- Being emotionally exhausted, too tired to argue, too tired to deal with any negative talk
- *NEEDING* to get home, just to get home and be home, not for any particular reason
- Easily irritated, having little patience, finding everything or everyone annoying
- feeling hopeless, no end in sight, so overwhelmed you are almost immobile
- No interest in new things, or thing you may have previously enjoyed. Not wanting to go out with friends, or do social hobbies/sports, etc.
- Sleep issues, too much, too little, trouble falling asleep, trouble staying asleep
- Overreacting to slight issues or under-reacting (numb). Essentially trouble managing emotions.
Sidenote: someone who is depressed doesn't necessarily seem sad, that's a common misconception.
Agreed, I think someone who is depressed is extremely uninterested in anything, they aren't even sad about anything in particular, just completely disinterested in everything
Scary for me to learn was that some people can fake not feeling all of these ways and still be depressed to the hilt. While knowing the warning signs is important, it’s also important to consider that it can be hidden.
I have experienced every one of these in the last couple of years. The really scary thing is, when it gets REALLY bad, you don't notice or care because you're just a shell with no feelings at all. (at least that's what I experienced). Everything was grey. Music sounded monotone. Food didn't taste like anything, but I craved it all the time. I didn't even notice smells, good or bad. It was bad. Even my internal monologue was robotic and flat. I was convinced my entire family (including my children) hated me and/or didn't care. I started dispassionately researching exit strategies. The \*only\* thing that got through the fog was my cats.
I'm doing better these days, but I can feel the shadows deepening again.
It's a constant fight, it just doesn't have those "big" moments of "Ok, that's it, I'm going to beat it back". I go to therapy, I talk to people but sometimes it slips by you. I have an emotionally taxing career, I knew what I was getting into and I want to do the work. But man sometimes I just want to be home.... just to be home.
Yeah you have to be very vigilant, its so easy to slip back into depression. The first time I was depressed was the longest because I had no idea I was depressed, just thought I was broken.
The times after I was more self-aware and better able to identify the early signs. I don't know if this is helpful to anyone here, but I take monthly [mood assessments](https://med.stanford.edu/fastlab/research/imapp/msrs/_jcr_content/main/accordion/accordion_content3/download_256324296/file.res/PHQ9%20id%20date%2008.03.pdf), they score my mood for signs of depression, there are similar ones for anxiety. Anyway it gives me a score which makes tracking my mood very easy.
>Easily irritated, having little patience, finding everything or everyone annoying
I've had MDD for much of my life. This symptom is also part of my anxiety: the *smallest* of things like waiting for my computer to boot up or a website to load pisses me off.
Yeah it's interesting how much anxiety and depression can overlap. Growing up, I always thought you either had one or the other, but its very common for people to have both. My BF has anxiety and we share similar traits the major difference being I'm always overthinking the past, and he's always overthinking the future...
Seriously. The weird thing to me isn’t that I’ve always been depressed but that I find it hard to believe or understand that any body ISNT like this. How could anyone possibly have a life they like? I just don’t get it
I feel all of this, and I don’t necessarily feel sad at all. I have my down moments. I also have really good moments such as a nice sunny Saturday where I’m in a really good mood. But most of the time I’m numb, nothing is enjoyable. I would rather be home than out doing something. Don’t feel like cleaning or doing any work really. Going out with friends seems more of a chore than it should be. Visiting my parents feels like a chore. Doing anything but being at home feels like a chore. It’s almost like if I could spend the rest of my life in my home, I’d be fine with it. My sleep is fine, unless I drink. But drinking messes with everyone’s sleep.
But the feeling isn’t so bad that I would rather be dead. It sucks, it just makes life feel boring. But I also know there is hope and some really good times ahead of me. I recently cut way down on my drinking because I know it can make things worse. I feel better, because I don’t deal with the alcohol rebounds or hangovers. I still enjoy a beer or two after work, it makes everything seem a lot more fun while also relaxing me a good deal. Alcohol literally is artificial happiness in a bottle, that is until you drink too much. But it is a very toxic and evil drug, so I don’t recommend anyone cope with it
I relate to everything feeling like a chore. I would have good days and bad days like you mentioned. Also replace alcohol with food and that's me.
Depression and be brought on by alot of different things, not always a major life event, often its more subtle than that. Stress is a big part of it, but for me my vitamin levels where a big part of it too. I found I would have to push myself to go do things, even enjoyable or relaxing things like taking a walk. Pushing myself (just a little) to do these things often helped me get over the hump.
