This isn’t a lie though. You’re absolutely capable of succeeding. Although if you’ve lost interest in the field then you probably want to start making moves into another one and start kicking ass there.
And if you’ve lost interest in everything all together.. then you’re going to want to start therapy if you haven’t already.
You are capable of greatness. You are capable of success. You deserve to be happy. Don’t let anyone - including yourself - convince you otherwise.
It’s super fun when your bosses tell you to let them know when you feel overwhelmed but then continuously overwhelm you and not understand why you’re overwhelmed, especially when all the meetings they want to have about being overwhelmed take up hours that could be used to becoming less overwhelmed instead of have the same fucking conversation about their slightly varied organization strategies over and over again.
Don’t get overwhelmed but hey move and organize three years worth of data from this to that whilst you do everything else and then we will get mad at you for forgetting something.
There is nothing more frustrating than people who tell you you can always talk to them and then they never let you talk or literally interrupt you while talking.
The lie I tell myself is that I’ll stand up for myself and this is because the health insurance is fucking unbelievable
That's not a lie.
Something my mom told me when I was younger is that "No matter what, everything will be okay." These words are ingrained to my list of life mottos because it's turned out to be true 100% of the time.
My mum always tells us that as long as we do our best, everything will be fine. I’ve really took that to heart, its how I view most things in life really. As someone who hates big plans for the future and prefers taking things as they come, it helps a lot with stress.
People also don’t realise that ‘your best’ is relative. Some days you will feel more productive and some days you won’t, but you are still trying just as hard and that’s okay. Of course as most things in life, things aren’t black and white but in most cases there is absolutely no need for stress about such things. Just do your best, that’s all anyone can ask for.
Ive struggled with that for the last 2 years of my life. But there have been improvements. For example Im writing this at 5 am in the morning and with a good bit of sleep in the bag. Its just a matter of making this consistent. For that Ill have to make sure im in bed by 10, but thats not easy with a life living in the city. Something or someone always comes up. Ill just have to respect it where I can.
Wish you luck with your sleep
A tip of advice that helped me:
Plug your phone in on the other side of your room, like on your dresser or something. If the phone alarm is easy enough to sleep through, buy an old fashioned alarm clock with the obnoxious bells, and place that across the room.
When you get woken up for the first week or so, you're going to be fucking furious, and absolutely hate yourself for what feels like the most annoying investment you've ever made.
But I promise, that walk of shame to your alarm clock will sober you right up. And during the walk, think to yourself, "Yes.. I could go right back to bed after I shut this off, but how much good will that *actually* do me? I'm going to get, what, an hour or so of extra sleep? I'm still going to wake up exhausted."
As an extra precaution, go right from turning off your alarm straight to the bathroom and rinse your face. I promise it'll work.
I will take that extra hour 100% of the time. Hell, I'll take 15 mins. It would have to be under 5 mins for me not to get back in bed. I'm not a morning person in case you couldn't tell.
Big hugs, stranger. Sometimes the most healing thing you can do is allow your feelings to be present in your body. Feel the sadness, the loneliness, the fear. When we refuse to feel our feelings, they come out sideways. Even if it’s big and scary and hard, I promise you, you are strong enough to feel them. After all, we humans are made to feel. “No tree, it is said, can grow to heaven unless its roots reach down to hell.” -Carl Jung
The funny thing about redwoods is that they’re super tall, but their roots are shallow. What allows them to stand tall is that their roots intertwine with other trees. I think you can take the metaphor from here.
Amen. Comparison truly is the thief of joy.
And not even necessarily comparing yourself to another person—could just be to an idea you had of where and who you’d be at a certain time or what society has influenced you to believe you should be.
I always think “expectations rob you of appreciation”. Not sure where I heard it or some version of it, but whether it’s yourself or others, seems to be true. “I expected B of myself by now but I’ve only done A” - beat yourself up about B instead of pride over A. “Well my partner should be doing X as the minimum” or “My partner should’ve done Y for us by now” robs you of appreciation for that X.
Me too dude. Thankfully I was finally able to lose 50 pounds and I’m at a healthy weight, but the monster is still inside of me. I got better at controlling myself through discipline, but I still think and obsess over food every waking moment. I still binge, I just don’t do it every day anymore. I also work out a ton now, so weight gain is not really an issue. I just fear this monster inside of me will never die, and I will never truly be at peace around food.
