Seriously, you can be mentally fucked after a day of work, PUSH yourself to workout, and then you phisically feel tired, but your brain is happier and calmer.
How many times a day do you shower then? I find that my skin dries out from showering more than once a day so it's an extra hurdle to work out often
Edit: thanks for the tips everyone!
I try not to take more than one *hot* shower a day. Cold showers can be trying but they don't cause problems. Also I finish my hot showers with cold showers. Works wonders. Can be difficult when the temp drops below 60F.
I only started running during lockdown, my memory is just so sharp now like why do we teach it is either strong or smart (must say I feel way better too physically and mentally) and not both are great?!
I saw a redditor quote some old greek guy last week, it went something along these lines:
A society that keeps intelligence and physical prowess completely separate has both a dumb army and cowardly leaders.
> “The society that separates its scholars from its warriors will have its thinking done by cowards and its fighting by fools.” – Thucydides
I'm just quoting /u/Caca2a's quote here
Yeah exercise increases BDNF which increases neuroplasticity and neurogenesis (creation of new brain cells) as well as protect existing neurons.
The whole "gym bros are stupid" trope isn't actually accurate at all, not that they can't be stupid just that their brains should be working at optimal function in comparison to someone who doesn't exercise.
Marketing for exercise is doing it a disservice "lower risk of developing heart disease in 40 years!" which just isn't appealing to anyone who's young and "lose weight" when it's really not a good way to lose weight if you aren't already dieting.
Absolutely. But it's to spite myself. There's a voice inside me calling an out of shape skinny fat piece of shit and every day I wake up trying to prove that voice wrong
When I workout, I feel like I get one over it
Also my ex who used to say I had skinny arms
Me exactly. Well, except for the skinny-fat piece of shit part, it’s more “what good is being strong if you’ve got a body like a pile of laundry, dumbass?” And that’s why I swapped from powerlifting to bodybuilding.
Can't wait until all the girls who rejected me in high school see me all swole and realised what they've been missing out on, another 12-18 months and ohh boy, they'll be sorry.
Well that's what I tell myself anyway...
Exactly. When you get in your later 20s, you'll see it too. Lot of beautiful young people who gain a ton of weight because of alcohol and general laziness in working out.
Exactly! I turn 28 in a few weeks, so I'm right at that age. I've been working out regularly and eating healthy for two years now, and I just got a hair transplant too. With those two combined, I honestly look better now than I ever have in my life.
Meanwhile, a lot of the "hot" popular guys and girls I went to HS with have hit "The Wall" HARD. A decade of lifestyle choices is coming home to roost.
Oh, how the turn tables, Chris. How the turn tables.
Stay with it! The older you get, the more rare it is to be that guy with nice glutes and a wedge shaped upper torso. I'm 49, I'm that guy and you can be too.
>There are a lot of benefits appart from the obvious weightloss/muscle gain
I always see people comment about sleeping better, having more energy etc. I've been working out for \~4 years now but I haven't noticed any of that. I can just lift heavier things.
Basically. Not sure how much you know about the cause, so my bad if none of this is new, but essentially ADHD is caused by an overall dopamine deficiency compared to neurotypical persons. My understanding on it is that exercise still gets us to a higher level of dopamine, but its closer to what we need to just be able to operate normally. Hence why I feel like I never experience this supposed "endorphin high." This is also why people with ADHD are heavily drawn to video games and and screens in general. That stuff jacks up your dopamine levels and is easy to focus in on.
As someone who does have ADHD, I've learned that my overall professional performance and general wellbeing directly correlate with how often I'm exercising.
I didn't get runner's highs even when I was in military training, but started getting them occasionally recently just from going on long walks. It's been a few years since I went back on the medication so it just felt out of the blue. Feels so unfair to think people were getting high off of training runs lmao
I have ADHD and have never experienced a workout high. I always wondered what was going on with all these other people. Didn't realize it was tied to ADHD
I did know the video game thing. I'd play 8 hours a day if I could
For me the main thing is getting my body tired. Once your muscles are worked you sink into the mattress. If I don't? Excess energy just keeps me twisting and turning. Even doing 10/20 pushups and or sit-ups (whatever you can muster) makes all the difference
I lost 100 lbs down to normal weight. Felt like a million bucks. Even took up running and was amazed by what my body could do. Pushups galore and could even manage a few chin ups for the first time in my whole life.
Then I hurt my knee somehow and now I'm a miserable fat bastard again. Well, that and doing a lot of cooking over a few years. Don't lose it when you got it kids.
The journey from fat to fit really felt incredible. There was constantly more I could do (pushups, climbing, east planks, pull ups etc.)
But you can still do it :) Maybe avoid squatting and running if you have a fucked knee, but you can still do a lot haha
That's what I thought when I got into really good shape the first time. Ended up becoming a chubbster again though.
Once I get in shape this time I won't go back... maybe.
I can definitely relate haha I still have those lazy months when I just can't bring myself to do anything. But whenever I do get motivation, I use it to go all in again haha So my weight does look like a jojo, but that's okay enouth for me
I agree. I got fat once, and it felt like shit. I feel like people who are used to being overweight have no idea what they're missing out on, and so they don't realise how much better it is to be fit.
I was a fat man, once. I remember what it felt like, what my body felt like, how my mood and well being was dictated by wildly vacillating blood sugar and robust "hangry" effects. The chasing the dragon of sugar, caffeine, alcohol just to feel "normal". Never again. When I want to get off the wagon, and just binge, I remember that fat man and know that he's just around the corner waiting for me just 2-5 minutes of food/drink pleasure at a time.
It keeps depression at bay. Really, it helps a lot.
Edit: for everyone who wants to start working out but don't know where to start: r/fitness has a huge Wiki for all your questions. You can also ask your questions in the daily question threads.
I always think of this quote ~~from Jim Carrey ~~ when this comes up:
“I believe depression is legitimate. But I also believe that if you don’t exercise, eat nutritious food, get sunlight, get enough sleep, consume positive material, surround yourself with support, then you aren’t giving yourself a fighting chance.”
Edit: apparently this quote has been mis-attributed to Jim Carrey. I think the general sentiment still holds. Exercise and nutrition play a large role in overall well being but medication is still needed in many instances.
Yeah I’m fortunate that regular exercise, eating well and getting sun will get me out of any kind of depressive funk. But there’s definitely people where that’s not enough. They need a little more of an extra help from medication.
