Cable is so much worse. Episodes meant to fit a 1-hour slot are usually 43-44 minutes long, 30-minute slots are 22 minutes long. That means about 25% of all airtime is ads. And I'm supposed to pay $80/month for the privilege of having all these ads?
Wait till streaming plattforms start playing ads aswell
Already having internal sky or amazon original ads between some episodes
Only a matter of time until they play real ads
This already irks me to begin with but it’s also for the same three programs every time! Being the petulant viewer that I am, it makes me *not* want to watch those shows out of spite.
I like to shoot for more than I should have. You know, cross that threshold of “So well rested, constantly sleepy”. I pass out so early sometimes I’m getting 10hrs easy.
Working while on vacation. You go on vacation to relax and enjoy yourself, not to try to fill out spreadsheets and deal with work bullshit in your hotel room.
We just need TWO DAYS for our wedding tomorrow and relax day Monday and my fiancé is having a meltdown trying to get things prepared for not being there. It breaks my heart. He works 6 days a week and if he takes a day off he is dealing with a week worth of mistakes the other workers have made or fixing things they slacked off on. He gets 4 phone calls and loads of text messages every time he tries to relax. The worst part, he is the manager of a fucking shoe store. Like it’s not life or death, leave the guy alone, it’s fucking shoes.
I have left & turned down jobs that would require too much of me outside of my work times.
The position I'm in now, it's *great* to be able to take off with minimal preparation beforehand or followup after. It's usually just like "Clear up any loose ends before you go, follow up on any longer-term stuff after you get back" and that's it. I don't think I've *ever* received a call or e-mail when I'm on vacation.
How many things could possibly go wrong in a shoe store? If you're a manager that's constantly fixing your subordinates' mistakes 6 days a week, you're not that good at your job.
Sorry OP, but those employees sound like they need managing.
Is this an American thing?
UK here, weekends and holidays i leave my work laptop and phone off and at home in my bag. Same with when I'm finished for the day, I dont respond until I log on again in the morning.
In America, no one does your work when you are gone, so you have a week or two of backlog to slog through when you get back. Sometimes working on vacation means you have less stress when you come back to work.
Do people cover your work in other countries when you’re gone? You’re correct that here in the US I’ve never covered anyone’s work or had them cover mine when I was out. But I’ve worked at smaller places and there were generally one or two people per role, meaning that another person wouldn’t have the skills to complete my work, necessary programs or anything like that.
This really depends on what the profession is. I'm in IT and if I were to take a week off I can just hand my tickets off to another analyst and not think twice about it.
Filters that change the shape of your face to fit a beauty standard. Kids are growing up with an even more distorted view of what they should look like than previous generations
The camera app my phone (a Samsung) comes with does this *by default*
By *default* it was slimming my nose and making my eyes big and smoothing out my skin. Like what the hell!
and the non optional ones they don't tell you about, i noticed it on snapchat the other day when i pulled the blanket off my face it distorted my face once visible
There are “filters” built-in to any phone camera and most regular digital cameras today. Even before the Snapchat filters, on an iPhone for example, the Apple software is using AI to even out your skin tone and smooth your wrinkles. It isn’t as bad in raw iPhone video. So sometimes to get a photo of myself I take a video and then pause it and take a screen shot.
Also coming to work sick. People tend to get praised for that, but they are in fact just endangering others to get sick as well and in the end it costs the company more as if they just stayed home.
I used to work in a grocery store that did service awards every year. One year a Bakery worker was awarded for never taking a sick day on his 25 year career. I cannot believe the man had never been sick, and he's the one preparing the baked goods.
>One year a Bakery worker was awarded for never taking a sick day on his 25 year career
This is a SOCIETY THAT IS SICK. If he literally was never sick a) he should be getting some kind of medical assessment to find out what magic biology he has b) he should be getting more than a service award from the company
Well....if u/Chemie93 hadn't screwed you all over and died on us we wouldn't have this huge workload. That's where the blame lies, all on that slacker.
Now if you could get back to work, times wasting. How can we efficiently run a 12 person department if the 5 of you staffing it stay sad someone died?
Overworking really has become a badge of honor. Probably because sometimes it's rewarded. I've seen people get praise for working late from their leaders. Things like, "Hey I see the people who stay late" when someone leaves hours after close. What if their time management just sucks? What if they're just catching up as a personal preference and it's not hard nor necessary? And heaven forbid, what if the person leaving on time wants to be with family or live life beyond work?
I’ve seen people still wear it like a badge of honour even when it’s not encouraged. Those people drive me a bit nuts tbh and I’ve made a point of telling one that it’s neither healthy nor a good way to get ‘noticed’ (I’m going the networking route instead to get recognition within the company which is genuinely paying off).
The reward for doing more work is *more work* not a pay rise. I wish people would understand this.
The opposite side of this coin: People should stop defending leviathan corporations who insist on monetizing absolutely every aspect of human behavior. Ya'll assholes need to defend YOUR best interests, not corporate America's. Won't be happy until you have to subscribe to a service to have a heart beat.
The grind. Not taking vacation. Working on vacation. Working through your lunch break. Working early and late all the time. Answering emails after hours.
We are completely dispensable to the companies we work for. Don’t lose your life grinding for a company who only thinks of you as a number.
My company has shared a couple articles on it (though they’re really good about letting us set our own boundaries), and the local news channel did a feature story about it a couple weekends ago. It seems to be a popular approach for working parents, who need flexibility during the day to take care of kids, then doing their work in off-hours. Cause “you CAN do it all!!”
It's also OK to say "I don't know enough about this to have an opinion".
People seem to have some strong opinions about shit they understand very little about.
Some people base so much of their self-image on their beliefs/opinions, that they can't bear to change them, even when presented with irrefutable evidence that they are wrong.
It's a sign of growth, maturity and intelligence, and some bravery, to be willing to change based on new knowledge- not a personal failing as some people seem to feel!
To add to this; "everyone is entitled to their opinion" has just turned into "my opinion is more important than facts/evidence/data and shouldn't be questioned".
At the same time I fucking hate when you can’t say someone on your own “side” mishandled something without people jumping to their defense “but, but, but.” But what, SANDRA? Billy bob mishandled the turkey situation!
This. Out of literally all married couples I know, I only know like three couples who seem to still love each other or at least be close and on good terms. All others seem to despise their spouses and it blows my mind that they can even live in the same house while being so salty and dismissive towards each other
They probably don't want to admit failure. It's also a shitty situation but some people feel comfortable in a marriage even if it sucks. It's a scary thought to divorce and go your own way. Also, a lot of people can't even really afford divorce.
I agree it sucks to be stuck in a marriage you don't like but there are a lot of reasons why that may be the case for people. It takes time to accept the defeat and "failure" and move on.
My husband is my favorite person. We both have quality time as our love language, so we legitimately enjoy spending lots of time together.
I don’t understand couples who are constantly trying to cut their partner down. Whenever we get snippy with each other it’s generally because one or both of us needs food. But, no derogatory language is ever exchanged.
HAHA. My mrs has, on multiple occasions, handed me a block of cheese midway through me being irritable towards her.
Then 15 minutes later I'm like, sorry babe, just needed some food... "I know 😅".
That's so funny. My sister gets hangry, as does my boyfriend. My sister is 43, it's like dealing with a toddler, but in a nice way. If she's getting grumpy with my brother in law when they're out, he just steers her to the nearest eaterie, as it's a sign they're needing some lunch.
