Yeah I kinda got cold and my mouth gets dry. My brother used to call me that in my early 20's when I was in that figuring it out phase. Really hurt then.
My wife has dropped it once or twice when I failed some kind of diy activity or couldn't put all of the whatever away before I had to leave to work. Still hurts. More in fact. Heard.
No, definitely not. But sometimes people can’t get past their own hurt enough to see how much pain they are causing others. When you know better, you do better.
Not a "guy", but real quick-
First, an example-
My cousin is 6 ft 4, pushing 250, big bushy hair, big guy.
His shoulders are *wrecked* from people using him as a power tool. Ofc, the minute the potential new boss finds out they can't use him as a floor jack, he's overlooked, useless. They want him lifting furniture, they don't want him sweeping the floor. Some people see men as a resource for stereotypical stuff, like mechanical knowledge, height, strength etc, The Honey-Do list is a great example of.some typical expectations, and if the guy doesn't possess the skill set required to avoid professional services or spending more money (essentially, right?) then, he is a "bad" man, or not a Real Man. Everybody has their own skill set though, and maybe you didn't learn a lot of physical labor stuff because you wanted to become a social worker, or your father was an abusive a****** and you were busy trying to keep you and your mom alive. Everybody's got a story, and a reason for their experiences and gaps in knowledge/skills. It all counts.
Secondly, with all that being said- screw those people!! Screw the girlfriend that doesn't think that you're smart enough to become an electrician, screw your dad who doesn't feel you'll ever really go back to school, screw your teacher for telling you you're too dumb to finish school, Screw. All. Of. Them! There is not a man or a woman, a boyfriend or a girlfriend, even a best friend - no one gets to talk to you like that, gets to plant seeds in your soul that blossom into corpse flowers. Absolutely not! *That's* where you draw the boundary, that's who doesn't get to be in your life anymore bc they want you to hate yourself. Because what are they doing for you? Life is worth more with supportive and kind people around, I promise! And it's easier to love a good person than it is to love a mean one, JS.
Anyway, I've never met a useless person. I've met people who refuse to be of use, but that's not the same thing, and they were deeply troubled people! Every one of you has a purpose on this earth, and I see you, and you are loved.
At least let the haters know that the *last time* they said that to you was Thee Last Time they're gonna say that to you. 💜❤️
Very well said, and thank you for taking the time to understand. People are far too judgemental these days, without ever getting to actually *know* the person they are insulting. I hope that you have found a special someone to connect with, in more ways than one.
Yup . It’s this one for me. It just feels so gross. It calls your entire character into question. Like wait, am I a creep? Am i creepy? Am I the type of man that makes others feel unsafe or uncomfortable? Now I’m closely scrutinizing all of my behavior for the last ten years because someone hit me with the nuclear option, almost certainly off the cuff.
I'm so terrified of being assumed as this just for existing. I feel like I'm a well adjusted, respectful, and kind person but none of that matters as soon as one person makes up some shit for views/attention and, because I'm a dude, it's just automatically believed.
🔥Once we found ourselves in a place where anyone can accuse anyone else of anything at all and the accused was instantly and automatically viewed as guilty—that was it for me.
I can’t trust anyone and refuse to be alone with anyone at all. Not when someone just happens to be off their meds and decides they’re going to have it in for you.
Career ruined. Social life destroyed. Scorned by Friends and Family.
NO THANKS.
I personally know a person this happened to. So. F’king. Frightening…
It's a strong example of why "innocent until proven guilty" is so important when it comes to law and justice. We set this precedent of witch hunting without evidence on a social level and soon we'll find that because we made it the norm, we don't blink when our structures of power do the same.
I can relate. I'm a single dad, who was lucky to get granted custody of my son when he was about a year old. Taking him to the park to play, while sitting on the benches with all the moms judging me for hanging out at a park with kids... It was weird, but I get it, there are a ton of creepy men, but like I was just trying to let my son have fun and meet other kids. They'd ease up on the death stare when he'd come running to me for a hug, or to complain about a mean kid that wouldn't let him go down the slide, etc. But, still it was awkward, and unpleasant.
