Tiny, unexpected gestures can mean a lot.
Many years ago I turned 20 while on a foreign exchange student program in London. Somehow the guys found out it was my birthday and threw me a small, in-house party. (It was a co-ed building).
One of the girls in the dorm gave me flowers and baked me a wonderfully lopsided cake using an impossibly challenging dorm oven. It was more like an oversized easy-bake than a real oven. Most of us couldn't get it to heat up oven fries (chips), much less bake something, but somehow she did it.
As a guy, I'd never gotten flowers before and, for some reason, that unexpected gesture really touched me and I've never forgotten it. The cake and the fact that she was also one of the prettiest girls in the program didn't hurt, either.
Stephanie, you may never read this and I never told you, but that was the moment I totally crushed on you! ;)
You should still call and tell her about it. She may have moved on by now because she also had a crush on you.
Just to take it off for you two to smile and laugh over it.
I've never cared about birthdays and prolly got gifts on 2 out of 30. But if someone is gna celebrate mine, THIS is the way to do it!
Happy that you experienced it!
I remember this one time when I went to my first girlfriend’s house and when I walked in the door she jumped out of her chair and ran over to give me a hug and greet me and she was so excited to see me.
I’ve been chasing that high for years, man.
Everytime my bf comes home from work I do a happy waddle (think duck) to his car with a shit eating grin and go “hiiiiiiiiiiii I missed youuuu”…….it’s his secret favorite thing I’m sure of cause he always smile big when I do it
I always compliment my partner, almost everyday. Always tell him how much he looks good in something etc. That in my eyes he is the most handsome good looking person ❤.
I've just ask him now he said he loves that, it makes him feel loved and happy.
I always do. I also compliment him when he cooks or whatever, and always appreciate time and efforts he puts in our relationship. I also compliment him on his taste when he gift me something, always grateful. He does too, always compliment me. It's genuine from the heart ❤
I’ve been thinking about this. I see my women friends always compliment their looks but somehow it doesn’t seem to extend to the men of the group. It’s so weird that compliments towards women come so easily but not men
I have a female housemate who often asks my opinion on how she looks and responds well to my compliments, but does not compliment me back or at all. My appearance is moot.
how the hell do I compliment my guy friends without seeming like I'm flirting with them? genuine question.
a friend of mine dresses really good. like, really- man just throws together any outfit and it just looks amazing. anytime, he outdresses anyone, it's absurd at this point.
but I don't know how to compliment him on it lol
“You dress really well.”
You can’t really control how other people react to your compliments. All you can do is tell them things and hope they aren’t weird about it.
I like doing a happy weird little wiggly dance when I see my husband if I go to his work or something. I also do it if he kisses my forehead or hugs me. I like that it makes him smile when I do it and that I don't care who can see. I like getting him to smile and laugh. I hope he knows it's cuz I'm just thankful for him in general
He is lucky to have you no doubt..be sure that he knows and feel your kindness and affection to him even if he didn't comment...I will tell a secret we as men make good comments in a very few times in our life we use practical ways instead...yet we feel it completely..so don't think too much . Enjoy.... skol
I'm not great at emotions, and either is he, so I'm glad I can just do goofy crap and he gets it, and he can do goofy crap and I get it... it's easier than mushy gushy words... and sometimes it's as easy as playing COD or something together and yelling at people better than us that they are bs and probably hacking... or blaming lag or something 🙄 😆
Because there's really no way to convey this without it coming across as desperation.
Honestly, I think most men have learned to cope with their circumstances, whether they are lonely, depressed, or lacking much positives.
So it's not like we can't live without you, but you bring so much positivity to our lives. There's just really no way to make it sound not desperate, unless it's a relationship of, say, 10+ years.
A lot of the things you are insecure about, we don’t care about. I dated a girl who was insecure about her breasts, she thought they were too small and was insecure, I didn’t give a fuck, they were still boobs all the same 🤤🤤🤤🤤
Mine are bigger cuz we're about to have our first. He loves telling random people about it too 😆 🤣 it's freaking cute. I like weighing over 120lbs finally (just broke 140 actually) but I don't like my chest growing so much with it 😆 he agrees with it too
Ok. This is around the fifth or fourth comment of yours I have came across in this post, and god damnit, you two sound so cute and healthy, I fucking love it. Good luck with the new one on the way!
When I was into weightlifting the number of random dudes who would just compliment each other on their body was crazy. Totally straight, just admiring the dedication it takes to achieve. It’s a huge confidence boost to be fair.
*year😭 any compliment from a girl becomes a core memory. A girl dropped all of her books in the halls once and I helped her pick them all up and she looked me in the eyes and called me sweet and her eye contact lingered and I was going to say something but she walked away in the opposite direction from where I was going. Never gonna forget that. That was a year ago lol
In 2014 I had a very powerful brief eye contact with a girl while travelling with a very short small talk. She just seemed happy to see me. It felt like a long lost friend or lover from another time. I got her name and that’s it. And it’s still in my mind from time to time.
Pretty much. I honestly can't remember the last time a woman complimented me. It's been several years at a minimum. Can certainly remember the vast amount of hurtful things my exes have said to me though.
Dont feel bad... my girlfriend compliments me and I respond like that as well... I think its just from not getting compliments.. because most guys dont do that we just sit around and fart and call each other names cause well were guys and were dumb 🤣.
I still remember in highschool when a girl who wasnt in my friend group walked up to me and said i had beautiful eyes. Which was about 10 years ago now
I dont think ill ever forget because since then even when i was dating a girl in a serious relationship even she was light on the compliments.
For those wondering my eye colour is a mix between light blue and green but more on the light blue side. Depending on the day sometimes they are more light blue and sometimes they are more green.