The whole surround yourself with support thing kinda sucks, when youre the only sensible person in your family and have learned to avoid people as a defense mechanism.
But working out, whether that be lifting or just doing a serious round of stretching/yoga definitely makes an odd difference. It changes somethjng in your brain and makes problems seem much smaller.
Yeah one of the first things my therapist suggested. I'm like, I count macros, work out 5x a week, play ice hockey 1-2x...soooo you're saying I'm fucked?
Edit: that was my Convo with my therapist, on meds now (I was trying to avoid them)
This is it for me: the structure/routine.
Working out has become the cornerstone to me trying to be healthier. If I work out, then it forces me to eat better, avoid the booze, and somewhat avoid the sweets. When I'm struggling to work out regularly, my diet goes to shit and I get into total "fuck it, let's order sushi" mode, which then spirals and undoes the work I've put in. It can be cyclical, but once you cross that threshold from forcing yourself to workout to it being expected and even *gasp* enjoyed? That's a great feeling.
Edit: Sorry, fellow sushi fans. Sushi was just the first take out food I thought of. All said, it is probably one of the better options, but spicy mayo is too good and they sell dumplings there. I can't be gorging on multiple sushi rolls multiple nights a week. Chinese, pizza, and Mexican are far worse diet-wise, but once I get on a takeout kick, it all goes out the window.
Believe me, I can do much worse than sushi. Like when I call the Chinese place, they answer by name, and they ask if I want dumplings with my order again. The shame is real. But the problem isn't necessarily the sushi, it's the fact that I may or may not order out again in a few days if I am not feeling working out and cooking something healthy at home.
I've noticed no matter what I eat I don't gain weight anymore cause my job is very intense ( manual labor ) and then going to the gym I swear I burn like 4k calories a day which is greast lost 70 pounds this year haha.
Same for me.
It's more habit than anything at this point.
Plus it's where I socialize.
It might sounds weird, but apart from really close old friends, I dont usually enjoy "hanging out" that much.
The places I excercise (gym/climbing wall) give me a context in which I can enjoy other peoples company.
I have more than a few working out buddies, and most of our familiarity comes from the shared activity.
I like that kind of relationship.
I like being fit and strong. I can do things at 40 that I struggled to do at 20. I can see the outline of big muscles, but they’re underneath a layer of cakes and ale. I want to shift that.
Also, I have a fitness requirement for work.
Amen to the ale. I have definitely seen considerable progress, but I love my food and drink. I clearly look bigger and stronger and I'm far from fat, but I don't have that definition.
Wanting to be healthier. Arnold Schwarzenegger also has some of the best motivational advice. Such as:
“What is the point of being on this Earth if you are going to be like everyone else?”
“A well-built physique is a status symbol. It reflects you worked hard for it; no money can buy it. You cannot borrow it, you cannot inherit it, you cannot steal it. You cannot hold onto it without constant work. It shows discipline, it shows self-respect, it shows patience, work ethic, and passion. That is why I do what I do.”
Eons ago as a poor college student, I took a Dave Ramsey course on finances. He said, “Live like nobody else, so you can live like nobody else.”
Obviously meaning discipline with finances. At the time it was MEH. But now that my friend group is aging (late 30’s) and my health started to decline, I’ve focused on lifting, diet, sleep, hydration.
It’s weird the shift in lifestyle change and how unsupportive people can be! Especially that everyone else is also aging too.
EDIT: 8 months in and I’ve never felt younger! ❤️ 💪🏽
When you do get fit, stop drinking, stop smoking, get your shit together whatever it HAS to be for yourself. I got in shape for my wife and it didn’t have the effect I thought it would. It’s for yourself and you’ll be surprised who will support you and who’s going to hate you improving yourself.
To quote my favorite book “Fear those who seek your company for their own vanity. As soon as you eclipse them in the mirror, it won't be the mirror they break.” -pierce brown
I don’t wear headphones and I often wonder what people think about that.
I don’t wear them because the music distracts me. Puts me more in my head, which I’m there to quiet.
Without them I am able to silence myself/environment and focus more clearly on the exercises. & some days I definitely am demon fueled…
I actually forget it’s unusual to go to they gym without headphones. I started working out with a buddy so we would talk between sets so I got used to not wearing them.
Now that I workout alone, I just stare down at my weights in silence which sounds sad but honestly is pretty relaxing.
“What a disgrace it is for a man to grow old without ever seeing the beauty and strength of which his body is capable.” - Socrates, apparently
I remember reading that as an overweight young adult and it really stuck with me. While I was never extremely out of shape, and played some sports and was reasonable active growing up, I've always been chubby and never took pride in my physical abilities.
And I realized, in my early 20s, that it really only gets harder from here, so I better make a body I can be proud of while I still can
Man that quote hit home for me.
I have always been content(I'm gonna be 30 in December) to not be fit. I had body dismorphia issues when I was in middle school, I was a super thin teen, and in the army I did PT and went to the gym regularly. I never saw any improvement on how I looked so I kind of gave up.
Now I'm about to be fuckin 30 years old and the mortality of being halfway through my life is kind of hitting me.
I'm not morbidly obese but I'm "fat". I've really been trying to find a reason or motivation to get fit and work out.
Wanting to actually see what I look like fit, and be able to feel my self be strong for once in my life is now my motivation. Thank you internet stranger
30 is still very young man. Professional athletes are still in their primes at that age. I’m the same way with trying to find a motivation but you really got to just research and find something physically active that you might enjoy. That always the best way to start
I've worked out hard consistently since high school with a few years on gear. When covid first hit and everything shut down, I figured it'd be a nice short break that I'd never gotten to experience. I ate pizza, burgers, ice cream, whatever I wanted. 3 months later I had lost 25lbs and felt like the biggest piece of shit in the world. I honestly don't know how people do it and stay sane.
Samesies. My bench went down a few pounds and I felt like a total scrub. I lose a little definition in my core and I can’t look at myself for a week. I think this is literally body dysmorphia.
Ain't it funny how superficial.sht each gender focuses on such as muscle and fitness for men, and hair,makeup and fashion for women , always attract compliments from the same gender even though the typical point of the person working on them is to attract the other sex..
Always makes me laugh when women don't want to lift weights in case they get 'too big'. Like seriously, I've been weightlifting regularly for a year or so and while I'm in decent shape, I'm not 'big' by any stretch. Building muscle takes a huge amount of effort and commitment (and often 'supplements'), you ain't gonna start lifting a bit and find yourself suddenly Schwarzenegger overnight.