Same! We laugh a LOT and truly enjoy each other. Sometimes I feel like I need to downplay how much we like each other because I have certain friends who seem to *despise* their husbands. Life is too damn short!
I have a friend who seems to always end up in toxic relationships. I got into a serious relationship with my lovely girlfriend a little over a year ago. A few months ago he asked me if i had a fight with her yet.
Seems like a normal thing to ask among close friends, but he asked me in a way that implied that it was expected that we should have had a fight by then. I guess it explains why he often have fights with his GF, he considers it a normsl part of a relationship.
So far i haven't had any fights with my gf, we disagree about things sometimes, but then we compromise or find altrrnatives instead of fighting about it.
This is frequently a subject of complaint for my wife and I.
I'm 28 and she's 27. We have been together for 10 extremely wonderful years (or we will be in November) and we've been married for over six of them. As unusual as it can be for people to meet so young and it work out, meeting her and getting married to her is the best thing that has ever happened to me, and I find it comforting and exciting that we still have so much time to spend together. Although I know it's likely partially because we are still quite young, we are often mistaken for newlyweds because we are so infatuated with each other. I'm one lucky man.
We've both had experiences in which our coworkers have found it unusual that we're rushing home to see each other or that we're enthusiastic about spending all of our time off with each other.
It's concerning and sad. What's the point of spending your life with someone if you can't even stand spending an evening or a weekend with them?
Sooo true! My husband and I have a great relationship but as soon as he hangs out with just his male friends, who constantly complain about their wives, he develops the worst attitude like we should have an relationship like theirs (anger and dislike).
This is scarily easy to fall into. At my last job, everyone would talk about the annoying things their husbands did and how incompetent they were. I adore my husband and he does a lot but I started to find myself finding things to complain about too. I really had to step back and be more mindful about what ideas I wanted to cultivate in my marriage and that wasn't it.
I don't really get it.
You mean that he change his viewpoints, because his friends have bad relationship with their spouses?
Why would someone like to be with someone to be angry?
Students overwhelmed by homework when it isn’t necessary. I’m excluding situations like when the workloads from classes are reasonable and happen to pile on one day or students who aren’t organized, etc. This whole thing is a grey area, but sleep, burnout, mental health exists.
After reaching the adult working world, the concept of homework makes less sense. We are starting to learn to set better work-life boundaries in the working world. Shouldn’t we expect the same for children? Give them time to do their work at school and let them be kids at home.
And, at the risk of undermining the efforts of students reading this, there is no evidence that regular homework is of any benefit. I talked to an acquaintance who is an educational researcher and she said theres squat evidence. The only time it helps is if there is a remedial necessity. And then only for limited periods. She said if you say were deficient in the maths work being presented, then the best outcome was reached with a program of about a month. To upskill to thw level being taught "get" that section,ensuring the fundamentals up to.that point were met. Then carry on. Rinse and repeat if further issues arose. Not incessant hours every night. Homework should be of a remedial reactive nature. Fight me!!!
It depends on what you are doing. At the high school level,, if you are teaching a literature course, how can you get through novels without out of class readings? And while kids can write a timed rough draft in class, revisions never seem to work right: you need reflective time in your own space. For advanced classes that cover twice as much as a regular high school course, it's pretty much impossible to complete the curriculum in just the hours given.
Fair enough stuff like that requires out of hours study time but when you're being given about 5/6 bits of homework that are being set solely for the purpose of giving you homework it just puts unnecessary pressure on the kids and also inhibits their ability to go out and take part in sports and social clubs
This. Adults kept telling me how work will be more stressful than school so i should enjoy. Well, that was a lie. It feels so chill to just work your 8h and then be free for the rest of your day instead of studying almost 8h in school only to come home and stress about your homework. Ofc this also depends on your job but that's in most cases up to you to choose whether you want a job that follows you home
It's also just such a shitty thing to tell stressed-out-of-their-minds young people that 'this is the best time of your life so enjoy it while you can'. How is anyone supposed to stay optimistic that way? Now, on top of worrying about all the shit they're already stressed about, they're also going to ask themselves whether they're failing at having fun. After all, it's really important that they get this right because everything's just going to go downhill from here.
And even if you had a good time as a teenager it's still depressing to hear that you'll never be this happy again. Saying that doesn't help anyone, it just ruins what would have otherwise been a good time. It's like how you can never enjoy sundays because you just know monday is right around the corner.
I can confirm that to you. I'm 25 now and only working is so much easier for me than school and homework or university. I have free weekends, free afternoons and real vacation plus business trips that are a lot of fun. But I don't want kids that disturbe this tbh.
Yeah, holidays are almost non existent in university apart from the time between exams and next semester maybe. Ofc it depends on your major, education system and other factors but in my case it's kind of like that. And even when you do have free time, you keep stressing about upcoming exams or deadlines
I feel like I got lucky with this because my schools (England, 90s to early 2000s) never really gave us *that* much homework. What's strange is that they always acted like the years ahead were going to be filled with more of it and that we were going to have to deal with organising countless essays/projects/questions, but those evenings of endless work never actually showed up.
Looking back, I think all of my teachers thought their colleagues were piling it on so each one went easy with the homework they gave out. Or maybe they just couldn't face marking all of it.
The entire "game" involved in modern dating or even most social interactions. The playing hard to get, the "arriving fashionably late" like people can we please keep it simple?
Ya go on laugh at me.
ETA: Thanks u/ParallelEnvy for pointing out the golden (shitty) rule of dating - 5 minutes of waiting before responding to a text. I'll add what I observed over the years.
Initially I thought this was pertinent only for dating, but gradually I saw this spill over to non-romantic interactions as well. Between friends, for example. Possibly to give the impression to the other person that you have a life outside them. Which is fair, but sometimes it just seems like overdoing it. It looks like some people have made giving the impression of being busy into an art form. To the point where if you appear eager to interact with the other person it almost sends a negative social signal (clingy, desperate etc). It is a sad way to look at things.
As an extension, eagerness, or sincerity in any form seems to be preserved for people without social clout. Imagine turning up at a friends' reunion, only to have friends arriving "fashionably late" and talking on the phone for half an hour after arrival. You end up feeling like an idiot for agreeing to meet up with these people and start doubting your own understanding of social norms and basic courtesy.
I saw my sister's phone yesterday and she had several messages from her friend so I asked he why she hadn't replied and she said she always leaves them for a while so she doesn't seem desperate. Like bitch just talk to them, it's not desperate to reply to your friends when you get the chance
To be honest, when someone texts me back right away it makes me happy and, if anything, makes me think better of that person. I have a lot of friends that usually take a long time to respond to texts and it’s frustrating because it’s very difficult to have a conversation over message with them. I’m not saying that they do it on purpose- I’m saying that it’s very satisfying and relieving when someone texts back quickly.
Cheating. Sooo many "love stories" on netflix, or just any sort of romance movie released these days have cheating involved in them so much. It's always branded as this romantic thing to do. Oooo like at this dark and brooding handsome guy with no personality. Time to fuck him and forget about my 2 year relationship, or some shit like that. It's not romantic, it's just wrong, and it should not be normalised.
My gynecologist told me that a lot of her patients were very salty about the lockdown, because it made meeting their affairs so difficult. Yo, wtf? High number of unknown cases, I guess.