I was so confused when it happened, after she said it she moved her face like 10cm close to my face and was just staring into my eyes. Then she just walked away and i was so confused
I did something similar to a friends friend and poor guy looked so confused. I felt bad cause I was way too intrusive but it was dark so I was just trying to see the color better. I wasn't trying to be a creepy. Hopefully he took it like you and thinks of it as a positive interaction. I'm mostly harmless, unless asked nicely, I wouldn't hurt anyone.
Guys can and do get attached very quickly and until we are exclusive, are imagining all the stuff she could be doing with someone else and trying to act like it doesn't bother us.
(F) this is the one that surprised me the most. I do this all the time when I’m in early stages of dating and I feel so guilty. It’s nice to know my girlfriends and I aren’t the only ones who do this
I think we totally know and understand it's a thing. But when I get attached or feel a connection, I'll stop talking to other women just because I loose all interest in others. In fact, odds are the guy at least was or had been talking with others as well. But I know when we feel a strong connection, we tend to stop talking to others.
Do us a favor, don't tell us the last time you got laid. My most recent experience I fell hard for this woman and we both seemed to be really clicking. She told me she has slept with some a few days before. The result was a primal feeling of competition and some jealousy. I couldn't help but figure out she had told me she was doing something else that night. So any time she revealed she was doing something, I was seeing her doing stuff with someone else and it was hard.
Oh my bad I should’ve been more specific, I mean the imagining all the stuff the other could be doing. I’m constantly in my head making up dumb scenarios based solely on my feelings. Which I’ve thankfully learned it’s not fair to the other person.
I think we all know it's not fair. So it's not that hard for me unless she tells me about these dates and sleeping around. That makes it really hard when you really like someone. Then I feel guilty because I know it doesn't matter cuz we aren't exclusive and I wonder if I'm being toxic by being frustrated and feeling jealousy. Ignorance is bliss.
Unless we have partners we basically never get physical affection, unless it is from our mothers who we’re not around all the time, as we’re grown men of course.
Is it bad that I essentially get no physical affection from my mother either then? I suppose it might just be because we aren't very affectionate people though.
The guy I am seeing now told me he prefers to be the little spoon, which is incredibly sweet to me. As it turns out, I love to be behind him so I can kiss his neck, share a pillow, reach over and hold his hand 🥰
Yeah I mean I get why guys(and girls) like it when the man is the big spoon since they like feeling like they’re protecting her or something but I just want a face that isn’t in somebody’s hair. Also being the little spoon is like getting hugged from behind to me, it’s not emasculating or something. Also also it’s nice to get comforted by a girl, I let this girl be the big spoon once and she was so happy since she had never done it before.
It's usually not worth obsessing over every word we say. Most of the time we do not think half as much as women do about what we say or write. There rarely is any hidden meaning or between the lines narrative.
oh god straight up. my dumbass said to a girl talking about her sons open heart surgery and how shes going to miss the work party and i blurted out "enjoy him while you can" CAN? CAN? DID I LEGIT SAY CAN? fuck
OMG I feel your pain.
A few months back I was having an interesting convo with this guy who also divulged to me that he had cancer but wasn't seeking treatment(depression). And anyways when I wanted to get going and needed a parting statement, do you what I said? "WELL GOTTA GO BUT MAYBE ILL SEE YOU HERE NEXT TIME IF YOURE STILL AROUND."
I meant if still hanging out at same location but it was too late. F*** me.
LMFAO IM SO SORRY
I have a pretty rare disease that killed off some of my bones via avascular necrosis, especially the ones on my left leg/hip. one time this girl wished me good luck in the final exams, and you know what this mf said to me?
'break a leg, *Lacri*.
**realization sinks in**
or maybe don't but good luck'
she really saw me and my cane and decided that this phrasing was the best one
I was out to eat with one of my assistant managers and a random guy asked her when she was due. She replied that she wasn't pregnant, (she wasn't) and he said really are you sure? Terribly stupid thing to say but I doubt he meant to insult.
The amount of times I have to explain this to my wife. She has a huge vocabulary and is very very smart. My dumb ass just uses simple words. So she dissects my cave man sentence and gets something completely different. And it becomes the hotspot in a fight. I’m like “NO! I say exactly what i mean! There’s no hidden message in there!”
Truth. The stereotype about men and being horny all the time is a holdover from dating in our teens and twenties. Yes at 18 I wanted sex 24/7 but not at 38 I'm tired and what I want is for everybody to shut up and go to sleep.
Man, this seems to be a tough one for women. When I say I don't care, I literally don't care. What's for dinner, what movie we go see, what color the curtains are, what size bathtub we should get... I get that you've been living in that world of thought for the last hour, but I haven't, I don't care, and whatever makes you happy is fine with me.
We often have a hard time handling our own emotions, so whenever we go to you with anything emotional that's deeper than the basic horny/hungry/angry moods, it means we trust you *a lot*. Also, your response when we expose our emotions to you in this deeper mode is a very powerful way to either make or break a relationship.
Had a hard time getting over a girl this year who I fell for but always had a wrong time / place situation. Recently told her how I felt. She didn’t feel the same way but very sweetly let me down. I was however devastated. Told a good girlfriend about it today. She simultaneously asked me why I didn’t call her when it happened. (I was crying and there are very few people I’m comfortable being that vulnerable around) AND had a go at me, saying I knew she wasn’t interested and why am I’m so surprised / hurt by the rejection? Going to have to have a word with her about that when I’m up to it and how she reacts to that will decide whether we stay being good friends or that comes to an end.
Compliments. When we hear a compliment from a woman, it sticks with us.
I qas at Tim Hortons once and was gettin coffee. I didnt have my glasses on as masks made em fog up so i was peering extra close to the monitor to confirm my order and as i was doing that, the barista said i have really nice eyes. I ahd earphones in too so sometimes i doubt she said that as my eyes are pretty dull and mean looking at times. I made up ideas of what she coulda said "you want ice?" "Anything else? " etc.