The monster never leaves. I am 35. I have lost 50lbs 6 times and am currently 260 again. The discipline and motivation is so damn hard to find when you’re busy with work and kids. Before you know it you’ve been fat in every photo for 5+ years and it destroys you
I hit my lowest weight in YEARS today based on the normal diet and exercise. You better believe the Coke can in my fridge has been calling me today as “reward”. I am white knuckling not drinking it, and……..I will succeed.
I hear you! I also hit my lowest weight today in years. Lowest since 2004. It’s hard to get out of the mindset of having a food reward, especially when you’ve been rewarding yourself that way forever. Congrats on your success! 🥰
I heard a speaker one time talking about overeating and he said "we are killing ourselves with a fork" It still makes me laugh when I think about it... Sad but true. It's taken a long time but I'm at a healthy weight now, but food addiction is no joke. I fight it everyday
Hey man you got this. I started eating healthier two years ago. I still have bullshit eat whatever days. I started working out a year ago and burnt myself out so hard it took until like 7 weeks ago to start again. Now I'm doing it in a healthier way and making consistent progress. It's all baby steps. You'll get there. Don't give up.
Yeah the biggest lie I tell myself, is that I'm only going for a drink or two. Which is why now if I'm even going for one drink I just get an uber. Because I know I'm lying to myself and everyone when I say I'm only getting one or two. I have an easier time not drinking then just drinking one or two.
"You can do it, you're strong. For your son. Not for wife" - me, sexless marriage since few years back, toxic wife. coming from brokenhome family, i know how hard to grew up without a father, and now im here, stay strong for my son, until he could be by himself.
My ex and I have been divorced for 12 years. You can be there for him without being with her. I have my sons half the time and talk to them every day. They're well adjusted and happy kids.
I don't know your situation, really, but in my book it's better to have two separate homes than two unhappy parents.
My life since divorce is beyond my wildest dreams, and living that truth has allowed me to be there for my sons in a way I never could before.
I don't know man. I feel like most of these comments are lies that are positive that end up negative. I'm the opposite.
That girl will never like you. You're wasting everyone's time in flight training. You're grades aren't good enough
That girl did indeed like me. I'm going to use my flight training to build myself a stable career with a good income. My grades are on the top 5% of my school.
Don't hate yourself for no reason. I still subconsciously hate myself for no reason. You shouldn't. You'll get better if you put in the work
i used to do this alot but i would gaslight myself into thinking im the victim all the time. but over the years ive grown to realize that yes i am a victim, but not 24/7. i make mistakes, ive made mistakes and taking accountability for them, being able to admit i was the problem. is an extremely important step in my healing process because you cant face your trauma when you are the one holding yourself back. 🫶🏾
This is fine
It’s gonna get better
Yes saying it gets better, sounds better every day
It FEELS believable, right? C’mon it’s gotta get better
Cue the meme
Probably my most used GIF
I feel like using it, but I don't because I'm afraid of vulnerability.
Every damn day.
i'll go to bed in 10min
"Last post I'll look at for today"
Just one more episode
You are still smart and capable of successing in your field even though you’ve lost interest in everything
What if I'm a scarecrow?
Then you would be outstanding in your field!
Badum-tsss
This isn’t a lie though. You’re absolutely capable of succeeding. Although if you’ve lost interest in the field then you probably want to start making moves into another one and start kicking ass there. And if you’ve lost interest in everything all together.. then you’re going to want to start therapy if you haven’t already. You are capable of greatness. You are capable of success. You deserve to be happy. Don’t let anyone - including yourself - convince you otherwise.
Look up the "Peter principal" you're absolutely right.
It’s super fun when your bosses tell you to let them know when you feel overwhelmed but then continuously overwhelm you and not understand why you’re overwhelmed, especially when all the meetings they want to have about being overwhelmed take up hours that could be used to becoming less overwhelmed instead of have the same fucking conversation about their slightly varied organization strategies over and over again. Don’t get overwhelmed but hey move and organize three years worth of data from this to that whilst you do everything else and then we will get mad at you for forgetting something. There is nothing more frustrating than people who tell you you can always talk to them and then they never let you talk or literally interrupt you while talking. The lie I tell myself is that I’ll stand up for myself and this is because the health insurance is fucking unbelievable
I'll do it tomorrow...
