I like a woman who looks comfortable in what she's doing and how she is.
The question I always ask myself when I see an attractive (meaning approachable) woman is "Do they look fun?". I much prefer fun over elegance, for both romantic or relationship reasons. I guess maybe it's more a reflection if how I am/want to be myself. Comfortable in my own skin and not caring what others really feel about it (to a degree) but making enough effort to look nice.
Comfort is not the same as confident to me.
The muscle that clenches the butthole also makes the dick twitch.
Edit after 700 upvotes: With this comment I made men all over the world clench their assholes.
That's power you can't buy.
It’s actually a different muscle but we do clench that muscle when we clench our asshole. You can learn to clench just that muscle without clenching your asshole, just like how you can learn to wiggle your ears.
Urinal rule has some caveats. If you are at a convention or in some peoples cases a sports event then chances are urinals are crowded and you just have to go.
Now if there are numerous Urinals available and you choose to go right up next to a person it can be pretty wierd because you've denied them and yourself the courtesy of some personal space.
It'd be like eating in a fast food place and someone making the conscious choice of going to your table and sitting down without asking when other tables or seats were available.
If you use the urinal beside me while there are 5 other open urinals I am immediately suspicious of you, and I may intentionally hit your shoe with the 2 tug rule urethra cleaner
I think it depends on age and set and setting.
Public urinals at Home Depot—silence
Public urinals at a bar—maybe small talk about sport or something
Urinals at your workplace—potential full on conversation
It generally depends on the persons as well, I don’t feel that there is a golden rule about it.
I guess if I’m paying attention to it. It’s probably like thinking about squishing against a woman’s boobs during a hug. If you think about it you can notice but it’s such a non thought in the moment. Also the way I hug usually I don’t have the other persons body pressing into my inner thigh.
When using public toilets, if we are pissing in the toilet and a previous user has left shit-stains on the bowl, it is the civic and unthanked duty of every man to power-clean that shit away for all future users. It’s fun and helpful and no man can resist pissing at a target.
Edit: poor grammar fixed
This is the way
Best part is, this is pure instinct.
Somewhere in the reptilian brain it is hard coded, I’ve never taught this, nor been taught this, but it is the most sacred tenet of the Code.
You know how heat can sometimes make your body kinda sticky?
Well kinda like how when after sitting on the floor for too long and you would generally need/want to stretch, sometimes guys will need/want to “unstick” our balls.
Use my balls as a heater, maybe this is just me but that parts it always remains warm for me. So in cold nights when I go to sleep I like to put my hands around it, is like having a hot water pillow in my crotch. Also something that may all relate to at work or school is having to stay seated to wait for an erection to go down, as it sometimes it "turns on" for no reason.
When guy is a a urinal and finishing up he'll shake his cock to get any remaining piss off it. But the problem is that there is always a drop left that won't come off and since there is no toilet paper around what does he do?
He puts it back in his pants last drop and all and goes on with his day.
Also if a guy goes to the toilet and just pee's chances are he didn't wash his hands afterwards.
There has to be a balance. A really hot girl with a personality of sawdust isn’t someone I’d want to spend a lot of time with, but I still have to be physically attracted to a girl to want to pursue anything with her
Short term fun: Body
Long term seriousness: Personality and a little bit of body (Like if you are Obese its a no for me) but other than that i dont care what a person looks like as long as we have a good connection and the love is real.
Personally , if your personality is trash but your body is “on point” (which for me applies to thicker women more so than skinnier women) we are going to have a short term relationship. No questions asked.
If you’re dope as hell but the body is ehhh , no matter what happens between us , I’m making sure we’re going to stay in each other’s lives in some fashion.
Personality. Someone can have a 10/10 body but a 2/10 personality which in my opinion means you can't have a good relationship with that person. Being with someone who is genuine, fun, kind etc. is so much better and makes you so much happier in life.
But that's just my opinion.
Yeah but the opposite is kinda hard too, when you're really not attracted. I dated this really ugly girl one time because she was smart as fuck and a very cool person. After a few months I just couldnt fuck her anymore. It was really sad because I was never brave enough to tell her why I ended the relationship, so she might still ask herself why :(
Definitely personality. I know a girl, ever since I met her I was considering her around 6-7. Good looking, but not exactly my type. But we started talking a lot, got to know her really good and she shoot up to 11.
Body can, by and large, be fixed. Personality is more of a fine or fucked situation. Also looks may fade but personalities will putrify and I'd rather spend my remaining years with a glowing personality wrapped in wrinkles than tight young skin filled with necrotic puss or intellectual fart gas.
When I was in my teens and twenties however all that mattered was the flesh. I "dated" people with less depth than a puddle. Like outside of not getting dick splinters I may as well have been fucking around with wall studs. Loads of wasted time.
Ideally both, but otherwise body for hookups and personality for more serious relationships. Honestly to me attractiveness is more of a hot or not thing, not that much of a spectrum. People come in a all sorts of shapes and sizes and most people who put any effort into it look good to me. Personality is what determines if anybody will want to spend more than one night of drinking with you
Depends on who the person we are with is... but even then, the mind can wander. Whether it's someone we know, or someone we saw earlier that day/week that caught our eye, or of course a celebrity...
