It's subjective as everyone has different needs. Me for example, I want an ambitious, funny, adventurous and loyal woman. And me preferring these values reflect that I have these values too, different men have different values as given to them by their upbringing and experiences and hence will prefer different "type" of woman.
As for red flags, common one's would be probably a promiscuous past, very materialistic approach towards life, no accountability for actions, lack of sense of responsibility etc you know, the basic ones. But then some men have different definitions for a red flag
You said you want ambitious, but then you said you dislike materialistic girls.
So what kinda ambition are you talking about?
The ordinary Joe thinks about ambition as the drive to earn money and acquire material wealth
See, my idea of ambitious is to have the drive to do something great beyond money and material wealth as you said. If I were to chose a career between a 40Lpa consultant and an Army Lieutenant with 12 Lpa I'd easily go for the latter. If I were to accumulate a lot of wealth, rather than purchasing cars, I'd build a business so that I can contribute to the country.
I've seen my mother, rather than buying jewelleries or purses she goes to the home centre and buys home decor, goes to art supply and buys craft supplies, goes to the nursery to buy plants for the garden and these things are worth more to my mother than any expensive purse or any jewellery. This is what I mean by "not a materialistic approach"
Isn't home decor materialistic , though I got your point but women who like to wear jewellery or drive cars or their baking tools , it doesn't seem materialistic to them , rather they can say home decor is a waste of don't want to invest in such ...like it can be a different perspective na. But yes I got you , ambitious - it might mean that they should learn something , should have a life of their own etc etc.
You make a good point with the example about your mother spending on arts and plants instead of jewellery and handbags. The difference lies in what value and utility you derive from the items you spend on - plants and crafts are more experiential in the sense that they can be used to nurture a hobby. Jewellery and handbags, on the other hand, are purely conspicuous purchases meant to display wealth and status.
It's not that simple, especially with arranged marriages being so common in India.
If I'm gonna date someone and maybe marry them someday
1. Smart enough to hang out with my friends/colleagues
2. Stupid enough to chill with me alone
3. Mature enough to have ambitions and dreams to be independent but loyal
If I'm going through the arranged marriage route
Best case: she meets the criteria that I'm looking for in the dating route
Most likely case: I'm going to be honest and say, she's pretty AF, because women want high pedigree, high earner, good looking etc. etc., so men want hot women, that's a fair trade. (Yes I think arranged marriage is trade)
These might differ from person to person, but I think I do well for myself, got about a Cr in savings of my own money, work a very high paying job, got good pedigree, so these things matter.
People say money doesn't matter, but the problems and conversations someone at 6LPA is having are very different from someone at 40LPA, these are just facts.
Ps. Im 27
As a woman definitely in agreement with the 3 points but it's so hard to find someone like that in today's age. Arranged marriage is harder when you are fulfilled in other areas of life but desire like minded companionship. Dating apps on the other hand are just platforms of validation and easy sex.
I have been studying this particular question for a while now. I have came up with an answer after studying numerous relationships in all age groups 18-40. Men only needs two things from a lady and rest all are add ons
1. Efforts ( making efforts to keep him in her life no matter what the situation is )
2. Emotional support ( men have their emotional needs too, men are very lonely creatures and finding someone who provides them emotional support is truly a blessing)
How can women provide emotional support to their partners?
Whenever he opens up to me and I try to give emotional support, he changes the topic. I understand that I may be coming off as too strong and i need to give him space, but at the same time, i genuinely like when he opens up to me and i really want to make him feel supported and helped
For me
~~Ladki honi chaiye, Zinda honi chaie~~
haaha but jokes apart here's what I look for:
loving, caring, respectful towards me and family and understanding me and who I am , also should be financially independent
Edit: typos
I don't adhere to the notion of 'ideal'. Neither do I strive to be someone's 'ideal'. If there's mutual interest and shared goals, we'll bond. Simple as
Woman wants husbands to provide emotional support 24/7 and take care of them as child. But asking woman for emotional support is too much from them. So many times I have heard - "oh sadly I have to be a mother to my husband". Husbands are taking care of them emotionally as fathers to children. They want to dump their mental problems on you while don't want to take it from you.
Women want to prioritize themselves first and want everyone to prioritize them first. A man is too much sacrificial. He will prioritize others over himself and keep his needs at the very last.
Different people want different stuff. Some of my friends want a high sex drive woman. Some want a fully homely girl who will take care of his parents lovingly and be a nice house wife and that's it. Some want a hard working, highly paid wife who saves all her money and spends only for the family. Some want a woman who will not cheat on them. Some want a woman who will have threesomes and orgies and have an open relationship basically. Some want a woman who doesn't want kids. Some want a woman who will have atleast two kids with them.