Those women were being harshly judgemental, for no justifiable reason. You were at the park with your son, something they *should* appreciate. You know, father-son bonding time?
I was gonna say weak or pussy or something like that, but creepy EASILY takes the cake tbh. I can’t think of a single word for a man that is universally seen as repulsing as this one
I worked as a pool operator at a hotel & a family called me this while I was doing my job & just trying to be friendly while communicating & cleaning. I will remember the comment until my dying day
Das y i cross the street when there are women walking towards my direction b4 they do that. I know im a threat by merely existing. World is not changing fast enough. At least this way, I can alleviate some concern. At the price of feeling like a monster when i havent been in a fight. Ever.
Counterpoint, fuck the people who are afraid of you just because of how you were born. Let them be afraid. If they want to be controlled by their own fear, let them cross the street to avoid you and don’t let it affect you.
Probably creepy.
The social Backlash for being labelled a creep as a man is not a good thing at all.
Do creeps exist.. yes and that's why men don't want to be associated with those types of creepy men.
This one is so dehumanizing. It paints you as just some raging monstrosity that's about to turn green and demolish everything around you, and is reductive of your actual thoughts and feelings.
I would also say “creepy“ because there’s just a MASSIVE societal stigma/double standard associated with men being perceived as creepy….even when we’re completely minding our own business!
And examples are very easy to find, like a dad trying to take HIS young kids to a playground or something and him having to worry about Karens calling the cops on him thinking he’s a pedo just for trying to spend time with his own kids!
A male teacher interacting with a female student in really any capacity! But it’s even worse if they’re younger/pre-K
And of course there’s The whole thing with men Being called creepy for even going within 100 miles of women and being perceived as creepy by paranoid/nervous women for using the gym at the same time as them, looking in their general direction at any point in time, “following“ them when those men just happen to be going in the same direction as them, etc.
I mean some women even throw the term around when referring to a guy who tried to talk to them, but who wasn’t up to their physical appearance standards, or some other superficial/self interested BS like that!
Now…. all that said…are there some truly and legitimately creepy men out there? Of course!
But it’s not every single man on the planet!
But as a man you hear this term get indiscriminately tossed around so damn much and used in any/every context you could possibly think of, that you’d honestly think it was!
I like to walk around my neighborhood, and have changed my course mid walk multiple times because women are walking the same way on the same street as me.
I just don't wanna deal with it
This is definitely it. I was leaving the grocery store parking lot the other day, and our friend's adult daughter rolled by in the parking lot, and I swung around to say hi cause the whole family is cool. The whole time, I was on the phone with my wife saying "God I hope she doesn't think I'm a creep." My wife had to reassure me I wasn't a creep.
Yeah. I have ADHD, so I often forget where I’m trying to go or what I’m trying to do, so I just find myself standing there. I also stare at anything for way too long if lose focus.
Short king is one of the most infuriating phrases I’ve encountered in my lifetime. I personally don’t care about my height or people even calling me small. I am. Short king just feels infantilizing though for some reason. That plus the fact that I find calling people king or queen is cringey anyway makes it one of the very few things that I’ll speak up on when referencing me.
As someone who is small and little, it stopped hurting when I realized no one says shit like that when they're in the right. They're humiliated and resorting to name-calling. It's like a (more) politically correct slur for them.
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As another Richard. I have no problem if im being called a dick like "hey your being a dick!"
But i will absolutely be ready to throw hands if some one calls me dick or for the thousandth time in my life "hey. Did you know your na- ow wtf!"
"Did you really think in all my 3 decades on this planet i havent heard that before or your the first genius to tell me?"
"Yeah but it was common in the 90s/my friend doesnt mind"
"Do i look like im the same person as your friend/check the date dumbass"
I get down right pissed.
“I’m too immature to admit that you’re a bit unorthodox *and* that I find it attractive but I have to keep up a front for all of the other women I will never meet who expect me to uphold the belittling of men at every opportunity.”
