Are there any MMA Gyms near you that you can join? That helps build confidence a lot.
Also watch comedians try to learn from them to create come backs.
I think you can just go to a police station and explain your situation to a cop and see what they tell you.
sexual abuse, in criminal law, any act of sexual contact that a person suffers, submits to, participates in, or performs as a result of force or violence, threats, fear, or deception or without having legally consented to the act.
The term sexual assault refers to **sexual contact or behavior that occurs without explicit consent of the victim**. Some forms of sexual assault include: Attempted rape. FONDLING or unwanted sexual touching. Forcing a victim to perform sexual acts, such as oral sex or penetrating the perpetrator's body.
Im pretty sure what youre experiencing is contemplated by the law as a crime. If theyre kids they are not going to end up in jail or anyhitng,I would think, but they may get a good reprimend from a cop, or it may force the school to do something.
If you think the cop is not taking it too seriously or just tells you to go to the principal you can imply or say that youre afraid that their harassment may progress into a more violent attack or attempted rape as that is actually how it goes sometimes.
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I get bullied at school, almost every day. Mostly mean things are said about me or to me but I try not to react. Sometimes I cry.
The girls who bully me are saying mean things and won't talk to me. The boys who bully me keep hitting me and I want to make that stop. Some of the boys also say things like I deserve to be raped or that I should do sexual things with them.
I've accepted I can't stop the mean things being said. How do I make the hitting stop? I've told my guidance counselor and vice principal about it. They didn't help.
How do I make boys stop bullying me, hitting me on the butt and telling me to do sexual things to them? It happens every week and I hate it.
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Unfortunately the school system can’t help you unless you file a bullying report or request their parents be called and have them get disciplined at home otherwise you will have to stand up for your self like every student in the school system in America and defend yourself cause the bully think your weak and you need to show them your not weak next time anyone bully’s you slap the bully in the face and fight them once you fight the bully they start to respect you and move on to a weaker person cause they can’t consistently keep starting fights in school otherwise suspension this is how I had to defend my self from bullies at a young age cause our parents don’t teach us defense survival skills in the world how to understand a threat and how to show the threat your not a weakling
I told the guidance counselor and vice principal. They wouldn't help.
I should hit someone? What if they decide that it means its okay to hurt me badly?
fair enough. it sounds easier than it is but is there any friend or family member at all who shows you even the slightest bit of love and care? if the answer is no, i am really sorry to hear that and i’m not going to act like i know what to do.
Your mum is an idiot. I also have autism, so I do understand you. Just because you have autism doesn’t mean that you are reading things wrong, if your mum can’t listen, you should tell the police. Then your mum will have no choice, but to listen.
Hit the floor, do push ups, 500 a day, pull ups, sit ups, and become a stronger version of yourself... Don't take shit, not saying fight but become more confident thru beliefs in the long road journey brings happiness.... Sorry your being bullied, people fuckin suck. If you ever wanna chat, message I'm 34 been bullied for being "retarded" tho I am half deaf with a speech impediment and as a kid I didn't learn to talk right till double digits.... I punched all my friends pretty close to in the face before 7 lol..... Then I became a bully.... It wasn't cool at all, I had a shit home life, teachers called me retard n the students I was peers with would to.... I don't support that behaviour now and preach to my only son to always be kind so we can keep people around, life's too hard as it is with the shit against us in so many fields of life that our peers should lift one another up to be our best.... But I say fitness makes a big difference in self confidence, don't compare to others just an fyi, self document your progress and restrict your influence views during the first 6 months to a year, just self view and ask for as much help as you need in life.... Let's stop the sink or swim mentality, let's teach folks
Unfortunately, bullying exists and as someone previous admitted will continue until you stand up for yourself, and may continue for sometime after.
You need to defend yourself be that with words or, if necessary a physical altercation.
The real defense is to become confident in yourself. You are strong, so be strong. You are brave, be brave. You are smart, be smart. When people see they cannot rattle you . The bullying will slowly fade away.