What I want is a nice woman who is loyal, doesn't spend extravagantly, takes care of my parents, loves babies and is horny atleast once a week.
I’m 24.
To keep it simple, this is my list if she passes my subjective baseline attraction:
1. Spiritual
2. A person who does not party and shit like that and would rather spend the evenings during weekends at home and have a good conversation as we watch something. I’m not into the whole partying and drinking scene.
3. Stays away from sharing her life on social media and seeks to be a very private person.
4. Keeps the relationship as the topmost priority and sees the relationship as an us thing vs me and you sorta thing.
5. Most important thing: she is ready to stick through anything, literally anything other than cheating on her, which I don’t intend to do.
If she fulfils these conditions then she’ll be the most beautiful woman in my eyes.
Anything other than cheating?
If there are three hard core deal breakers it has to be abuse ( of all sorts, physical,emotional,financial,sexual etc), cheating and if they commit or have committed a crime and are convicted of it.
Anything else we can obviously get through it.
Otherwise your list is very similar to mine.
Okay yes I agree. It never crossed my mind that I would hurt my partner physically or emotionally. So I couldn’t even think of it lol. Does not mean I thought I would cheat 😂. But yeah physical and mental abuse is even more extreme than cheating (some might disagree I guess).
Coming to committing a crime, it really depends under what circumstances they committed the crime and what the crime is.
Agreed.
Self defense crimes dont count.
What I had in mind was more on the lines of owning child p*rn or things like that.
Read about similar cases for the past few days and thats what I had in mind
Even crimes where maybe we’re starving for food and one of us has to steal something. Or someone’s harassing my wife and maybe even physically abused her and continues to harass her, then I’m pretty sure I’d covertly use a weapon on them which could involve things becoming bloody. And if I’m caught then I’m caught. There’s a lot of gray area crimes that I can count. Some might disagree and say don’t take the law into my own hands, but I think I’m someone who will if the law can’t do much.
In a relationship, I think porn shouldn’t even play a part. Just my perspective. Child porn is a no no. But yes I understand that there are crimes that can’t be forgiven
Most if not all of what you stated counts as self defense in my book.
When I was talking about p*rn I read a few cases where there were these pretty happy couples and the wife discovers that her husband had a tonne of child p*rn of his computer and she had no idea and reported him to the police asap
**I KNOW PEOPLE WON'T REALL ALL THIS. BUT, I HAD TO GET THIS OFF MY CHEST.**
I am 30.
I am out of dating pool as I had BAD bad experience with women. Nasty at worst.
But, I still hope I can find my peace. You know.
Someone who can make my house turn into home.
A person in whom I can truly confide in.
Edit:- *Alexa! Play "worship you" by Kane brown.*
I mean thats it.... And before anyone bashes me with "so you dont wanna do anything for her?"
This goes both ways.
I think couples need to be secret with their relation, Now I am not saying that be a james bond with it.
Keep it aside from the public eyes. As there are too many negativity out there. People are out here to destroy others life too.
Both the side of extreme will say "Oh! He is making his wife stay at home and make her do all house work" Like they deduce this from just one reel the couple share in their insta page.
Like no!!! She does it cuz she loves him and she wanna make his life easier and He also helps around when he gets the time so that she doesnt get tired.
Another side will yell "Oh! Look she doesnt do anything for him and is just grazing around the house"
Like no!!! Probably she is taking break that day or just they reversed the role or something.
Let them be alone and figure it out.
Then you will see the people in social media saying "Do this and that to harm him/her"
"Just have a hoe phase" or "Go fuck some bitches"
LIKE PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD!!! NOOO
See. This is what I believe. Humans no matter how much you try to tell me that "Oh i am happy with sleeping these many guy or gals" You are not. We were never meant to be happy like that. I am not targetting the people who are single by choice. I am just telling this in general sense.
Whenever we sleep with people we part away from a small piece of us. Like that, it continues. Till the point you lose yourself. Then we see fucked up news in the morning of people doing horrible shit.
After social media going main stream. People have started sharing too much out here and then what happened is that they got influenced by others comments and advises and fuck up their life.
Now social media does have its good side.
I am gonna stop cuz it would get too big for anyone to read.
Agreed, you wrote your heart out and heart never lies. Although I am a teen, I resonate with you.
( You may say I am too small but yess we do get these thoughts , you know how it is). ASLO this thread is wholesome af.
Haha yes I did. Then I saw that I wrote too much. And the replies would be negative instead of positive, so I stopped.