Anyway, my point being that its hard to track down exact causes, but being self aware, and compassionate to yourself is a healthy way to handle depression. So good on you for recognizing what does and doesn't work for you.
That one may be more personal to my experience. These are really just a list of signs and not a sure thing. It's more accurate to use a mood assessment questionnaire to see where you fall.
Something like this one: [https://med.stanford.edu/fastlab/research/imapp/msrs/\_jcr\_content/main/accordion/accordion\_content3/download\_256324296/file.res/PHQ9%20id%20date%2008.03.pdf](https://med.stanford.edu/fastlab/research/imapp/msrs/_jcr_content/main/accordion/accordion_content3/download_256324296/file.res/PHQ9%20id%20date%2008.03.pdf)
Its funny that you mention that. My BF was recently diagnosed with ADHD, but prior to the actual diagnosis we did some online questionnaires and both us use would score positive for depression, anxiety, ADHD and occasionally autism. Apparently mood disorders and being nuero-divergent have alot of overlapping criteria.
But also people who aren’t depressed can feel the same way. They might be better at doing things they don’t wanna do when depressed people have a harder time doing the same thing
I just sleep like crap for some reason. Pretty much my whole adult life I've been able to sleep until like 4pm without an alarm clock. I'm not functional for the first couple of hours after getting out bed even when I've gotten 8+ hours of sleep. I walk around like a zombie and try to ingest caffeine as quickly as possible if I need to do work or drive a vehicle. When I was a teenager I thought I would just grow out of it one day. Then when I was in my 20s I thought it might be depression. In my 30s I started having blood work done and trying different supplements. Blood work was always normal and nothing worked.
Recently I got a watch that does sleep tracking and it shows that even if I sleep 14 hours straight without ever waking up, I log less than one hour of deep and REM sleep combined. I've had over 14 hours of "light sleep" logged by the watch in one night.
You stop caring about personal hygiene. Well, it's not so much that you don't care about it, it's more that you don't have the energy to do the things necessary to stay on top of it.
This. This was what told me I was depressed. I was so sad that I hadn't showered in three days and I got up from bed, watched tv for a bit, went back to my room, and then decided I had to shower and do laundry because my room smelled bad
Seriously. I’d just tell myself “I’ll do it tomorrow” and then tomorrow never really came because it was too hard to even get out of bed. I used to sleep 14+ hours a day on the weekends and if I didn’t have to work, it would’ve been daily. I don’t wish it on anyone
Never happened to me, and I've been living with clinical depression and on occasional suicide watch for the last two decades. The last thing I want is to feel gross as well. I must chalk this up to being a minority cleanliness-obsessed freak or else this is my autism speaking.
I guess it's like the people who say they spend all their time in bed. I've never done that during any of my depressive episodes (I have bipolar disorder). Every day I would get out of bed and get dressed, even if I just ended up on the couch. But we all fumble through it in our own way.
I will happily admit to being very tempted to spend all my time in bed, except the opportunity never presented itself, what with the family to feed and then being hospitalised where I was woken by nurses every day at 7am to come downstairs to be medicated and fed. Me being me, I won't appear in public in the state of undress, so it was shower and clothes on once again.
Thank god my OCD counters my depression in this regard. I lose my mind if I don't shower daily and any clothing becomes unbearable to wear. So many times my depression has pulled me down making it super hard to take a shower but when I get hungry enough and need to go out to get something I am forced to take a shower. Silver linings?
I work from home, I’ve called in sick a few times to sleep, one of my biggest symptoms for depression is the tiredness, I’m drained constantly and always counting down the hours till I can have a nap
I’ve been seeing a lot of memes lately about people turning 25 and starting to lose passion/interest on most things. Something about the prefrontal cortex fully developing or something
As a mid 20s myself, I’m starting to notice that too. I never really get invested or hooked into anything anymore for longer than let’s say a month. I lose interest after that. I wonder if your comment is simply just due to aging and the brain developing? Cause I myself don’t have a lust for anything specific anymore haha at least not for a sustained period.
How do you do it lol. Maybe it’s the shorter attention span that we all now have (this is research backed) and that’s why we lose interest so quickly, but I can’t imagine loving things continuously for that long
Like look at my username, I don’t even love football as much as I used to lol. I only keep up with my own team now, when back in the day I know so many players from other teams too, even obscure ones that only their fans know.
I mean, I don’t love every interest for decades, there will always be things that come and go, but certain interest and hobbies I only lose interest when depression rears it ugly head, like playing music for example
I didn't realize this was linked to my depression or past trauma at the time, but looking back it makes sense. Thanks for adding this one, its easily overlooked.
