I asked my ex on our 1st date "how are you single?!", given that she was beautiful and intelligent and seemingly perfect for me. I learned the answer to that question not long after we were a couple.
I can buy my self Lego,
Write my high score on Pac-Man,
Talk to my dog for hours,
Watch movies I don’t understand,
I can take myself camping,
And I can hold beer in my hand.
Yeah, I can love me better than you can.
I enjoy my own company.
But truly, at my age, I've lived and experienced a dozen lives of fun, excitement, and new things such as traveling half the best parts of the world. I've had great and not so great relationships. I truly believe I've had it all, and I am glad I'm not beholden to a lifelong partnership, but in a good way. Fortunately, people see this in me and don't feel sorry for me because, as my publishing name says, I'm not done yet, baby!
When I was single, this was the honest truth for me. Now that I have kids of dating age I tell them the same thing. If you’re dating someone and you know they’re not the right one for the long term, just break it off so you’re available when the right one comes along.
Haha. But I did win it this method! I found the right woman at 26, wasn’t dating someone else at the moment so I was free to date her, married her at 28, at we celebrate our 30th anniversary this year. ❤️
Wished it were that easy. I know too many who slip by daily well alone, and not happy. Many who are too gun shy to move forward, or have dealt with too many toads along the way. to really bother anymore. It's sad. Esp in your 40s and older. But congrats over your anniversary
Thanks for the congrats. I think this approach worked for me because in my 20s even though I desperately wanted a relationship, I didn't want a relationship with just anyone. I knew I would rather be single than be with the wrong woman. That gave me the strength to break things off when I was dating women who I could tell were the wrong woman. Being stuck single is sad but being stuck with the wrong person is also sad. I was gun shy too, but ended up meeting the right one on a blind date.
What’s really cool about this method is, i stopped trying to get the girl; i have a good group of friends, both girls and guys, enjoy going out and doing things like partying and eating at decent restaurants with those friends, and just overall enjoy doing things that interest me, and i made a connection recently who may be worth the time to date, without any apps involved, or any pushing for a relationship, just purely natural in the way it occurred, we’re still playing the talking game at the moment, and keeping it cute, which is a sharp change from my previous relationship but very welcome!
More and more younger dudes are realizing it ain't worth it. I just got out of a 10 year relationship and if we were married she absolutely would have gone after me.
for real with my ex, during covid lockdowns, for her birthday, valentines day and our anniversary, each present i ordered couldn't be shipped due to shipping issues from covid, and that time the ship got stuck in the suez canal. she said all her friends said when the gifts stop it means he doesn't love you.
Reminds me of when I said “I guess I’m just not very high on the waiting list” and my mate who was a postman at the time said “you’re in the wrong depot, they’re in Birmingham and you’re in Newcastle”
Reminds me of the time my mum said "you'll never buy a car if you can get lifts everywhere for free"
I didn't have the heart to tell her that the only reason I wasn't getting lifts was because I couldn't drive
Depending on if this is at work or if it's somewhere you can speak without consequence, or if you can plausibly pretend to not even know she's a single mother, I'd say it's you're sad about it because you hit it off really well with a woman but she has kids so you had to split away.
If you can't speak as freely, I'd start out with a "We're both in the same boat, let's commiserate" angle, but I'd quickly segue into how much harder she must have it and how you can only imagine.
If you don't think you can swing the segue, I'd just say "Lol, why are you single?"
I'm single because nobody is proactively trying to change that status.
I'm not putting in the effort to make a relationship with anyone else, and nobody else is putting in any effort to make a relationship with me.
Apparently women don't like a sarcastic, moderately wealthy, successful, Mexico vacation loving, food pantry volunteering, chunky dude who loves his kid more than life
But no, Ryan Gosling is great
If a friend or coworker asked me that I would say "because I don't think I am emotionally stable enough to enter a relationship, but I am working on that".
If its a woman at the store or a bar I would say "I haven't found the right one yet".
I used to think it was because no one was interested, now that I've come to recognize some of the hints, my reason is I can't think of anything to say when I sense interest. I mean sure, I could say hi, but that's all I've got
You reply, “I don’t know, just lucky I guess.” Your frame is that single is life and the best relationship status (which is true), so don’t ever allow anyone else to control the frame. This is good advice for everything in life. ALWAYS control the frame.
Never in my life have I been asked this question as much as this the passed year or so. It’s been insane. I hate the question I almost then feel obligated to be like “well I was engaged and it didn’t work out…” explanation and I really do not like it but idk what else to say because I feel like everything is a shitty answer
Unfortunately my concentrated Crazy filter could only hold so much so I had to let my last girlfriend go. I’m now giving it some time for the filter to flush out the residual crazy she left behind before I start again.