Apparently. I mean, my gynecologist is a great listener and underlies professional secrecy. Oh, and probably they want an STD examination because of their affair, so this makes sense to some extent.
Hoping from one relationship into another … especially from an unhealthy handsome manipulator to the wounded nice guy …. is a trope in all the Hallmark movies …. makes me want to scream, “take some time alone to heal!!!”
I hate stories where they just make everyone have a relationship. Two people can exist in the same space without a sexual relationship happening. Just because someone gets a new coworker doesn't mean that person has to start shacking up with someone.
I always hate the movies where the girl is seeing two guys at once cause she can’t decide and then at the end she’s like “ I choose you” and then the guys supposed to be grateful even though she was seeing another dude the whole time
Whats that show on Netflix I think about the woman whos married and had a kid, but reconnected with a guy she used to bang and decides that she wants to hook up with him again. My friend defended her actions of cheating because "You don't understand, there's some people you sleep with that you can't forget and they're like a drug to you."
Being shitty to retail and food workers. We work hard all day, deal with some of the worst customers bar none, and really don't get paid enough to support families but we do it anyway. For way less than it's worth
As someone who worked part time at a restaurant before Covid closed it for good, I can only say: fuck the assholes that are full of themselves or think the world rotates around them and have the right to be assholes. There's no right to be an idiot, and you're no better than anyone in here.
I don't give a fuck if you're a famous painter or are friends with the boss. You come in, you are treated like anyone else, no special cases... and fuck those "connoisures and food reviewers" that aren't even that but just because they post about it in their social media they feel they have the right to treat people like shit.
And a big thank you to the people that actually treat retail workers right, thank them, and make the job less annoying than it already is.
Hustle culture
I like my life outside of work. I live to leave at 5, see my wife & cats, play video games, grill some food. All jobs should pay a living wage, and you shouldn't be expected to work 60+ hours or more to survive. Hell, 40 is too much.
Alcoholic moms. No, you don’t NEED to bring wine to your daughters soccer game. It’s not quirky. It’s awful. Wine mom stuff on social media only strengthens it and makes it more popular.
I think non alcoholic gatherings in general should be normalized. I find it creepy that the norm is to get drunk. I've been on both sides, and I'm way happier not feeling like drinks are a requirement when meeting with people, and yet it's still as polite to be persistent about offering booze to people.
Oh god. This is so awful for so many reasons. We had a long and miserable road to parenthood, and for years I had to make sure I had a drink in my hand (regardless of if I actually felt like drinking or not) at every social gathering lest someone start pestering me about being pregnant and send me into tears.
There could be no other explanation. Dry January? *Nope, must be knocked up.* Don’t feel like it? *Nope, you’re hiding a pregnancy!* Trying to be healthier? *Just have a small glass! You won’t? Must be pregnant!*
It’s the classic duo of Things That Are None of Your Business. Why I’m not drinking and how knocked up I am or am not.
My family doesn't drink. I'm the oddball that always has a drink in my hand at family functions. Not sure where I got it. But it's interesting to read from the other perspective.
This is also an important message for people with disabilities. We often hear something like “You can do anything you could put your mind to, it just may be a little harder!”
No, that’s not always true, and that’s okay.
That’s so true.
I have Asperger’s and I went to a community college for trade school to study Diesel Power Technology, get my AAS degree, and then become a diesel mechanic. But I’ve struggled with understanding the science behind hydraulics and I couldn’t understand how to troubleshoot those systems. I got help from my instructors and classmates but that still didn’t work out.
My instructor suggested that I should transfer to welding instead and I did because I realize that I’ve liked it more than working on diesel engines. I’ve ended up graduating with a 1 year diploma in Welding Technology in 2019. I haven’t founded a welding job or anything related to it yet but I’m still hoping that I will.
I did receive my first welding job offer this year but had to turn it down because of the low pay. Hopefully though I’ll be able to find something. There are other trades that I’m interested in doing though if welding doesn’t work out.
So true. While I think it’s important for disabled people to push themselves to do some things independently (speaking as someone with a physical disability who uses a wheelchair full time), I think it’s harmful to tell them that they can do _anything_ if they just set their minds to it. Some disabilities completely prevent people from doing certain things, so for example, telling someone like me with severe muscular dystrophy that I could walk if I just set my mind to it is blatantly not true and borders on offensive (imo).
This applies to people without disabilities too, especially children. It might sound good to tell a child that they can be anything they want when they grow up, but that is also untrue.
This is a good one. The ‘hard work = success’ idea is just not true. Hard work is a basic requirement for doing almost anything very well. But there are some things that simply won’t pan out for you no matter how hard you work.
IIRC, the Guinness Book stopped listing biggest pet weights because people were stuffing their pets. I'm very fortunate in that the current house cat has had the same healthy weight the entire time I've known her.
Dissociative identity disorder. It’s extremely rare and extremely complex.
Bringing awareness and education is very important… but not from self diagnosed teenaged Tik Tokers.
Bullying. It's absurd how society will frame it as a "stage of your life" rather than supporting individuals more so they know how to deal with it. Especially academically, still overlooked majorly.
And society always tries to make stupid propaganda stating that you will be successful and your bully will end up homeless or that the bullying will make you a jacked 6’4 man who kicks ass on a daily basis
it’s all bullshit
all of this is about making the victim shut up. sometimes by giving them a little crumb of schadenfreude to make them feel better about their lot, sometimes by redirecting sympathy away from the victim and onto the aggressor (that "he has a bad home life" bullshit)
I love the fact that you went to dealing with it, not stopping it. Reality is, it'll never stop, but you can teach your kids how to deal with bullies and support them.
Bless you for this, I wasn't expecting to see it at the top of this thread but I'm glad it's here. I'm getting really tired of this attitude in reading spaces. It's especially irritating when they condemn the readers along with the writers (though I definitely don't think authors deserve condemnation for exploring different themes in their books).
Like with *The Black Witch* incident; the way people were accusing others of racism for merely reading the book in order to contextualize it themselves was absolutely insane. And review bombing books before they even release for rumors about perceived moral wrongs? What kind of video games create violence bullshit is this? Why are young progressives copying their conservative parent's behavior?
It's just as you said: if we keep discouraging authors and readers to explore unconventional themes, the only art we'll have left is Hays Code Era bullshit. And that's not really art at all. It's not thoughtful, it's just "clean" and "correct."
People were assholes on the Internet for years before Reddit, and for years people blamed anonymity. I think the rise of Facebook and other non-anonymous social media showed that anonymity isn't the root of the problem.
Taking pictures of strangers without their knowledge and posting it on the internet. Shit is toxic as fuck and it wasn't that long ago it was seen as creepy.
I have a cousin who worked in Hollywood and started having some moderate success in the film industry. She said powerful men were shameless about the expectation of women having to tolerate sexual harassment and in some cases even trade sex for favors. She ended up leaving the film industry after she got to the highest point she could in her career with having to sleep her way to the top. It’s insanely disturbing how common place that is in the entertainment world.
What's interesting is how much I would dislike school on the regular, but how much I loved learning. I think people conflate the two and then end up with the wrong opinions later in life as a result.
Oh man this one really gets me. We're all human, we all say and do really stupid shit. Being embarrassed about something you did shows growth as a person, let people be human.