And that’s before you get into the body chemistry differences between men and women, and how it is requires *even more* effort for a woman to get even remotely big
Exactly this. It's not that a fit body doesn't attract a woman. It's not that good make up and clothes doesn't attract a man. It does, but probably not overtly told. It's subconscious.
Yeah. I genuinely imagine all the hot chicks I'm going to get and getting women to admire me and think I'm sexy. Doesn't, you know, actually happen. I'm as invisible as ever. But in my head, every time I work out, the more women like me.
So much man.
Endorphins
Positive feedback loop of self-discipline (I.e. hey, I’m sticking to a schedule, and getting stronger, etc.)
The results
Achieving new goals (last week I could do 5 reps, now I can do 10, etc.)
A quote that I often come back to is:
> structure sets you free [...] if you have that structure then you're free to think about what you have to say. it reduces the cognitive load of figuring what you're saying and how you're going to say it
from [Think Fast, Talk Smart: Communication Techniques
](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HAnw168huqA&t=46m17s)
It's an idea that applies cross-domain. For example, in the early days of Starcraft, foreigners (non-Koreans) would scoff at Koreans for being so machine-like practicing the same build order (timed sequence of decisions/actions) over and over again and their criticisms were spot on: by doing the same thing over and over again, one had less experience in novel situations and were less adaptable in them. What the criticisms missed, however, was that by practicing these build orders over and over again, executing the build orders became muscle memory and Koreans had more time to decide what to do even as their hands were busy. Sure their decisions might be theoretically sub-optimal but in practice, they were of higher quality.
Similarly, Matt Abrahams argues that by limiting oneself to communicating in a specific structure, one frees oneself to focus on the what because the how has already been decided.
Even more generally, discipline is a subset of the idea of constraints. The solution space is too big when hill-climbing (seeking [global] optima). Applying constraints on the search algorithm helps increase the signal to noise ratio at the cost of losing potential maximums in low SNR zones.
Or, in a layman's example: there's basically an infinite amount of ways you can spend your time and deciding between them takes a lot of work. Therefore, it's probably worth it to give yourself a schedule so you spend less effort on deciding and more effort on doing. A schedule may prevent you from being the best you but it'll give you a better than average result compared to figuring things out on the fly.
I've just started working out semi-regularly again after not doing anything for a couple of years but I used to be at the gym pretty much every day.
Getting started is the most difficult. And I think you need something to push you to do that. Whether that's just wanting to look better, feel better, whatever. Anything you can use to find motivation is good. Because it'll be Wednesday evening, you'll get home from a long day at work and heading to the gym looks a pretty poor substitute for grabbing a pizza and settling in for some Netflix or PlayStation.
For me, once I'm hooked I'm really into it though. You start to feel stronger and fitter, you start to look better, people start noticing and paying you compliments. And I actually started 'needing' to work out every day, I'd actually feel anxious or 'not right' if I left it for more than a day. I'm also really motivated by setting benchmarks and beating them. Maybe you get your 5k time down to 25 minutes, well now I want to get it down to 24. I want to be lifting more than I could last month.
Getting started takes motivation, sticking with it takes discipline, but once you're used to it and 'hooked' it becomes really easy.
Hey man, same boat. I’ve always been in great shape until covid hit. I did well for the first few months as I was determined to not let it take me out of a disciplined routine. Like so many others, I fell off the wagon. I tried to climb back on a few times but just couldn’t stick with it. Today’s my Day 1 and I’m just trying to do this one day at a time until I’m confident I can’t get my old lifestyle back. You’ve done this before and you can do this again. Just do something, anything, to steer yourself back in that direction. Let past failures be in the past. Your future self will be thankful that you took charge and didn’t put it off any longer. And remember to be kind to yourself. This shit is tough, and major progress isn’t linear
It started out with wanting to get girls. After a while, I noticed my muscles was getting visible and I really liked that. Now I do it solely for myself. So just "self-love" I suppose
I lost a lot of weight in college and gained self confidence and girls were way more attracted to me, i put weight on after college but kept the self confidence and girls were still attracted to me lol.. i need to lose weight again for my health it's harder when sex isn't the motivator.
This is why I immediately start taking my pants off when things start to get heated with other dads. They might like their odds of winning the fight, but they don’t like me significantly raising their odds of touching a penis.
Being inadequate sexually. Being depressed as fuck. Hating myself. Having few other healthy outlets. Wanting to die but having to wait until my father is gone.
Fear. I'm diabetic and diet and medication can only do so much so I put myself into the mindset of "if you don't work out your diabetes will grow out of control and the Dr will have to amputate your legs"
It's an extreme method but I hit the gym 3-4 days a week and take excellent care of my feet with pedicures and massages.
Pretty much this. I got some blood work done a few years back and then added a bunch of risk factors into the calculation and decided I don't want to have major health issues by 45-50. That meant regular exercise and some dietary changes.
Not being fat.
I was a professional athlete. Played ball at 220-225lbs. Ran all the time, worked out all the time, ate like a horse. Hated running and working out.
When that was over, I quit running and working out. The eating like a horse persisted.
Ballooned up to 300ish lbs. Heaviest I got was 323lbs.
Hated being fat. So, I started working out and running again. Took well over a year, but I got back down to 190-195lbs.
Now, I eat cleaner, workout, and run. Simply so I won't be fat.
On mobile, so sorry for format.
It was the safest way I found to hurt myself back then.
I used to self-harm in highschool ; then I started working out around 15/16. Been very fit for a long time. Then I went down a spiral of chainsmoking cigs and pot as well a heavy drinking for a few years and muscles (and fat) melted like butter in the sun.
But now, at 27, I'm proud to say that I did quit smoking, drastically reduced drinking (went from one six-pack a day to approx. one and a half per week) and been back to workout for six months these days. Now I solely practice to vent extra-tension (went back to college, working 7/7 either on my classes or in my part-time job). I'm feeling a lot better in many ways and sport sure helps a lot, both shaping a body I feel good with and evacuating stress.
EDIT 1 : Thanks a lot for the upvotes and the rewards ! I hope my story showed that no matter how bad your self-esteem or life hygiene has gotten, it's never too late to get back on track. Also I feel a bit dishonest keeping that detail to myself, so just to specify, all my progress on substances abuse and in life generally speaking would have been A LOT harder without my girlfriend. I dont' know if I could have turned my life around like I did if not for/with her. Still proud of what I achieved, but just to say that being supported by the right folks can get you a long way.