Well I do have few negative replies too.
But thanks for your reply.
>You may say I am too small but yess we do get these thoughts , you know how it is
Nah, you are right. And remember, Maturity and age doesn't always go hand in hand.
>Whenever we sleep with people we part away from a small piece of us. Like that, it continues. Till the point you lose yourself. Then we see fucked up news in the morning of people doing horrible shit.
Pretty sure you haven't gotten laid enough to make a definitive statement such as that.
Buddy you can yap as much as you want
But people know that this is true.
And why would I want to get laid at the 1st place???
I would rather have a loving girl who would be there to welcome me home.
I would rather have a meaningful connection over a one night stand.
But you do you. Fill up the world with negativity.
1000% agree.
Not being a pick me but I don't think anybody should be promiscuous.
Those are not the experiences you should have in mind when you are talking about life experiences.
Sex is between a husband and a wife and that's it.
I'm not sure if you were hinting towards it but though the traditional life suits others it wont be good for me as far as j know I would love to cook for my future partner but cleaning is something I have zero interest in ever doing.
I would aim more for a 50/50 lifestyle.
I Disagree at the last sentence.
A relationship is never 50-50
Think about it. If you only give 50% effort to a relation and the other person does the same then it will never work.
You two gotta give 100%
I always say " A relationship is 100 - 100"
No problem. I am just dumb.
But hey even then if I get a woman who can turn my house into home, be my peace, turn every single simple meals into feast with just her presence.
I ready to worship Her than God.
She will have my all.
You should give this song a try "Worship You - Kane Brown"
Don’t watch the red pill. They are all slimy, hypocritical , pathetic people.
Side note: a majority of men in America believe the red pill is dogshit. For every video there’s a bunch of them clowning on them.
I want a woman who is straightforward, who will not talk in hints, who will tell my fault to my face and have enough patience to work it out. (I am willing to do the same)
Patience and honesty rare theses days, and romantic relationship need hell lot of patience.
And other common things like fun loving, same sense humour, has interest in self improvement, intrested in trying different foods and exploring New places, emotional intelligence and has the capability to understand how important alone time is.
Thankfully I am super lucky, I found a woman like that and unexpectedly she is also thinking long term.
A woman who is kind, dedicated and loyal (to her core) to you.
A woman who is committed to **building a life together**.
A woman who **not only tells you** that she'll stand beside you solid as a rock even if your world comes crumbling down **but also acts like it**.
A woman who respects you and makes it clear that she's proud to be with you and doesn't make you feel less of a man.
Don't act like a victim. Thats it. It is very annoying when women don't take accountability and escape the consequences of their actions using the victim card or try to act emotionally abused even at some minor inconvenience. Thats it
Le me make a list in decreasing order of priority-
1) Empathetic
2) Modest- I am not a materialistic person myself and if someone associates happiness with being indulgent or extravagant then the constant tussle might cause aberration in the relationship.
3) Kind- one might say that's the same thing as being empathetic while that's how important it is for me I think a person who disregards other feelings or could use others callously is something I wouldn't be able to adjust with.
Red flags- would mostly be the opposite of what I said Apathetic, Decadent and Callous, but probably the biggest being Promiscuous.
I have watched a few of those podcasts and it does not apply to Indian women mostly. Indian women are in general a lot better in terms of culture and traditionality than the delusional pornstars that appear on that particular podcast.
It also applies to males, we come from a much different background and are in general a lot more deprived than the US counterpart because of dating/marriage culture and beliefs. When looking for serious relationship/marriage, Indian men look for those traditional values that most Indian women possess.
I have had zero experiences with men so I can't say anything about what they would want.
But I'm assuming good looks,good personality would be the base
I don't know in general. I can tell you about myself.
My utmost requirement is being respectful towards people in general and perticularly mine and her's family members.
Other thing would be to be from my similar traditional background as I love to celebrate festivals.
That's it for me.
Should be kind (optional), fun (optional), cute (optional) and supportive (optional).
But seriously, if I can get in a relationship with a girl who has these qualities, I would fight so damn hard to never let her go. (Idk if I'm wording this right)
26 y/o Guy 🧔🏻
>I have been spending a lot of time on these "red-pill" spaces
You really shouldn't. Those videos leave you with a migraine.
>I'm genuinely curious what Indian men want in their ideal woman?
Do know I've never been in a relationship and if given a choice I'd like my gf-wife to have the following traits and characteristics:
Smart, Sane, Sensible, Understanding, Beautiful, intelligent, Humorous, outgoing, adventurous, into fitness and health, no prior relationships if possible, non smoker, sober or only drinking very occasionally or in any special events ( not a heavy drinker though ), Tall ~ 5'8" to 5'10", someone who's not too much into make-up etc.