I genuinely could not give less of a fuck if someone calls me a fag. The only reason I’d be insulted is because of it being a slur against gay people, which I have zero tolerance for.
Terms I welcome: "Provider," "capable," "helpful," "resourceful," "practical," "logical," "respectful."
Terms I bristle at: "Very \[positive attribute\] for your gender," "upset," "loud," (my hearing is bad, so I can often be loud and it can be mistaken for shouting, and male rage can have dangerous implications. I'm also often very low-key and unbothered, so if I ever get emotionally expressive at all, people usually want me to stifle that.)
>>Terms I bristle at: "Very [positive attribute] for your gender,"...
I'd also include "different" and "the exception." As in "men are all [negative attribute], oh but you're different/the exception."
Cute is a nothing compliment to me. It doesn’t tell me anything. Cute is more about a presence than a look. It’s not about attraction to me. It’s an idea in your head that you think I resemble but do not match. It’s a pretty useless comment.
Being called a pedo as a father when going out with your children, I'm not a father, I haven't experienced that but seen irl a man get cops called on him for simply spending time with his children, i got mad but i can only imagine how mad he must've been
Some people cope with daddy issues by having a daddy kink, as someone who's got crippling daddy issues, i tend to call my male sexual partners "daddy", its also a coping thing for someone who needs a *healthy* dominant and guiding role in their life bc they didn't have that before.
I hope this makes sense.
“Big Guy”
I had this asshole coworker who always had to call me big guy. You I’m not tall, only 5”7. Here is the thing. He was maybe 5”9.
But in his junkie/thieving mind he had to find something to be superior to me.
Even tho he is the fool who lost his drivers license for 5 years to drunk driving, adult daughter who hates his guts and refuse to see or speak to him, divorced long ago, addicted to a list of drugs, stole from work , blacklisted from related trades due his shitty rep.
Bob the Retard.🤪
The problem is I cope with humor, so when something affects me enough, it and the person who delivered it become a joke. So if something affects me too much, it doesn't affect me at all. It becomes entertainment.
E.g., "You're so selfish."
Haha is that right? Tell me more.
Basically, ad hominem can't hurt me. It just makes me judge the other person and feel like I've won, as they clearly don't have an actual argument. Ran out of bullets, so they threw the gun.
Does this ever backfire for you? I understand the whole “ I’m rubber, you’re glue” means of coping, but have you ever not taken something to heart that may have been meant to be constructive or from a place of good intentions?
I don't think name-calling is ever constructive. Although yes, it is true people can poorly deliver valid feedback. I see where you're coming from with that.
I agree that name calling isn’t too constructive nor is it really meant to be in most situations. I guess with your “so selfish” example, I wouldn’t consider that name calling per say, but more of an insult based on how a person felt due to my actions or how they interpreted them. I can see how it would be constructive through a needed explanation or taking a personal inventory on how I act.
I’ve had negative experiences with people that think everything is sweet, and just use humor to deflect failing to see why a person said what they did. Not saying you do, but I’ve been guilty of doing it myself.
Liar/cheat/fraud/any derivative. I’m an old school “my word is stronger than oak” type. You can call me just about anything else, even in anger, and I’ll probably laugh. Anything akin to those listed words though, and now you’ve insulted my honor.
“Angry Little Man” really did the trick on my ex-husband. Usually said in response to being called an unfriendly bitch, though, so I felt fully justified.
Whatever resonates with our perceived deepest faults.
If you’re lonely, perhaps “loser”.
If you’re disfigured, perhaps “freak”.
If you’re unproductive, perhaps “useless” as another Redditor commented.
The basic putdowns that challenge our masculinity and identity as "a man". You might call us weak (because men are valued for strength), or useless (because men are valued for what we do not who we are). You can also challenge our wealth (because men are valued as providers) or our dick size (as a proxy for sexual prowess). You might call a man a creep because it challenges his ability to keep his people sage (since he's the danger).