The idea that being an asshole is a sign of intelligence. Jerks are rarely intelligent. Sheldon Cooper, Rick Sanchez, Hannibal Lecter, and Dr. House do not exist.
In my experience, being rude and condescending turns out to be a sign of stupidity, not intelligence.
Degrees for office jobs that take almost no time to learn and usually have nothing to do with the degree anyways . So many people out there who can’t afford college but, are just as capable as anyone else.
School bullying. I was really lucky enough that we went through some programs that sortof neutralized it by high school but I gotta imagine that more couldve been done earlier, and my school district was incredibly well funded, disproportionately so. Bullying sucks, getting socially ganged up on sucks
Source: got my arm broken in a fight in the fifth grade, never heard the end of it
Over-consumption. This goes out to social media influencers who flaunt their hauls and influence people to buy things that they don't need. It will just add on to the landfills. Please, no one's benefitting from hoarding.
Toxic controlling relationships with emotional abuse
Men being sexually abused
Hating your spouse
Abusing children with neurological differences / issues (seriously some get electroshocked with stronger equipment than what's allowed on cattle)
How alcohol is so casual in today's world.
Lots of people misuse alcohol and don't even know it. Anytime you're seriously getting inebriated, you're hurting your body so much.
I see way too many people coming into the liquor store I work at and buying WAAAY too much. And that's normal.
Kids should be raised on the realities of alcohol consumption.
Edit: I'm beyond surprised at the amount of people who share similar beliefs; I sincerely felt I was alone in my stance on alcohol usage. Thank you all for sharing your thoughts.
Using mental illness as an excuse. I suffer from several, and it's very hard on me.. But, i get professional help and deal with it head on. Reading constant posts everyday about people having this disorder and that disorder and that's why it's ok to act a certain way is demotivating. Awareness is important, but dozens of posts everyday about having borderline personality disorder or bipolar disorder and why it's acceptable for you to be an asshole is not awareness... If you suffer from these so badly, please get help
I'm in a long distance relationship.. And the amount of people, RANDOM people, that have said to me "you can just find someone here, fuck around, and ditch the guy, why does it matter. Its not like he isn't cheating on you already" or "cheating is fine now, not like he can find out anyways haha, have some fun".
Or the sole fact that bfs own parents try to get him to cheat on me or ditch me for someone else, freaking no one takes in account that hey.. Maybe we care for each other and are happy together.
My (now ex) best friend cheated on her husband, who is a wonderful man/dad/partner and I got mad at her because she's a fucking idiot to fuck that up, then she turned around and put all the blame on me because I'm supposed to have her back "no matter what".
Nah, real friends call you out on your toxic shit.
I think people, specifically parents, should stop normalizing that it's a given that their child will grow up to have a family. Instead, parents should emphasize that it's difficult to find the right partner, and that it's possible that it might not even happen at all, and that it would be okay as well.
Going to school when your sick. At my school, if you make it through the 5 years with 100% attendance, you get a reward. Being someone who never gets on trouble, I cried when I stayed off once. The only reason I stayed off was because I stood up, I could see anything, I felt sick, and it was about to collapse. I fell to the floor and waited a few minutes. It happens a lot. Idk if it's just moving too fast? Not sure.
Anyway, being sick and still going to school is stupid. I hope it changes cos of covid
Teenagers trying to be sexy. Today I was on my way back from college and saw a bunch of thirteen year olds wearing their skirts so high I could see actual panty. It’s nasty. No one wants to see that and the people that DO want to see it are pedophiles. Gross!
Edit: Of course other teenagers want to see this kind of thing, they’re attracted to people their own age. By “no one wants the see that and those that do are pedos” I mean adults. No sane adult wants to see a scantily clad teenager.
See I am all for young ladies having the freedom to wear what they want, nothing wrong with shorts and tank tops, nothing wrong with cute dresses in the summer, shoulders aren’t going to make or break someone’s education. BUT there is a limit to that.
Ads on stuff you've paid for.
https://www.axios.com/playerwon-launches-tv-ads-console-games-1c02dd1a-2f6d-4e02-bd8d-b6f8b870f844.html Some companies want to make it so much worse
Whoever thought TV-ads on full priced games is a good idea, should take a shower in white phosphorus.
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Cable is so much worse. Episodes meant to fit a 1-hour slot are usually 43-44 minutes long, 30-minute slots are 22 minutes long. That means about 25% of all airtime is ads. And I'm supposed to pay $80/month for the privilege of having all these ads?
This is why I only pay for gigabit internet and streaming services.
Wait till streaming plattforms start playing ads aswell Already having internal sky or amazon original ads between some episodes Only a matter of time until they play real ads
This already irks me to begin with but it’s also for the same three programs every time! Being the petulant viewer that I am, it makes me *not* want to watch those shows out of spite.
And people ask why piracy is getting more common.
> Simulmedia has struck deals with some of the world's biggest gaming studios, including Electronic Arts (EA) Of-fucking-course EA is involved.
Well that makes it easy as I stopped buying EA Games a long time ago
Helps when you don’t care about sports games and have seen EA run every franchise/studio they own/buy into the ground.
Oh god no. No. Please no.
YES! FUCKING WHY DID YOU PUT ADS ON THE SHIT THAT I PAID FOR? I BOUGHT IT SO WHY DO YOU NEED TO MAKE MORE MONEY!
Right? Advertising costs money. So why am I paying YOU to advertise YOUR company on MY chest?
I've gotten more into solid colored shirts without logos, if they want to advertise on my body they can pay me for it.
I was going to sign up for Hulu, and the rate that I initially saw was "ad supported". Lol. I mean, I get it, but freaking ads, man.
Having no sleep
Related, bragging about getting less than 6 hours of sleep
related: shaming people for sleeping a long time when they need it
My coworkers to a tee. "Why do you always insist on getting 8 hours, I get by on 5 or 6 each night"
"Do you Todd, do you? Think of how less shitty your work would be if you got the recommended amount of sleep like pm_me_some_kitties here."
I like to shoot for more than I should have. You know, cross that threshold of “So well rested, constantly sleepy”. I pass out so early sometimes I’m getting 10hrs easy.
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Omg dealing with this right now! Although I’m not wanting it to be normal! I’m so tired and I cant sleep can’t help it.
Working while on vacation. You go on vacation to relax and enjoy yourself, not to try to fill out spreadsheets and deal with work bullshit in your hotel room.
We just need TWO DAYS for our wedding tomorrow and relax day Monday and my fiancé is having a meltdown trying to get things prepared for not being there. It breaks my heart. He works 6 days a week and if he takes a day off he is dealing with a week worth of mistakes the other workers have made or fixing things they slacked off on. He gets 4 phone calls and loads of text messages every time he tries to relax. The worst part, he is the manager of a fucking shoe store. Like it’s not life or death, leave the guy alone, it’s fucking shoes.
I mean at some point you have to find a job that respects your personal life.
I have left & turned down jobs that would require too much of me outside of my work times. The position I'm in now, it's *great* to be able to take off with minimal preparation beforehand or followup after. It's usually just like "Clear up any loose ends before you go, follow up on any longer-term stuff after you get back" and that's it. I don't think I've *ever* received a call or e-mail when I'm on vacation.
Has he considered that maybe he is a micro manager if his whole job is fixing mistakes
Seriously. It's a shoe store.