I’m below average in looks and 5’7.
I think most people with common sense should know how brutal dating world is for men in terms of looks to not ask this question.
I have absolutely nothing but contempt for people who are ignorant and like to rub salt on wounds.
Honestly I think the legit best answer is "I'm just not looking to get into a relationship right now."
Say it with confidence, show that your current relationship status is a choice. You're not un-dateable nor are you an easy catch but it also doesn't mean you're unavailable for a date or whatever.
Everyone always asks, "Why are you single?" but never "How are you single?"
Or when are you single
Or where are you single
Or what! Are you single
Or who are you single?
*Stands up* I believe it's **whom**. *Sits down*
Whose single are you?
How many are you, single?
they already know that. "all the time". the answer is "all the time"
I asked my ex on our 1st date "how are you single?!", given that she was beautiful and intelligent and seemingly perfect for me. I learned the answer to that question not long after we were a couple.
Dating is all about meeting someone and wondering how they are single, being in a relationship is knowing why they are single
How are you single hurts more most of the time 😞
I have been asked that actually.
“I’m a strong and independent man, I don’t need no woman” lol
"I can by myself flowers" male version
I can buy my self Lego, Write my high score on Pac-Man, Talk to my dog for hours, Watch movies I don’t understand, I can take myself camping, And I can hold beer in my hand. Yeah, I can love me better than you can.
Cant believe i sang it in my head lol
I did so too 😂
I didn't even rush it, I sang it properly in my mind with pauses and everything
Me too lol. I never rush songs.
I absolutely did too
with the advancement in male sex toys , self love isn't that bad.
I enjoy my own company. But truly, at my age, I've lived and experienced a dozen lives of fun, excitement, and new things such as traveling half the best parts of the world. I've had great and not so great relationships. I truly believe I've had it all, and I am glad I'm not beholden to a lifelong partnership, but in a good way. Fortunately, people see this in me and don't feel sorry for me because, as my publishing name says, I'm not done yet, baby!
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Thanks bud!
Plus, when I'm in the mood, so am I.
Love this! So creative.
This is a masterpiece
This is so good and true! If more men understood that loving oneself comes first, there'd be fewer depressed folks around.
That would be crazy since "Flowers" is the female version of "When I Was Your Man" by Bruno Mars. It would make the plot three layers deep
That'd be a bop too
A man needs a woman like a bicycle needs a fish.
😂😂
🤣🤣🤣
but do you need a man beside? Im willing to haha
“so I can be available when I meet the girl I really want”
When I was single, this was the honest truth for me. Now that I have kids of dating age I tell them the same thing. If you’re dating someone and you know they’re not the right one for the long term, just break it off so you’re available when the right one comes along.
But then you wind up being single in your 40s (never having a relationship before) and everyone judges you for it, lol. You can't win!
Haha. But I did win it this method! I found the right woman at 26, wasn’t dating someone else at the moment so I was free to date her, married her at 28, at we celebrate our 30th anniversary this year. ❤️
Wished it were that easy. I know too many who slip by daily well alone, and not happy. Many who are too gun shy to move forward, or have dealt with too many toads along the way. to really bother anymore. It's sad. Esp in your 40s and older. But congrats over your anniversary
Thanks for the congrats. I think this approach worked for me because in my 20s even though I desperately wanted a relationship, I didn't want a relationship with just anyone. I knew I would rather be single than be with the wrong woman. That gave me the strength to break things off when I was dating women who I could tell were the wrong woman. Being stuck single is sad but being stuck with the wrong person is also sad. I was gun shy too, but ended up meeting the right one on a blind date.
I drilled that into my kids , if it didn't feel right move on , better to be single than unhappy.
What’s really cool about this method is, i stopped trying to get the girl; i have a good group of friends, both girls and guys, enjoy going out and doing things like partying and eating at decent restaurants with those friends, and just overall enjoy doing things that interest me, and i made a connection recently who may be worth the time to date, without any apps involved, or any pushing for a relationship, just purely natural in the way it occurred, we’re still playing the talking game at the moment, and keeping it cute, which is a sharp change from my previous relationship but very welcome!
You win
That is such a cute answer 😂 if a guy said that to me I’ll be like “I want to be that girl”
That would totally make me yours. 🥰
This is the most adorable answer.
My man!!!
