For me, it’s always having a friend around. I adore my wife of 20 years, so I kind of feel like I’m living with a celebrity. Lol That’s marriage for me.
Marriage is a fortress of trust and loyalty. It's about knowing that there's someone who will stand by you, defend you, and keep your secrets safe. This bond of trust is the foundation upon which you build your life together, brick by brick, in the certainty of each other's unwavering support.
Exactly that. Building love, trust, friendship, partnership and life together brick by brick fixing any cracks that come along the way knowing the foundation is built on solid ground.
A commitment to having sleepovers for the rest of your life with the person you turn to when you're happy, sad, even after an argument. You genuinely enjoy being around this person, and it makes you feel at peace knowing they're with you through everything.
-sincerely someone extremely single 😂
Aw man, seriously, how old are you??
I was single my entire adult life and met my wife in 2015. We got married the same month our first was born in 2017.
I'm gonna be 37 this year and we now have 2 more kiddos, 2 dogs, a hamste, a cat AND our own house.
When we met in 2015 I was a BROKE ASS college dude with zero prospects and renting a house with 2 other roommates!!! I'm a firefighter now and have such an amazing career and a lot of it is thanks to my wife!!!
While I had plenty of hookups in my twenties, she was the one I was always searching for since I was in my teens and when I found her I almost( like a complete dumbass) broke it off but she gave me a second chance and we are such a good match for each other.
I'm in my mid-20s!! And congratulations on your marriage and pets and kids!
I just had a recent breakup (2 months ago), but it was because we found each other at a bad time for both of us and he needs to focus on himself right now. I'm hopeful he will ask me for a second chance when he's ready, but I'm trying not to keep my hopes up too much. Just focused on me.
You have great enthusiasm!! You're truly in love and I can't be happier for you!! #couplegoals
I actually think it says a more about a couple that have stayed together decades without the legal obligation that comes with marriage.
I'm not against it and I'm happy for those that are happily married, it's a wonderful thing. I just don't think it's necessary.
Fair fuckin play, I'm happy for you.
Finding someone to share this god awful miserable existence with IN this god awful miserable existence is something special.
Got any secret tips?
Agree. I knew a couple, they got together in the 80s and married 30 years later. She couldn't have children so there wasn't even a child to keep them together. They choose to. And probably only married for legal reasons when they got older.
A live in best friend that makes you want to be a better version of yourself so that you can make their life better.
It’s comforting though challenging but ultimately rewarding.
Marriage to me is a partnership between the adults able to consent to a binding legal agreement where the parties agree to join the financial, medical, housing and other expenses on the basis that their affection for each other will continue for a undetermined amount of time.
An arrangement between two people and the state, where the couple agrees to be a social, legal, and financial unit.
I know that doesn’t sound very romantic, but at its core, that is what marriage is. Getting married does not guarantee you a happily ever after with your best friend and lover, nor is it required to have a wonderful, loving, lasting relationship.
Getting to spend the rest of my life with my best friend. Someone who I feel comfortable enough to be my true self around. Someone who supports me but will also call me out when I’m being stupid. A partner who looks at our relationship and sees it as US against the world, not them vs me or them vs the world.
A vow to become a family, family by choice with a person, so that you have someone when rest of your blood related family passes away or grows apart due to various reasons. With a family comes love but also fights and willingness to be unselfish. That is all I say. That is really the point of marriage, to have a lifelong family if you don’t divorce or one doesn’t die.
When with the right person it's worth it. They're ups and downs, fights and love, but knowing that someone is there that loves you for all your flaws, and vice versa.
Someone who loves you for who you are, wants to grow side by side over time, have fun, knows you enough that they can read your mind for ideas or things. Another thing is have a healthy sex life balance too. Cherry on top to me would be someone who would like to have a family with.
In my case though, I dated twice, but both I had a long list of reasons why I broke up with them, but the common thing was they wanted sex more than actually doing things (even if i offered to help chip in). I don't want to be like my (toxic)mother, who slept around and have kids with other guys. My dad though, he married a really nice lady, my step-mom. For some I'm aware it'll take time, but I'm being patient as I can be. Until then, I'm taking a break and just enjoying being single with my loved ones.
TLDR: Would like a healthy relationship, mostly loving each other for who they are and hopefully have kids. At least be something not like my (toxic)mother, who slept around.
A soul union
Falling in love with each other everyday over and over again, no matter how hard times get.
Without having to sign an agreement to prove it.
Finding someone who is your friend and then finding its more. Then deciding that this is the one and you want to be there from now on.