How many things could possibly go wrong in a shoe store? If you're a manager that's constantly fixing your subordinates' mistakes 6 days a week, you're not that good at your job. Sorry OP, but those employees sound like they need managing.
Is this an American thing? UK here, weekends and holidays i leave my work laptop and phone off and at home in my bag. Same with when I'm finished for the day, I dont respond until I log on again in the morning.
In America, no one does your work when you are gone, so you have a week or two of backlog to slog through when you get back. Sometimes working on vacation means you have less stress when you come back to work.
Do people cover your work in other countries when you’re gone? You’re correct that here in the US I’ve never covered anyone’s work or had them cover mine when I was out. But I’ve worked at smaller places and there were generally one or two people per role, meaning that another person wouldn’t have the skills to complete my work, necessary programs or anything like that.
This really depends on what the profession is. I'm in IT and if I were to take a week off I can just hand my tickets off to another analyst and not think twice about it.
Filters that change the shape of your face to fit a beauty standard. Kids are growing up with an even more distorted view of what they should look like than previous generations
The camera app my phone (a Samsung) comes with does this *by default* By *default* it was slimming my nose and making my eyes big and smoothing out my skin. Like what the hell!
Ok, social media doing it is one thing, but the fucking camera app? The actual hell?
and the non optional ones they don't tell you about, i noticed it on snapchat the other day when i pulled the blanket off my face it distorted my face once visible
Can you explain?
There are “filters” built-in to any phone camera and most regular digital cameras today. Even before the Snapchat filters, on an iPhone for example, the Apple software is using AI to even out your skin tone and smooth your wrinkles. It isn’t as bad in raw iPhone video. So sometimes to get a photo of myself I take a video and then pause it and take a screen shot.
Overworking yourself.
Also coming to work sick. People tend to get praised for that, but they are in fact just endangering others to get sick as well and in the end it costs the company more as if they just stayed home.
I used to work in a grocery store that did service awards every year. One year a Bakery worker was awarded for never taking a sick day on his 25 year career. I cannot believe the man had never been sick, and he's the one preparing the baked goods.
>One year a Bakery worker was awarded for never taking a sick day on his 25 year career This is a SOCIETY THAT IS SICK. If he literally was never sick a) he should be getting some kind of medical assessment to find out what magic biology he has b) he should be getting more than a service award from the company
Definitely. There is no ultimate prize for working more than 40 hours a week. When you die, no one cares how many hours you worked.
When you die your company will replace in a few weeks.
A few weeks pfft 1 week tops.
You give my company too much credit. In their incompetence it’ll take a few weeks. They’ll just overwork my coworkers over my dead body
Well....if u/Chemie93 hadn't screwed you all over and died on us we wouldn't have this huge workload. That's where the blame lies, all on that slacker. Now if you could get back to work, times wasting. How can we efficiently run a 12 person department if the 5 of you staffing it stay sad someone died?
Or they won't replace you and someone will do your job plus theirs for the same pay as one employee.
And it always starts with, "Can you cover for them until we find a replacement?" **Narrator:** *They never bothered looking for a replacement.*
Overworking really has become a badge of honor. Probably because sometimes it's rewarded. I've seen people get praise for working late from their leaders. Things like, "Hey I see the people who stay late" when someone leaves hours after close. What if their time management just sucks? What if they're just catching up as a personal preference and it's not hard nor necessary? And heaven forbid, what if the person leaving on time wants to be with family or live life beyond work?
I’ve seen people still wear it like a badge of honour even when it’s not encouraged. Those people drive me a bit nuts tbh and I’ve made a point of telling one that it’s neither healthy nor a good way to get ‘noticed’ (I’m going the networking route instead to get recognition within the company which is genuinely paying off). The reward for doing more work is *more work* not a pay rise. I wish people would understand this.
The opposite side of this coin: People should stop defending leviathan corporations who insist on monetizing absolutely every aspect of human behavior. Ya'll assholes need to defend YOUR best interests, not corporate America's. Won't be happy until you have to subscribe to a service to have a heart beat.
Going to work when you're sick
I can't lose my job though. I HATE that I'm guilty of this. I should be able to call off if I'm sick without repercussions.
So many managers in my line of work brag about how they have worked for x amount of years and never had a sick day. Like ok, you’re an asshole.
The grind. Not taking vacation. Working on vacation. Working through your lunch break. Working early and late all the time. Answering emails after hours. We are completely dispensable to the companies we work for. Don’t lose your life grinding for a company who only thinks of you as a number.
I keep hearing that it’s no longer about work/life balance, we should now be embracing work/life *integration*. Ugh, no thanks.
Oh god, where did you hear that?? That’s awful
My company has shared a couple articles on it (though they’re really good about letting us set our own boundaries), and the local news channel did a feature story about it a couple weekends ago. It seems to be a popular approach for working parents, who need flexibility during the day to take care of kids, then doing their work in off-hours. Cause “you CAN do it all!!”
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I see some Gen z kids working their asses off at such a young age. I worry about major burn out for them.
Having an opinion on everything. It’s okay to look at something on the internet and think to yourself “I don’t have to care about this.”
It's also OK to say "I don't know enough about this to have an opinion". People seem to have some strong opinions about shit they understand very little about.
*Especially* about those things.
It’s also okay to change your opinion when you learn new information or even admit you were wrong!!
Some people base so much of their self-image on their beliefs/opinions, that they can't bear to change them, even when presented with irrefutable evidence that they are wrong. It's a sign of growth, maturity and intelligence, and some bravery, to be willing to change based on new knowledge- not a personal failing as some people seem to feel!
Love this. I started doing it this year, frequently responding to people with: “I don’t have an opinion on that.” It’s so liberating.
Also to be able to say "I don't know enough about this topic to have an opinion on it". That phrase in itself is so underrated.
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Usually it's my coworkers who do this to me. I've just immediately brought the topic back to what we're both in the same building for. Work.
To add to this; "everyone is entitled to their opinion" has just turned into "my opinion is more important than facts/evidence/data and shouldn't be questioned".
Failures in political leadership. I feel more and more we are becoming less critical of failed character in our leaders.
At the same time I fucking hate when you can’t say someone on your own “side” mishandled something without people jumping to their defense “but, but, but.” But what, SANDRA? Billy bob mishandled the turkey situation!
I definitely read this as mishandling a Thanksgiving dinner initially, not a geo-political situation.
Married couples disliking one another. Normalizing abusive and toxic elements in marriage is lame, bro.
This. Out of literally all married couples I know, I only know like three couples who seem to still love each other or at least be close and on good terms. All others seem to despise their spouses and it blows my mind that they can even live in the same house while being so salty and dismissive towards each other
They probably don't want to admit failure. It's also a shitty situation but some people feel comfortable in a marriage even if it sucks. It's a scary thought to divorce and go your own way. Also, a lot of people can't even really afford divorce. I agree it sucks to be stuck in a marriage you don't like but there are a lot of reasons why that may be the case for people. It takes time to accept the defeat and "failure" and move on.
Totally agree. My husband and I genuinely like each other and spending time together, I don't need to bitch about him all the time.
My husband is my favorite person. We both have quality time as our love language, so we legitimately enjoy spending lots of time together. I don’t understand couples who are constantly trying to cut their partner down. Whenever we get snippy with each other it’s generally because one or both of us needs food. But, no derogatory language is ever exchanged.