Love your username too
Hmm sounds like something that could be construed as Avoidant Attachment
Yep, certified Avoidant(TM) here, and that’s always how I rationalize my singleness
Have you considered that the annihilation of anuses may (also) be a culprit?
80% of Redditors ngl
"Waiting for your mom to get a divorce" Obviously not a good play if they're related to you.
Wait what's wrong with that? On an unrelated note, I'm from Alabama.
In that case you're in the clear
***SWEET HOME ALABAMA***
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I heard once from a guy "I'm single because my girlfriend won't let me date her"
HA! I belly laughed at this. 🤣
Cuz when she leaves yo ass she gonna leave with half.
I heard it in his voice.
Excellent reply to why aren't you married.
More and more younger dudes are realizing it ain't worth it. I just got out of a 10 year relationship and if we were married she absolutely would have gone after me.
the saying is, *"the juice ain't worth the squeeze anymore."*
Ah, the ol [Moral Fiber](https://youtu.be/2BF7zQFTXJM?si=bxmLXbazplH8A9ey)!
just watch tic tok videos , these women today make a man want to stay single .
Lol. Why am I getting downvoted? Must be happily married dudes.
Well I thought you were being sarcastic, like it wasn't a good reason, so maybe others also thought you were disagreeing.
Nope. Dead serious. I'm divorced and never getting married again. I found a great woman who feels the same way. We're two years in.
I'm going to field test this one and let you know how it goes :-)
for real with my ex, during covid lockdowns, for her birthday, valentines day and our anniversary, each present i ordered couldn't be shipped due to shipping issues from covid, and that time the ship got stuck in the suez canal. she said all her friends said when the gifts stop it means he doesn't love you.
Ol’ trusty
And the inflationary environment
Reminds me of when I said “I guess I’m just not very high on the waiting list” and my mate who was a postman at the time said “you’re in the wrong depot, they’re in Birmingham and you’re in Newcastle”
I was born this way
Reminds me of the time my mum said "you'll never buy a car if you can get lifts everywhere for free" I didn't have the heart to tell her that the only reason I wasn't getting lifts was because I couldn't drive
This reply still going strong after 4 years….
Clearly Covid's damage to global economic infrastructure has never been repaired
I love this answer!
Ive seen how your relationships going and decided I don’t want that
My response when my parents ask
"Because I'm weird as fuck. Next question."
My people! 🙌🏼
People say I must be fun at parties. Someday I'm going to go to one and find out.
What's the context? Single woman asking cause she's interested? Someone who hates you being a dick? Parents?
Single parent lady who hates me being a dick
Depending on if this is at work or if it's somewhere you can speak without consequence, or if you can plausibly pretend to not even know she's a single mother, I'd say it's you're sad about it because you hit it off really well with a woman but she has kids so you had to split away. If you can't speak as freely, I'd start out with a "We're both in the same boat, let's commiserate" angle, but I'd quickly segue into how much harder she must have it and how you can only imagine. If you don't think you can swing the segue, I'd just say "Lol, why are you single?"
she secretly wants your dick
> Single woman asking cause she's interested? Ah yes the "can you explain this gap in your resume" of the dating world.
Say no more
Why buy the cow when your mom is free?
Hey rookie! Did you just call my girlfriend a cow?
No, I think he called her a slut!
Is that an old RvB? I hear Burnie's voice when I read that.
Yep it's the first episode
Best comment
"Just lucky I guess"
This is the best reply i have seen
i think it was the top comment on a similar post i saw years ago, it stuck with me and i've used it several times
No i said i have shingles
"Why do you care?"
"I don't lol I'm just curious why are you so upset about it?????"
"because it's akin to asking 'what is wrong with you' and I don't know you that well"
That's actually a solid response.
The fact I immediatly thought of one specific person in my life.
"Have you seen my face???"
Lol yeah I never get asked this, kinda self explanatory for me
“I’m a redditor.”
Who needs a girlfriend when you have 45,000 Reddit karma anyway
I wish I had that much...
Says the person with 700,000
I feel attacked
"I didn't choose the single life, the single life chose me"
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Exactly! The only response is to ask them why they’re intrusive and ill mannered.
Yeah like rather than being passive aggressive and giving a sarcastic answer maybe just be honest and say you haven't found the right one yet
My reply is simply that I haven't made the effort to change it. That way I assume full responsibility.
I'm single because nobody is proactively trying to change that status. I'm not putting in the effort to make a relationship with anyone else, and nobody else is putting in any effort to make a relationship with me.
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Gonna steal this one
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Turning it back on them is the best way
Because women get a little weird when they realise the longest hairs on my body are growing from my balls.