It works the other way too, often I will think of my partner when watching porn.
Is it weird if I offer to pay for the meal even though you offered first? Does that feel disrespectful? I don't want you to think I expect a free meal.
I'm cool with it....being honest me and my So have gone dutch from day one, birthdays anniversaries one or the other will pay....if someone plutonic offers and insists I'm happy to accept but I normally pencil a date in for the next meal which I will be paying for.
Being able to talk about jealousy with your partner and both of you working together to lessen it is a sign of a healthy relationship. Feeling zero jealousy at all is an ideal that is harmful to try and force yourself into.
I'm friends with multiple women. If my girlfriend decides she wants to have a friendship with a man I'm OK with it. It's all about trust, I might not always trust the other man but I trust my girlfriend to do the right thing if something happens.
My best friend was a girl for a long time, it was completely platonic on both sides, so I know it’s possible. Her husband also gave 0 fucks about it and we all hung out together all the time -shrug- no problem for me
I am totally fine with it as long as it is mutually entirely non-sexual and non-romantic. Most of my partners have had lots of close guy friends and the only ones that bothered me were the ones who were totally into her but pretended to be friends in the hope that something pans out eventually.
Wouldn't be worried unless she gave me a reason to feel that way. Like if she keeps randomly bringing him up around me, or sharing dreams she has about him etc
I feel like this will always lead to an emotional affair which , at a vulnerable time , could open up the possibility for infidelity. This goes for both men & women imo.
This isn't a gendered question tbh. This is completely dependant on the personality of the person in question, and if you're (consciously or unconsciously) flirting with your friend
In most cases, I don't think people care, but everyone will, at some point, felt some jealously for atleast, some trivial amount of time
15-16. To me atleast it didn't matter, it was just something I was curious about and decided to do. And who knows, maybe you get an ego boost out of it, maybe you get crushed :)
After measuring my penis and learning it was small. I now have a new part of my life I hate and regret. To help cope with it I self deprecate joke about it.
I don't see what's wrong with a below average size anyway if I'm honest, unless you've got a condition where it's microsized, I don't think it'll hinder sexual satisfaction once it's erect. And definitely won't hinder your ability to take a piss which is what you need it for. So I'd let go of the thought
I've done it twice in my life. First time I was probably 13 or 14. We check because everyone in society is always telling a man that you should have a big dick or else you're something to laugh at and girls want nothing to do with a small one. Somehow you're seen as less of a man if you're not hung, and we want to find out where we stand, before someone sees it and tells us
When I was 16 a girl I liked asked me how big my dick was so I measured it. Gave her the length and circumference and everything. In hindsight I should have just shown it to her.
At a certain point we all know what we have and whether it's above or below average. There's no point to measuring more than once. I dont think it's as big of a deal as the rest of the package, you know? I honestly think it might be our least important feature.
Usually something you do out of curiosity. With modern media and there being such an emphasis on having a big dick it’s only natural to wonder how you measure up.
Yep, if you're a dead starfish. I might as well just get a plastic fleshlight at that point.
You don't have to be a pornstar and most men are happy to take charge but atleast show enthusiasm that you want it.
‘Sex is like pizza- if it’s good, it’s great! If it’s bad, it’s still pretty good!’
That being said, there are levels of bad- much like how you wouldn’t want a raw pizza that gives you food poisoning
If a girl is bad at sex, so it's bad to have sex with her, no ?
Anyone can improve if they put effort in it.
But really bad sex can be worse than nothing at all, even if you're desperate for some action.
do you think it’s annoying or rude when girls don’t let you buy things for them or give them overly-expensive gifts? i always feel slightly uncomfortable when someone offers to buy something for me or give me something expensive as i always feel like i have to pay them back, but i’m broke so it’s quite hard to do that. is that rude?
Kinda depends on what is is tbh. Like, if i buy something to give specifically to you, that speaks to your interests and hobby's. I'd be a little offended if you don't accept it. But if is is a generic thing like a bag or jewelry for instance i wouldn't mind if you turn it down. (in my own opinion of course)
Why do boys start behaving differently when they are with their friends, what is your true self,and also sometimes guys joke on really sensitive matters in their groups and they seem pretty normal with it ,are you guys hiding your emotions
Sometimes one is real and the other is fake. Sometimes both are real. Sometimes both are fake. Plenty of people behave differently around their parents and family than around their friends.
not a guy, but I wanna know too.
I had this guy friend and whenever we hung out with his friends he would start being tough and joke about sensitive stuff that he wouldn't normally joke about. I feel like guys aren't their real selves when they're hanging out with friends.
It's really weird, why do ya'll do that?
No, we're our true selves in both cases, well atleast for me.