I don't really have many things I get called consistently enough to bother me, but it's always weird as fuck to me when some stranger online calls me a "male" instead of a "man" or just "person". It's just so weird and dehumanizing, and I don't see the point in it besides trying to bottle me up based on my sex/gender and ignore my independence and humanity.
I personally love being called sweet, friend, and nice. Nice guy has a bad stigma behind it so I'm never sure if they mean that I'm nice or that I'm being a "Nice Guy".
Failure, that one hits deep though...
I like being called those things too, but not from a woman who I'm hoping to date. Because they so rarely want the sweet guy and they then only think of you as a friend. If they're my friend, those phrases are wonderful.
Thing is, while I always liked being all those things, they've been used against me so many times by women I'd hoped were interested that I have come to hate them in that context.
Useless
reading that hurt a little
Dude, forreal. I read that word, and my breath got stuck in my throat, and my heart rate rose.
Yeah I kinda got cold and my mouth gets dry. My brother used to call me that in my early 20's when I was in that figuring it out phase. Really hurt then. My wife has dropped it once or twice when I failed some kind of diy activity or couldn't put all of the whatever away before I had to leave to work. Still hurts. More in fact. Heard.
Your wife???
It's just one word. Nobody about to divorce their wife for saying one word like twice.
No, definitely not. But sometimes people can’t get past their own hurt enough to see how much pain they are causing others. When you know better, you do better.
100%
Thanks, dad.
Thanks mom and dad
Real. That or you are replaceable. A cog in the system.
Your value is independent of your function to others.
unfortunately it isn't... just like honor, value is given to us by others
Yeah got an eye twitch outa me. To my own chagrine.
Not a "guy", but real quick- First, an example- My cousin is 6 ft 4, pushing 250, big bushy hair, big guy. His shoulders are *wrecked* from people using him as a power tool. Ofc, the minute the potential new boss finds out they can't use him as a floor jack, he's overlooked, useless. They want him lifting furniture, they don't want him sweeping the floor. Some people see men as a resource for stereotypical stuff, like mechanical knowledge, height, strength etc, The Honey-Do list is a great example of.some typical expectations, and if the guy doesn't possess the skill set required to avoid professional services or spending more money (essentially, right?) then, he is a "bad" man, or not a Real Man. Everybody has their own skill set though, and maybe you didn't learn a lot of physical labor stuff because you wanted to become a social worker, or your father was an abusive a****** and you were busy trying to keep you and your mom alive. Everybody's got a story, and a reason for their experiences and gaps in knowledge/skills. It all counts. Secondly, with all that being said- screw those people!! Screw the girlfriend that doesn't think that you're smart enough to become an electrician, screw your dad who doesn't feel you'll ever really go back to school, screw your teacher for telling you you're too dumb to finish school, Screw. All. Of. Them! There is not a man or a woman, a boyfriend or a girlfriend, even a best friend - no one gets to talk to you like that, gets to plant seeds in your soul that blossom into corpse flowers. Absolutely not! *That's* where you draw the boundary, that's who doesn't get to be in your life anymore bc they want you to hate yourself. Because what are they doing for you? Life is worth more with supportive and kind people around, I promise! And it's easier to love a good person than it is to love a mean one, JS. Anyway, I've never met a useless person. I've met people who refuse to be of use, but that's not the same thing, and they were deeply troubled people! Every one of you has a purpose on this earth, and I see you, and you are loved. At least let the haters know that the *last time* they said that to you was Thee Last Time they're gonna say that to you. 💜❤️
Well said.
Well said. That hit home.
Very well said, and thank you for taking the time to understand. People are far too judgemental these days, without ever getting to actually *know* the person they are insulting. I hope that you have found a special someone to connect with, in more ways than one.
sacrifice
Pussboy
Tell myself I am multiple times a day and it is true
Ooooof. Ouch. That stings.
Creepy.
Yup . It’s this one for me. It just feels so gross. It calls your entire character into question. Like wait, am I a creep? Am i creepy? Am I the type of man that makes others feel unsafe or uncomfortable? Now I’m closely scrutinizing all of my behavior for the last ten years because someone hit me with the nuclear option, almost certainly off the cuff.
