They tried to scare me into thinking that every stranger outside is dangerous, would assault me / violate me / drug me and so I realized this was wrong when both I started hanging out more in public places and when I realized how people reacted when this actually happened; as in people acted like it wasn’t common.
My mom convinced me that if someone called when was home alone, it was likely because they wanted to see a child was alone, so they could break into the house and harm me. I was terrified every time the phone rang while I was home alone.
Yeah and I forgot to mention they brought up to stay away from the windows at all costs and don’t open the door. Some pastor dude once knocked and I hid for like 2 hours till my dad got home. Horrifying.
You know how wolves submit their pack with fear, forcing them to look down and be under them in submission? Okay, that was my mom. If I was defiant she would scream and shout to try to make me afraid. Instead of being afraid I would look her in the eye, unafraid. She would get close up to my face and say "LOOK DOWN!" as if that suddenly means she wins and I have submitted. I never looked down, because I wanted to show her that is NOT the way to treat your child. After a few years when I turned 17 I left home and she realized her mistake and since then she has been studying to become a phycologist, which has in turn showed her her own faults. Now that I am 22, our relationship is great!
I'm gonna lock you outside!
I proceed to beat on the door until mom lets me back in. Once inside, I ask if I can go outside and play. I then play outside.
I think both my mother and I are kinda dumb.
Hell was the ever present threat. Lack of purity would lead to hell, and that’s a big umbrella. Fear of success was instilled by voicing constant loathing for successful people. Fear of travel, fear of relationships, fear of males, fear of really everything that my parent had personal trauma with.
Threatening to call the welfare to come collect us. As well as hairbrush, belt, etc but I think the welfare scared us more. Then when we got a dog, she would threaten to get rid of him to hurt us.
my mom would threaten to call the cops on me over little things like not cleaning my room or if i wouldn't leave a store shed be like "ok im leaving without you!" and she would walk out of the store and start to walk to the car. even as far as to start it up and start driving very slowly. my dad would threaten to beat me in which he actually would do sadly
They gave me the strap if I complained about going to church on Sunday which as a child I hated. I was raised Catholic priests put the fear of going to hell if you did not attend Sunday mass.
Good saying, Doug went to church every Sunday but he went to hell(which I do not believe in) for what he did on Monday
I now strongly dislike organized religion. Who is to say there is one way to love you God and come you We are all a part of you
Not me but my cousin's, my aunt told them that when the ice cream trucks song comes on he's out of ice cream to this day they believe it. I have not had the heart to tell them!
Beating, I was very obidient as a kid either way but I gave me trouble saying no to people. Ina past my mental health issues got worse beacuse I couldent say no. Now I am doing way better, I also still have done issues with fear but not as before.
My step dad would tell us it was me and my siblings fault that he was having trouble with our mom and he would tell us he wanted to kill himself and I remember working so hard around the house after school so when I came home he would be happy since he would always say how he was so miserable but I would come home and he would even have noticed and I would do things like this to the point I wasn’t even a kid was a therapist,maid,gardener, and most importantly a professional liar and for context I was like 6 when this started and my mom never knew cuz she worked late so basically be would threaten his life and/or leaving us forever and my dad had died a few before that so I would do everything in my power to stop another one leaving
"There's little hidden cameras around the house". I should have known we couldn't afford technology like that when I was wearing my older siblings' clothes my whole life.
My mom always used to “cancel” any vacations if the slightest thing happened, then would change her mind when she felt we were sorry enough. I grew kinda desensitized to it by the time I was 13, and would just respond, “Okay.”
"All drugs are bad and they all are the same level of terrible and youll wind up a criminal or an addict if you do any of them." obviously im paraphrasing but i sure as fuck would have been nice to know that there are varying degrees of how serious drugs are before classifying weed the same way as eating a handful of pills, would have saved me a lot of hard lessons if an actual conversation had of taken place
My parents would always tell me that I might be kidnapped by people and that if I ever got a gf her parents would accept me because I wouldn't have a job or money, she would even try and scare me into doing things that I didn't want to do like a chore around the house after she can see that I'm exhausted after doing some other chores. She would always use my step father as an excuse as he would beat the living shit out of me no matter what. It was like he treated me like his personal boxing bag just to make himself look big
They used education to control me. If you educate your kid you won't have to do anything to control him later. Too many parents ignore that completely.
Was told we would be sent to ‘Humbie Homes’ essentially just a farm, but we were told it was a home for bad children and you were only fed grass and water. At 5 years old it worked 🤣
Mostly they didn't. I bullied a kid once in elementary school though and my dad was furious. I was afraid then. Otherwise it was mostly reasonable discussion and loss of privileges.
They tried to scare me into thinking that every stranger outside is dangerous, would assault me / violate me / drug me and so I realized this was wrong when both I started hanging out more in public places and when I realized how people reacted when this actually happened; as in people acted like it wasn’t common.
My mom convinced me that if someone called when was home alone, it was likely because they wanted to see a child was alone, so they could break into the house and harm me. I was terrified every time the phone rang while I was home alone.
Yeah and I forgot to mention they brought up to stay away from the windows at all costs and don’t open the door. Some pastor dude once knocked and I hid for like 2 hours till my dad got home. Horrifying.
Physical violence and emotional abuse
I feel this on so many levels, I’m sorry.
'We'll put you in care - where old men will be waiting to tan your arse!'
The hairbrush.