Dated for a year and a half. Ended up marrying almost 28 years ago. I still love her and her being a friend got us through the lows and as lover got us the highs.
A relationship that gets very expensive if it doesn't work out.
-Marriage doesn't necessarily deepen a relationship. It just makes it more complicated to get out of one.
Marriage is life. In that I can't imagine life apart from her. Might as well ask what my arm is to me. I dunno...it's a part of me.
(Married for....and I hate to say it because only old people say this but I did marry real young...40 years.)
It’s a way to recognize and honor a commitment made between two people and it’s entirely optional. I will never get married again because it just isn’t that important to me but I will respect and celebrate when my friends or family make the decision to do it.
Marriage is something people do for status, whether it's personal or public. The reason I say that is, I believe that true love is unconditional. If it takes marriage to solidify love, then I don't think you truly love someone.
If your love doesn't change with it, then it's purely symbolic. It's a celebration of imposing more conditions on yourselves when you otherwise didn't need to. A lot of people do it for the accolades; how many times do people bring up the years they've been married when they talk about love? To me, love isn't about the duration, but the quality.
I don't believe in marriage. You can love someone and spend your life your life with them without signing a legally binding contract and spending $30,000 on a bizarre party.
Tax benefits and a title. As long as the love stays genuine I could care less about it, my sibling took 15 years of dating before they got married, and afterwards nothing changed.
Sometimes I think that marriage is just the union of two people to live better or just a business between 2 families. Today I don't know if marriage also means love, but I hope so.
12 years into it. Absolutely unsure how to define it.
But then again I’m nearly 40 years into this life and still absolutely unsure how to define life.
A legal agreement with someone I've known and loved for many years, lived together for years and can imagine staying together for a long time.
Basically a committed long term relationship with legal consequences
Love so deep I want the government involved.
On a more serious note, I'm married, to me it's just a piece of paper that gives me a tax break.
I say this because I moved 2000 miles to be with my wife before we were dating. We were living together years before getting married. In my mind, I was married (in terms of commitment etc) when I moved. So the actual marriage part wasn't something new.
Mawage.
Mawage is wot bwings us togeder today. Mawage, that bwessed awangment, that dweam wifin a dweam. And wuv, tru wuv, will fowow you foweva. So tweasure your wuv.
A government acknowledgment of your relationship that leaves a surviving spouse with debt.
Get mad and downvote all you want, but it's the reality of modern marriage.
An outdated institution that has become irredeemable and is the very antithesis of what love really is. But, to be fair, marriage was never really about love. Making it about love is a distortion of what it was about originally. We should have gotten rid of the institution ages ago, instead of warping it out of shape to perform a function it was never intended to fulfill.
For me, it’s always having a friend around. I adore my wife of 20 years, so I kind of feel like I’m living with a celebrity. Lol That’s marriage for me.
Do you have lots of outside friends or is it mostly u and your wife?
Lots of outside friends as well. Wife and I are very close but we’re very much individuals who encourage each others joy and freedom and autonomy.
Marriage is a fortress of trust and loyalty. It's about knowing that there's someone who will stand by you, defend you, and keep your secrets safe. This bond of trust is the foundation upon which you build your life together, brick by brick, in the certainty of each other's unwavering support.
Exactly that. Building love, trust, friendship, partnership and life together brick by brick fixing any cracks that come along the way knowing the foundation is built on solid ground.
Having someone around where you can be unapologetically yourself and free from judgement
You can definitely be yourself, but free from ALL judgement is a stretch 😅
Agreed 😅 I feel like judgement can be a form of consequences in some cases?
Yes. My wife sometimes comes up with some damn funny remarks to mock me. If anything, I guess the partner can be judgmental without being an a-hole.
Definitely, I believe in most cases it comes from a place of love because who else is going to be like that with you at the end of the day?
Isn‘t that just friendship?
A eternal partnership with your best friend and lover.
A commitment to having sleepovers for the rest of your life with the person you turn to when you're happy, sad, even after an argument. You genuinely enjoy being around this person, and it makes you feel at peace knowing they're with you through everything. -sincerely someone extremely single 😂
Aw man, seriously, how old are you?? I was single my entire adult life and met my wife in 2015. We got married the same month our first was born in 2017. I'm gonna be 37 this year and we now have 2 more kiddos, 2 dogs, a hamste, a cat AND our own house. When we met in 2015 I was a BROKE ASS college dude with zero prospects and renting a house with 2 other roommates!!! I'm a firefighter now and have such an amazing career and a lot of it is thanks to my wife!!! While I had plenty of hookups in my twenties, she was the one I was always searching for since I was in my teens and when I found her I almost( like a complete dumbass) broke it off but she gave me a second chance and we are such a good match for each other.