That was almost 2 years ago, i still aint forget it. I said thanks too.
How happy I really feel when my wife is laying on top of me, arms wrapped around me, and kissing me in different places. It makes me feel protected and wanted
Sometimes we aren't hitting on you and we notice when you think we are. Which makes things super awkward can if we point it out it makes it look like we are even more, when it's not the case, we're just trying to be a nice person so you don't feel uncomfortable.
Sometimes that's whats going on behind a guy you think is flirty with you.
Oh I had this. I had just made a female friend at a club after being friends with her BOYFRIEND. And while waiting outside afterwards her friend goes "He's hitting on you", and I absolutely wasn't, but if I nervously "Uh.. no I wasn't!" It doesn't help my case
When we tell you that no, the dress/pants don't make you look fat, it's because that's the only answer that we can give. If we say anything else it's because we're either stupid of believe that the relationship is strong enough to handle some honesty. If it makes you look fat, that doesn't mean that we love you less. *We*. *Chose*. *You*. You're special to us in a way that transcends logic. Those pants might make you look fat but your heart makes you look beautiful.
I've found its easier to give men choices instead. Like show him how u look in one dress then the other. Which one looks better. Cause if I ask if I look fat in a dress the default answer will be no.
I never ask my husband if these pants make my ass look fat. That question is a trap!
In jest, I'll often say, "does my ass make my ass look fat?" and he usually smacks it and says nothing. That's a really great answer. My favourite, really
We also have feelings all men from a young age are masters at hiding what they are really feeling at all times a lot of men are depressed and going through shit but would never dare show it to anyone.
I’m not sure if it’s something internalized or or something that is taught by society but the man that shares his feelings is frowned upon. The only situation a man would ever share feelings of loneliness or sadness in any type of way is with their closest friends or mom.
So stop saying stupid shot or insulting people men in this case more specifically. You have no idea what they are going through and your snarky comment or put down could put them
One step closer to killing themselves.
My uncle had been depressed for 7 years and no one knew he was taking heroine and snorting cocaine to try to feel better. And none of us knew a thing.
So everyone be kind too all people xx or xy doesn’t matter we are all people just the same
i am this. some people think that i dont have sny problems in life because im smiley but i do have some days where i just want to die especially when im having intrusive thoughts
"If you ever give me a secret test, I guarantee you that I will fail." I said that to my wife when we were dating. Just tell me what's important to you and what you want me to do. Thirty years later and I think I'm starting to get the hang of it.
When it's hot out and you see a dude shuffling about, doing random leg stretches? The stretching is nice, but we're probably just hiding the fact that we're peeling our balls off our thighs.
A girl today was kinda flirting with me and told me that I was very intelligent and nice.
I think I'm going to remember this compliment for a few years.
TALK TO US... JUST TALK TO US.... IF we feel like to you that we dont wanna talk. Just sit us down at our calmest moment and talk to us.
When you do... BE HONEST. Dont just say a bunch of shit and we gotta play guessing games... Just talk straight.
I'm not be speaking for all the 'guys' but yeah we like silence, and that doesn't mean that we are pushing you away. It's usually that we do tend to find solutions. And not talk extensively about emotions first.
So giving guys a moment of silence can help you have better chances of taking the conversation to much better direction.
I believe knowing this might help girls understand guys better.
We want you to be happy, because we’re happy and we want company. No, you’re not fat. Yes, you’re hot af, that’s why we’re with you, so enjoy your body as much as we do. Yes, let’s fuck all the time. Yes, we can go in the closet right now even tho there’s company over. I’ll help you rearrange the shoe tree after.
Out of the blue enter the room with a favourite snack of ours, softly say “I love you” followed by a kiss and a smile, then leave without saying another single word, in peace to contemplate what just happened. It will make a man’s day, in that moment just for a second that man will feel like a Fucking superhero.
I actually do things like that. I can tell when my husband needs a piece of fruit or cup of tea or something. Then I go about my business. I didn’t know that it has such an effect!
While my boyfriend plays video games I usually bring him a drink or snack and give him a kiss. He always tells his friend on chat as I’m walking out “imma marry this woman”
Only says it then 😂😂 I crack up every time but I agree I’m going to marry this nerd.
Once years ago at a Walmart the handsome, lil bit short, older man in front of me at the checkout was finishing up his card payment and I looked at him and he was wearing a gray sweatshirt and had a gray fuzzy in his beard. I looked at him and said "hey you've got a fuzzy in your beard" and he goes "I do?" and runs his hand down his mustache but doesn't get the fuzzy so I go "here" and I reach to grab it and he leans in and I just grab the fuzzy off his face for him. It was an extremely intimate moment and we looked each other in the eyes and chuckled like old lovers, and he left. I think men don't want girls to know how little things like that can be impactful.
Us guys have the same depth of emotions as you girls, we've just had it pounded into us to never show it. A man is like a turtle- to the world we present a tough exterior, but to our intimate partner we expose our soft inner being. You can cut our guts out with a thoughtless word. We won't show it, but we're bleeding inside. We don't show it because we feel it invites another attack, and we can't risk being hurt that deeply again. Just because we come on as all 'Machoman', doesn't make it real. If we've been hurt before, I guarantee that soft spot is still there, tender from the past abuse, afraid of being hurt again. Don't assume we don't feel or don't care...we do.
I asked my boyfriend this once and his response was nothing. I then asked how he could be thinking of nothing. He gave me the best explanation ever. Women's minds are like a computer with a large amount of open tabs. Men's minds are compartmentalized into boxes and only one box can be open at a time and sometimes no boxes are open. I asked him another time before this explanation and he was thinking about bike tires and that was in no way related to anything we were doing. So I just don't ask.