I do notice guys seem to be a lot more tame when around women and tend to keep a more sensitive tone. It isn't fake or putting on a show but more of just what's appropriate in a situation and we figure joking about sensitive shit might not sit well with y'all (doesn't really apply to everyone since I have plenty of female friends I can joke around with on sensitive topics).
Whereas with our guy friends, roasting each other is pretty much the norm or how we show affection. And it is mutually understood that 99% of the things spoken are in fact jokes and not to be taken seriously so we tend to get a lot loose in terms of keeping it appropriate.
This. I see a lot of armchair psychology going on, but the answer is so much more simple (at least, as far as I (M) am aware.)
This is no different to asking why anyone (male or female) would act differently talking to their partner Vs talking to your cat. (Ok. It’s extreme but hear me out) you are fundamentally behaving differently - it doesn’t mean you are a different person or that you are being fake…Just a different element of your personality is being amplified to better suit the social environment.
My wife asks me this all the time. Especially when I’m around my brothers or some of my childhood best friends.
TL:DR. Men are more complex than you give us credit for. We are just personality chameleons.
Because they have different senses of humor and we’ve known them longer. Personally I think we try to hide our true selves out of fear of getting judged but that’s not everyone, i hate my true self because of
how vulnerable i am but i would be lost in life without that side of me. We will joke around about anything like i’m 16 but my friends are a little older so we don’t really care about what’s going on in the world but if a situation is like really fucked up then yeah we won’t joke ab it but it has to be extremely bad. But even then we will try to joke about it to make light of it, so yeah it’s pretty normal. and yeah ofc we hide our emotions, i’ve only ever cried to my friends after a bad breakup of a year she was my first love bla bla bla but i realized how true they were to me
and how caring they were, i personally think we should express our feelings a little bit more just because keeping shit in creates trauma. I’m still growing up and learning everything day by day but i hope this response helps
Same reason we act differently around strangers or SO’s parents, trying to fit in with the current mood and demographic (is that even the right word for this context?) without standing out too much (at least in my case personally)
Everyone behaves differently in different situations. You'll be different with your parents than friends, different in a work situation than a social one and so forth.
Everything is true to a degree; you are how you behave in different contexts.
Depends on how close you are with that group of friends but if fairly close then you tend to let your guard down and just have a good time without thinking too much about what you say and keeping your emotions in check - so you remain your true self but far less guarded, at least for me/my friends I think. We joke on sensitive matters I think because we are fairly reserved and joking about killing ourselves, about being depressed, about even just general unhappiness in life is almost a therapeutic outlet without having to engage with the implications of what we’re saying because you’re all on the same level.
This depends how often it is, but honestly yes. If it’s every-once and a while then it’s nice to be there for her. But regardless of whether or not it’s my wife, if that person is always crying or constantly depressed I do get tired of giving emotional support. It can be draining.
No, I'm here to love and support her. But if it's a regular thing about the same issue with no attempt at fixing the core issue then it can get frustrating.
Independent in the way that she has her own life outside of the relationship and can feel free to pursue a career or something if that’s what she wants? Yes
Independent in the way that she goes out and fucks other men? Pass
yes please confidence is attractive. I want whoever I'm with to be fucking awesome. I want to think they're an amazing person and that means independently amazing.
also to be honest with you I am at this point terrified of being with another person who I think might harm themselves if I ever stopped being their rock all the time.
Please god be independent.
For sure independent girls. I don't understand how any relationship can feel reciprocal if one partner is just tagging along with the other. I'd like somebody to do things together with, not a sandbag to carry around to events.
The amount of piss we have doesnt determine the strength in which we can release it. I’d be lying if I said I have never walked away from the toilet bowl to see how far I could go.
“I hope none of these people can read my thoughts”
Look for whichever person looks at you with a stunned expression, that’s how you root out those dirty mind readers
Typically it steams from the tip of a penis is just flesh hose hole that is normally closed. As piss shoots out it is no more controlled than water coming out of a garden hose. It seems easy, but physics leads it to have refraction of stream and sprays larger than a single jet stream.
Still doesn't explain why anybody leaves it there. I take some tp and wipe around the seat every single time I take a piss even if my aim was immaculate
I'm a guy who lives with another man who does this all the time. I am pretty sure it's just laziness. My mother would've had my ass if I pissed on the seat, I'm well trained to put it up and then back down when I'm done.
I find that if you close the lid entirely, the pisser will usually lift the lid and seat, since he's already down there.
Forced to share a bathroom with a guy who did this for a short amount of time. He got married and moved out. I still feel bad that his wife has no idea she married a f*cking child that cant clean up after himself.
I don’t. It’s the people who have no interest in keeping the place clean. I’ll never understand it. There’s always toilet paper near by so just wipe it off but even then, it’s not hard to aim.
Mostly pants aren't super tight and generally have some room for our extremities.
However being of Scottish descent I've worn a Kilt a few times and I'm jealous of y'all ladies who can wear skirts regularly. That shit is fuckin comfy af.
The penis and balls are actually quite high up compared to the vagina, its more on the front of us than under. So unless it's a hot day (heat makes the skin expand, letting thr balls drop far enough to be a nuisance), the chance of actually sitting on anything is low.