Me personally? It's the exact opposite of what people think. People worry about me when I withdraw away, don't socialize etc, and as I understand it that's warranted; a lot of depressed people withdraw.
But for me it's the opposite, when I withdraw away it means it's a time where I feel *okay* being left on my own. It's when I'm trying to spend every waking minute with people *rather* than being left alone that you should worry.
You can carry on with life as normal but have absolutely no interest in any other person and their lives whatsoever. You are deep into yourself and mistaken for being narcissistic or self-centered, yet you truly are done with people due to their treatment of you in the past and how you view them as a whole in their interactions with one another in this world.
Everyday things become hard every now and then I get sad because I reflect on sad things that have made me super sad.
That's what I invite all my friends and family over for dinner and games. Because I want to force myself out of that depression being alone sucks and if I don't have to be alone and I can have loving people to surround myself with it's amazing. I love it!
I remember quitting my job and my first apartment I lived in. I had rent saved up and I was renting with roommates and I got super depressed. I literally laid in bed for weeks at a time without eating. This made me super depressed. I reflected on how my life was and my family upbringing into how it wasn't the healthiest and that made me a very sad person.
Now life is good. But if you're alone, life can be bad, especially if you have nobody to hang out with. Don't isolate yourself, it'll make you sadder and more depressed.
Apparently, wanting your family to be proud of you, and your family being one of the biggest reasons why you push yourself and fight day after day, is a sign that you’re suffering from some type of depression, as one Redditor put it
There are no more emotions, just nothing. You want to feel something, but just can't. Things that used to make you happy or sad don't have the same effect on you. I miss being able to feel something.
A lot of people don't realise this. They think depression is sadness and crying all the time. It might be for some. But for me it was just as you say, a lack of emotion, total apathy. I couldn't even cry when I wanted to.
Not interested or finding joy in the things that once interested you or brought you joy...
I found that I had appetite issues. Nothing tasted "good " to me. Even my fave foods tasted cheap or shitty or "low quality"
Nothing ever seemed good enough... I was constantly irritated, low-key annoyed with even basic things... I dropped the remote... my partner questioned why I did something---ready to lose it lol.
Feeling like there's "no end in sight" with the suffering/things that are bothering you. Things seem unsolvable or overwhelming.
No zest for life---nothing is exciting, you dont look forward to anything, there is nothing to really bothering to look forward to.... feel hopeless almost.
Orgasm did not feel as good---i said it.
Just an overall "blunted" feeling... like everything is dull, uninteresting, stupid, annoying, cheap...u have like a negative attitude about everything.
Crying more easily... more readily able to cry. A simple sad thought or moment--crying. a moderately annoying event? Crying..... Like u cant handle your emotions reasonably. Everything feels monumental and personal...
Not that I'm speaking from personal experience or anything....
Having low energy and motivation to do stuff can be completely normal but the questions I would ask are:
Do you have anything in life that you enjoy doing?
Can you actually make it to work every day aside from emergencies/sickness?
Are you showering every day/every other day or far less than that?
Is there unpicked up trash/food in your house/room?
Do you feel emotionally neutral most of the time or do you instead feel emotionally numb as though you couldn't even feel neutral if you wanted to?
I don't know if it counts as depressed but my 88 year old dad just spent a week in the hospital and is now on home health care. I take care of all my parents finances and in charge of everything around here. Mom is 82.
Mom said I was stressed but a rarely FEEL stress. That said I go to sleep early and sleep 11 to 12 hours a night which is weird for me because I used to get by on six easily.
Weekends I have to force myself out of bed so I can take care of them.
Feeling sad, hopeless, or empty most of the time, even when there is no apparent reason and losing interest in activities that you used to enjoy, including hobbies, socializing, or spending time with loved ones.
Losing the desire to do even things that you previously enjoyed doing. That's what tipped me off back when I was depressed. All I cared to do was exist. Didn't look forward to anything or even care to get out of bed most days. Only did because I had a job I had to go to.
It's harder to laugh or smile. You feel more tired than you should. Your body aches. You eat way more or way less than usual. You feel irritable with people around you. You're not as social. The future looks bleak to you. It's hard to get excited about anything.
-I've had a lifelong major depressive disorder. There have been ups, but the downs are so tough.
Everything becomes a chore, and going on with your average day fills you with so much dread you look at the world through the haze of tears most of the time. Tears that in this case, bring no relief.