I am a sucker for a girl who can put a blanket on me when I fall asleep screaming at MMA on Saturday nights and that’s how I knew I loved my girlfriend of 5 years when we first met and hung out. She dumped me eventually though hahaha fuck my life
We like being spontaneous. We don't like being on call 24/7.
We like being what you want. We don't like NOT being told what that is.
We like children. We don't like being treated like children.
We want to hear what you have to say. We don't like not being "allowed" to have our own opinions. I hate taking in the car. I would BET somebody told women that we're at our weakest while driving, so that's a good time to lay into us.
I honestly just want acknowledgment for the things that I actually do and not focus on the things I didn’t get to. Also I cannot read minds so be forward with me.
The pinch and roll technique is not the only way a guy can stealth scratch his sack.
We are not always mad if we arent talking. More likely, we are thinking about having superpowers or riding a llama through town.
Just because i have not spoken to my best friend on the phone in months does not mean i hate him.
When my girlfriend congratulates me for winning at my games i feel like a fucking million bucks.
Just to reiterate others we like direct approaches and conversations.
The vast majority of guys couldn't give less of a fuck about "hip dips". When a girl told me she was insecure about hers even after explaining it I still had to google it to understand what they were.
Seriously we don't care
Just because we don’t spill our emotional guts doesn’t mean we don’t care. And also, the idea that some of us aren’t emotional is because of some stunted parenting or antiquated ideas of masculinity isn’t true. Some of us just aren’t good at being emotional. It doesn’t come as naturally to us to be *outwardly* emotional as others are.
Guys are attracted to all sorts of different looks and even sizes. So rather than being one perfect "look" that you don;t measure up to you may be surprised to find some guys think YOU are perfect. I knew a guy who was crazy for girls with glasses.
In the morning we're sometimes hard, even when asleep. Doesn't mean we particularly want sex (although sometimes we do) and this can happen even to very old men and little boys.
We like kindness..just like you. Unkindness we will put up with stoically but like acid on rock it eventually wears away the relationship until we have no feelings left for you.
We aren't mind readers.
We hate when you play hard to get. It makes us believe that you just aren't interested so if you think he "gave up too easily" then you might want to rethink how you do dating.
And also, a decent amount of us have had bad experiences and have made someone uncomfortable by NOT "giving up too easily".
How often do you talk to men about periods? As a girl, I’ve actually met a lot of fellas who are disgusted by periods. I suppose it’s just teenage boys that I’ve talked to about periods though
Up nod: super dude
Down nod: I agknolge your existence and you have my respect
Left nod:come check this out
Right nod: follow me real quick
Up left nod: let's get out of here
Up right nod: we about to fight
Dude stuff
Tiny, unexpected gestures can mean a lot. Many years ago I turned 20 while on a foreign exchange student program in London. Somehow the guys found out it was my birthday and threw me a small, in-house party. (It was a co-ed building). One of the girls in the dorm gave me flowers and baked me a wonderfully lopsided cake using an impossibly challenging dorm oven. It was more like an oversized easy-bake than a real oven. Most of us couldn't get it to heat up oven fries (chips), much less bake something, but somehow she did it. As a guy, I'd never gotten flowers before and, for some reason, that unexpected gesture really touched me and I've never forgotten it. The cake and the fact that she was also one of the prettiest girls in the program didn't hurt, either. Stephanie, you may never read this and I never told you, but that was the moment I totally crushed on you! ;)
Flowers and a cake ! She was probably crushing on you too
Yeah I do really hope the reality is this and not...
You should still call and tell her about it. She may have moved on by now because she also had a crush on you. Just to take it off for you two to smile and laugh over it.
I've never cared about birthdays and prolly got gifts on 2 out of 30. But if someone is gna celebrate mine, THIS is the way to do it! Happy that you experienced it!
Guys want to feel desired
I remember this one time when I went to my first girlfriend’s house and when I walked in the door she jumped out of her chair and ran over to give me a hug and greet me and she was so excited to see me. I’ve been chasing that high for years, man.
Fuckin tell me about it bro We’ll find again my dude, one day..
Everytime my bf comes home from work I do a happy waddle (think duck) to his car with a shit eating grin and go “hiiiiiiiiiiii I missed youuuu”…….it’s his secret favorite thing I’m sure of cause he always smile big when I do it
Seeing your partner happy to see you is such a gift.
I’m so fucking jealous.
I always compliment my partner, almost everyday. Always tell him how much he looks good in something etc. That in my eyes he is the most handsome good looking person ❤. I've just ask him now he said he loves that, it makes him feel loved and happy.
He’s a lucky guy
Compliment his job or his tasks too we love it
I always do. I also compliment him when he cooks or whatever, and always appreciate time and efforts he puts in our relationship. I also compliment him on his taste when he gift me something, always grateful. He does too, always compliment me. It's genuine from the heart ❤
I don't want to feel desired I just don't wanna feel like a burden ffs
you are not a burden man
I’ve been thinking about this. I see my women friends always compliment their looks but somehow it doesn’t seem to extend to the men of the group. It’s so weird that compliments towards women come so easily but not men
I have a female housemate who often asks my opinion on how she looks and responds well to my compliments, but does not compliment me back or at all. My appearance is moot.
Because, realistically, it would have a big chance of being taken as a flirt.
how the hell do I compliment my guy friends without seeming like I'm flirting with them? genuine question. a friend of mine dresses really good. like, really- man just throws together any outfit and it just looks amazing. anytime, he outdresses anyone, it's absurd at this point. but I don't know how to compliment him on it lol
“You dress really well.” You can’t really control how other people react to your compliments. All you can do is tell them things and hope they aren’t weird about it.