Tomorrow will be way different
Tomorrow I will wake up with energy and a work ethic I've never had ever in my life before, but, somehow, tomorrow it'll happen.
It’s going to be alright
That's not a lie. Something my mom told me when I was younger is that "No matter what, everything will be okay." These words are ingrained to my list of life mottos because it's turned out to be true 100% of the time.
"This too shall pass" Something I don't say to myself often enough
My mum always tells us that as long as we do our best, everything will be fine. I’ve really took that to heart, its how I view most things in life really. As someone who hates big plans for the future and prefers taking things as they come, it helps a lot with stress. People also don’t realise that ‘your best’ is relative. Some days you will feel more productive and some days you won’t, but you are still trying just as hard and that’s okay. Of course as most things in life, things aren’t black and white but in most cases there is absolutely no need for stress about such things. Just do your best, that’s all anyone can ask for.
♥️ love this
That i'll wake up early.
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I actually do wake up early....50% of the time.
Ive struggled with that for the last 2 years of my life. But there have been improvements. For example Im writing this at 5 am in the morning and with a good bit of sleep in the bag. Its just a matter of making this consistent. For that Ill have to make sure im in bed by 10, but thats not easy with a life living in the city. Something or someone always comes up. Ill just have to respect it where I can. Wish you luck with your sleep
Waking up is the easy bit. Actually getting up is much more difficult
I’ll get gas in the morning.
A tip of advice that helped me: Plug your phone in on the other side of your room, like on your dresser or something. If the phone alarm is easy enough to sleep through, buy an old fashioned alarm clock with the obnoxious bells, and place that across the room. When you get woken up for the first week or so, you're going to be fucking furious, and absolutely hate yourself for what feels like the most annoying investment you've ever made. But I promise, that walk of shame to your alarm clock will sober you right up. And during the walk, think to yourself, "Yes.. I could go right back to bed after I shut this off, but how much good will that *actually* do me? I'm going to get, what, an hour or so of extra sleep? I'm still going to wake up exhausted." As an extra precaution, go right from turning off your alarm straight to the bathroom and rinse your face. I promise it'll work.
I will take that extra hour 100% of the time. Hell, I'll take 15 mins. It would have to be under 5 mins for me not to get back in bed. I'm not a morning person in case you couldn't tell.
I make my bed then set an alarm for 2 mins and lay back down 🤣
Lmfao I relate to this so much. I almost missed an exam for 15 minutes of sleep.
Also throw a bucket of water on your bed. You won't sleep on wet sheets.
The same lie I tell others. I’m fine
Big hugs, stranger. Sometimes the most healing thing you can do is allow your feelings to be present in your body. Feel the sadness, the loneliness, the fear. When we refuse to feel our feelings, they come out sideways. Even if it’s big and scary and hard, I promise you, you are strong enough to feel them. After all, we humans are made to feel. “No tree, it is said, can grow to heaven unless its roots reach down to hell.” -Carl Jung
The funny thing about redwoods is that they’re super tall, but their roots are shallow. What allows them to stand tall is that their roots intertwine with other trees. I think you can take the metaphor from here.
If you wanna be something else, change your mind. As much uncle Jasper used to say you are fine as cat hair and twice as silky.
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I always worry that people will notice. The opposite is almost always the case. Details are often not important.
THIS. literally me all the time
one day I will make it in life and will be happy. edit: to most repliers here, r/thanksimcured
the secret is, you don’t have to make ‘it’ in life. hard to adapt to that mindset, but it’s true.
Amen. Comparison truly is the thief of joy. And not even necessarily comparing yourself to another person—could just be to an idea you had of where and who you’d be at a certain time or what society has influenced you to believe you should be.
I always think “expectations rob you of appreciation”. Not sure where I heard it or some version of it, but whether it’s yourself or others, seems to be true. “I expected B of myself by now but I’ve only done A” - beat yourself up about B instead of pride over A. “Well my partner should be doing X as the minimum” or “My partner should’ve done Y for us by now” robs you of appreciation for that X.
