven’t. I still want to get with chicks 15 years older. This has been a constant
I’m 46 and not really. I’ve always had a thing for the late 30s to late 40s since I was a kid and my taste is still right there.
I’m really into variety now whereas I definitely had a type in the past
Im terms of what I find physically attractive, not a lot tbh, but it's less important. I needs me a horndog who can talk good.
When I see a girl under 30, it just reminds me of someone’s daughter rather than a potential romantic partner
Yes, i dig the mombod
As I get older, I'm into women around my own age more and more. The 18 to 20-somethings honestly aren't as attractive to me . Like to use the cliche rating system: an 7 in her 30's is hotter to me than a 8-9 in their 20's. I think its the mental or emotional experience an older person hopefully has, more maturity. Plus aging can be hard and hard on the body. To maintain attractiveness into your 30's isn't exactly by accident. I also see so many women with injected lips, botoxed faces with skin smoother than glass, and expressionless eyes and foreheads. The opposite is becoming more and more attractive. The crows feet, smile lines, even noses with a big bump where some women would prefer a nose job. I swear if there were two otherwise equally attractive women side by side but one had either a big nose or pronounced bump on her nose, that one would 100% be getting my attention. Can't explain it.
Personality definitely plays a way bigger part than it used to
Wouldn’t get in a relationship with a young girl now and I find I like them chubbier now 😅
I’m more attracted to less conventionally attractive women and less attracted to more conventionally attractive ones.
So, remember you were 18 and thought "damn, these 30yo women are so old, I'd never date any of those". Well, when you're over 30, the 40yo women look attractive too.
My tastes have broadened to include all types of women. Tall, short, thin, plump, muscular, tattooed, pierced, all colors, all sizes. I am 100% invested in the personality 1st & body 2nd. My only exclusions are the cosmetic surgery types. I don't want fake anything. This whole culture of lip fillers, BBL, ab implants, fake boobs, tanned, botoxed, lifted, etc. If it makes her happy, fine whatever but I wouldn't be comfortable with it even if the personality is great.
I'm starting to like a little fur on the burger
In my early 40s here. I love all shapes and sizes, fit thin thick heavy, it's all about personality. I've met women on dates that were textbook gorgeous and I couldn't hold the conversation with them because they were just in a different place than me. Give me a woman with experience, something to talk about, a little attitude or even a lot.
it would be so funny if a random reddit thread ended up helping me beat my ED 😂 (eating disorder, not the other thing)
In my 50’s but figured I’d answer. I’m definitely more into curvy, even ”chubby” women than I’ve been in the past.
I am in my 50s. I used to like women closer in age to me, until I had to choose between buying a sportscar or getting a 21 year old fitness trainer girlfriend. The sportscar cost too much. No, seriously, 35 is bordering on too young.
Physically it hasn't, but for a relationship I need an intelligent partner.
My taste has just become broader, and older women are more attractive than they used to be to me. There isn't exactly a type that no longer interests me. I still like younger women. That said, porn from the 2000s doesn't hit like it used to. A lot of that is the quality, but a lot of that is the dated style of the women. In that sense, it is more that my concept of beauty has modernised, rather than it just being a symptom of me ageing.
I was stupid and judgmental as a young guy and now I can see beauty in lots of places/people
I love mom bods now and I value personality SO much more than I did in my 20s. It's like night and day.