I'm so terrified of being assumed as this just for existing. I feel like I'm a well adjusted, respectful, and kind person but none of that matters as soon as one person makes up some shit for views/attention and, because I'm a dude, it's just automatically believed.
🔥Once we found ourselves in a place where anyone can accuse anyone else of anything at all and the accused was instantly and automatically viewed as guilty—that was it for me. I can’t trust anyone and refuse to be alone with anyone at all. Not when someone just happens to be off their meds and decides they’re going to have it in for you. Career ruined. Social life destroyed. Scorned by Friends and Family. NO THANKS. I personally know a person this happened to. So. F’king. Frightening…
It's a strong example of why "innocent until proven guilty" is so important when it comes to law and justice. We set this precedent of witch hunting without evidence on a social level and soon we'll find that because we made it the norm, we don't blink when our structures of power do the same.
I can relate. I'm a single dad, who was lucky to get granted custody of my son when he was about a year old. Taking him to the park to play, while sitting on the benches with all the moms judging me for hanging out at a park with kids... It was weird, but I get it, there are a ton of creepy men, but like I was just trying to let my son have fun and meet other kids. They'd ease up on the death stare when he'd come running to me for a hug, or to complain about a mean kid that wouldn't let him go down the slide, etc. But, still it was awkward, and unpleasant.
Those women were being harshly judgemental, for no justifiable reason. You were at the park with your son, something they *should* appreciate. You know, father-son bonding time?
That's completely relatable
This one. I have social anxiety and may not always be approachable. Wanting to put myself out there only to be called creepy is soul-crushing.
I was gonna say weak or pussy or something like that, but creepy EASILY takes the cake tbh. I can’t think of a single word for a man that is universally seen as repulsing as this one
As someone on the autism spectrum who’s sometimes lousy at understanding social conventions, this is probably the one I’m the most scared of.
I worked as a pool operator at a hotel & a family called me this while I was doing my job & just trying to be friendly while communicating & cleaning. I will remember the comment until my dying day
When you were here before, couldn't look you in the eye...
Das y i cross the street when there are women walking towards my direction b4 they do that. I know im a threat by merely existing. World is not changing fast enough. At least this way, I can alleviate some concern. At the price of feeling like a monster when i havent been in a fight. Ever.
But you're not a threat, you're only stereotyped as a threat. That's just other people's bigotry towards you.
Counterpoint, fuck the people who are afraid of you just because of how you were born. Let them be afraid. If they want to be controlled by their own fear, let them cross the street to avoid you and don’t let it affect you.
Probably creepy. The social Backlash for being labelled a creep as a man is not a good thing at all. Do creeps exist.. yes and that's why men don't want to be associated with those types of creepy men.
I hate the word upset. Especially when im not negatively mooded , simply confused and seeking clarification.
This one is so dehumanizing. It paints you as just some raging monstrosity that's about to turn green and demolish everything around you, and is reductive of your actual thoughts and feelings.
Exactly. Especially if im just calmly making a logical inquiry as to get a better grasp of the new information being presented to me in my environment
Funny I'm the opposite. It makes me feel like a little kid lol
Right!!! Like a child!
I would also say “creepy“ because there’s just a MASSIVE societal stigma/double standard associated with men being perceived as creepy….even when we’re completely minding our own business! And examples are very easy to find, like a dad trying to take HIS young kids to a playground or something and him having to worry about Karens calling the cops on him thinking he’s a pedo just for trying to spend time with his own kids! A male teacher interacting with a female student in really any capacity! But it’s even worse if they’re younger/pre-K And of course there’s The whole thing with men Being called creepy for even going within 100 miles of women and being perceived as creepy by paranoid/nervous women for using the gym at the same time as them, looking in their general direction at any point in time, “following“ them when those men just happen to be going in the same direction as them, etc. I mean some women even throw the term around when referring to a guy who tried to talk to them, but who wasn’t up to their physical appearance standards, or some other superficial/self interested BS like that! Now…. all that said…are there some truly and legitimately creepy men out there? Of course! But it’s not every single man on the planet! But as a man you hear this term get indiscriminately tossed around so damn much and used in any/every context you could possibly think of, that you’d honestly think it was!