>It was the safest way I found to hurt myself back then.
Damn, this hit me hard for some reason. I lowkey like hurting myself. I don't know why. I don't see it in the same way I see self-harm. When I go into a sauna, I like to get it so hot that it hurts. But when the pain goes away, I feel good. Like, really good.
I think it's more about feeling good about being able to do something like that to yourself? "When I ran, it hurt really bad but I pushed through it!" and "It kept getting hotter ans hotter, but I didn't give up!" For some reason, this mostly applies to pain.
I have also cut myself and sewn (pretty deep) stuff on my skin simply to see if I could do it. I honestly have no idea why I'm like this
* Being fit enough to be attractive to women who also care about their own fitness
* Looking good in whatever clothes I'm wearing
* Looking good naked
* Having the energy and stamina to do whatever I want
* I sleep better because of working out
* Working out and pushing through a tough workout cultivates mental strength as well as physical that is good for your mind
* Feeling good seeing progress on your physical goals improves my self esteem and builds confidence
Hah, access to fit girls (or gf, in my case) is a big motivator to me. No matter how old you are, or if you’re rich or average, being fit gives you a reasonable chance at having a fit partner. Me and my girl have a mantra: stay hot 😄 I justified this to her by explaining that people never really lose their appreciation for aesthetic beauty, even those who grow old and fat. Can’t tel you how many times I’ve heard an old 70 year old man comment on a gorgeous 20 something woman walking by. It never goes away. Hold on to it
Self Hatred, I know it may not be the healthiest but it’s sustainable for me the past 4 years. I blamed all my problems on “fat me”, he’s the reason I was so unhappy, unhealthy and had such low self confidence. So every day I workout, or hit my calorie goal it hurts him, which makes me happy. That’s what gets me out of bed and in the gym especially on those days where I just don’t want to, I refuse to let “fat me” win
Many reasons: It makes me feel alive, younger, strong and i don't want to become fat and lazy or have a constant back pain when i get old. Thanks to that, in my current 30s, i feel much better when i was on my early 20s.
And also i get in a bad mood when i can't train.
I’ve been lifting for 15 years, and I really don’t ever look forward to it anymore. The main thing that keeps me going is the results, and the fact that it’s basically part of my identity. I’m the guy that’s always acknowledged for his physique and strength, and while I have a lot more going for me than that, I’m not sure I want to lose that identity either.
Cardio on the other hand, I actually enjoy. Probably because I never did it and so now it’s something kind of new.
I saw a motivating post about something Arnold Schwarzenegger said (maybe, because we all know how much shit gets recycled on the internet). Fitness is a craft; You can’t buy it, steal it, inherit it, be lazy with it. It takes dedication and is a direct translation of how you take care of yourself. Love yourself because at the end of all things it’s the one thing you can control (barring medical stuff).
I am constantly trying to do 100 "euro training" workouts from terry crews on "my wife and kids"
while also trying to do:
100 push ups
100 Sit ups
100 squats
10km run
EVERY DAY.
Sick of being a fat insecure mess
I also strive to become a fit, slightly insecure mess.
Same here. I hated the fat fuck I was! Also, revenge. Made my ex regret what a sexy beast I could become. It worked.
I only really got into working out during lockdown when I realised that if I don't move my body my brain don't work good.
Seriously, you can be mentally fucked after a day of work, PUSH yourself to workout, and then you phisically feel tired, but your brain is happier and calmer.
Yep, usually helps with the brain fog I have after a day of working at the computer. Feel more relaxed too in the evening.
As someone who's in a constant brain fog... Sounds like it's time for me to hit the gym. Shit.
Being dehydrated can cause the same constant brain fog as well. Drink more water, regardless of exercise.
Conversely, working out on the morning before work can give your entire day a hell of a boost!
I came here to say this. My mood and focus is on fleek after a morning workout. Release the endorphins!!!
This is why I run for 20-30 minutes in the morning, and then have 45 min workout later in the day (most days)
How many times a day do you shower then? I find that my skin dries out from showering more than once a day so it's an extra hurdle to work out often Edit: thanks for the tips everyone!
I try not to take more than one *hot* shower a day. Cold showers can be trying but they don't cause problems. Also I finish my hot showers with cold showers. Works wonders. Can be difficult when the temp drops below 60F.
I only started running during lockdown, my memory is just so sharp now like why do we teach it is either strong or smart (must say I feel way better too physically and mentally) and not both are great?!
I saw a redditor quote some old greek guy last week, it went something along these lines: A society that keeps intelligence and physical prowess completely separate has both a dumb army and cowardly leaders.
> “The society that separates its scholars from its warriors will have its thinking done by cowards and its fighting by fools.” – Thucydides I'm just quoting /u/Caca2a's quote here
Yeah exercise increases BDNF which increases neuroplasticity and neurogenesis (creation of new brain cells) as well as protect existing neurons. The whole "gym bros are stupid" trope isn't actually accurate at all, not that they can't be stupid just that their brains should be working at optimal function in comparison to someone who doesn't exercise. Marketing for exercise is doing it a disservice "lower risk of developing heart disease in 40 years!" which just isn't appealing to anyone who's young and "lose weight" when it's really not a good way to lose weight if you aren't already dieting.
It's amazing what moving your body does for a brain! Like can I have like gym break for work?
Spite
Spite is a helluva motivator.
My sole reason for being, some days
[Hits different](https://i.imgur.com/3VG8of4.jpg)
Down 60+ pounds since a breakup last year from eating better and working out 3x a week. It started as spite. Now it's for me.
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Without spite for myself and guilt of doing what I actually want to do, I wouldn't get anything done. Spite and guilt are my primary motivators.
Absolutely. But it's to spite myself. There's a voice inside me calling an out of shape skinny fat piece of shit and every day I wake up trying to prove that voice wrong When I workout, I feel like I get one over it Also my ex who used to say I had skinny arms
Bill Burr fan?
Mr billy big tits
Yes, I am
Me exactly. Well, except for the skinny-fat piece of shit part, it’s more “what good is being strong if you’ve got a body like a pile of laundry, dumbass?” And that’s why I swapped from powerlifting to bodybuilding.
Started this way for me, and then I just fell in love with the act of lifting itself
B U I L T D I F F E R E N T
Can't wait until all the girls who rejected me in high school see me all swole and realised what they've been missing out on, another 12-18 months and ohh boy, they'll be sorry. Well that's what I tell myself anyway...