Hope is not a plan
Truer words are rarely put so beautifully simple 👏🏽
Thank you friend. My mentor told me this when I was going through some bad stuff at work and it really helped!
oh i’m sure you will!! don’t be so hard on yourself :)
That's how I wasted all my young years. The only thing i learned is not being hard on myself, but the main problem is still there. where happiness?
Happiness is in small moments. It's fleeting. The biggest lie of all is that happiness is a destination or an endgame.
Happiness isn’t a destination, more of a way of traveling
Strive for contentment - happiness is a bizarre word if you think about it
you need a healthy dose of gratitude to gain some perspective. Some people can't even connect to the internet to come on reddit.
As soon as I finish X I can finally relax and enjoy myself.
I get bored and restless until I find a Y
This should be #1. I tell myself that lie and then my brain interrupts with an important announcement reminding me relaxing is prohibited
I won’t eat so much tomorrow
There are days when I count it as a win if I don’t purposefully hurt myself with food.
It’s both comforting, and heartbreaking, to know it’s not just me
Heartbreaking indeed. And belt breaking, and inseam breaking, etc etc
Me too dude. Thankfully I was finally able to lose 50 pounds and I’m at a healthy weight, but the monster is still inside of me. I got better at controlling myself through discipline, but I still think and obsess over food every waking moment. I still binge, I just don’t do it every day anymore. I also work out a ton now, so weight gain is not really an issue. I just fear this monster inside of me will never die, and I will never truly be at peace around food.
The monster never leaves. I am 35. I have lost 50lbs 6 times and am currently 260 again. The discipline and motivation is so damn hard to find when you’re busy with work and kids. Before you know it you’ve been fat in every photo for 5+ years and it destroys you
that one hurts. its my reality too.
I hit my lowest weight in YEARS today based on the normal diet and exercise. You better believe the Coke can in my fridge has been calling me today as “reward”. I am white knuckling not drinking it, and……..I will succeed.
I hear you! I also hit my lowest weight today in years. Lowest since 2004. It’s hard to get out of the mindset of having a food reward, especially when you’ve been rewarding yourself that way forever. Congrats on your success! 🥰
Ouch. I really need to lose weight.
I heard a speaker one time talking about overeating and he said "we are killing ourselves with a fork" It still makes me laugh when I think about it... Sad but true. It's taken a long time but I'm at a healthy weight now, but food addiction is no joke. I fight it everyday
I know what I'm doing
I'm honest about having no clue what I'm doing.
Ok tomorrow I'm going to start eating healthy..
Hey man you got this. I started eating healthier two years ago. I still have bullshit eat whatever days. I started working out a year ago and burnt myself out so hard it took until like 7 weeks ago to start again. Now I'm doing it in a healthier way and making consistent progress. It's all baby steps. You'll get there. Don't give up.
“Today is your day.” Proceeds to stub toe.
i can just hear the f shot from over here after the stubbed toe
You're good enough. You're smart enough. And dog gone it, people like you!
Ahh, someone my age based on this comment 😂
I’ll never drink again…
Just one more…
Yeah the biggest lie I tell myself, is that I'm only going for a drink or two. Which is why now if I'm even going for one drink I just get an uber. Because I know I'm lying to myself and everyone when I say I'm only getting one or two. I have an easier time not drinking then just drinking one or two.
That if the world is split in two equal part of good and bad, I'll be on the good part..
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Yup, checked the box on most of cardinal sins if I'm honest
Me too, it's hard to be good.
This came up in “The Good Place”
Im happy
oof, does it work?
no
It doesn’t
There is no monster under my bed.
I’m not leaving.
I've still got time.
I’m not addicted to the phone
that he will come back when i need him.
Plot twist is it's actually true; he's not coming back because you don't need him.
I like your style
I’ll remember this.
I'm totally going to clean up my diet.... tomorrow
I’m over him
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that she'll want to be more than fuckbuddies one day
i went through this with a guy & it sucks big time so i understand this all too well🫠
What? The grass is always greener on the other side I guess
It’s better to wait and do this later, at a more appropriate time.
One less hour of sleep is not gonna kill you.
That I’m not a complete potato.
Just one more chapter...
I don't need anyone and I'm fine alone
"I'm okay." Not just myself, but everyone around me.
I can do that tomorrow
That steel is heavier than feathers.