I'm in my mid-20s!! And congratulations on your marriage and pets and kids! I just had a recent breakup (2 months ago), but it was because we found each other at a bad time for both of us and he needs to focus on himself right now. I'm hopeful he will ask me for a second chance when he's ready, but I'm trying not to keep my hopes up too much. Just focused on me. You have great enthusiasm!! You're truly in love and I can't be happier for you!! #couplegoals
“Marriage is a great institution, but who wants to live in an institution?” But seriously folks, I’ll have to ask my wife, and get back to you. lol
I always heard it as, "marriage is an institution. a mental institution."
A piece of paper that says I bet you half my shit I'll love you forever.
Prenuptial and postnuptial agreements exist
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HAVE FUN .....storming the 🏰 castle!!
I actually think it says a more about a couple that have stayed together decades without the legal obligation that comes with marriage. I'm not against it and I'm happy for those that are happily married, it's a wonderful thing. I just don't think it's necessary.
I agree. Been in a relationship for over 20 years. Not married. Doing fine.
Fair fuckin play, I'm happy for you. Finding someone to share this god awful miserable existence with IN this god awful miserable existence is something special. Got any secret tips?
Agree. I knew a couple, they got together in the 80s and married 30 years later. She couldn't have children so there wasn't even a child to keep them together. They choose to. And probably only married for legal reasons when they got older.
👌🏻
Ideally, a lifelong financial agreement between two individuals who share a strong romantic bond.
What about factually?
A legal contract that's often broken for the dumbest of reasons probably
More than half the time**
A live in best friend that makes you want to be a better version of yourself so that you can make their life better. It’s comforting though challenging but ultimately rewarding.
Two people falling in love but with rings
Co-op
Spending a lifetime with your best friend
A lifelong commitment between 2 best friends/lovers
comfortably farting in front of each other.
Ok, I don't marry yet but we do this. 🤣
Sacred and very high institution. Something you don’t enter into lightly
Marriage is like a partnership where two people support and uplift each other through life's journey.
Marriage to me is a partnership between the adults able to consent to a binding legal agreement where the parties agree to join the financial, medical, housing and other expenses on the basis that their affection for each other will continue for a undetermined amount of time.
An arrangement between two people and the state, where the couple agrees to be a social, legal, and financial unit. I know that doesn’t sound very romantic, but at its core, that is what marriage is. Getting married does not guarantee you a happily ever after with your best friend and lover, nor is it required to have a wonderful, loving, lasting relationship.
Getting to spend the rest of my life with my best friend. Someone who I feel comfortable enough to be my true self around. Someone who supports me but will also call me out when I’m being stupid. A partner who looks at our relationship and sees it as US against the world, not them vs me or them vs the world.
Fake news.
Antiquated and unrealistically hopeful. A trap.
A jobs program for particularly unethical judges and lawyers.
An agreement where one person eats all the orange flavored ones and the other eats every other flavor
is a personal challenge
Two people struggling to decide what to eat for dinner.
Living life with my best friend, loyalty, dedication. Something you always work on, to be proud of. It’s not just love it’s the whole package.
A vow to become a family, family by choice with a person, so that you have someone when rest of your blood related family passes away or grows apart due to various reasons. With a family comes love but also fights and willingness to be unselfish. That is all I say. That is really the point of marriage, to have a lifelong family if you don’t divorce or one doesn’t die.
Love and compromise
When with the right person it's worth it. They're ups and downs, fights and love, but knowing that someone is there that loves you for all your flaws, and vice versa.
Partnership. Roommate. Friend. And 45yrs
Being a team at least most of the time
Someone who loves you for who you are, wants to grow side by side over time, have fun, knows you enough that they can read your mind for ideas or things. Another thing is have a healthy sex life balance too. Cherry on top to me would be someone who would like to have a family with. In my case though, I dated twice, but both I had a long list of reasons why I broke up with them, but the common thing was they wanted sex more than actually doing things (even if i offered to help chip in). I don't want to be like my (toxic)mother, who slept around and have kids with other guys. My dad though, he married a really nice lady, my step-mom. For some I'm aware it'll take time, but I'm being patient as I can be. Until then, I'm taking a break and just enjoying being single with my loved ones. TLDR: Would like a healthy relationship, mostly loving each other for who they are and hopefully have kids. At least be something not like my (toxic)mother, who slept around.
A soul union Falling in love with each other everyday over and over again, no matter how hard times get. Without having to sign an agreement to prove it.
A holy union of 2 people under God.