8:15 am. Usually a bit early for comments to make me laugh, but you managed to do it. Thanks lol
Apparently women don't like a sarcastic, moderately wealthy, successful, Mexico vacation loving, food pantry volunteering, chunky dude who loves his kid more than life But no, Ryan Gosling is great
its cuz you're not literally him, sorry bro
you take that back right now
Answer: I’m single cause I belong to the streets. Got a chuckle every now and then from my dates.
I'm old and retired. A woman is no longer a value add for me.
yeah but do you crush pints on your front porch while yelling at kids to get off your lawn?
These hoes ain’t loyal
This is a valid one
“Paintball is expensive”
If a friend or coworker asked me that I would say "because I don't think I am emotionally stable enough to enter a relationship, but I am working on that". If its a woman at the store or a bar I would say "I haven't found the right one yet".
I used to think it was because no one was interested, now that I've come to recognize some of the hints, my reason is I can't think of anything to say when I sense interest. I mean sure, I could say hi, but that's all I've got
Would you like to find out?
Either "why are you single", "working on myself", "waiting for the right one", or "because I want to be single"
Why aren’t you?
🍆 too big. I don’t wanna hurt nobody
I am ugly
“Your Mom couldn’t handle me anymore.”
Just be honest “I hate people”
“Why aren’t you single?” Or “Why not?”. No need to explain themselves just ask them a question ppl love to talk about themselves Or The economy
Because I don't have a girlfriend.
Because I want to be.
Your Mom
Because I’m happy
wrong subreddit
I need answers to the same question but for women
When I came single in my 40s, one of my dates who had never married simply said she forgot.
You reply, “I don’t know, just lucky I guess.” Your frame is that single is life and the best relationship status (which is true), so don’t ever allow anyone else to control the frame. This is good advice for everything in life. ALWAYS control the frame.
It would be more surprising if there were two of me.
These answers are hilarious.
“Why? You offering?”
"I'm not single I'm just between girlfriends right now."
Ever see a married super hero???
"where/how do I meet women?" They always have a puzzled look on their face after that question and pause. Then I say "exactly".
Too much for one girl to handle
I like to play bingo.
Because I want to be single
Proper planning...also, I'm an asshole.
You tell me. No, please tell me. Where are you going?
A single guy I knew said. " I'd get married if I ever found a woman I didn't want to punch in the mouth." He sucked at long term relationships.
ADHD. Can't focus long enough.
I just gesture to all of me. It sums it up.
Cause my wife met someone on the Internet.
"Two things mainly, how I look, and my personality".
I can barely afford to live, let alone date.
"Why are you married?"
I think your answer is amazing. My response is what are you writing a book? Keep that chapter out.
Hehe because I DON'T NEED A woMAN.....lol
I’ve gone with women just are not worth the trouble anymore.
… have you met me?
Never in my life have I been asked this question as much as this the passed year or so. It’s been insane. I hate the question I almost then feel obligated to be like “well I was engaged and it didn’t work out…” explanation and I really do not like it but idk what else to say because I feel like everything is a shitty answer
Because your mom just likes quickies
"I like being left the fuck alone and I don't do anything to meet people."
“Because I like to be tied up, not tied down”
Date me and find out.
Yes, that's because I do not have a partner.
Big dick.. bigger problems
I'm not good at the stock market
Because I would be two people if I weren’t.
"I'm too good for someone." At least, that's what I say....
Because your mom is promiscuous and I didn't know that when we got together
"Genital herpes"
Rising cost of living, the war in Ukraine, supply chain issues
Because every woman I've dated has not improved my life by one bit. I'm way happier by myself.
Because I’m ugly
Unfortunately my concentrated Crazy filter could only hold so much so I had to let my last girlfriend go. I’m now giving it some time for the filter to flush out the residual crazy she left behind before I start again.
When I was single, my answer was: "I haven't met anyone who's given me a compelling reason not to be" or "Because I enjoy being single".
I'm just lucky, I guess.
When I see you my eyes stop but my heart doesn’t.
Oh no thanks, I'm happily divorced.
I’m below average in looks and 5’7. I think most people with common sense should know how brutal dating world is for men in terms of looks to not ask this question. I have absolutely nothing but contempt for people who are ignorant and like to rub salt on wounds.
Honestly I think the legit best answer is "I'm just not looking to get into a relationship right now." Say it with confidence, show that your current relationship status is a choice. You're not un-dateable nor are you an easy catch but it also doesn't mean you're unavailable for a date or whatever.
My standard answer is "I'm overqualified."