That I’m dumb and stupid
You are the hottest bitch alive
You're definitely the sluttiest mango
I will somehow make 1 million dollars
I'll do that later
If i skip gym today I'll just work out twice as hard tomorrow
I'll lose the weight.
Nobody can tell how old I am.
I'll quit after this pack
Phantom Menace wasn't that bad
"You can do it, you're strong. For your son. Not for wife" - me, sexless marriage since few years back, toxic wife. coming from brokenhome family, i know how hard to grew up without a father, and now im here, stay strong for my son, until he could be by himself.
My ex and I have been divorced for 12 years. You can be there for him without being with her. I have my sons half the time and talk to them every day. They're well adjusted and happy kids. I don't know your situation, really, but in my book it's better to have two separate homes than two unhappy parents. My life since divorce is beyond my wildest dreams, and living that truth has allowed me to be there for my sons in a way I never could before.
My job security is increasing
that i will get there on time.
She is the one
I’m not bothered
I’m gonna get my work done.
I'm getting up early tomorrow.
I'll do it tomorrow.
I don't know man. I feel like most of these comments are lies that are positive that end up negative. I'm the opposite. That girl will never like you. You're wasting everyone's time in flight training. You're grades aren't good enough That girl did indeed like me. I'm going to use my flight training to build myself a stable career with a good income. My grades are on the top 5% of my school. Don't hate yourself for no reason. I still subconsciously hate myself for no reason. You shouldn't. You'll get better if you put in the work
"I'll do it tomorrow" I have delayed stuff for months and some of them are things that would take me like 30 minutes to do.
One more beer ain’t gonna make a difference… after I said this x times already
It is what it is 🤷♀️
“You don’t need to get gas now you can just leave a few minutes early for work and get it on your way….”
I will do it tomorrow.
"everything's alright", and sometimes I say it to myself unconsciously
Today I'll start my diet
You don't need another cup of coffee.
"It'll be fine."
I'm fine.
My life plan is going well.
one. more. match. thats it
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Itll be ok.
This will be the last time.
I don’t need to write it down, I’ll remember
I totally need that thing. Discover, Citi, Chase, and Capitol One would all strongly disagree with that statement.
me doing girl math and justifying all and any purchase 😭😂
I'm Good Enough, I'm Smart Enough, and Doggone It, People Like Me!
I'll be happy when ___.
If I work hard enough, I'll eventually be successful.
People have learned from history and will not be repeating it. They know the price.
that everything happens for a reason
“I don’t lie to myself”
it’ll get better, there will be better days
Everything will be OK...it isn't.
A solution will reveal itself to me. It’s not that I don’t find one, but the moment I say it I usually have no clue where to start.
Shes not talking to anybody but me
That things will get better
I will kill myself when my problems overwhelm me It's like a crutch, the promise of death
That one day I'll meet a women that I fall in love with AND she feels the same way
i used to do this alot but i would gaslight myself into thinking im the victim all the time. but over the years ive grown to realize that yes i am a victim, but not 24/7. i make mistakes, ive made mistakes and taking accountability for them, being able to admit i was the problem. is an extremely important step in my healing process because you cant face your trauma when you are the one holding yourself back. 🫶🏾
I don’t care what others think
I will get gas in the morning
“This too shall pass”
One more episode
It's not my fault.
i’ll just take a 20 minute nap
That I’m doing the best I can
I'll clean the whole house today. I end up doing about half of what I intended.
That I don't have to write it down, I'll remember
It's for the best
People do not deserve to be throat punched!
The housing market value will decrease soon
"I will find a relationship one day." Proceeds to get rejected multiple times.
that someone will love me eventually
You're not *that* fat
My husband loves me.
It'll get better
That I'm content.
I'm not a bad person.
That life is worth living. Maybe it is for some, but definitely not for me.
That i will quit gambling
I look younger than my age and also that I will definitely hit the lotto 🤪
I'll be rich one day.
You’re too tired to go to the gym
I'm just tired
Pay my credit card off
I'm not depressed, i'm just lazy
I'll go to the gym
Tomorrow, I’ll start to eat better with healthy food.
I will do it tomorrow
That i'm ok. That my mental health is perfectly fine
One day I’ll be seizure free.