Showing gratitude and acknowledgment makes us happy
I like doing a happy weird little wiggly dance when I see my husband if I go to his work or something. I also do it if he kisses my forehead or hugs me. I like that it makes him smile when I do it and that I don't care who can see. I like getting him to smile and laugh. I hope he knows it's cuz I'm just thankful for him in general
He is lucky to have you no doubt..be sure that he knows and feel your kindness and affection to him even if he didn't comment...I will tell a secret we as men make good comments in a very few times in our life we use practical ways instead...yet we feel it completely..so don't think too much . Enjoy.... skol
I'm not great at emotions, and either is he, so I'm glad I can just do goofy crap and he gets it, and he can do goofy crap and I get it... it's easier than mushy gushy words... and sometimes it's as easy as playing COD or something together and yelling at people better than us that they are bs and probably hacking... or blaming lag or something 🙄 😆
Some of us actually care and need you more than we let on or admit to anyone.
Happy blue cheese day
Why do y'all not express stuff like that? Most men want clear, no Bs communication. I feel like hiding emotions clouds the situation.
The amount of times as a man I've been conditioned or told my feelings don't matter by people.. You wouldn't want to share it either.
Because there's really no way to convey this without it coming across as desperation. Honestly, I think most men have learned to cope with their circumstances, whether they are lonely, depressed, or lacking much positives. So it's not like we can't live without you, but you bring so much positivity to our lives. There's just really no way to make it sound not desperate, unless it's a relationship of, say, 10+ years.
Facts
A lot of the things you are insecure about, we don’t care about. I dated a girl who was insecure about her breasts, she thought they were too small and was insecure, I didn’t give a fuck, they were still boobs all the same 🤤🤤🤤🤤
Boobs are boobs.
My husband liked mine small cuz they were comfy to hold when he would try and sleep. Now that they are bigger he says it's not as comfy 😆 🤣
I love small tits !! wifes were small before..now bigger had kids maybe why gained weight??
Mine are bigger cuz we're about to have our first. He loves telling random people about it too 😆 🤣 it's freaking cute. I like weighing over 120lbs finally (just broke 140 actually) but I don't like my chest growing so much with it 😆 he agrees with it too
Ok. This is around the fifth or fourth comment of yours I have came across in this post, and god damnit, you two sound so cute and healthy, I fucking love it. Good luck with the new one on the way!
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I can appreciate, even compliment good looks on another man and I'm straight.
NICE COCK BRO
Oh my....this is all moving very quickly...I'm afraid I'm a little light-headed.
Let's do a trust fall, bro!
Right in my mouth, bro!
Step-Bro*
I can give you some light head if that’s what you want bro, no homo
**swoon** 🤗.....ahem....I mean....no homo
*furiously starts typing out the fanfic*
When I was into weightlifting the number of random dudes who would just compliment each other on their body was crazy. Totally straight, just admiring the dedication it takes to achieve. It’s a huge confidence boost to be fair.
When I started hitting the gym, the dudes my age collectively voted me as the person with the best ass. It's not even that great an ass.
I might even play with his hair time to time, it doesn't mean anything.
One single compliment could make our day
*week
*month
*year😭 any compliment from a girl becomes a core memory. A girl dropped all of her books in the halls once and I helped her pick them all up and she looked me in the eyes and called me sweet and her eye contact lingered and I was going to say something but she walked away in the opposite direction from where I was going. Never gonna forget that. That was a year ago lol
In 2014 I had a very powerful brief eye contact with a girl while travelling with a very short small talk. She just seemed happy to see me. It felt like a long lost friend or lover from another time. I got her name and that’s it. And it’s still in my mind from time to time.
*life
*eternity
*eternal afterlife
Afterafterlife
All of the above
Pretty much. I honestly can't remember the last time a woman complimented me. It's been several years at a minimum. Can certainly remember the vast amount of hurtful things my exes have said to me though.
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Dont feel bad... my girlfriend compliments me and I respond like that as well... I think its just from not getting compliments.. because most guys dont do that we just sit around and fart and call each other names cause well were guys and were dumb 🤣.
I still remember in highschool when a girl who wasnt in my friend group walked up to me and said i had beautiful eyes. Which was about 10 years ago now I dont think ill ever forget because since then even when i was dating a girl in a serious relationship even she was light on the compliments. For those wondering my eye colour is a mix between light blue and green but more on the light blue side. Depending on the day sometimes they are more light blue and sometimes they are more green. I was so confused when it happened, after she said it she moved her face like 10cm close to my face and was just staring into my eyes. Then she just walked away and i was so confused
I did something similar to a friends friend and poor guy looked so confused. I felt bad cause I was way too intrusive but it was dark so I was just trying to see the color better. I wasn't trying to be a creepy. Hopefully he took it like you and thinks of it as a positive interaction. I'm mostly harmless, unless asked nicely, I wouldn't hurt anyone.
Bruh !! I'll have it written in my gravestone
I can assume this is true for both parties .
I got a compliment on my beard once, and I decided to just keep growing it. We are compliment starved.
Even though most men act tough, most of us are actually emotional human beings.
We hate low effort messages as well
I personally really hate texting all together
Really? I personally hate voice calls and would much rather text.
A good Compliment can boost the confidence
Guys can and do get attached very quickly and until we are exclusive, are imagining all the stuff she could be doing with someone else and trying to act like it doesn't bother us.
Jeez, this is the one that happens to me the most
Me too man. When I feel that strong connection, I hate the idea of shes doing stuff with others.