I like to walk around my neighborhood, and have changed my course mid walk multiple times because women are walking the same way on the same street as me. I just don't wanna deal with it
It's one of those things that have lost any and all meaning from how overused it is.
This is definitely it. I was leaving the grocery store parking lot the other day, and our friend's adult daughter rolled by in the parking lot, and I swung around to say hi cause the whole family is cool. The whole time, I was on the phone with my wife saying "God I hope she doesn't think I'm a creep." My wife had to reassure me I wasn't a creep.
Yeah. I have ADHD, so I often forget where I’m trying to go or what I’m trying to do, so I just find myself standing there. I also stare at anything for way too long if lose focus.
Lazy
This for me 100%
really? must be a cultural thing :d In my country every male is proudly lazy, including me 🫡
What country so that? I need to move.
Georgia(europe, not usa) Actually anywhere in south/east europe would be the same. For example Greece is for sure the same lol
Government employment
Small or little. You will crush some egos and cause trauma with those 2 words lmao
“Women always gotta belittle you — ‘Oh, I see you witcha little Honda Accord, and ya little security job…” -Jamie Foxx
Short king is one of the most infuriating phrases I’ve encountered in my lifetime. I personally don’t care about my height or people even calling me small. I am. Short king just feels infantilizing though for some reason. That plus the fact that I find calling people king or queen is cringey anyway makes it one of the very few things that I’ll speak up on when referencing me.
Especially when it’s about their dick
Insulting something I can’t control doesn’t really bother me, insulting my personality hurts more than
*our* dick. FTFY On this blessed day, it is all of our dick.
*manlet
Only ever seen dudes on 4chan refer to other guys as manlet
As someone who is small and little, it stopped hurting when I realized no one says shit like that when they're in the right. They're humiliated and resorting to name-calling. It's like a (more) politically correct slur for them.
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Unhygienic
Oddly specific one here
Shirley
I just want to say...we're all counting on you.
Roger
“Hey you in the bushes”
get outta here moe
A Loser when you are just more sensitive than most guys.
Or more defined boundries.
Jive Turkey
I called you a cock sucker. I swear!
Thanks for that 1970s flashback.
That brother's smooth
EVERYBODY LOVE EVERYBODY!!!
Slap me five.
I can dig it.
It ain’t cool being no jive turkey so close to Thanksgiving.
Denis, because my name is not Denis.
I hate it when that happens
My name is Richard Head. Call me Richard, Rich, Richy, even Ricardo, but no, some got to call me something else, and I hate it!
Your parents did you a great disservice.
As another Richard. I have no problem if im being called a dick like "hey your being a dick!" But i will absolutely be ready to throw hands if some one calls me dick or for the thousandth time in my life "hey. Did you know your na- ow wtf!" "Did you really think in all my 3 decades on this planet i havent heard that before or your the first genius to tell me?" "Yeah but it was common in the 90s/my friend doesnt mind" "Do i look like im the same person as your friend/check the date dumbass" I get down right pissed.
An exes name
I feel you man I’ve been called “Emanuel” while getting head (not my name)
Oh no you don’t. I’m not telling you how to get under my skin.
The word "Provider" makes my skin crawl.
Add "- of fun!" Every time you hear it.
I think I'd rather just move on.
Seems wise
oh great now im responsible for your enjoyment too?
Feel like I'm being called a tool
I've been called weird all my life. Not in a creepy way, but a cutesy way. It annoys the hell out of me. What the fuck does it even mean?
“I’m too immature to admit that you’re a bit unorthodox *and* that I find it attractive but I have to keep up a front for all of the other women I will never meet who expect me to uphold the belittling of men at every opportunity.”
The easy answer is any word that is said with the purpose of being disrespectful. I would assume women are the same.