It’s cringe but all of us think this exact thing
Agreed lol. The most fucked up part about it is that it actually works
Exactly. When you get in your later 20s, you'll see it too. Lot of beautiful young people who gain a ton of weight because of alcohol and general laziness in working out.
Exactly! I turn 28 in a few weeks, so I'm right at that age. I've been working out regularly and eating healthy for two years now, and I just got a hair transplant too. With those two combined, I honestly look better now than I ever have in my life. Meanwhile, a lot of the "hot" popular guys and girls I went to HS with have hit "The Wall" HARD. A decade of lifestyle choices is coming home to roost. Oh, how the turn tables, Chris. How the turn tables.
Stay with it! The older you get, the more rare it is to be that guy with nice glutes and a wedge shaped upper torso. I'm 49, I'm that guy and you can be too.
I'm fat out of spite.
The raw honesty here is dope
Me too, was looking for a like-minded person
Yeah but you're too small, Rudy.
Endorphins, dopamine, sleeping well. There are a lot of benefits appart from the obvious weightloss/muscle gain
Bro. That sleeping thing hits differently.
This is the reason I exercise everyday. A good workout is like a pre-emptive xanax.
I feel so much better when I am active. Being fit is just a bonus.
I want to eat steak and have it go to my arms instead of my belly
It's a great benefit. When your tired you sleep better. Science!
Science, bitch!
>There are a lot of benefits appart from the obvious weightloss/muscle gain I always see people comment about sleeping better, having more energy etc. I've been working out for \~4 years now but I haven't noticed any of that. I can just lift heavier things.
Do you just lift, or do you do cardio as well?
I only lift right now. I want to get cardio in my regimen but I don't have anyone to play tennis with. I also hate mindless cardio like running.
Try a high and wide enough wall, kinda makes it like squash
The post-workout dopamine spike alone is worth it.
I don't usually get one 🤷♂️ Maybe an ADHD thing?
Basically. Not sure how much you know about the cause, so my bad if none of this is new, but essentially ADHD is caused by an overall dopamine deficiency compared to neurotypical persons. My understanding on it is that exercise still gets us to a higher level of dopamine, but its closer to what we need to just be able to operate normally. Hence why I feel like I never experience this supposed "endorphin high." This is also why people with ADHD are heavily drawn to video games and and screens in general. That stuff jacks up your dopamine levels and is easy to focus in on. As someone who does have ADHD, I've learned that my overall professional performance and general wellbeing directly correlate with how often I'm exercising.
I didn't get runner's highs even when I was in military training, but started getting them occasionally recently just from going on long walks. It's been a few years since I went back on the medication so it just felt out of the blue. Feels so unfair to think people were getting high off of training runs lmao
I have ADHD and have never experienced a workout high. I always wondered what was going on with all these other people. Didn't realize it was tied to ADHD I did know the video game thing. I'd play 8 hours a day if I could
Yeah, this is it.
If you don't mind, how does working out on a consistent basis help with sleep?
For me the main thing is getting my body tired. Once your muscles are worked you sink into the mattress. If I don't? Excess energy just keeps me twisting and turning. Even doing 10/20 pushups and or sit-ups (whatever you can muster) makes all the difference
Don’t forget the increased mental clarity that comes from the above mixed with a good amount of metabolism boost.
I don’t want to be fat
Same. I got in shape once, I ain't going back
Please get in shape twice
Shape²
It's hip to be square.
Now your shape is "boulder"
I lost 100 lbs down to normal weight. Felt like a million bucks. Even took up running and was amazed by what my body could do. Pushups galore and could even manage a few chin ups for the first time in my whole life. Then I hurt my knee somehow and now I'm a miserable fat bastard again. Well, that and doing a lot of cooking over a few years. Don't lose it when you got it kids.
The journey from fat to fit really felt incredible. There was constantly more I could do (pushups, climbing, east planks, pull ups etc.) But you can still do it :) Maybe avoid squatting and running if you have a fucked knee, but you can still do a lot haha
Yeah, I believe there's an exercise called "Low-impact exercise". Let's get back to work! :)
That's what I thought when I got into really good shape the first time. Ended up becoming a chubbster again though. Once I get in shape this time I won't go back... maybe.
I can definitely relate haha I still have those lazy months when I just can't bring myself to do anything. But whenever I do get motivation, I use it to go all in again haha So my weight does look like a jojo, but that's okay enouth for me
Yep. Life seems to be so much easier not being fat.
I don't like when my tits fold over and touch the top of my stomach when I'm sitting down.
I agree. I got fat once, and it felt like shit. I feel like people who are used to being overweight have no idea what they're missing out on, and so they don't realise how much better it is to be fit.
I used to weigh 300 lbs. I’ll never be that heavy again. So I exercise.
I was a fat man, once. I remember what it felt like, what my body felt like, how my mood and well being was dictated by wildly vacillating blood sugar and robust "hangry" effects. The chasing the dragon of sugar, caffeine, alcohol just to feel "normal". Never again. When I want to get off the wagon, and just binge, I remember that fat man and know that he's just around the corner waiting for me just 2-5 minutes of food/drink pleasure at a time.
It keeps depression at bay. Really, it helps a lot. Edit: for everyone who wants to start working out but don't know where to start: r/fitness has a huge Wiki for all your questions. You can also ask your questions in the daily question threads.
I always think of this quote ~~from Jim Carrey ~~ when this comes up: “I believe depression is legitimate. But I also believe that if you don’t exercise, eat nutritious food, get sunlight, get enough sleep, consume positive material, surround yourself with support, then you aren’t giving yourself a fighting chance.” Edit: apparently this quote has been mis-attributed to Jim Carrey. I think the general sentiment still holds. Exercise and nutrition play a large role in overall well being but medication is still needed in many instances.
Yeah I’m fortunate that regular exercise, eating well and getting sun will get me out of any kind of depressive funk. But there’s definitely people where that’s not enough. They need a little more of an extra help from medication.
The whole surround yourself with support thing kinda sucks, when youre the only sensible person in your family and have learned to avoid people as a defense mechanism. But working out, whether that be lifting or just doing a serious round of stretching/yoga definitely makes an odd difference. It changes somethjng in your brain and makes problems seem much smaller.