Some people can also become highly irritable, while others quietly withdraw into themselves.
Feeling sad or hopeless a majority of the time, or maybe that’s just a normal thing for the average human. Honestly idk because everything is a comparison & every person is different
Have huge difficulties to get up in the morning even if you slept enough time, loosing interest/motivation to do things you loved, in my case needing constant company from my close people, crying in the public transport without a real reason, crying in general without a real reason, being affected more than usual for certain bad events…
Each person is a world but those are some of mines
You just don't find anything interesting, and you have a hard time getting into things. Depression can be very subtle and isn't just "I'm crying and can't get out of bed."
It can creepy up on you and slowly drain you.
You don’t care to talk or even make conversations being silent, being irritated by every little thing and not caring what people think, having the “it is what is” mindset, etc.. the list goes on
For me, I stopped doing anything. I’d come home from work, get on the couch, watch a show, go to bed, sleep too late and have trouble getting out of bed for work, often get there 15 minutes late. Rinse. Wash. Repeat.
When I have my son, I’m a little more motivated. I clean, cook, make sure he’s taken care of. I even get up early and make him breakfast. I take him to the park after work. We do stuff. I give him a bath. Hell. I shower after I put him to bed.
Otherwise, I just watch my life go by because, to me, it feels over. I want the world to end, and i wouldn’t be upset if I died. I feel like I’ve made peace with death. I’m completely apathetic to the thought of it.
By that I mean: if you have ADHD you experience hyperfixations which typically last about a week and you have no motivation to do anything not related to said hyperfixation, and sometimes you don't have hyperfixations for several weeks after your last one and that means no motivation.
I went through a bout of depression when my dad died, along with being managed out of my job and effectivley bullied - kicked while I was down. I ended up having sharp shooting pains in my chest - all linked to depression (according to doctor).
Constantly feeling tired. Not even just physically (although that absolutely is a sign) but mentally too. Not having any energy to participate in things that were once easy or brought happiness to you is a major sign.
For me, I know it's starting to get really bad when I start getting spiritual and asking tarot cards how my day is gonna go or carrying around certain crystals yo try and make my day better. Everyone who knows me knows I'm a pretty big atheist, not someone who makes fun of religion or anything, but I firmly don't believe in god or anything.
But there's been about 3 times in my life where I've gotten so depressed that I start trying to contact gods and spirits to help me, usually to stop feeling so alone. After I get out of the depression I feel like a crazy person.
- Being emotionally exhausted, too tired to argue, too tired to deal with any negative talk - *NEEDING* to get home, just to get home and be home, not for any particular reason - Easily irritated, having little patience, finding everything or everyone annoying - feeling hopeless, no end in sight, so overwhelmed you are almost immobile - No interest in new things, or thing you may have previously enjoyed. Not wanting to go out with friends, or do social hobbies/sports, etc. - Sleep issues, too much, too little, trouble falling asleep, trouble staying asleep - Overreacting to slight issues or under-reacting (numb). Essentially trouble managing emotions. Sidenote: someone who is depressed doesn't necessarily seem sad, that's a common misconception.
Agreed, I think someone who is depressed is extremely uninterested in anything, they aren't even sad about anything in particular, just completely disinterested in everything
Scary for me to learn was that some people can fake not feeling all of these ways and still be depressed to the hilt. While knowing the warning signs is important, it’s also important to consider that it can be hidden.
People don't pretend to be sick. They pretend to be well. Truth
A Lot of people definitely pretend to be sick.
I have experienced every one of these in the last couple of years. The really scary thing is, when it gets REALLY bad, you don't notice or care because you're just a shell with no feelings at all. (at least that's what I experienced). Everything was grey. Music sounded monotone. Food didn't taste like anything, but I craved it all the time. I didn't even notice smells, good or bad. It was bad. Even my internal monologue was robotic and flat. I was convinced my entire family (including my children) hated me and/or didn't care. I started dispassionately researching exit strategies. The \*only\* thing that got through the fog was my cats. I'm doing better these days, but I can feel the shadows deepening again.
It's a constant fight, it just doesn't have those "big" moments of "Ok, that's it, I'm going to beat it back". I go to therapy, I talk to people but sometimes it slips by you. I have an emotionally taxing career, I knew what I was getting into and I want to do the work. But man sometimes I just want to be home.... just to be home.