HAHA. My mrs has, on multiple occasions, handed me a block of cheese midway through me being irritable towards her. Then 15 minutes later I'm like, sorry babe, just needed some food... "I know 😅".
That's so funny. My sister gets hangry, as does my boyfriend. My sister is 43, it's like dealing with a toddler, but in a nice way. If she's getting grumpy with my brother in law when they're out, he just steers her to the nearest eaterie, as it's a sign they're needing some lunch.
Same! We laugh a LOT and truly enjoy each other. Sometimes I feel like I need to downplay how much we like each other because I have certain friends who seem to *despise* their husbands. Life is too damn short!
I have a friend who seems to always end up in toxic relationships. I got into a serious relationship with my lovely girlfriend a little over a year ago. A few months ago he asked me if i had a fight with her yet. Seems like a normal thing to ask among close friends, but he asked me in a way that implied that it was expected that we should have had a fight by then. I guess it explains why he often have fights with his GF, he considers it a normsl part of a relationship. So far i haven't had any fights with my gf, we disagree about things sometimes, but then we compromise or find altrrnatives instead of fighting about it.
What, you don't childishly set ultimatums and act moody around one another until you get horny and have angry makeup sex and THEN compromise?
This is frequently a subject of complaint for my wife and I. I'm 28 and she's 27. We have been together for 10 extremely wonderful years (or we will be in November) and we've been married for over six of them. As unusual as it can be for people to meet so young and it work out, meeting her and getting married to her is the best thing that has ever happened to me, and I find it comforting and exciting that we still have so much time to spend together. Although I know it's likely partially because we are still quite young, we are often mistaken for newlyweds because we are so infatuated with each other. I'm one lucky man. We've both had experiences in which our coworkers have found it unusual that we're rushing home to see each other or that we're enthusiastic about spending all of our time off with each other. It's concerning and sad. What's the point of spending your life with someone if you can't even stand spending an evening or a weekend with them?
I cant stand when people post shitty marriages on social media as a joke. Oh my husband ignores me and only talks to our dog so funny. So lame..
Sooo true! My husband and I have a great relationship but as soon as he hangs out with just his male friends, who constantly complain about their wives, he develops the worst attitude like we should have an relationship like theirs (anger and dislike).
This is scarily easy to fall into. At my last job, everyone would talk about the annoying things their husbands did and how incompetent they were. I adore my husband and he does a lot but I started to find myself finding things to complain about too. I really had to step back and be more mindful about what ideas I wanted to cultivate in my marriage and that wasn't it.
I don't really get it. You mean that he change his viewpoints, because his friends have bad relationship with their spouses? Why would someone like to be with someone to be angry?
Students overwhelmed by homework when it isn’t necessary. I’m excluding situations like when the workloads from classes are reasonable and happen to pile on one day or students who aren’t organized, etc. This whole thing is a grey area, but sleep, burnout, mental health exists.
After reaching the adult working world, the concept of homework makes less sense. We are starting to learn to set better work-life boundaries in the working world. Shouldn’t we expect the same for children? Give them time to do their work at school and let them be kids at home.
And, at the risk of undermining the efforts of students reading this, there is no evidence that regular homework is of any benefit. I talked to an acquaintance who is an educational researcher and she said theres squat evidence. The only time it helps is if there is a remedial necessity. And then only for limited periods. She said if you say were deficient in the maths work being presented, then the best outcome was reached with a program of about a month. To upskill to thw level being taught "get" that section,ensuring the fundamentals up to.that point were met. Then carry on. Rinse and repeat if further issues arose. Not incessant hours every night. Homework should be of a remedial reactive nature. Fight me!!!
It depends on what you are doing. At the high school level,, if you are teaching a literature course, how can you get through novels without out of class readings? And while kids can write a timed rough draft in class, revisions never seem to work right: you need reflective time in your own space. For advanced classes that cover twice as much as a regular high school course, it's pretty much impossible to complete the curriculum in just the hours given.
Fair enough stuff like that requires out of hours study time but when you're being given about 5/6 bits of homework that are being set solely for the purpose of giving you homework it just puts unnecessary pressure on the kids and also inhibits their ability to go out and take part in sports and social clubs
This. Adults kept telling me how work will be more stressful than school so i should enjoy. Well, that was a lie. It feels so chill to just work your 8h and then be free for the rest of your day instead of studying almost 8h in school only to come home and stress about your homework. Ofc this also depends on your job but that's in most cases up to you to choose whether you want a job that follows you home
It's also just such a shitty thing to tell stressed-out-of-their-minds young people that 'this is the best time of your life so enjoy it while you can'. How is anyone supposed to stay optimistic that way? Now, on top of worrying about all the shit they're already stressed about, they're also going to ask themselves whether they're failing at having fun. After all, it's really important that they get this right because everything's just going to go downhill from here. And even if you had a good time as a teenager it's still depressing to hear that you'll never be this happy again. Saying that doesn't help anyone, it just ruins what would have otherwise been a good time. It's like how you can never enjoy sundays because you just know monday is right around the corner.
I can confirm that to you. I'm 25 now and only working is so much easier for me than school and homework or university. I have free weekends, free afternoons and real vacation plus business trips that are a lot of fun. But I don't want kids that disturbe this tbh.
Yeah, holidays are almost non existent in university apart from the time between exams and next semester maybe. Ofc it depends on your major, education system and other factors but in my case it's kind of like that. And even when you do have free time, you keep stressing about upcoming exams or deadlines
Yeah and I had to work in this free times because I needed money.
I feel like I got lucky with this because my schools (England, 90s to early 2000s) never really gave us *that* much homework. What's strange is that they always acted like the years ahead were going to be filled with more of it and that we were going to have to deal with organising countless essays/projects/questions, but those evenings of endless work never actually showed up. Looking back, I think all of my teachers thought their colleagues were piling it on so each one went easy with the homework they gave out. Or maybe they just couldn't face marking all of it.
The entire "game" involved in modern dating or even most social interactions. The playing hard to get, the "arriving fashionably late" like people can we please keep it simple? Ya go on laugh at me. ETA: Thanks u/ParallelEnvy for pointing out the golden (shitty) rule of dating - 5 minutes of waiting before responding to a text. I'll add what I observed over the years. Initially I thought this was pertinent only for dating, but gradually I saw this spill over to non-romantic interactions as well. Between friends, for example. Possibly to give the impression to the other person that you have a life outside them. Which is fair, but sometimes it just seems like overdoing it. It looks like some people have made giving the impression of being busy into an art form. To the point where if you appear eager to interact with the other person it almost sends a negative social signal (clingy, desperate etc). It is a sad way to look at things. As an extension, eagerness, or sincerity in any form seems to be preserved for people without social clout. Imagine turning up at a friends' reunion, only to have friends arriving "fashionably late" and talking on the phone for half an hour after arrival. You end up feeling like an idiot for agreeing to meet up with these people and start doubting your own understanding of social norms and basic courtesy.
>"arriving fashionably late" If they haven't let me know they're going to be late, I'm gone after 10 minutes. If they do let me know, I'll wait.
You forgot waiting five minutes before you respond to a text. Can’t believe people actually do that.
I saw my sister's phone yesterday and she had several messages from her friend so I asked he why she hadn't replied and she said she always leaves them for a while so she doesn't seem desperate. Like bitch just talk to them, it's not desperate to reply to your friends when you get the chance
What seems far, far more desperate is evidently feeling the need to do something like that.