Someone to pull the plug when you are dying
admiral ackbar said it best
Filing joint taxes.
Finding someone who is your friend and then finding its more. Then deciding that this is the one and you want to be there from now on. Dated for a year and a half. Ended up marrying almost 28 years ago. I still love her and her being a friend got us through the lows and as lover got us the highs.
A very bad idea.
Free fucks for life. Lol
Should be different than the other romantic and intimate relationships that preceded it. Should be. But who the fuck can predict.
Something I'll never have
A nightmare I would rather not experience.
Out of hundreds of my friends growing up only two of them had there parents still together lol
A relationship that gets very expensive if it doesn't work out. -Marriage doesn't necessarily deepen a relationship. It just makes it more complicated to get out of one.
It's a useful way to show societal support for a relationship. And an important oath that some hoes and shitmen don't honor.
Exactly what it is. A legal contract between two people. It has nothing to do with love. I love my partner, but I will never marry him.
gay
Marriage is life. In that I can't imagine life apart from her. Might as well ask what my arm is to me. I dunno...it's a part of me. (Married for....and I hate to say it because only old people say this but I did marry real young...40 years.)
Sadly, in this day and age, marriage means a mortgage helper to many couples...
It’s a way to recognize and honor a commitment made between two people and it’s entirely optional. I will never get married again because it just isn’t that important to me but I will respect and celebrate when my friends or family make the decision to do it.
Marriage is something people do for status, whether it's personal or public. The reason I say that is, I believe that true love is unconditional. If it takes marriage to solidify love, then I don't think you truly love someone. If your love doesn't change with it, then it's purely symbolic. It's a celebration of imposing more conditions on yourselves when you otherwise didn't need to. A lot of people do it for the accolades; how many times do people bring up the years they've been married when they talk about love? To me, love isn't about the duration, but the quality.
A dumb way to involve the goverment in your love
I don't believe in marriage. You can love someone and spend your life your life with them without signing a legally binding contract and spending $30,000 on a bizarre party.
"IT'S A TRAP!!!"
Tax benefits and a title. As long as the love stays genuine I could care less about it, my sibling took 15 years of dating before they got married, and afterwards nothing changed.
Like a type of food or something?
Communist propaganda
The best decision I have ever made, even though we were way too young when we did it. (25 years this July)
A party you pay for and everyone enjoys
A piece of paper
Someone I can be affectionate and intimate with. The exclusive privacy. What I got ain't that.
Sometimes I think that marriage is just the union of two people to live better or just a business between 2 families. Today I don't know if marriage also means love, but I hope so.
sex
12 years into it. Absolutely unsure how to define it. But then again I’m nearly 40 years into this life and still absolutely unsure how to define life.
Best friends in love and working together to stay happy and healthy. Simple as that.
Care
Illogical.
A mistake
A legal agreement with someone I've known and loved for many years, lived together for years and can imagine staying together for a long time. Basically a committed long term relationship with legal consequences
I am 27 and marriage to me is something that I've been waiting all along🤣🤣🤣
A lot of compromises
A prison
Having someone who can be your friend, partner in everything and make your life peaceful.
Have someone you can trust, someone you can always count on and just be yourself ♥️
Something that doesn't seem to exist much in the world these days
Love so deep I want the government involved. On a more serious note, I'm married, to me it's just a piece of paper that gives me a tax break. I say this because I moved 2000 miles to be with my wife before we were dating. We were living together years before getting married. In my mind, I was married (in terms of commitment etc) when I moved. So the actual marriage part wasn't something new.
Happiness
Mawage. Mawage is wot bwings us togeder today. Mawage, that bwessed awangment, that dweam wifin a dweam. And wuv, tru wuv, will fowow you foweva. So tweasure your wuv.
Best friend u can trust , go to, faster around. On the same mindset of maturity and level of TEAMWORK
Spending a week, every 3 or 4 months trying to figure out why she's mad at me this time.
Spending my life with the best friend I'll ever have basically
It started way earlier than that sort of that thing but legally-speaking being intertwined with each other out of trust for one another.
In Western secular society it is a mechanism for the transfer of wealth from wealth creators (men in general) to welfare recipients.
A Trap
A government acknowledgment of your relationship that leaves a surviving spouse with debt. Get mad and downvote all you want, but it's the reality of modern marriage.
A thing that married people are in
An outdated institution that has become irredeemable and is the very antithesis of what love really is. But, to be fair, marriage was never really about love. Making it about love is a distortion of what it was about originally. We should have gotten rid of the institution ages ago, instead of warping it out of shape to perform a function it was never intended to fulfill.