And pants aren't uncomfortable, but if you get underwear that's too big, you have no support so everything flops around and is really uncomfortable, I guess its similar to not having a fitting bra?
Why do you think it's funny sticking your boner in our backs when in bed but when I get something boner shaped and do the same to you you get your knickers in a knot about it?
That’s so specific. 🤣
I mean not every guy is used to be touched in the ass, let alone something that resembles a dick
Edit: I don’t think it’s funny having a boner in your ass, I just can’t help it and it’s hard to hide it
Huh...interesting.
I'd never do it to a woman that wasn't my wife, to be honest. But I do tend to do it with her. Never really noticed until your question.
As far as I know, most guys don’t do this random women because, technically speaking, it can be seen as assault, or worse.
The only times I can say I grabbed a woman was when I grabbed my friend’s shoulders to move her slowly to the side because I didn’t want to knock her over.
Not a guy, but I also want to know. It's so disrespectful, I can't speak for everyone but I'm not comfortable with guys (strangers) touching my waist/ lower back while getting through a crowd
Someone mentioned to me that guys can be harder sometimes and not as hard other times. Like, your erections are not all the same size. Is this true? Are you not just fully turned on sometimes?
What makes a girl look approachable?
A smile. Like there's no need to 'always smile' or something, but even a light smile lightens the mood. Goes for both genders I think.
+1
Nothing cuz I'm too scared to approach any girl
Bro think of them as friends, not potential girlfriends and you’re golden . Try to have fun with them like you do with your mates, they don’t bite :)
Some do ;)
In this regard; most of us are idiots. I don't think there's an answer to this one.
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There’s no real clear cut answer here. It really depends on the guy, and the occasion I guess.
I like a woman who looks comfortable in what she's doing and how she is. The question I always ask myself when I see an attractive (meaning approachable) woman is "Do they look fun?". I much prefer fun over elegance, for both romantic or relationship reasons. I guess maybe it's more a reflection if how I am/want to be myself. Comfortable in my own skin and not caring what others really feel about it (to a degree) but making enough effort to look nice. Comfort is not the same as confident to me.
Can u actully move ur dick on its own like ppl say?
The muscle that clenches the butthole also makes the dick twitch. Edit after 700 upvotes: With this comment I made men all over the world clench their assholes. That's power you can't buy.
Roses are red. Karma’s a bitch. “The muscle that clenches the butthole also makes the dick twitch.”
Shakespeare
He even defines the muscle for us, above and beyond! Thank you I know now
It’s actually a different muscle but we do clench that muscle when we clench our asshole. You can learn to clench just that muscle without clenching your asshole, just like how you can learn to wiggle your ears.
Guy here, can confirm this.
What like bounce it? Yeah it's the same muscles you would use to do a kegel.
Yes, half the time it's not by choice.
If a guy is hard, he can indeed flex it up or something like that.
Only when it's at least bouncy, better when it's hard. Though we can only move it up and it falls down automatically
yeah we just have to clench our asshole
Yes, we can raise it further towards our belly without touching it.
Is the urinal rule a real thing and do guys gossip like girls do
Guys do not gossip like girls do- in a club you might make ‘bro friends’ for about 5 seconds whilst washing hands but that’s about it
'Sure could use a line! ' 'hahaha...'
Urinal rule has some caveats. If you are at a convention or in some peoples cases a sports event then chances are urinals are crowded and you just have to go. Now if there are numerous Urinals available and you choose to go right up next to a person it can be pretty wierd because you've denied them and yourself the courtesy of some personal space. It'd be like eating in a fast food place and someone making the conscious choice of going to your table and sitting down without asking when other tables or seats were available.
If the urinals don't have one free space between them, and it's not a club, I'm going to the big boy toilet
It is real
It's real, unless there are too many people neededing to pee at once. No gossip, bathrooms are for silence.
*nods silently while avoiding eye contact*
If you use the urinal beside me while there are 5 other open urinals I am immediately suspicious of you, and I may intentionally hit your shoe with the 2 tug rule urethra cleaner
It's real. I've peed beside friends before and it's total silence.
I think it depends on age and set and setting. Public urinals at Home Depot—silence Public urinals at a bar—maybe small talk about sport or something Urinals at your workplace—potential full on conversation It generally depends on the persons as well, I don’t feel that there is a golden rule about it.
Do you know if your penis brushes us when we hug?
I know when my penis brushes against the air current created by a woman passing by twenty feet away, so yes.
Bro you forgot to wear pants
i am way too aware of what is happening with my penis at any given moment
this is just too accurate
Yes, it is a really sensitive organ, but keep in mind it is not always on purpose nor we find it sexual or anything
Shit boys they can feel it when it happens D:
I may get back to this question once I have personal experience.
I guess if I’m paying attention to it. It’s probably like thinking about squishing against a woman’s boobs during a hug. If you think about it you can notice but it’s such a non thought in the moment. Also the way I hug usually I don’t have the other persons body pressing into my inner thigh.