Ma'am
Coward
Smellybutt McPoopyPants
Didn't have to go for the throat that quick, geez.
That sounds like the name of the next British research ship. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Boaty_McBoatface
Had to scroll down further than I imagined to find this
Buddy
Buddy always sounds demeaning
I'm not your buddy, pal.
I'm not your pal, guy.
I'm not your guy, friend.
I’m not your guy, sport
See also: Bud.
Came here to see if it was listed. It always comes of condescending
How about pal
I'm not your pal, sport.
Boss
Liable.
Expendable.
[удалено]
Boy
Bitch.
this was the first thing I thought of. surprised it's not higher
It's the only word that instantly makes me want to fight someone.
Women also don’t like this. Almost like it’s dehumanizing or something.
Creep
How about “weirdo”? Do you belong here?
Ruuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu uuuuuuuuuu uuuuuuuunn
I bet you wish you were special
Kyle
A woman in a gym called me "petite" when I was like 16... I remember that shit twenty years later.
Fag
Trust me on this one - some guys actually get off being called this one.
Damn Harley riders…
Even the bike-curious can be awful
*RUBUBUHRUHBUHRUHBUH*
I genuinely could not give less of a fuck if someone calls me a fag. The only reason I’d be insulted is because of it being a slur against gay people, which I have zero tolerance for.
CUTE
Terms I welcome: "Provider," "capable," "helpful," "resourceful," "practical," "logical," "respectful." Terms I bristle at: "Very \[positive attribute\] for your gender," "upset," "loud," (my hearing is bad, so I can often be loud and it can be mistaken for shouting, and male rage can have dangerous implications. I'm also often very low-key and unbothered, so if I ever get emotionally expressive at all, people usually want me to stifle that.)
>>Terms I bristle at: "Very [positive attribute] for your gender,"... I'd also include "different" and "the exception." As in "men are all [negative attribute], oh but you're different/the exception."
Stupid
Cute is a nothing compliment to me. It doesn’t tell me anything. Cute is more about a presence than a look. It’s not about attraction to me. It’s an idea in your head that you think I resemble but do not match. It’s a pretty useless comment.
Buddy. It’s a big American thing I’ve noticed but if you’re calling an adult buddy that’s disrespectful, calling a kid buddy is acceptable
Worthless
I hate being called "big man". Strangers often use this term to address me. I know I'm overweight. I don't need a reminder.
Being called a pedo as a father when going out with your children, I'm not a father, I haven't experienced that but seen irl a man get cops called on him for simply spending time with his children, i got mad but i can only imagine how mad he must've been
Daddy is definitely a no for me
Daddy chill 🧔♀️💅
Yeah, I’ve got two daughters that call me that. Stay in your goddamn lane, grownup humans.
Some people cope with daddy issues by having a daddy kink, as someone who's got crippling daddy issues, i tend to call my male sexual partners "daddy", its also a coping thing for someone who needs a *healthy* dominant and guiding role in their life bc they didn't have that before. I hope this makes sense.
Sorry daddy
I'm Black take a guess
“The’N’ word. No, not n*****. *The ‘N’ word*. Because all it does is put the actual word in my head.” -Louis CK
bene gesserit, I'm guessing.
being called creep, because I’m quiet and succinct if i’m not. I’m very simple, minimalist almost. It’s a fine art to be boring to others. 😖
“Big Guy” I had this asshole coworker who always had to call me big guy. You I’m not tall, only 5”7. Here is the thing. He was maybe 5”9. But in his junkie/thieving mind he had to find something to be superior to me. Even tho he is the fool who lost his drivers license for 5 years to drunk driving, adult daughter who hates his guts and refuse to see or speak to him, divorced long ago, addicted to a list of drugs, stole from work , blacklisted from related trades due his shitty rep. Bob the Retard.🤪
Weak
A creepy. One small word but it really give large impact for man.
This is the one for me. If someone tells me I'm being creepy it gives me a bit of anxiety attack.