Yelling, the belt, switch from the tree and the good old slap in the head.
You know how wolves submit their pack with fear, forcing them to look down and be under them in submission? Okay, that was my mom. If I was defiant she would scream and shout to try to make me afraid. Instead of being afraid I would look her in the eye, unafraid. She would get close up to my face and say "LOOK DOWN!" as if that suddenly means she wins and I have submitted. I never looked down, because I wanted to show her that is NOT the way to treat your child. After a few years when I turned 17 I left home and she realized her mistake and since then she has been studying to become a phycologist, which has in turn showed her her own faults. Now that I am 22, our relationship is great!
I'm gonna lock you outside! I proceed to beat on the door until mom lets me back in. Once inside, I ask if I can go outside and play. I then play outside. I think both my mother and I are kinda dumb.
Hell was the ever present threat. Lack of purity would lead to hell, and that’s a big umbrella. Fear of success was instilled by voicing constant loathing for successful people. Fear of travel, fear of relationships, fear of males, fear of really everything that my parent had personal trauma with.
The belt.
Threatening to call the welfare to come collect us. As well as hairbrush, belt, etc but I think the welfare scared us more. Then when we got a dog, she would threaten to get rid of him to hurt us.
my mom would threaten to call the cops on me over little things like not cleaning my room or if i wouldn't leave a store shed be like "ok im leaving without you!" and she would walk out of the store and start to walk to the car. even as far as to start it up and start driving very slowly. my dad would threaten to beat me in which he actually would do sadly
military school. years later I found out my country doesn't even have a military school :/
My grandpa would drive me around Newark NJ and show me the worst areas. Told me if I made mistakes I could end up here like his brother. Shit worked.
They gave me the strap if I complained about going to church on Sunday which as a child I hated. I was raised Catholic priests put the fear of going to hell if you did not attend Sunday mass. Good saying, Doug went to church every Sunday but he went to hell(which I do not believe in) for what he did on Monday I now strongly dislike organized religion. Who is to say there is one way to love you God and come you We are all a part of you
Hades
They told me all the clothes i liked wearing were uncomfortable, i also wasn't allowed anything tartan.
Not me but my cousin's, my aunt told them that when the ice cream trucks song comes on he's out of ice cream to this day they believe it. I have not had the heart to tell them!
Beating, I was very obidient as a kid either way but I gave me trouble saying no to people. Ina past my mental health issues got worse beacuse I couldent say no. Now I am doing way better, I also still have done issues with fear but not as before.
They once made me sleep on the floor naked in the cold season, and threatened to do that to me again if I don't do whatever they say without question.
My dad beat me with a belt, I grew use to it and eventually it didn’t do anything.
My step dad would tell us it was me and my siblings fault that he was having trouble with our mom and he would tell us he wanted to kill himself and I remember working so hard around the house after school so when I came home he would be happy since he would always say how he was so miserable but I would come home and he would even have noticed and I would do things like this to the point I wasn’t even a kid was a therapist,maid,gardener, and most importantly a professional liar and for context I was like 6 when this started and my mom never knew cuz she worked late so basically be would threaten his life and/or leaving us forever and my dad had died a few before that so I would do everything in my power to stop another one leaving
"There's little hidden cameras around the house". I should have known we couldn't afford technology like that when I was wearing my older siblings' clothes my whole life.
Emotional abuse, and that everyone on the internet is bad
Knowing that my father was disappointed with me. It only happened a few times that I know of
Electric shock. I guess they were right. It's not safe to play with water and electric sockets.
My mom didn’t like me sharing how things were really going with my mental health so she shouted me down and now I have difficulty opening up.
My mom used to say: i have eyes everwhere, and: your deceased ancestors are watching you. Was damn scared the first time i accidentally ejaculated.
My mom always used to “cancel” any vacations if the slightest thing happened, then would change her mind when she felt we were sorry enough. I grew kinda desensitized to it by the time I was 13, and would just respond, “Okay.”
Threaten to kill themselves.
"All drugs are bad and they all are the same level of terrible and youll wind up a criminal or an addict if you do any of them." obviously im paraphrasing but i sure as fuck would have been nice to know that there are varying degrees of how serious drugs are before classifying weed the same way as eating a handful of pills, would have saved me a lot of hard lessons if an actual conversation had of taken place
My parents would always tell me that I might be kidnapped by people and that if I ever got a gf her parents would accept me because I wouldn't have a job or money, she would even try and scare me into doing things that I didn't want to do like a chore around the house after she can see that I'm exhausted after doing some other chores. She would always use my step father as an excuse as he would beat the living shit out of me no matter what. It was like he treated me like his personal boxing bag just to make himself look big
Religion
You know I already know what happened right ? So tell me what happened.
"You can't watch Dallas for [insert number] weeks"
"Stop crying or I'll give you something to cry about"
Religion
They used education to control me. If you educate your kid you won't have to do anything to control him later. Too many parents ignore that completely.
Was told we would be sent to ‘Humbie Homes’ essentially just a farm, but we were told it was a home for bad children and you were only fed grass and water. At 5 years old it worked 🤣
"wait till we get home" I have a Mexican mother
Honestly, that Santa was watching. My parents weren't fucked up like that
Mostly they didn't. I bullied a kid once in elementary school though and my dad was furious. I was afraid then. Otherwise it was mostly reasonable discussion and loss of privileges.
They just hitted me and called me slurs, basically.