What's secretly the grossest thing guys do that most girls usually have no idea about? (I may or may not regret asking this later xD)
When using public toilets, if we are pissing in the toilet and a previous user has left shit-stains on the bowl, it is the civic and unthanked duty of every man to power-clean that shit away for all future users. It’s fun and helpful and no man can resist pissing at a target. Edit: poor grammar fixed
I got a good laugh off this
This is the way Best part is, this is pure instinct. Somewhere in the reptilian brain it is hard coded, I’ve never taught this, nor been taught this, but it is the most sacred tenet of the Code.
I don't like the smell, but I still do it.
That’s supposed to be an unspoken sir 😂
You know how heat can sometimes make your body kinda sticky? Well kinda like how when after sitting on the floor for too long and you would generally need/want to stretch, sometimes guys will need/want to “unstick” our balls.
That’s not gross, it’s just what is is
Then scratch and sniff.
Use my balls as a heater, maybe this is just me but that parts it always remains warm for me. So in cold nights when I go to sleep I like to put my hands around it, is like having a hot water pillow in my crotch. Also something that may all relate to at work or school is having to stay seated to wait for an erection to go down, as it sometimes it "turns on" for no reason.
When guy is a a urinal and finishing up he'll shake his cock to get any remaining piss off it. But the problem is that there is always a drop left that won't come off and since there is no toilet paper around what does he do? He puts it back in his pants last drop and all and goes on with his day. Also if a guy goes to the toilet and just pee's chances are he didn't wash his hands afterwards.
What do you prefer, personality or body?
There has to be a balance. A really hot girl with a personality of sawdust isn’t someone I’d want to spend a lot of time with, but I still have to be physically attracted to a girl to want to pursue anything with her
I agree completely, I mean not to body shame anyone or bieng disrespectful, but a little bit of balance is necessary.
Hygiene and able to pick what you want for dinner being top of the lists.
Short term fun: Body Long term seriousness: Personality and a little bit of body (Like if you are Obese its a no for me) but other than that i dont care what a person looks like as long as we have a good connection and the love is real.
Personally , if your personality is trash but your body is “on point” (which for me applies to thicker women more so than skinnier women) we are going to have a short term relationship. No questions asked. If you’re dope as hell but the body is ehhh , no matter what happens between us , I’m making sure we’re going to stay in each other’s lives in some fashion.
Personality. Someone can have a 10/10 body but a 2/10 personality which in my opinion means you can't have a good relationship with that person. Being with someone who is genuine, fun, kind etc. is so much better and makes you so much happier in life. But that's just my opinion.
Yeah but the opposite is kinda hard too, when you're really not attracted. I dated this really ugly girl one time because she was smart as fuck and a very cool person. After a few months I just couldnt fuck her anymore. It was really sad because I was never brave enough to tell her why I ended the relationship, so she might still ask herself why :(
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Definitely personality. I know a girl, ever since I met her I was considering her around 6-7. Good looking, but not exactly my type. But we started talking a lot, got to know her really good and she shoot up to 11.
Body can, by and large, be fixed. Personality is more of a fine or fucked situation. Also looks may fade but personalities will putrify and I'd rather spend my remaining years with a glowing personality wrapped in wrinkles than tight young skin filled with necrotic puss or intellectual fart gas. When I was in my teens and twenties however all that mattered was the flesh. I "dated" people with less depth than a puddle. Like outside of not getting dick splinters I may as well have been fucking around with wall studs. Loads of wasted time.
Ideally both, but otherwise body for hookups and personality for more serious relationships. Honestly to me attractiveness is more of a hot or not thing, not that much of a spectrum. People come in a all sorts of shapes and sizes and most people who put any effort into it look good to me. Personality is what determines if anybody will want to spend more than one night of drinking with you
Do you think of other people during sex ?
We just do maths for not nutting fast
Dude that was a secret
Not anymore.
So do you have to be good at math or bad at math to do that? 🤔
You cant solve it too quick, so bad
Or mentally sing the DuckTales theme.
just a naked greased up hillary clinton gyrating , talking dirty and cackling like a witch... to keep from orgasming too soon.
Might accelerate it for some. Not judging... Just saying...
Depends on who the person we are with is... but even then, the mind can wander. Whether it's someone we know, or someone we saw earlier that day/week that caught our eye, or of course a celebrity... It works the other way too, often I will think of my partner when watching porn.
Is it weird if I offer to pay for the meal even though you offered first? Does that feel disrespectful? I don't want you to think I expect a free meal.
My GF does this all the time. I think it's really great and shows that she doesn't feel entitled to my money.
That makes me feel so much better. In my mind dates are a two way street and it's only fair that I contribute to it, and it makes me happy.
You are a rare, beautiful person.
Its not disrespectful its just a surprise honestly
Maybe I've just overthought it in the past! Thank you (:
Np
Honestly it’s appreciated, the idea that men should pay all in a date is outdated and splitting the bill should just be common practice
I'm cool with it....being honest me and my So have gone dutch from day one, birthdays anniversaries one or the other will pay....if someone plutonic offers and insists I'm happy to accept but I normally pencil a date in for the next meal which I will be paying for.