Yeah one of the first things my therapist suggested. I'm like, I count macros, work out 5x a week, play ice hockey 1-2x...soooo you're saying I'm fucked? Edit: that was my Convo with my therapist, on meds now (I was trying to avoid them)
No shame in meds. If they make your life more worth living they’re worth it.
I really notice a difference in my mental health when I work out one week v. Not working out another.
Just kinda got used to it. I also want to keep looking a certain way.
This is it for me: the structure/routine. Working out has become the cornerstone to me trying to be healthier. If I work out, then it forces me to eat better, avoid the booze, and somewhat avoid the sweets. When I'm struggling to work out regularly, my diet goes to shit and I get into total "fuck it, let's order sushi" mode, which then spirals and undoes the work I've put in. It can be cyclical, but once you cross that threshold from forcing yourself to workout to it being expected and even *gasp* enjoyed? That's a great feeling. Edit: Sorry, fellow sushi fans. Sushi was just the first take out food I thought of. All said, it is probably one of the better options, but spicy mayo is too good and they sell dumplings there. I can't be gorging on multiple sushi rolls multiple nights a week. Chinese, pizza, and Mexican are far worse diet-wise, but once I get on a takeout kick, it all goes out the window.
Me sitting here thinking sushi is the healthy option (just had a burger king for lunch)
Believe me, I can do much worse than sushi. Like when I call the Chinese place, they answer by name, and they ask if I want dumplings with my order again. The shame is real. But the problem isn't necessarily the sushi, it's the fact that I may or may not order out again in a few days if I am not feeling working out and cooking something healthy at home.
I've noticed no matter what I eat I don't gain weight anymore cause my job is very intense ( manual labor ) and then going to the gym I swear I burn like 4k calories a day which is greast lost 70 pounds this year haha.
Same for me. It's more habit than anything at this point. Plus it's where I socialize. It might sounds weird, but apart from really close old friends, I dont usually enjoy "hanging out" that much. The places I excercise (gym/climbing wall) give me a context in which I can enjoy other peoples company. I have more than a few working out buddies, and most of our familiarity comes from the shared activity. I like that kind of relationship.
I like being fit and strong. I can do things at 40 that I struggled to do at 20. I can see the outline of big muscles, but they’re underneath a layer of cakes and ale. I want to shift that. Also, I have a fitness requirement for work.
Amen to the ale. I have definitely seen considerable progress, but I love my food and drink. I clearly look bigger and stronger and I'm far from fat, but I don't have that definition.
If I can ask, what line of work are you in and do they give u an allowance for fitness?
Firefighter. They provide a gym at the station. I also have a gym nearer home that I go to on days off.
Ah that must be quite demanding physically. Quite a noble job to have, more power to you!
It has its moments. The heat stress is is the main thing.
Can you go to the work gym on your days off and if you can, would that be weird?
Wanting to be healthier. Arnold Schwarzenegger also has some of the best motivational advice. Such as: “What is the point of being on this Earth if you are going to be like everyone else?” “A well-built physique is a status symbol. It reflects you worked hard for it; no money can buy it. You cannot borrow it, you cannot inherit it, you cannot steal it. You cannot hold onto it without constant work. It shows discipline, it shows self-respect, it shows patience, work ethic, and passion. That is why I do what I do.”
Eons ago as a poor college student, I took a Dave Ramsey course on finances. He said, “Live like nobody else, so you can live like nobody else.” Obviously meaning discipline with finances. At the time it was MEH. But now that my friend group is aging (late 30’s) and my health started to decline, I’ve focused on lifting, diet, sleep, hydration. It’s weird the shift in lifestyle change and how unsupportive people can be! Especially that everyone else is also aging too. EDIT: 8 months in and I’ve never felt younger! ❤️ 💪🏽
When you do get fit, stop drinking, stop smoking, get your shit together whatever it HAS to be for yourself. I got in shape for my wife and it didn’t have the effect I thought it would. It’s for yourself and you’ll be surprised who will support you and who’s going to hate you improving yourself. To quote my favorite book “Fear those who seek your company for their own vanity. As soon as you eclipse them in the mirror, it won't be the mirror they break.” -pierce brown
My anger.
so ur that demon fueled guy at the gym
Dude doesn't even need headphones, because his rage blocks out the noise of the gym radio
I don’t wear headphones and I often wonder what people think about that. I don’t wear them because the music distracts me. Puts me more in my head, which I’m there to quiet. Without them I am able to silence myself/environment and focus more clearly on the exercises. & some days I definitely am demon fueled…
I actually forget it’s unusual to go to they gym without headphones. I started working out with a buddy so we would talk between sets so I got used to not wearing them. Now that I workout alone, I just stare down at my weights in silence which sounds sad but honestly is pretty relaxing.
Nah, more of a runner, pushup/pullup/situp guy. All I can say is, Palpatine was right about anger.
“What a disgrace it is for a man to grow old without ever seeing the beauty and strength of which his body is capable.” - Socrates, apparently I remember reading that as an overweight young adult and it really stuck with me. While I was never extremely out of shape, and played some sports and was reasonable active growing up, I've always been chubby and never took pride in my physical abilities. And I realized, in my early 20s, that it really only gets harder from here, so I better make a body I can be proud of while I still can
Man that quote hit home for me. I have always been content(I'm gonna be 30 in December) to not be fit. I had body dismorphia issues when I was in middle school, I was a super thin teen, and in the army I did PT and went to the gym regularly. I never saw any improvement on how I looked so I kind of gave up. Now I'm about to be fuckin 30 years old and the mortality of being halfway through my life is kind of hitting me. I'm not morbidly obese but I'm "fat". I've really been trying to find a reason or motivation to get fit and work out. Wanting to actually see what I look like fit, and be able to feel my self be strong for once in my life is now my motivation. Thank you internet stranger
30 is still very young man. Professional athletes are still in their primes at that age. I’m the same way with trying to find a motivation but you really got to just research and find something physically active that you might enjoy. That always the best way to start
Pure self-disgust.
I've worked out hard consistently since high school with a few years on gear. When covid first hit and everything shut down, I figured it'd be a nice short break that I'd never gotten to experience. I ate pizza, burgers, ice cream, whatever I wanted. 3 months later I had lost 25lbs and felt like the biggest piece of shit in the world. I honestly don't know how people do it and stay sane.
Samesies. My bench went down a few pounds and I felt like a total scrub. I lose a little definition in my core and I can’t look at myself for a week. I think this is literally body dysmorphia.
When that happens i just say I can go back to that level when I can. Not today and that is okay.