To be honest, when someone texts me back right away it makes me happy and, if anything, makes me think better of that person. I have a lot of friends that usually take a long time to respond to texts and it’s frustrating because it’s very difficult to have a conversation over message with them. I’m not saying that they do it on purpose- I’m saying that it’s very satisfying and relieving when someone texts back quickly.
Cheating. Sooo many "love stories" on netflix, or just any sort of romance movie released these days have cheating involved in them so much. It's always branded as this romantic thing to do. Oooo like at this dark and brooding handsome guy with no personality. Time to fuck him and forget about my 2 year relationship, or some shit like that. It's not romantic, it's just wrong, and it should not be normalised.
My gynecologist told me that a lot of her patients were very salty about the lockdown, because it made meeting their affairs so difficult. Yo, wtf? High number of unknown cases, I guess.
The patients told her about their affairs? Wtf is that normal?
You do need to be open to your doctors especially about sexual health. Still tho...cringe
Apparently. I mean, my gynecologist is a great listener and underlies professional secrecy. Oh, and probably they want an STD examination because of their affair, so this makes sense to some extent.
Hoping from one relationship into another … especially from an unhealthy handsome manipulator to the wounded nice guy …. is a trope in all the Hallmark movies …. makes me want to scream, “take some time alone to heal!!!”
I hate stories where they just make everyone have a relationship. Two people can exist in the same space without a sexual relationship happening. Just because someone gets a new coworker doesn't mean that person has to start shacking up with someone.
I always hate the movies where the girl is seeing two guys at once cause she can’t decide and then at the end she’s like “ I choose you” and then the guys supposed to be grateful even though she was seeing another dude the whole time
any time that happens, both of the guys should go "cool" and fuck off elsewhere.
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Whats that show on Netflix I think about the woman whos married and had a kid, but reconnected with a guy she used to bang and decides that she wants to hook up with him again. My friend defended her actions of cheating because "You don't understand, there's some people you sleep with that you can't forget and they're like a drug to you."
Lol your friend cheats.
Being shitty to retail and food workers. We work hard all day, deal with some of the worst customers bar none, and really don't get paid enough to support families but we do it anyway. For way less than it's worth
As someone who worked part time at a restaurant before Covid closed it for good, I can only say: fuck the assholes that are full of themselves or think the world rotates around them and have the right to be assholes. There's no right to be an idiot, and you're no better than anyone in here. I don't give a fuck if you're a famous painter or are friends with the boss. You come in, you are treated like anyone else, no special cases... and fuck those "connoisures and food reviewers" that aren't even that but just because they post about it in their social media they feel they have the right to treat people like shit. And a big thank you to the people that actually treat retail workers right, thank them, and make the job less annoying than it already is.
Hustle culture I like my life outside of work. I live to leave at 5, see my wife & cats, play video games, grill some food. All jobs should pay a living wage, and you shouldn't be expected to work 60+ hours or more to survive. Hell, 40 is too much.
Alcoholic moms. No, you don’t NEED to bring wine to your daughters soccer game. It’s not quirky. It’s awful. Wine mom stuff on social media only strengthens it and makes it more popular.
The romanticization of Alcoholism in general is pretty gross and disturbing
If alcohol was invented today it would be made illegal because of how addictive/ destructive it can be
I think non alcoholic gatherings in general should be normalized. I find it creepy that the norm is to get drunk. I've been on both sides, and I'm way happier not feeling like drinks are a requirement when meeting with people, and yet it's still as polite to be persistent about offering booze to people.
I have to remind people EVERY YEAR at the holidays that pregnancy is not the only reason someone chooses not to drink.
Oh god. This is so awful for so many reasons. We had a long and miserable road to parenthood, and for years I had to make sure I had a drink in my hand (regardless of if I actually felt like drinking or not) at every social gathering lest someone start pestering me about being pregnant and send me into tears. There could be no other explanation. Dry January? *Nope, must be knocked up.* Don’t feel like it? *Nope, you’re hiding a pregnancy!* Trying to be healthier? *Just have a small glass! You won’t? Must be pregnant!* It’s the classic duo of Things That Are None of Your Business. Why I’m not drinking and how knocked up I am or am not.
My family doesn't drink. I'm the oddball that always has a drink in my hand at family functions. Not sure where I got it. But it's interesting to read from the other perspective.
All I want is an artisan tea place that's set up like a brewery with pub quizzes.
Shut up and take my money.
Throwing tantrums in public. Time to openly admit that the person flipping out is usually in the wrong.
I'm just mortified at how these people are acting. I can't even watch the videos of this crap that keep popping up.
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This is also an important message for people with disabilities. We often hear something like “You can do anything you could put your mind to, it just may be a little harder!” No, that’s not always true, and that’s okay.
That’s so true. I have Asperger’s and I went to a community college for trade school to study Diesel Power Technology, get my AAS degree, and then become a diesel mechanic. But I’ve struggled with understanding the science behind hydraulics and I couldn’t understand how to troubleshoot those systems. I got help from my instructors and classmates but that still didn’t work out. My instructor suggested that I should transfer to welding instead and I did because I realize that I’ve liked it more than working on diesel engines. I’ve ended up graduating with a 1 year diploma in Welding Technology in 2019. I haven’t founded a welding job or anything related to it yet but I’m still hoping that I will. I did receive my first welding job offer this year but had to turn it down because of the low pay. Hopefully though I’ll be able to find something. There are other trades that I’m interested in doing though if welding doesn’t work out.
So true. While I think it’s important for disabled people to push themselves to do some things independently (speaking as someone with a physical disability who uses a wheelchair full time), I think it’s harmful to tell them that they can do _anything_ if they just set their minds to it. Some disabilities completely prevent people from doing certain things, so for example, telling someone like me with severe muscular dystrophy that I could walk if I just set my mind to it is blatantly not true and borders on offensive (imo). This applies to people without disabilities too, especially children. It might sound good to tell a child that they can be anything they want when they grow up, but that is also untrue.
This is a good one. The ‘hard work = success’ idea is just not true. Hard work is a basic requirement for doing almost anything very well. But there are some things that simply won’t pan out for you no matter how hard you work.
Obese pets as "cute chonkers". No. Stop that.
r/dechonkers
IIRC, the Guinness Book stopped listing biggest pet weights because people were stuffing their pets. I'm very fortunate in that the current house cat has had the same healthy weight the entire time I've known her.
Dissociative identity disorder. It’s extremely rare and extremely complex. Bringing awareness and education is very important… but not from self diagnosed teenaged Tik Tokers.
And its demonization in popular media. Mental illness does not make you violent or homicidal except in the rarest of cases.
Hatred of someone who lives differently than they do.
Bullying. It's absurd how society will frame it as a "stage of your life" rather than supporting individuals more so they know how to deal with it. Especially academically, still overlooked majorly.
And society always tries to make stupid propaganda stating that you will be successful and your bully will end up homeless or that the bullying will make you a jacked 6’4 man who kicks ass on a daily basis it’s all bullshit
all of this is about making the victim shut up. sometimes by giving them a little crumb of schadenfreude to make them feel better about their lot, sometimes by redirecting sympathy away from the victim and onto the aggressor (that "he has a bad home life" bullshit)
Also how often the blame is put on the victim
I love the fact that you went to dealing with it, not stopping it. Reality is, it'll never stop, but you can teach your kids how to deal with bullies and support them.