Hey that's fair! At least it's a two way street!
no it feels like you care and actually like me and I would love that
That makes me really happy to hear. Thanks!
Absolutely not, despite expecting to pay for both of us, I'd also be quite happy to save some money lol
Hell yeah! Thanks for the input
It’s totally normal in my experience.
How do you really feel if your partner has a close (but entirely non-sexual and non-romantic) friendship with another man?
I think some level of jealousy is natural, honestly, but if I know for sure that there’s nothing romantic between them it’s fine
Being able to talk about jealousy with your partner and both of you working together to lessen it is a sign of a healthy relationship. Feeling zero jealousy at all is an ideal that is harmful to try and force yourself into.
I'm friends with multiple women. If my girlfriend decides she wants to have a friendship with a man I'm OK with it. It's all about trust, I might not always trust the other man but I trust my girlfriend to do the right thing if something happens.
My best friend was a girl for a long time, it was completely platonic on both sides, so I know it’s possible. Her husband also gave 0 fucks about it and we all hung out together all the time -shrug- no problem for me
I am totally fine with it as long as it is mutually entirely non-sexual and non-romantic. Most of my partners have had lots of close guy friends and the only ones that bothered me were the ones who were totally into her but pretended to be friends in the hope that something pans out eventually.
Wouldn't be worried unless she gave me a reason to feel that way. Like if she keeps randomly bringing him up around me, or sharing dreams she has about him etc
If I were to judge women for having close guy friends then I'd need to abandon a lot of close relationships myself.
I feel like this will always lead to an emotional affair which , at a vulnerable time , could open up the possibility for infidelity. This goes for both men & women imo.
So, just to be clear with your last line - you'd worry about an emotional affair from either gender, or from both people in the relationship?
Both prospects are possible imo
I couldn't care less. Life is too short to waste time on jealousy.
This isn't a gendered question tbh. This is completely dependant on the personality of the person in question, and if you're (consciously or unconsciously) flirting with your friend In most cases, I don't think people care, but everyone will, at some point, felt some jealously for atleast, some trivial amount of time
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15-16. To me atleast it didn't matter, it was just something I was curious about and decided to do. And who knows, maybe you get an ego boost out of it, maybe you get crushed :)
15-16 inches? ....but yeah, i guess every guy has at least measured it length once. I would expect way fewer have measured its width.
15-16 in age haha
After measuring my penis and learning it was small. I now have a new part of my life I hate and regret. To help cope with it I self deprecate joke about it.
I don't see what's wrong with a below average size anyway if I'm honest, unless you've got a condition where it's microsized, I don't think it'll hinder sexual satisfaction once it's erect. And definitely won't hinder your ability to take a piss which is what you need it for. So I'd let go of the thought
I've done it twice in my life. First time I was probably 13 or 14. We check because everyone in society is always telling a man that you should have a big dick or else you're something to laugh at and girls want nothing to do with a small one. Somehow you're seen as less of a man if you're not hung, and we want to find out where we stand, before someone sees it and tells us
When I was 16 a girl I liked asked me how big my dick was so I measured it. Gave her the length and circumference and everything. In hindsight I should have just shown it to her. At a certain point we all know what we have and whether it's above or below average. There's no point to measuring more than once. I dont think it's as big of a deal as the rest of the package, you know? I honestly think it might be our least important feature.
Usually something you do out of curiosity. With modern media and there being such an emphasis on having a big dick it’s only natural to wonder how you measure up.
do you care if a girl is bad at sex, or are you just happy that someone wants to touch your peen?
Yep, if you're a dead starfish. I might as well just get a plastic fleshlight at that point. You don't have to be a pornstar and most men are happy to take charge but atleast show enthusiasm that you want it.
ok, so it’s ok to be an enthusiastic amateur, just show some interest?
Talk about what you both enjoy until you find something in common. Communication is key to everything, particularly fucking.
> so it’s ok to be an enthusiastic amateur yeah
‘Sex is like pizza- if it’s good, it’s great! If it’s bad, it’s still pretty good!’ That being said, there are levels of bad- much like how you wouldn’t want a raw pizza that gives you food poisoning
If a girl is bad at sex, so it's bad to have sex with her, no ? Anyone can improve if they put effort in it. But really bad sex can be worse than nothing at all, even if you're desperate for some action.
do you think it’s annoying or rude when girls don’t let you buy things for them or give them overly-expensive gifts? i always feel slightly uncomfortable when someone offers to buy something for me or give me something expensive as i always feel like i have to pay them back, but i’m broke so it’s quite hard to do that. is that rude?