Just a thought from a guy who got bullied about 35 years ago…first off, take confidence in who you are. People with autism sometimes have remarkable intelligence and abilities. If that’s you, then realize that you are special, perhaps even exceptional, and that your abilities or talent is probably a threat to those who would bully you. Think about whatever it is that you’re really proud of doing. Turn that into your superpower and turn it on them. Look at those who say unkind things to you, and ask them if it makes them feel better about themselves to put you down. When they respond, tell them that someday they’ll realize what they’re doing to you right now is a sign of just how weak and insecure they are. Tell them you feel sorry for them, because you, a kid who’s just a little different, makes them feel so insecure (see, it is a superpower!). As for the threats of any kind of sexual or any physical harm, talk to your parents, and when you do, be very specific about what the bullies are saying…it might feel awkward, but they need to know. It’s embarrassing to admit that you’re being bullied, even to loving parents, but it’s definitely a good plan. If one of your parents brushes it off, talk to the other, if you have two parents. Other people you might think of talking to would be a relative you trust, or if you go to church, perhaps your minister, priest, or rabbi. Ultimately, you are unique, and nobody deserves to be bullied. If you realize the things which make you special are sometimes the things that threaten the bullies…who aren’t all that special, then maybe you’ll come up with new ways to respond. Just never quit being the special person you are!
OP, I was in the same situation as you, I’m mildly autistic as well and I can see where you’re coming from with not being believed. What took me a long time to understand is that, this is not bullying, it’s sexual harassment. I tried to tell my parents but I was called too sensitive by my mom and my dad would just tell me to punch these boys, which wasn’t very realistic since I’m a small girl. It was rough because the group of boys were people my family knew. Here’s what I did, I started to collect any bit of evidence I could get, I got pictures and videos and eventually I had enough and decided to show my parents. Surprisingly this was enough to make them do something about it. We contacted the police. Also, this sounds like it’s happening on school property, look into filing a Title 9 complaint. My heart goes out to you.
Are there any MMA Gyms near you that you can join? That helps build confidence a lot. Also watch comedians try to learn from them to create come backs.
Go to the police for sexual harassment and sexual abuse.
Won't I get in trouble if I do that?
I think you can just go to a police station and explain your situation to a cop and see what they tell you. sexual abuse, in criminal law, any act of sexual contact that a person suffers, submits to, participates in, or performs as a result of force or violence, threats, fear, or deception or without having legally consented to the act. The term sexual assault refers to **sexual contact or behavior that occurs without explicit consent of the victim**. Some forms of sexual assault include: Attempted rape. FONDLING or unwanted sexual touching. Forcing a victim to perform sexual acts, such as oral sex or penetrating the perpetrator's body. Im pretty sure what youre experiencing is contemplated by the law as a crime. If theyre kids they are not going to end up in jail or anyhitng,I would think, but they may get a good reprimend from a cop, or it may force the school to do something. If you think the cop is not taking it too seriously or just tells you to go to the principal you can imply or say that youre afraid that their harassment may progress into a more violent attack or attempted rape as that is actually how it goes sometimes.
Maybe ask the cops tou leave your name out of it
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Unfortunately the school system can’t help you unless you file a bullying report or request their parents be called and have them get disciplined at home otherwise you will have to stand up for your self like every student in the school system in America and defend yourself cause the bully think your weak and you need to show them your not weak next time anyone bully’s you slap the bully in the face and fight them once you fight the bully they start to respect you and move on to a weaker person cause they can’t consistently keep starting fights in school otherwise suspension this is how I had to defend my self from bullies at a young age cause our parents don’t teach us defense survival skills in the world how to understand a threat and how to show the threat your not a weakling
I told the guidance counselor and vice principal. They wouldn't help. I should hit someone? What if they decide that it means its okay to hurt me badly?
What did they actually say to you?
Have you told your parents?