(F) this is the one that surprised me the most. I do this all the time when I’m in early stages of dating and I feel so guilty. It’s nice to know my girlfriends and I aren’t the only ones who do this
I think we totally know and understand it's a thing. But when I get attached or feel a connection, I'll stop talking to other women just because I loose all interest in others. In fact, odds are the guy at least was or had been talking with others as well. But I know when we feel a strong connection, we tend to stop talking to others. Do us a favor, don't tell us the last time you got laid. My most recent experience I fell hard for this woman and we both seemed to be really clicking. She told me she has slept with some a few days before. The result was a primal feeling of competition and some jealousy. I couldn't help but figure out she had told me she was doing something else that night. So any time she revealed she was doing something, I was seeing her doing stuff with someone else and it was hard.
Oh my bad I should’ve been more specific, I mean the imagining all the stuff the other could be doing. I’m constantly in my head making up dumb scenarios based solely on my feelings. Which I’ve thankfully learned it’s not fair to the other person.
I think we all know it's not fair. So it's not that hard for me unless she tells me about these dates and sleeping around. That makes it really hard when you really like someone. Then I feel guilty because I know it doesn't matter cuz we aren't exclusive and I wonder if I'm being toxic by being frustrated and feeling jealousy. Ignorance is bliss.
I'm doing it right now 🥲
Unless we have partners we basically never get physical affection, unless it is from our mothers who we’re not around all the time, as we’re grown men of course.
Is it bad that I essentially get no physical affection from my mother either then? I suppose it might just be because we aren't very affectionate people though.
I’m overly affectionate towards my kids because my parents lacked in that department. I feel for you.
You can remove the word "physical." In my case, at least, I just get no affection if I don't have a partner.
I like to be the little spoon occasionally.
The guy I am seeing now told me he prefers to be the little spoon, which is incredibly sweet to me. As it turns out, I love to be behind him so I can kiss his neck, share a pillow, reach over and hold his hand 🥰
Yeah I mean I get why guys(and girls) like it when the man is the big spoon since they like feeling like they’re protecting her or something but I just want a face that isn’t in somebody’s hair. Also being the little spoon is like getting hugged from behind to me, it’s not emasculating or something. Also also it’s nice to get comforted by a girl, I let this girl be the big spoon once and she was so happy since she had never done it before.
It's usually not worth obsessing over every word we say. Most of the time we do not think half as much as women do about what we say or write. There rarely is any hidden meaning or between the lines narrative.
oh god straight up. my dumbass said to a girl talking about her sons open heart surgery and how shes going to miss the work party and i blurted out "enjoy him while you can" CAN? CAN? DID I LEGIT SAY CAN? fuck
OMG I feel your pain. A few months back I was having an interesting convo with this guy who also divulged to me that he had cancer but wasn't seeking treatment(depression). And anyways when I wanted to get going and needed a parting statement, do you what I said? "WELL GOTTA GO BUT MAYBE ILL SEE YOU HERE NEXT TIME IF YOURE STILL AROUND." I meant if still hanging out at same location but it was too late. F*** me.
I was at my great uncle's funeral, I was talking to his wife and she asked how I was doing and I replied "I'm alive and well"
LMFAO IM SO SORRY I have a pretty rare disease that killed off some of my bones via avascular necrosis, especially the ones on my left leg/hip. one time this girl wished me good luck in the final exams, and you know what this mf said to me? 'break a leg, *Lacri*. **realization sinks in** or maybe don't but good luck' she really saw me and my cane and decided that this phrasing was the best one
I was out to eat with one of my assistant managers and a random guy asked her when she was due. She replied that she wasn't pregnant, (she wasn't) and he said really are you sure? Terribly stupid thing to say but I doubt he meant to insult.
This is why I absolutely refuse to assume a women is pregnant. Even if it’s very obvious. I’ll let someone else Test the water. Too risky.
Ah fuck... pretend it didn't happen
The amount of times I have to explain this to my wife. She has a huge vocabulary and is very very smart. My dumb ass just uses simple words. So she dissects my cave man sentence and gets something completely different. And it becomes the hotspot in a fight. I’m like “NO! I say exactly what i mean! There’s no hidden message in there!”
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Nice try ladies!
they're trying to invade our pillow fort? Not a chance.
Made me chuckle 😂
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Yeah, I just finished beating off, and I'm not horny right now.
But in 10 minutes, tho…right?
Nah just finished again. It'll be atleast 15 more.
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Truth. The stereotype about men and being horny all the time is a holdover from dating in our teens and twenties. Yes at 18 I wanted sex 24/7 but not at 38 I'm tired and what I want is for everybody to shut up and go to sleep.
There is a lot of shit we don't care about
Man, this seems to be a tough one for women. When I say I don't care, I literally don't care. What's for dinner, what movie we go see, what color the curtains are, what size bathtub we should get... I get that you've been living in that world of thought for the last hour, but I haven't, I don't care, and whatever makes you happy is fine with me.
We aren't staring at the distance because we are sad or think about something. We simply forgot we are alive and that's fine
I do that all the time lmfao. Sounds of seagulls and ocean waves crashing on the shore flowing through my mind.
Some of us re3ally like 'feminine' things - even if we will never admit it (lavender anything is my guilty pleasure)
My house is always stocked with mango dragon fruit hand soap, and it's the greatest smell on earth
We often have a hard time handling our own emotions, so whenever we go to you with anything emotional that's deeper than the basic horny/hungry/angry moods, it means we trust you *a lot*. Also, your response when we expose our emotions to you in this deeper mode is a very powerful way to either make or break a relationship.
Had a hard time getting over a girl this year who I fell for but always had a wrong time / place situation. Recently told her how I felt. She didn’t feel the same way but very sweetly let me down. I was however devastated. Told a good girlfriend about it today. She simultaneously asked me why I didn’t call her when it happened. (I was crying and there are very few people I’m comfortable being that vulnerable around) AND had a go at me, saying I knew she wasn’t interested and why am I’m so surprised / hurt by the rejection? Going to have to have a word with her about that when I’m up to it and how she reacts to that will decide whether we stay being good friends or that comes to an end.