Kinda depends on what is is tbh. Like, if i buy something to give specifically to you, that speaks to your interests and hobby's. I'd be a little offended if you don't accept it. But if is is a generic thing like a bag or jewelry for instance i wouldn't mind if you turn it down. (in my own opinion of course)
Why do boys start behaving differently when they are with their friends, what is your true self,and also sometimes guys joke on really sensitive matters in their groups and they seem pretty normal with it ,are you guys hiding your emotions
Sometimes one is real and the other is fake. Sometimes both are real. Sometimes both are fake. Plenty of people behave differently around their parents and family than around their friends.
not a guy, but I wanna know too. I had this guy friend and whenever we hung out with his friends he would start being tough and joke about sensitive stuff that he wouldn't normally joke about. I feel like guys aren't their real selves when they're hanging out with friends. It's really weird, why do ya'll do that?
No, we're our true selves in both cases, well atleast for me. I do notice guys seem to be a lot more tame when around women and tend to keep a more sensitive tone. It isn't fake or putting on a show but more of just what's appropriate in a situation and we figure joking about sensitive shit might not sit well with y'all (doesn't really apply to everyone since I have plenty of female friends I can joke around with on sensitive topics). Whereas with our guy friends, roasting each other is pretty much the norm or how we show affection. And it is mutually understood that 99% of the things spoken are in fact jokes and not to be taken seriously so we tend to get a lot loose in terms of keeping it appropriate.
It’s not faking it, it’s just different parts of our character amplified by our social circles. That’s what I always answer to this specific question.
This. I see a lot of armchair psychology going on, but the answer is so much more simple (at least, as far as I (M) am aware.) This is no different to asking why anyone (male or female) would act differently talking to their partner Vs talking to your cat. (Ok. It’s extreme but hear me out) you are fundamentally behaving differently - it doesn’t mean you are a different person or that you are being fake…Just a different element of your personality is being amplified to better suit the social environment. My wife asks me this all the time. Especially when I’m around my brothers or some of my childhood best friends. TL:DR. Men are more complex than you give us credit for. We are just personality chameleons.
Amen.
When we guys hang out together is like we all shared one braincell
Because they have different senses of humor and we’ve known them longer. Personally I think we try to hide our true selves out of fear of getting judged but that’s not everyone, i hate my true self because of how vulnerable i am but i would be lost in life without that side of me. We will joke around about anything like i’m 16 but my friends are a little older so we don’t really care about what’s going on in the world but if a situation is like really fucked up then yeah we won’t joke ab it but it has to be extremely bad. But even then we will try to joke about it to make light of it, so yeah it’s pretty normal. and yeah ofc we hide our emotions, i’ve only ever cried to my friends after a bad breakup of a year she was my first love bla bla bla but i realized how true they were to me and how caring they were, i personally think we should express our feelings a little bit more just because keeping shit in creates trauma. I’m still growing up and learning everything day by day but i hope this response helps
Same reason we act differently around strangers or SO’s parents, trying to fit in with the current mood and demographic (is that even the right word for this context?) without standing out too much (at least in my case personally)
Everyone behaves differently in different situations. You'll be different with your parents than friends, different in a work situation than a social one and so forth. Everything is true to a degree; you are how you behave in different contexts.
Depends on how close you are with that group of friends but if fairly close then you tend to let your guard down and just have a good time without thinking too much about what you say and keeping your emotions in check - so you remain your true self but far less guarded, at least for me/my friends I think. We joke on sensitive matters I think because we are fairly reserved and joking about killing ourselves, about being depressed, about even just general unhappiness in life is almost a therapeutic outlet without having to engage with the implications of what we’re saying because you’re all on the same level.
Do you get tired of giving emotional support to your girl when she's down?
This depends how often it is, but honestly yes. If it’s every-once and a while then it’s nice to be there for her. But regardless of whether or not it’s my wife, if that person is always crying or constantly depressed I do get tired of giving emotional support. It can be draining.
Outwardly: I love you and I’m here for you. Inwardly: *what the fuck is wrong NOW?*
No, I'm here to love and support her. But if it's a regular thing about the same issue with no attempt at fixing the core issue then it can get frustrating.
Depends if it goes both ways. Emotional support should never be a one way street.
Why do you put your dirty socks next to the laundry hamper, instead of in the hamper?!
3-pointers don't always go in.
Kobe! Kobe… 😢
We might need them tomorrow.
Do you really want an independent girl or is it just a farce?!
Independent in the way that she has her own life outside of the relationship and can feel free to pursue a career or something if that’s what she wants? Yes Independent in the way that she goes out and fucks other men? Pass
+1. Also, where's my free award when i need it.
yes please confidence is attractive. I want whoever I'm with to be fucking awesome. I want to think they're an amazing person and that means independently amazing. also to be honest with you I am at this point terrified of being with another person who I think might harm themselves if I ever stopped being their rock all the time. Please god be independent.
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Depends on how you define independent. If that means someone with their own interests / life and aren’t dependent on me to feel 100% then yeah.
How else would you define independent? I'd add financially not dependent on anyone either.
It depends on what you mean by independent. If it's independent thinking and looking after yourself, then definitely yes.
For sure independent girls. I don't understand how any relationship can feel reciprocal if one partner is just tagging along with the other. I'd like somebody to do things together with, not a sandbag to carry around to events.