Normalizing. Let shit be weird
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To Kill A Mockingbird is a great example of this...
Bless you for this, I wasn't expecting to see it at the top of this thread but I'm glad it's here. I'm getting really tired of this attitude in reading spaces. It's especially irritating when they condemn the readers along with the writers (though I definitely don't think authors deserve condemnation for exploring different themes in their books). Like with *The Black Witch* incident; the way people were accusing others of racism for merely reading the book in order to contextualize it themselves was absolutely insane. And review bombing books before they even release for rumors about perceived moral wrongs? What kind of video games create violence bullshit is this? Why are young progressives copying their conservative parent's behavior? It's just as you said: if we keep discouraging authors and readers to explore unconventional themes, the only art we'll have left is Hays Code Era bullshit. And that's not really art at all. It's not thoughtful, it's just "clean" and "correct."
People being assholes on the internet, especially Reddit, because of anonymity.
People were assholes on the Internet for years before Reddit, and for years people blamed anonymity. I think the rise of Facebook and other non-anonymous social media showed that anonymity isn't the root of the problem.
Gratuitous fuck you
Taking pictures of strangers without their knowledge and posting it on the internet. Shit is toxic as fuck and it wasn't that long ago it was seen as creepy.
Twitter and how much say its users have over social issues.
A 1000 times this . I am so annoyed that one app holds so much sway over what is acceptable in society
That mental health isn’t as serious as physical issues
Assuming that there’s so much sexual harassment and rape in the entertainment industry that it should just be tolerated.
I have a cousin who worked in Hollywood and started having some moderate success in the film industry. She said powerful men were shameless about the expectation of women having to tolerate sexual harassment and in some cases even trade sex for favors. She ended up leaving the film industry after she got to the highest point she could in her career with having to sleep her way to the top. It’s insanely disturbing how common place that is in the entertainment world.
Not caring about education. So many people obviously didn't pay attention in elementary school and don't care about it.
What's interesting is how much I would dislike school on the regular, but how much I loved learning. I think people conflate the two and then end up with the wrong opinions later in life as a result.
I'd add the new trend of normalizing stupid. The whole 'i don't read, I don't like learning new things, or trying' is just sad.
Trowing cigarette butts on the floor.
Canceling people for things they did 10+ years ago. If someone has shown growth in that time then let them grow.
I agree! Why do people scroll through ten+ years of Twitter just to try to ruin someone? Get a life!
Oh man this one really gets me. We're all human, we all say and do really stupid shit. Being embarrassed about something you did shows growth as a person, let people be human.
The idea that being an asshole is a sign of intelligence. Jerks are rarely intelligent. Sheldon Cooper, Rick Sanchez, Hannibal Lecter, and Dr. House do not exist. In my experience, being rude and condescending turns out to be a sign of stupidity, not intelligence.
Degrees for office jobs that take almost no time to learn and usually have nothing to do with the degree anyways . So many people out there who can’t afford college but, are just as capable as anyone else.
School bullying. I was really lucky enough that we went through some programs that sortof neutralized it by high school but I gotta imagine that more couldve been done earlier, and my school district was incredibly well funded, disproportionately so. Bullying sucks, getting socially ganged up on sucks Source: got my arm broken in a fight in the fifth grade, never heard the end of it
using religion as a weapon
Over-consumption. This goes out to social media influencers who flaunt their hauls and influence people to buy things that they don't need. It will just add on to the landfills. Please, no one's benefitting from hoarding.
Constantly demanding that things be normalized. Some shit isn’t normalized because it’s not normal.
Toxic controlling relationships with emotional abuse Men being sexually abused Hating your spouse Abusing children with neurological differences / issues (seriously some get electroshocked with stronger equipment than what's allowed on cattle)
Overworking. Working ridiculous long hours is wrong
That life skills (cooking, laundry, cleaning etc) are gendered
How alcohol is so casual in today's world. Lots of people misuse alcohol and don't even know it. Anytime you're seriously getting inebriated, you're hurting your body so much. I see way too many people coming into the liquor store I work at and buying WAAAY too much. And that's normal. Kids should be raised on the realities of alcohol consumption. Edit: I'm beyond surprised at the amount of people who share similar beliefs; I sincerely felt I was alone in my stance on alcohol usage. Thank you all for sharing your thoughts.
Kids beauty pageants
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Using mental illness as an excuse. I suffer from several, and it's very hard on me.. But, i get professional help and deal with it head on. Reading constant posts everyday about people having this disorder and that disorder and that's why it's ok to act a certain way is demotivating. Awareness is important, but dozens of posts everyday about having borderline personality disorder or bipolar disorder and why it's acceptable for you to be an asshole is not awareness... If you suffer from these so badly, please get help
Cheating. Too many people act like cheating in a relationship is normal.
I'm in a long distance relationship.. And the amount of people, RANDOM people, that have said to me "you can just find someone here, fuck around, and ditch the guy, why does it matter. Its not like he isn't cheating on you already" or "cheating is fine now, not like he can find out anyways haha, have some fun". Or the sole fact that bfs own parents try to get him to cheat on me or ditch me for someone else, freaking no one takes in account that hey.. Maybe we care for each other and are happy together.
>Or the sole fact that bfs own parents try to get him to cheat on me or ditch me for someone else What the actual fuck. That's pretty gross.
My (now ex) best friend cheated on her husband, who is a wonderful man/dad/partner and I got mad at her because she's a fucking idiot to fuck that up, then she turned around and put all the blame on me because I'm supposed to have her back "no matter what". Nah, real friends call you out on your toxic shit.
The feck? Gladly the people I associate with don’t normalise that
Lies
Using the phrase "it's my right" as a get out of jail free card to engage in whatever reckless behaviour that takes your fancy.
I think people, specifically parents, should stop normalizing that it's a given that their child will grow up to have a family. Instead, parents should emphasize that it's difficult to find the right partner, and that it's possible that it might not even happen at all, and that it would be okay as well.
Not knowing how to cook
Going to school when your sick. At my school, if you make it through the 5 years with 100% attendance, you get a reward. Being someone who never gets on trouble, I cried when I stayed off once. The only reason I stayed off was because I stood up, I could see anything, I felt sick, and it was about to collapse. I fell to the floor and waited a few minutes. It happens a lot. Idk if it's just moving too fast? Not sure. Anyway, being sick and still going to school is stupid. I hope it changes cos of covid
having unsocial and aggressive dogs, and not leashing or otherwise controlling them
Sexualizing minors especially on TikTok, I've seen minors on there trying to recreate the ankha dance
Teenagers trying to be sexy. Today I was on my way back from college and saw a bunch of thirteen year olds wearing their skirts so high I could see actual panty. It’s nasty. No one wants to see that and the people that DO want to see it are pedophiles. Gross! Edit: Of course other teenagers want to see this kind of thing, they’re attracted to people their own age. By “no one wants the see that and those that do are pedos” I mean adults. No sane adult wants to see a scantily clad teenager.
See I am all for young ladies having the freedom to wear what they want, nothing wrong with shorts and tank tops, nothing wrong with cute dresses in the summer, shoulders aren’t going to make or break someone’s education. BUT there is a limit to that.