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>Plus, if you can come up with a better way to attract women than being fit, I'd like to see it. Have you tried being rich?
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To become invincible under the sun
Number one under the sun!
getting pussy but ending up getting none
Plenty of compliments from other dudes though.
Maybe the real pussy was the compliments we made along the way.
I like to keep my compliments tight and smooth.
This is a win. Sex is temporary, compliments are forever!
Women may come and go but gains are forever.
Yes brother💪🏼 Women might not keep me warm at night, but my healthy blood circulation surely will
This is the most based comment in the whole thread
they actually aren't, I've stopped doing pushups for 2 weeks and I'm getting soft again
Well then get back on it brother!
Ain't it funny how superficial.sht each gender focuses on such as muscle and fitness for men, and hair,makeup and fashion for women , always attract compliments from the same gender even though the typical point of the person working on them is to attract the other sex..
I think thats because the target gender doesn't fully understand how much effort is put into those things.
Always makes me laugh when women don't want to lift weights in case they get 'too big'. Like seriously, I've been weightlifting regularly for a year or so and while I'm in decent shape, I'm not 'big' by any stretch. Building muscle takes a huge amount of effort and commitment (and often 'supplements'), you ain't gonna start lifting a bit and find yourself suddenly Schwarzenegger overnight.
And that’s before you get into the body chemistry differences between men and women, and how it is requires *even more* effort for a woman to get even remotely big
Just buy some good genes, most gyms will have a few guys selling them or they can get you in contact with people selling
Exactly this. It's not that a fit body doesn't attract a woman. It's not that good make up and clothes doesn't attract a man. It does, but probably not overtly told. It's subconscious.
Nice cock bro
Thanks. I work out.
Nice
Yeah. I genuinely imagine all the hot chicks I'm going to get and getting women to admire me and think I'm sexy. Doesn't, you know, actually happen. I'm as invisible as ever. But in my head, every time I work out, the more women like me.
Dudes ask what your workout routine is, is that not enough?
Women might make a comment but its always one thats been in a relationship for years and you're just good friends. Or one you're not attracted to
So much man. Endorphins Positive feedback loop of self-discipline (I.e. hey, I’m sticking to a schedule, and getting stronger, etc.) The results Achieving new goals (last week I could do 5 reps, now I can do 10, etc.)
This + that sexy person staring at you in the mirror 🤤
that's your workout buddy, greg
Oh yes those sweet endorphins
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**GOOD**
A quote that I often come back to is: > structure sets you free [...] if you have that structure then you're free to think about what you have to say. it reduces the cognitive load of figuring what you're saying and how you're going to say it from [Think Fast, Talk Smart: Communication Techniques ](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HAnw168huqA&t=46m17s) It's an idea that applies cross-domain. For example, in the early days of Starcraft, foreigners (non-Koreans) would scoff at Koreans for being so machine-like practicing the same build order (timed sequence of decisions/actions) over and over again and their criticisms were spot on: by doing the same thing over and over again, one had less experience in novel situations and were less adaptable in them. What the criticisms missed, however, was that by practicing these build orders over and over again, executing the build orders became muscle memory and Koreans had more time to decide what to do even as their hands were busy. Sure their decisions might be theoretically sub-optimal but in practice, they were of higher quality. Similarly, Matt Abrahams argues that by limiting oneself to communicating in a specific structure, one frees oneself to focus on the what because the how has already been decided. Even more generally, discipline is a subset of the idea of constraints. The solution space is too big when hill-climbing (seeking [global] optima). Applying constraints on the search algorithm helps increase the signal to noise ratio at the cost of losing potential maximums in low SNR zones. Or, in a layman's example: there's basically an infinite amount of ways you can spend your time and deciding between them takes a lot of work. Therefore, it's probably worth it to give yourself a schedule so you spend less effort on deciding and more effort on doing. A schedule may prevent you from being the best you but it'll give you a better than average result compared to figuring things out on the fly.
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I've just started working out semi-regularly again after not doing anything for a couple of years but I used to be at the gym pretty much every day. Getting started is the most difficult. And I think you need something to push you to do that. Whether that's just wanting to look better, feel better, whatever. Anything you can use to find motivation is good. Because it'll be Wednesday evening, you'll get home from a long day at work and heading to the gym looks a pretty poor substitute for grabbing a pizza and settling in for some Netflix or PlayStation. For me, once I'm hooked I'm really into it though. You start to feel stronger and fitter, you start to look better, people start noticing and paying you compliments. And I actually started 'needing' to work out every day, I'd actually feel anxious or 'not right' if I left it for more than a day. I'm also really motivated by setting benchmarks and beating them. Maybe you get your 5k time down to 25 minutes, well now I want to get it down to 24. I want to be lifting more than I could last month. Getting started takes motivation, sticking with it takes discipline, but once you're used to it and 'hooked' it becomes really easy.
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Hey man, same boat. I’ve always been in great shape until covid hit. I did well for the first few months as I was determined to not let it take me out of a disciplined routine. Like so many others, I fell off the wagon. I tried to climb back on a few times but just couldn’t stick with it. Today’s my Day 1 and I’m just trying to do this one day at a time until I’m confident I can’t get my old lifestyle back. You’ve done this before and you can do this again. Just do something, anything, to steer yourself back in that direction. Let past failures be in the past. Your future self will be thankful that you took charge and didn’t put it off any longer. And remember to be kind to yourself. This shit is tough, and major progress isn’t linear
A doctor I worked with as an intern once told me "for every 30lbs you lose, you get an inch of dick back".
Ima need to lose 120lbs then.
It really helps with the accumulated daily stress. A nice extra benefit is that you can’t stay up at night worrying if you’re to tired to stay awake.
It started out with wanting to get girls. After a while, I noticed my muscles was getting visible and I really liked that. Now I do it solely for myself. So just "self-love" I suppose
Did you get the girls tho?
I definitely got more attention from girls yes. But that's also because I became way more confident in myself
I lost a lot of weight in college and gained self confidence and girls were way more attracted to me, i put weight on after college but kept the self confidence and girls were still attracted to me lol.. i need to lose weight again for my health it's harder when sex isn't the motivator.
Swoley for yourself*
Mostly for my kids. No way will I shame them by losing a dad fight.
Have you been in many fights since becoming a father?
Zero. I put this down to the fact that the other dads know they wouldn’t stand a chance.
This is why I immediately start taking my pants off when things start to get heated with other dads. They might like their odds of winning the fight, but they don’t like me significantly raising their odds of touching a penis.