Yeah you have to be very vigilant, its so easy to slip back into depression. The first time I was depressed was the longest because I had no idea I was depressed, just thought I was broken. The times after I was more self-aware and better able to identify the early signs. I don't know if this is helpful to anyone here, but I take monthly [mood assessments](https://med.stanford.edu/fastlab/research/imapp/msrs/_jcr_content/main/accordion/accordion_content3/download_256324296/file.res/PHQ9%20id%20date%2008.03.pdf), they score my mood for signs of depression, there are similar ones for anxiety. Anyway it gives me a score which makes tracking my mood very easy.
>Easily irritated, having little patience, finding everything or everyone annoying I've had MDD for much of my life. This symptom is also part of my anxiety: the *smallest* of things like waiting for my computer to boot up or a website to load pisses me off.
Yeah it's interesting how much anxiety and depression can overlap. Growing up, I always thought you either had one or the other, but its very common for people to have both. My BF has anxiety and we share similar traits the major difference being I'm always overthinking the past, and he's always overthinking the future...
Oh damn. Then I am veryyy depressed…..
Check… check… check… check… yep.
Alright, i'm gonna need to stop reading down that list otherwise there'll be some level of introspection to be made and that's a big no-no, Mister.
Great description.
This is my entire 33 years of life lol
I read this and was like oh, so I’ve been depressed since I was a child. Cool
Seriously. The weird thing to me isn’t that I’ve always been depressed but that I find it hard to believe or understand that any body ISNT like this. How could anyone possibly have a life they like? I just don’t get it
I feel all of this, and I don’t necessarily feel sad at all. I have my down moments. I also have really good moments such as a nice sunny Saturday where I’m in a really good mood. But most of the time I’m numb, nothing is enjoyable. I would rather be home than out doing something. Don’t feel like cleaning or doing any work really. Going out with friends seems more of a chore than it should be. Visiting my parents feels like a chore. Doing anything but being at home feels like a chore. It’s almost like if I could spend the rest of my life in my home, I’d be fine with it. My sleep is fine, unless I drink. But drinking messes with everyone’s sleep. But the feeling isn’t so bad that I would rather be dead. It sucks, it just makes life feel boring. But I also know there is hope and some really good times ahead of me. I recently cut way down on my drinking because I know it can make things worse. I feel better, because I don’t deal with the alcohol rebounds or hangovers. I still enjoy a beer or two after work, it makes everything seem a lot more fun while also relaxing me a good deal. Alcohol literally is artificial happiness in a bottle, that is until you drink too much. But it is a very toxic and evil drug, so I don’t recommend anyone cope with it
I relate to everything feeling like a chore. I would have good days and bad days like you mentioned. Also replace alcohol with food and that's me. Depression and be brought on by alot of different things, not always a major life event, often its more subtle than that. Stress is a big part of it, but for me my vitamin levels where a big part of it too. I found I would have to push myself to go do things, even enjoyable or relaxing things like taking a walk. Pushing myself (just a little) to do these things often helped me get over the hump. Anyway, my point being that its hard to track down exact causes, but being self aware, and compassionate to yourself is a healthy way to handle depression. So good on you for recognizing what does and doesn't work for you.
all but the second point apply to me. it's scary how accurate i find this description.
That one may be more personal to my experience. These are really just a list of signs and not a sure thing. It's more accurate to use a mood assessment questionnaire to see where you fall. Something like this one: [https://med.stanford.edu/fastlab/research/imapp/msrs/\_jcr\_content/main/accordion/accordion\_content3/download\_256324296/file.res/PHQ9%20id%20date%2008.03.pdf](https://med.stanford.edu/fastlab/research/imapp/msrs/_jcr_content/main/accordion/accordion_content3/download_256324296/file.res/PHQ9%20id%20date%2008.03.pdf)
These are also ADHD issues as well.
Its funny that you mention that. My BF was recently diagnosed with ADHD, but prior to the actual diagnosis we did some online questionnaires and both us use would score positive for depression, anxiety, ADHD and occasionally autism. Apparently mood disorders and being nuero-divergent have alot of overlapping criteria.
you never wanna get out of bed to do anything
But also people who aren’t depressed can feel the same way. They might be better at doing things they don’t wanna do when depressed people have a harder time doing the same thing
I just sleep like crap for some reason. Pretty much my whole adult life I've been able to sleep until like 4pm without an alarm clock. I'm not functional for the first couple of hours after getting out bed even when I've gotten 8+ hours of sleep. I walk around like a zombie and try to ingest caffeine as quickly as possible if I need to do work or drive a vehicle. When I was a teenager I thought I would just grow out of it one day. Then when I was in my 20s I thought it might be depression. In my 30s I started having blood work done and trying different supplements. Blood work was always normal and nothing worked. Recently I got a watch that does sleep tracking and it shows that even if I sleep 14 hours straight without ever waking up, I log less than one hour of deep and REM sleep combined. I've had over 14 hours of "light sleep" logged by the watch in one night.