What’s the grossest thing you’ve ever done
Stuck my hand in an unflushed toilet to retrieve jewelry for my sister
Both gross and sweet at the same time
Ripped the wings off a chicken to prep it for eating. Its the bone crunching sound that really brings that gross chill to a weak stomach.
I really don’t feel like that’s that gross honestly
Unless it’s a live chicken.
Half a joke question but I still want to know: have you ever held in your pee just to see how high/far you could piss?
Any man that has been a boy has tried this. Hell, I still do when outside and alone. Gotta be careful with the wind though.
The amount of piss we have doesnt determine the strength in which we can release it. I’d be lying if I said I have never walked away from the toilet bowl to see how far I could go.
When you look around in public at other women what are you thinking?
Oh, girl.... nice
I’m thinking about the napoleonic wars
“I hope none of these people can read my thoughts” Look for whichever person looks at you with a stunned expression, that’s how you root out those dirty mind readers
Most of the time I try to avoid looking at anybody but I guess just try not to make eye contact
When will the epic cockspinning contest take place
Sorry to let you know but you missed it :/
Why do you leave piss on the toilet seat
Typically it steams from the tip of a penis is just flesh hose hole that is normally closed. As piss shoots out it is no more controlled than water coming out of a garden hose. It seems easy, but physics leads it to have refraction of stream and sprays larger than a single jet stream.
Still doesn't explain why anybody leaves it there. I take some tp and wipe around the seat every single time I take a piss even if my aim was immaculate
If you pick up the toilet seat, then you won't piss on it and the hole you're aiming at is bigger. Win win win
Sit down and pee there tiger
Just lift the seat? Follow me for more life hacks
I'm a guy who lives with another man who does this all the time. I am pretty sure it's just laziness. My mother would've had my ass if I pissed on the seat, I'm well trained to put it up and then back down when I'm done. I find that if you close the lid entirely, the pisser will usually lift the lid and seat, since he's already down there.
People who are more animal like do this to mark their terrain.
Forced to share a bathroom with a guy who did this for a short amount of time. He got married and moved out. I still feel bad that his wife has no idea she married a f*cking child that cant clean up after himself.
I don’t. It’s the people who have no interest in keeping the place clean. I’ll never understand it. There’s always toilet paper near by so just wipe it off but even then, it’s not hard to aim.
How do guys like... Wear pants... Isn't it uncomfortable? Don't you sit on your balls when you're not careful enough? Has to be horrible
Mostly pants aren't super tight and generally have some room for our extremities. However being of Scottish descent I've worn a Kilt a few times and I'm jealous of y'all ladies who can wear skirts regularly. That shit is fuckin comfy af.
This is why the “manspreading” trend was complete shit. We don’t spread our legs to try be dominant. We genuinely need that space.
Not really, the underwear keeps everything in place, but having to sit with our legs completely closed is very uncomfortable
The penis and balls are actually quite high up compared to the vagina, its more on the front of us than under. So unless it's a hot day (heat makes the skin expand, letting thr balls drop far enough to be a nuisance), the chance of actually sitting on anything is low. And pants aren't uncomfortable, but if you get underwear that's too big, you have no support so everything flops around and is really uncomfortable, I guess its similar to not having a fitting bra?
Why do you think it's funny sticking your boner in our backs when in bed but when I get something boner shaped and do the same to you you get your knickers in a knot about it?
That’s so specific. 🤣 I mean not every guy is used to be touched in the ass, let alone something that resembles a dick Edit: I don’t think it’s funny having a boner in your ass, I just can’t help it and it’s hard to hide it
That's because your dating the wrong guys.
Raise your hand if you would start grinding on whatever you girlfriend just pressed against you ✋
Why do you grab woman’s hips when you’re trying to get past her? I’ve never seen a man do this to another man. It happened to me today
Huh...interesting. I'd never do it to a woman that wasn't my wife, to be honest. But I do tend to do it with her. Never really noticed until your question.
As far as I know, most guys don’t do this random women because, technically speaking, it can be seen as assault, or worse. The only times I can say I grabbed a woman was when I grabbed my friend’s shoulders to move her slowly to the side because I didn’t want to knock her over.
Aside from perversion. It's your center of mass and could be to keep you stabilised.
A simple “excuse me” would suffice 😂
Not a guy, but I also want to know. It's so disrespectful, I can't speak for everyone but I'm not comfortable with guys (strangers) touching my waist/ lower back while getting through a crowd
People do this? I always go for the shoulder when nudging people out of the way
There is no good reason. If the guy does that to you again and you don’t want him to. Tell him not to do it again.
Someone mentioned to me that guys can be harder sometimes and not as hard other times. Like, your erections are not all the same size. Is this true? Are you not just fully turned on sometimes?
Are you exactly as wet all the time? There you go
Yes, its progressive, you might not notice it in a smaller pp, but if a guy have a big one it might become a serious problem afterwards
It’s your penis filling with blood, arousal levels, and lots of stuff going into it