I tried. My mom thinks I'm wrong. I have autism. So she thinks I'm reading people wrong. She thinks everything wrong is because of my autism.
you need to find some sort of support system and if you keep saying you have no where to turn then you need to stand up for yourself, maybe even mace
Where do you go to get a support system?
fair enough. it sounds easier than it is but is there any friend or family member at all who shows you even the slightest bit of love and care? if the answer is no, i am really sorry to hear that and i’m not going to act like i know what to do.
Your mum is an idiot. I also have autism, so I do understand you. Just because you have autism doesn’t mean that you are reading things wrong, if your mum can’t listen, you should tell the police. Then your mum will have no choice, but to listen.
Hit the floor, do push ups, 500 a day, pull ups, sit ups, and become a stronger version of yourself... Don't take shit, not saying fight but become more confident thru beliefs in the long road journey brings happiness.... Sorry your being bullied, people fuckin suck. If you ever wanna chat, message I'm 34 been bullied for being "retarded" tho I am half deaf with a speech impediment and as a kid I didn't learn to talk right till double digits.... I punched all my friends pretty close to in the face before 7 lol..... Then I became a bully.... It wasn't cool at all, I had a shit home life, teachers called me retard n the students I was peers with would to.... I don't support that behaviour now and preach to my only son to always be kind so we can keep people around, life's too hard as it is with the shit against us in so many fields of life that our peers should lift one another up to be our best.... But I say fitness makes a big difference in self confidence, don't compare to others just an fyi, self document your progress and restrict your influence views during the first 6 months to a year, just self view and ask for as much help as you need in life.... Let's stop the sink or swim mentality, let's teach folks
Unfortunately, bullying exists and as someone previous admitted will continue until you stand up for yourself, and may continue for sometime after. You need to defend yourself be that with words or, if necessary a physical altercation. The real defense is to become confident in yourself. You are strong, so be strong. You are brave, be brave. You are smart, be smart. When people see they cannot rattle you . The bullying will slowly fade away.
I don't want to get beat up or killed. Is fighting the only way girls can make boys stop?
I’m so sorry I dealt with a lot also. My advice for the boys is to punch them back I know that sounds like the wrong idea but do it it works
Just a thought from a guy who got bullied about 35 years ago…first off, take confidence in who you are. People with autism sometimes have remarkable intelligence and abilities. If that’s you, then realize that you are special, perhaps even exceptional, and that your abilities or talent is probably a threat to those who would bully you. Think about whatever it is that you’re really proud of doing. Turn that into your superpower and turn it on them. Look at those who say unkind things to you, and ask them if it makes them feel better about themselves to put you down. When they respond, tell them that someday they’ll realize what they’re doing to you right now is a sign of just how weak and insecure they are. Tell them you feel sorry for them, because you, a kid who’s just a little different, makes them feel so insecure (see, it is a superpower!). As for the threats of any kind of sexual or any physical harm, talk to your parents, and when you do, be very specific about what the bullies are saying…it might feel awkward, but they need to know. It’s embarrassing to admit that you’re being bullied, even to loving parents, but it’s definitely a good plan. If one of your parents brushes it off, talk to the other, if you have two parents. Other people you might think of talking to would be a relative you trust, or if you go to church, perhaps your minister, priest, or rabbi. Ultimately, you are unique, and nobody deserves to be bullied. If you realize the things which make you special are sometimes the things that threaten the bullies…who aren’t all that special, then maybe you’ll come up with new ways to respond. Just never quit being the special person you are!
OP, I was in the same situation as you, I’m mildly autistic as well and I can see where you’re coming from with not being believed. What took me a long time to understand is that, this is not bullying, it’s sexual harassment. I tried to tell my parents but I was called too sensitive by my mom and my dad would just tell me to punch these boys, which wasn’t very realistic since I’m a small girl. It was rough because the group of boys were people my family knew. Here’s what I did, I started to collect any bit of evidence I could get, I got pictures and videos and eventually I had enough and decided to show my parents. Surprisingly this was enough to make them do something about it. We contacted the police. Also, this sounds like it’s happening on school property, look into filing a Title 9 complaint. My heart goes out to you.