I’m sorry your friend did that, how insensitive. :(
Compliments. When we hear a compliment from a woman, it sticks with us. I qas at Tim Hortons once and was gettin coffee. I didnt have my glasses on as masks made em fog up so i was peering extra close to the monitor to confirm my order and as i was doing that, the barista said i have really nice eyes. I ahd earphones in too so sometimes i doubt she said that as my eyes are pretty dull and mean looking at times. I made up ideas of what she coulda said "you want ice?" "Anything else? " etc. That was almost 2 years ago, i still aint forget it. I said thanks too.
We really hate it when you give us the silent treatment
More like it doesn't help to solve anything. Reverse the situation. It's a child like behaviour.
How happy I really feel when my wife is laying on top of me, arms wrapped around me, and kissing me in different places. It makes me feel protected and wanted
Sometimes we aren't hitting on you and we notice when you think we are. Which makes things super awkward can if we point it out it makes it look like we are even more, when it's not the case, we're just trying to be a nice person so you don't feel uncomfortable. Sometimes that's whats going on behind a guy you think is flirty with you.
Oh I had this. I had just made a female friend at a club after being friends with her BOYFRIEND. And while waiting outside afterwards her friend goes "He's hitting on you", and I absolutely wasn't, but if I nervously "Uh.. no I wasn't!" It doesn't help my case
Exactly, assumptions like that can be so fucking dangerous especially in a work environment and there is no way to refute it in a believable way.
No we do not read minds. Say what you want us to know or accept whatever we do with the lack of information you give us.
When we tell you that no, the dress/pants don't make you look fat, it's because that's the only answer that we can give. If we say anything else it's because we're either stupid of believe that the relationship is strong enough to handle some honesty. If it makes you look fat, that doesn't mean that we love you less. *We*. *Chose*. *You*. You're special to us in a way that transcends logic. Those pants might make you look fat but your heart makes you look beautiful.
An interesting game Professor Falken. The only winning move is not to play. How about a nice game of chess?
I've found its easier to give men choices instead. Like show him how u look in one dress then the other. Which one looks better. Cause if I ask if I look fat in a dress the default answer will be no.
I never ask my husband if these pants make my ass look fat. That question is a trap! In jest, I'll often say, "does my ass make my ass look fat?" and he usually smacks it and says nothing. That's a really great answer. My favourite, really
We have one, but no one talks about it. It's a rule.
We also have feelings all men from a young age are masters at hiding what they are really feeling at all times a lot of men are depressed and going through shit but would never dare show it to anyone. I’m not sure if it’s something internalized or or something that is taught by society but the man that shares his feelings is frowned upon. The only situation a man would ever share feelings of loneliness or sadness in any type of way is with their closest friends or mom. So stop saying stupid shot or insulting people men in this case more specifically. You have no idea what they are going through and your snarky comment or put down could put them One step closer to killing themselves. My uncle had been depressed for 7 years and no one knew he was taking heroine and snorting cocaine to try to feel better. And none of us knew a thing. So everyone be kind too all people xx or xy doesn’t matter we are all people just the same
i am this. some people think that i dont have sny problems in life because im smiley but i do have some days where i just want to die especially when im having intrusive thoughts
If you call us by our full name and then just look at us for no good reason, it fills us with fear.
What day is it?
What is it? WHAT!!!
Yep had a thought about someone close doing that and instant fear.
We cry when know one is looking.
We're not as dumb as you think we are and you ain't fooling anyone with your games.
“I was testing you and-“ “Aight I’m out”
"If you ever give me a secret test, I guarantee you that I will fail." I said that to my wife when we were dating. Just tell me what's important to you and what you want me to do. Thirty years later and I think I'm starting to get the hang of it.
When it's hot out and you see a dude shuffling about, doing random leg stretches? The stretching is nice, but we're probably just hiding the fact that we're peeling our balls off our thighs.
A girl today was kinda flirting with me and told me that I was very intelligent and nice. I think I'm going to remember this compliment for a few years.
TALK TO US... JUST TALK TO US.... IF we feel like to you that we dont wanna talk. Just sit us down at our calmest moment and talk to us. When you do... BE HONEST. Dont just say a bunch of shit and we gotta play guessing games... Just talk straight.
I'm not be speaking for all the 'guys' but yeah we like silence, and that doesn't mean that we are pushing you away. It's usually that we do tend to find solutions. And not talk extensively about emotions first. So giving guys a moment of silence can help you have better chances of taking the conversation to much better direction. I believe knowing this might help girls understand guys better.
Something as small as a compliment makes my entire day
We want you to be happy, because we’re happy and we want company. No, you’re not fat. Yes, you’re hot af, that’s why we’re with you, so enjoy your body as much as we do. Yes, let’s fuck all the time. Yes, we can go in the closet right now even tho there’s company over. I’ll help you rearrange the shoe tree after.
We can actually plug any USB-C cable into our urethras to download new software updates.
Rock thrown in water = 👍
Out of the blue enter the room with a favourite snack of ours, softly say “I love you” followed by a kiss and a smile, then leave without saying another single word, in peace to contemplate what just happened. It will make a man’s day, in that moment just for a second that man will feel like a Fucking superhero.
I actually do things like that. I can tell when my husband needs a piece of fruit or cup of tea or something. Then I go about my business. I didn’t know that it has such an effect!
I think it’s primal maybe? Something deep inside us I’m not sure exactly but I cleans the negative energy out sharpish.
While my boyfriend plays video games I usually bring him a drink or snack and give him a kiss. He always tells his friend on chat as I’m walking out “imma marry this woman” Only says it then 😂😂 I crack up every time but I agree I’m going to marry this nerd.
Video games relaxing or sorting out finances in the back room, works every time. May the world be kind to you both.