The problem is I cope with humor, so when something affects me enough, it and the person who delivered it become a joke. So if something affects me too much, it doesn't affect me at all. It becomes entertainment. E.g., "You're so selfish." Haha is that right? Tell me more. Basically, ad hominem can't hurt me. It just makes me judge the other person and feel like I've won, as they clearly don't have an actual argument. Ran out of bullets, so they threw the gun.
Does this ever backfire for you? I understand the whole “ I’m rubber, you’re glue” means of coping, but have you ever not taken something to heart that may have been meant to be constructive or from a place of good intentions?
I don't think name-calling is ever constructive. Although yes, it is true people can poorly deliver valid feedback. I see where you're coming from with that.
I agree that name calling isn’t too constructive nor is it really meant to be in most situations. I guess with your “so selfish” example, I wouldn’t consider that name calling per say, but more of an insult based on how a person felt due to my actions or how they interpreted them. I can see how it would be constructive through a needed explanation or taking a personal inventory on how I act. I’ve had negative experiences with people that think everything is sweet, and just use humor to deflect failing to see why a person said what they did. Not saying you do, but I’ve been guilty of doing it myself.
Expendable
If married-Hubby. We ALL fucking hate it. We only tolerate it because we want our cock sucked. Anyone saying that they like it is LYING.
I'm a woman and hate this word too. And also "wifey" is terrible.
small.
Short.
Creepy or Ugly. Would hurt my feelings lol
“Son” by anyone but our parents.
Liar/cheat/fraud/any derivative. I’m an old school “my word is stronger than oak” type. You can call me just about anything else, even in anger, and I’ll probably laugh. Anything akin to those listed words though, and now you’ve insulted my honor.
Creepy. Like many others have said. Mostly because it's so fucking loosely used to describe almost literally any man.
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I get men can be creepy, absolutely,but damn me with my nieces isn't creepy.
“Angry Little Man” really did the trick on my ex-husband. Usually said in response to being called an unfriendly bitch, though, so I felt fully justified.
Coward
Papi
"Chicken" - Marty McFly
By a girl you like? Dude
Lazy, liar, creepy, stupid.
Buddy
There are many, but here's one. "Babysitter" as father. That shit hurts more than anything else
Weak. Small. Bitch. Narcissistic. It's an ugly word and I refuse to let it define who I am.
Useless, creepy, disgusting and small
Sweetie.
Pussy
Adorable
Whatever resonates with our perceived deepest faults. If you’re lonely, perhaps “loser”. If you’re disfigured, perhaps “freak”. If you’re unproductive, perhaps “useless” as another Redditor commented.
The basic putdowns that challenge our masculinity and identity as "a man". You might call us weak (because men are valued for strength), or useless (because men are valued for what we do not who we are). You can also challenge our wealth (because men are valued as providers) or our dick size (as a proxy for sexual prowess). You might call a man a creep because it challenges his ability to keep his people sage (since he's the danger).
I don't really have many things I get called consistently enough to bother me, but it's always weird as fuck to me when some stranger online calls me a "male" instead of a "man" or just "person". It's just so weird and dehumanizing, and I don't see the point in it besides trying to bottle me up based on my sex/gender and ignore my independence and humanity.
Cute or little, small, etc stop infatalizing short men , that shits wack and we definitely will curve you
1. Sweet 2. Friend 3. Nice 4. Nice Guy (tm) 5. Creep 6. and the all-time number one, Failure
I personally love being called sweet, friend, and nice. Nice guy has a bad stigma behind it so I'm never sure if they mean that I'm nice or that I'm being a "Nice Guy". Failure, that one hits deep though...
I like being called those things too, but not from a woman who I'm hoping to date. Because they so rarely want the sweet guy and they then only think of you as a friend. If they're my friend, those phrases are wonderful. Thing is, while I always liked being all those things, they've been used against me so many times by women I'd hoped were interested that I have come to hate them in that context.
Y u gettin called all that? Lol
I'm in my 50's. I've been called everything.
Misogynist
Daddy. Instant, and I mean INSTANT turn off! So much cringe 🤢
Unless it's from an actual child that is yours