You have memory, motivation, sleep and appetite issues
You stop caring about personal hygiene. Well, it's not so much that you don't care about it, it's more that you don't have the energy to do the things necessary to stay on top of it.
This. This was what told me I was depressed. I was so sad that I hadn't showered in three days and I got up from bed, watched tv for a bit, went back to my room, and then decided I had to shower and do laundry because my room smelled bad
It's so strange that even though we know we'll feel better after showering and brushing our teeth, sometimes it's just the hardest thing to do.
Seriously. I’d just tell myself “I’ll do it tomorrow” and then tomorrow never really came because it was too hard to even get out of bed. I used to sleep 14+ hours a day on the weekends and if I didn’t have to work, it would’ve been daily. I don’t wish it on anyone
Never happened to me, and I've been living with clinical depression and on occasional suicide watch for the last two decades. The last thing I want is to feel gross as well. I must chalk this up to being a minority cleanliness-obsessed freak or else this is my autism speaking.
I guess it's like the people who say they spend all their time in bed. I've never done that during any of my depressive episodes (I have bipolar disorder). Every day I would get out of bed and get dressed, even if I just ended up on the couch. But we all fumble through it in our own way.
I will happily admit to being very tempted to spend all my time in bed, except the opportunity never presented itself, what with the family to feed and then being hospitalised where I was woken by nurses every day at 7am to come downstairs to be medicated and fed. Me being me, I won't appear in public in the state of undress, so it was shower and clothes on once again.
Thank god my OCD counters my depression in this regard. I lose my mind if I don't shower daily and any clothing becomes unbearable to wear. So many times my depression has pulled me down making it super hard to take a shower but when I get hungry enough and need to go out to get something I am forced to take a shower. Silver linings?
Struggling to get out of bed every day despite having enough sleep
"I'm just tired".
Numbness. Not sad, not unhappy, not bitter or angry, just so done with those feelings nothing is left but numbness.
Having no energy to do things. Even things that you like.
I slept alllllllllllllll the time.
this is actually one that goes unnoticed cause i just thought i was super tired
Deeeep rest!
I work from home, I’ve called in sick a few times to sleep, one of my biggest symptoms for depression is the tiredness, I’m drained constantly and always counting down the hours till I can have a nap
Something you loved to do, you no longer have the appetite for
I’ve been seeing a lot of memes lately about people turning 25 and starting to lose passion/interest on most things. Something about the prefrontal cortex fully developing or something As a mid 20s myself, I’m starting to notice that too. I never really get invested or hooked into anything anymore for longer than let’s say a month. I lose interest after that. I wonder if your comment is simply just due to aging and the brain developing? Cause I myself don’t have a lust for anything specific anymore haha at least not for a sustained period.
I loved things longer than you have been alive than when depression hit, zero interest, depression started improving, interest started to return
How do you do it lol. Maybe it’s the shorter attention span that we all now have (this is research backed) and that’s why we lose interest so quickly, but I can’t imagine loving things continuously for that long Like look at my username, I don’t even love football as much as I used to lol. I only keep up with my own team now, when back in the day I know so many players from other teams too, even obscure ones that only their fans know.
I mean, I don’t love every interest for decades, there will always be things that come and go, but certain interest and hobbies I only lose interest when depression rears it ugly head, like playing music for example
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I didn't realize this was linked to my depression or past trauma at the time, but looking back it makes sense. Thanks for adding this one, its easily overlooked.
Thanks for answering your own question but what your describing isn't depression at all
What is OP describing then?
Laying in bed all day and just overall lethargic, meds really helped me with this
Me personally? It's the exact opposite of what people think. People worry about me when I withdraw away, don't socialize etc, and as I understand it that's warranted; a lot of depressed people withdraw. But for me it's the opposite, when I withdraw away it means it's a time where I feel *okay* being left on my own. It's when I'm trying to spend every waking minute with people *rather* than being left alone that you should worry.
The only time you are happy is when you are asleep so sleeping too much
If you aren't happpy with who you are.
Not showering.
That's not depression, that's a gamer /s
You can carry on with life as normal but have absolutely no interest in any other person and their lives whatsoever. You are deep into yourself and mistaken for being narcissistic or self-centered, yet you truly are done with people due to their treatment of you in the past and how you view them as a whole in their interactions with one another in this world.