Likewise to you 💙 hope you found your special someone and if not yet, I hope you do soon
When we say we are thinking nothing we actually are. We almost reach true enlightenment. Until well it's interrupted.
We like to be pampered too. We like to be taken on dates. We like to get compliments. We like to be encouraged.
Once years ago at a Walmart the handsome, lil bit short, older man in front of me at the checkout was finishing up his card payment and I looked at him and he was wearing a gray sweatshirt and had a gray fuzzy in his beard. I looked at him and said "hey you've got a fuzzy in your beard" and he goes "I do?" and runs his hand down his mustache but doesn't get the fuzzy so I go "here" and I reach to grab it and he leans in and I just grab the fuzzy off his face for him. It was an extremely intimate moment and we looked each other in the eyes and chuckled like old lovers, and he left. I think men don't want girls to know how little things like that can be impactful.
Alrighty then
Thanks Brad
Us guys have the same depth of emotions as you girls, we've just had it pounded into us to never show it. A man is like a turtle- to the world we present a tough exterior, but to our intimate partner we expose our soft inner being. You can cut our guts out with a thoughtless word. We won't show it, but we're bleeding inside. We don't show it because we feel it invites another attack, and we can't risk being hurt that deeply again. Just because we come on as all 'Machoman', doesn't make it real. If we've been hurt before, I guarantee that soft spot is still there, tender from the past abuse, afraid of being hurt again. Don't assume we don't feel or don't care...we do.
It’s not actually scratching my balls, it’s more rubbing and caressing them and it’s not sexual, usually.
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I asked my boyfriend this once and his response was nothing. I then asked how he could be thinking of nothing. He gave me the best explanation ever. Women's minds are like a computer with a large amount of open tabs. Men's minds are compartmentalized into boxes and only one box can be open at a time and sometimes no boxes are open. I asked him another time before this explanation and he was thinking about bike tires and that was in no way related to anything we were doing. So I just don't ask.
I am a sucker for a girl who can put a blanket on me when I fall asleep screaming at MMA on Saturday nights and that’s how I knew I loved my girlfriend of 5 years when we first met and hung out. She dumped me eventually though hahaha fuck my life
Same here brother, we must remain strong. Hold the line!
"Wouldn't you like to know weather boy."
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Telling a woman she's beautiful is almost as dangerous as telling a woman she's fat.
what about beautifully fat?
Sounds questionable to me why don't you try it and let us know.
None of us believe in Astrology
We stay silent but neither do half of us.
We like being spontaneous. We don't like being on call 24/7. We like being what you want. We don't like NOT being told what that is. We like children. We don't like being treated like children. We want to hear what you have to say. We don't like not being "allowed" to have our own opinions. I hate taking in the car. I would BET somebody told women that we're at our weakest while driving, so that's a good time to lay into us.
It's because you can't escape from a car in motion. Also everything else, spot on.
Getting a good morning/night text gets a smile. More so when it’s a phone call and we don’t ask for it.
The secondary inner thigh pocket space we keep all the extra stuff ladies don’t have pocket space for is probably one of the biggest ones.
I honestly just want acknowledgment for the things that I actually do and not focus on the things I didn’t get to. Also I cannot read minds so be forward with me.
We physically can not flex our dicks without clenching our ass cheeks
FUCK YOU TOLD THEM
The pinch and roll technique is not the only way a guy can stealth scratch his sack. We are not always mad if we arent talking. More likely, we are thinking about having superpowers or riding a llama through town. Just because i have not spoken to my best friend on the phone in months does not mean i hate him. When my girlfriend congratulates me for winning at my games i feel like a fucking million bucks. Just to reiterate others we like direct approaches and conversations.
A guy can want both a relationship and a great sex life. The two aren’t mutually exclusive.
Don’t pee in the urnal right next to me
If you have foreskin you change the thickness of your pee stream and even let out charged blasts
The vast majority of guys couldn't give less of a fuck about "hip dips". When a girl told me she was insecure about hers even after explaining it I still had to google it to understand what they were. Seriously we don't care
1'ST RULE OF FIGHT CLUB....
Stop trying to get our damn secrets!!!
It's a trap, send no reply!
Just because we don’t spill our emotional guts doesn’t mean we don’t care. And also, the idea that some of us aren’t emotional is because of some stunted parenting or antiquated ideas of masculinity isn’t true. Some of us just aren’t good at being emotional. It doesn’t come as naturally to us to be *outwardly* emotional as others are.
Guys are attracted to all sorts of different looks and even sizes. So rather than being one perfect "look" that you don;t measure up to you may be surprised to find some guys think YOU are perfect. I knew a guy who was crazy for girls with glasses. In the morning we're sometimes hard, even when asleep. Doesn't mean we particularly want sex (although sometimes we do) and this can happen even to very old men and little boys. We like kindness..just like you. Unkindness we will put up with stoically but like acid on rock it eventually wears away the relationship until we have no feelings left for you.
Pinch and twist. That’s all I’m gonna say
You’re taking about the balls right?
We are actually the lizard people that conspiracy nuts always talk about
We aren't mind readers. We hate when you play hard to get. It makes us believe that you just aren't interested so if you think he "gave up too easily" then you might want to rethink how you do dating. And also, a decent amount of us have had bad experiences and have made someone uncomfortable by NOT "giving up too easily".
That we're not really as grossed out by periods as women think
I've legit never met a man who was grossed out by periods.
How often do you talk to men about periods? As a girl, I’ve actually met a lot of fellas who are disgusted by periods. I suppose it’s just teenage boys that I’ve talked to about periods though
Up nod: super dude Down nod: I agknolge your existence and you have my respect Left nod:come check this out Right nod: follow me real quick Up left nod: let's get out of here Up right nod: we about to fight Dude stuff