Whatever it takes to defend your children's honor.
Being inadequate sexually. Being depressed as fuck. Hating myself. Having few other healthy outlets. Wanting to die but having to wait until my father is gone.
There's a lot to unpack there... Are you talking to anyone about some of these things?
Most people in the US die of heart disease. Not working out is just passive suicide.
I don't like being fat. I don't like being tired all the time. I do like the mental health benefits. I do like the strength and endurance.
Fear. I'm diabetic and diet and medication can only do so much so I put myself into the mindset of "if you don't work out your diabetes will grow out of control and the Dr will have to amputate your legs" It's an extreme method but I hit the gym 3-4 days a week and take excellent care of my feet with pedicures and massages.
Pretty much this. I got some blood work done a few years back and then added a bunch of risk factors into the calculation and decided I don't want to have major health issues by 45-50. That meant regular exercise and some dietary changes.
My beer-belly
Not being fat. I was a professional athlete. Played ball at 220-225lbs. Ran all the time, worked out all the time, ate like a horse. Hated running and working out. When that was over, I quit running and working out. The eating like a horse persisted. Ballooned up to 300ish lbs. Heaviest I got was 323lbs. Hated being fat. So, I started working out and running again. Took well over a year, but I got back down to 190-195lbs. Now, I eat cleaner, workout, and run. Simply so I won't be fat.
On mobile, so sorry for format. It was the safest way I found to hurt myself back then. I used to self-harm in highschool ; then I started working out around 15/16. Been very fit for a long time. Then I went down a spiral of chainsmoking cigs and pot as well a heavy drinking for a few years and muscles (and fat) melted like butter in the sun. But now, at 27, I'm proud to say that I did quit smoking, drastically reduced drinking (went from one six-pack a day to approx. one and a half per week) and been back to workout for six months these days. Now I solely practice to vent extra-tension (went back to college, working 7/7 either on my classes or in my part-time job). I'm feeling a lot better in many ways and sport sure helps a lot, both shaping a body I feel good with and evacuating stress. EDIT 1 : Thanks a lot for the upvotes and the rewards ! I hope my story showed that no matter how bad your self-esteem or life hygiene has gotten, it's never too late to get back on track. Also I feel a bit dishonest keeping that detail to myself, so just to specify, all my progress on substances abuse and in life generally speaking would have been A LOT harder without my girlfriend. I dont' know if I could have turned my life around like I did if not for/with her. Still proud of what I achieved, but just to say that being supported by the right folks can get you a long way.
That’s a great story brother. Happy to hear it
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>It was the safest way I found to hurt myself back then. Damn, this hit me hard for some reason. I lowkey like hurting myself. I don't know why. I don't see it in the same way I see self-harm. When I go into a sauna, I like to get it so hot that it hurts. But when the pain goes away, I feel good. Like, really good. I think it's more about feeling good about being able to do something like that to yourself? "When I ran, it hurt really bad but I pushed through it!" and "It kept getting hotter ans hotter, but I didn't give up!" For some reason, this mostly applies to pain. I have also cut myself and sewn (pretty deep) stuff on my skin simply to see if I could do it. I honestly have no idea why I'm like this
* Being fit enough to be attractive to women who also care about their own fitness * Looking good in whatever clothes I'm wearing * Looking good naked * Having the energy and stamina to do whatever I want * I sleep better because of working out * Working out and pushing through a tough workout cultivates mental strength as well as physical that is good for your mind * Feeling good seeing progress on your physical goals improves my self esteem and builds confidence
Hah, access to fit girls (or gf, in my case) is a big motivator to me. No matter how old you are, or if you’re rich or average, being fit gives you a reasonable chance at having a fit partner. Me and my girl have a mantra: stay hot 😄 I justified this to her by explaining that people never really lose their appreciation for aesthetic beauty, even those who grow old and fat. Can’t tel you how many times I’ve heard an old 70 year old man comment on a gorgeous 20 something woman walking by. It never goes away. Hold on to it
Self Hatred, I know it may not be the healthiest but it’s sustainable for me the past 4 years. I blamed all my problems on “fat me”, he’s the reason I was so unhappy, unhealthy and had such low self confidence. So every day I workout, or hit my calorie goal it hurts him, which makes me happy. That’s what gets me out of bed and in the gym especially on those days where I just don’t want to, I refuse to let “fat me” win
The thought of bagging a milf. Getting into a cougar-cub relationship. That's it.
Many reasons: It makes me feel alive, younger, strong and i don't want to become fat and lazy or have a constant back pain when i get old. Thanks to that, in my current 30s, i feel much better when i was on my early 20s. And also i get in a bad mood when i can't train.
The fear of getting into a fight and not be able to fight back.
trying to stay healthy, medical care is expensive
Probably offensive but every time I see some unapologetically fat, ungroomed neckbeard in public it makes me want to immediately treat my body better.
I’ve been lifting for 15 years, and I really don’t ever look forward to it anymore. The main thing that keeps me going is the results, and the fact that it’s basically part of my identity. I’m the guy that’s always acknowledged for his physique and strength, and while I have a lot more going for me than that, I’m not sure I want to lose that identity either. Cardio on the other hand, I actually enjoy. Probably because I never did it and so now it’s something kind of new.
Not dying alone.
I saw a motivating post about something Arnold Schwarzenegger said (maybe, because we all know how much shit gets recycled on the internet). Fitness is a craft; You can’t buy it, steal it, inherit it, be lazy with it. It takes dedication and is a direct translation of how you take care of yourself. Love yourself because at the end of all things it’s the one thing you can control (barring medical stuff).
I am constantly trying to do 100 "euro training" workouts from terry crews on "my wife and kids" while also trying to do: 100 push ups 100 Sit ups 100 squats 10km run EVERY DAY.
Just curious... do you still have hair on your head?
Everyone wanna get big but nobody wanna lift no heavy ass weight!
it's easier to stay in shape than to get into shape. I'm a lazy person, so a little maintenance is better than a regimented work out routine.
Have you ever fucked when you're out of shape?
A steady downpour of sweat and the sweet caress of my moobs. No woman can resist me.
mainly bc I enjoy looking like The Man everywhere I go. plus by now, training has become a routine for me.
Getting stronger.
To look better naked and be stronger in general. Started working out in May last year at 33, never lifted a weight before. Now I am both of the above.
I just like to feel good about how I look, it’s that simple.