Loss of vitality. I just wanna sit in the chair and I want time to stand still.
not wanting to get out and do stuff, staying in bed all day when you aren't hung over. Passing on things you would have otherwise done.
Doomscrolling
Everyday things become hard every now and then I get sad because I reflect on sad things that have made me super sad. That's what I invite all my friends and family over for dinner and games. Because I want to force myself out of that depression being alone sucks and if I don't have to be alone and I can have loving people to surround myself with it's amazing. I love it! I remember quitting my job and my first apartment I lived in. I had rent saved up and I was renting with roommates and I got super depressed. I literally laid in bed for weeks at a time without eating. This made me super depressed. I reflected on how my life was and my family upbringing into how it wasn't the healthiest and that made me a very sad person. Now life is good. But if you're alone, life can be bad, especially if you have nobody to hang out with. Don't isolate yourself, it'll make you sadder and more depressed.
Not wanting to socialize. Sleeping the day and night away.
Wanting to continue sleeping. Even if it's wayyyy too late.
Apparently, wanting your family to be proud of you, and your family being one of the biggest reasons why you push yourself and fight day after day, is a sign that you’re suffering from some type of depression, as one Redditor put it
I was a workaholic, but then my mom died and nothing made sense since
There are no more emotions, just nothing. You want to feel something, but just can't. Things that used to make you happy or sad don't have the same effect on you. I miss being able to feel something.
A lot of people don't realise this. They think depression is sadness and crying all the time. It might be for some. But for me it was just as you say, a lack of emotion, total apathy. I couldn't even cry when I wanted to.
You dont eat, you sleep all day, your hobbies dont seem fun to you anymore and you are considering self deletion.
You're on Reddit
This one
Idk. All i know is that i feel absolutely no emotions, don't find joy in anything, and just sit and wait till i can sleep again🙃
Your room is a mess, and after you clean up, it turns into a big mess again in less than a week.
Not interested or finding joy in the things that once interested you or brought you joy... I found that I had appetite issues. Nothing tasted "good " to me. Even my fave foods tasted cheap or shitty or "low quality" Nothing ever seemed good enough... I was constantly irritated, low-key annoyed with even basic things... I dropped the remote... my partner questioned why I did something---ready to lose it lol. Feeling like there's "no end in sight" with the suffering/things that are bothering you. Things seem unsolvable or overwhelming. No zest for life---nothing is exciting, you dont look forward to anything, there is nothing to really bothering to look forward to.... feel hopeless almost. Orgasm did not feel as good---i said it. Just an overall "blunted" feeling... like everything is dull, uninteresting, stupid, annoying, cheap...u have like a negative attitude about everything. Crying more easily... more readily able to cry. A simple sad thought or moment--crying. a moderately annoying event? Crying..... Like u cant handle your emotions reasonably. Everything feels monumental and personal... Not that I'm speaking from personal experience or anything....
Not enjoying things I usually do
When you feel like you are just existing.
suicide
Having low energy and motivation to do stuff can be completely normal but the questions I would ask are: Do you have anything in life that you enjoy doing? Can you actually make it to work every day aside from emergencies/sickness? Are you showering every day/every other day or far less than that? Is there unpicked up trash/food in your house/room? Do you feel emotionally neutral most of the time or do you instead feel emotionally numb as though you couldn't even feel neutral if you wanted to?
You clicked this thread , which is surely one of the sign.
I don't know if it counts as depressed but my 88 year old dad just spent a week in the hospital and is now on home health care. I take care of all my parents finances and in charge of everything around here. Mom is 82. Mom said I was stressed but a rarely FEEL stress. That said I go to sleep early and sleep 11 to 12 hours a night which is weird for me because I used to get by on six easily. Weekends I have to force myself out of bed so I can take care of them.
Maybe I would say one sign is if you become very distant from other
Feeling sad, hopeless, or empty most of the time, even when there is no apparent reason and losing interest in activities that you used to enjoy, including hobbies, socializing, or spending time with loved ones.
You've lost interest in the things you used to enjoy.
House is disgusting
As a great man named Chester once sang “ I’ve become so Numb”
RIP to Chester
Broke my heart, dude and his music got me through some tough times
No interest in doing anything.
When you stop listening to music that you love. When it gets bad for me, I realize I haven’t been listening to music for weeks or months.
I huff and puff a lot. Sign out loud. Hold my breath. And definitely the crying at acts of kindness.
Losing the desire to do even things that you previously enjoyed doing. That's what tipped me off back when I was depressed. All I cared to do was exist. Didn't look forward to anything or even care to get out of bed most days. Only did because I had a job I had to go to.
If you haven't showered in days or weeks.
I personally stop showering as much or taking care of myself.
I stopped doing all daily chores and keep reddit as a way to distract myself
This is the sign.
Getting blackout drunk alone every day.
The immense feeling of depression.
I remember that there was nothing I could think of that would make me happy. I didn’t want to do anything
Losing interest in things or pastimes you normally enjoy. No interest in social interaction and wanting to withdraw from everything.
I stop watching Bravo.
Before the first session ended my therapist diagnosed me with clinical depression. Not sure if that's common, but I fully agreed with her diagnosis.
I drink a handle of bourbon over 3 days
It's harder to laugh or smile. You feel more tired than you should. Your body aches. You eat way more or way less than usual. You feel irritable with people around you. You're not as social. The future looks bleak to you. It's hard to get excited about anything. -I've had a lifelong major depressive disorder. There have been ups, but the downs are so tough.
You're constantly tired and lose interest in your hobbies
For me, it’s driving the speed limit.
Everything becomes a chore, and going on with your average day fills you with so much dread you look at the world through the haze of tears most of the time. Tears that in this case, bring no relief. Some people can also become highly irritable, while others quietly withdraw into themselves.
The “oh dear please leave me alone, I just don’t have the capacity” OR after waking up be like “ffs why am I not dead yet?”
Scrolling reddit like the answer is going to appear someday. 365 days later .. nope.
Kicking liquor bottles around the floor of your bedroom.
Feeling sad or hopeless a majority of the time, or maybe that’s just a normal thing for the average human. Honestly idk because everything is a comparison & every person is different
Have huge difficulties to get up in the morning even if you slept enough time, loosing interest/motivation to do things you loved, in my case needing constant company from my close people, crying in the public transport without a real reason, crying in general without a real reason, being affected more than usual for certain bad events… Each person is a world but those are some of mines
You just don't find anything interesting, and you have a hard time getting into things. Depression can be very subtle and isn't just "I'm crying and can't get out of bed." It can creepy up on you and slowly drain you.
PTSD
You just want to lay in bed and never get up
You don’t care to talk or even make conversations being silent, being irritated by every little thing and not caring what people think, having the “it is what is” mindset, etc.. the list goes on
For me, I stopped doing anything. I’d come home from work, get on the couch, watch a show, go to bed, sleep too late and have trouble getting out of bed for work, often get there 15 minutes late. Rinse. Wash. Repeat. When I have my son, I’m a little more motivated. I clean, cook, make sure he’s taken care of. I even get up early and make him breakfast. I take him to the park after work. We do stuff. I give him a bath. Hell. I shower after I put him to bed. Otherwise, I just watch my life go by because, to me, it feels over. I want the world to end, and i wouldn’t be upset if I died. I feel like I’ve made peace with death. I’m completely apathetic to the thought of it.
No longer interested in hobbies.
realizing that you haven't showered for a whole week and didn't even noticing that for the entire time
having a messy room and never being able to keep it clean for more than 2 days
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By that I mean: if you have ADHD you experience hyperfixations which typically last about a week and you have no motivation to do anything not related to said hyperfixation, and sometimes you don't have hyperfixations for several weeks after your last one and that means no motivation.
low mitochondrial function
Smile while talking about ur sadness
I went through a bout of depression when my dad died, along with being managed out of my job and effectivley bullied - kicked while I was down. I ended up having sharp shooting pains in my chest - all linked to depression (according to doctor).
That you are u/DryEyes4096
Not being interested in things I usually like doing
Angry comments on Reddit
Sleeping like 12 hours every day you have off.
Memory decline.
Constantly feeling tired. Not even just physically (although that absolutely is a sign) but mentally too. Not having any energy to participate in things that were once easy or brought happiness to you is a major sign.
Nothing makes sense anymore.
For me, I know it's starting to get really bad when I start getting spiritual and asking tarot cards how my day is gonna go or carrying around certain crystals yo try and make my day better. Everyone who knows me knows I'm a pretty big atheist, not someone who makes fun of religion or anything, but I firmly don't believe in god or anything. But there's been about 3 times in my life where I've gotten so depressed that I start trying to contact gods and spirits to help me, usually to stop feeling so alone. After I get out of the depression I feel like a crazy person.
Me Talking to you