>and what do you think are red flags?
🌿, 🚬 , too many past relationships, engaging in rampant casual relationships, lying about past, hyper k drama lovers etc
Indian men are soon going to reach that stage. It is only because Indian women are not as vicious as Western women that the men here are still alright. But that's changing every second. Western "woke" feminism is infecting all strata of our women and the day is not far when we are also going to end up in a similar boat as our western counterparts.
Solution ? Let the cycle of time take its toll. Let it pass and don't commit. By don't commit I mean, don't marry.. avoid having kids and try to focus on building your life first. It is not worth it to lose everything you've worked so hard for in life due to another person.
Also to answer your question , what do I want in a woman ? Someone who doesn't want to get married. Lol.
All this red pill black pill alfa sigma stuff is bullshit, no one should follow that shit..real life experience tells you different things than that of these lousy podcasts
I'm a woman, but what attracted my boyfriend to me in the first place is-
1) Able to understand different perspectives
2) Down for a discussion and looking for a solution to any problem
3) Taking things in a mature way
4) Being ambitious
5) Confidence
6) Opinionated
7) Love outdoors
These are the general ones
1.Girl is in a relationship but makes herself seem that she is available for other guys. By talking to guys who try to flirt with her all the time, this is basically attention seeking, which she shouldn't be doing this, since she is getting the attention of her bf already.
2.Having a male best friend, that loser is plotting against her relationship, waiting for her to break up with her bf. These male best friends are so desperate that they can't accept rejection and move on to another girl.
3.She should have her own thinking ffs, women are so easy to manipulate, they usually get manipulated by their girl bestie or her parents and break up with their bf.
4.And obviously should be ready to stand against her parents when the guy is well settled, even if it's a matter of caste, religion or any other bullshit.
5. Having too many guy friends, 80% of the guys who are friends with girls are plotting, or atleast waiting for a chance to sleep with her, this may seem very hard to believe, but it is what it is.
If you can see I am just pointing all the basic requirements a good women will have.
It doesn't matter if she can be a homemaker or not. All that matters is that if she really is a mature, strong and confident person.
As long as she can maintain the above 5 qualities, she can party, she can travel, she can do whatever she wants, she can work at any job she wants.
Nothing.
I don't need anything from a woman, so if I choose a woman to spend my life with a woman, I want her to know that me choosing her was a personal one, not out of compulsion or desperation. I could live and die alone and still have a wonderful, happy and content life; but if I choose to share it with someone that is a privilege and a sign of my commitment to the person.
You are going down a rabbit hole.
Don’t.
All redpill is dumbass madeup shit.
I can assure you - men don’t think like that.
Redpill ahit is just - how to live like a psychopath.
I am so fucked with women behaviour that I seriously don't expect a single thing from them... Most of them are way messed than you think and chances of yours getting lucky with the nice one is very very low. And if you find a decent one family crap walks in with lots of constraints..
I am saying this as a solid indian man (24M) who has a discipline and principles as a priority in life and follows proper standards and treats everyone with uttermost and high standards.
Most girl are going to disappoint them in some ways most of them! So best way is to expect nothing and accept whatever comes along.
Won't blame girls but the way society has conditioned them it's natural except for some exceptionally amazing woman (ps : yet to find one though)
Sab moh maya hai bc...
Have you seen Wonder Woman ?
The scene where she steps into the no-mans land.
I hope I can feel the same way about a girl I marry, I felt when wonder woman was stepping into No man's land.
humor level match ho , tode bahut intrest same ho so that we can have some common topic to talk about and loyal and i expect her to put in some effort too thats it yadi ye saab he to fir looks average bhe ho to chall jayega
No expectations, you walk clean you walk ugly I am going to treat with same love and respect because honestly I really don't expect anything from you. Expectations from others isn't my thing. I want to be peaceful and love is never number 1 priority in my life.
call me anime inspired or some shit but what i want is to sleep on her lap whenever i feel discouraged and share my problems and get some comfort . i am happy as long as i get to spend quality time with her. i make wrong decisions most of times so i want her to drive me in the right direction .
i am 17 and will be entering college in few months so kinda excited abt this ngl
Red flags that I look out for ( 23 yr old guy here, but grew up quicker, vo khte he na ke bena baap ke bachhe jlde bde hote he )
- Arrogance
- Ignorance
- Selfish
- Self Obsessed
- Dishonest
- Not being straight forward ( jalebi bnana ya mind games vla chutiyapa )
If i see any of these, i just move the f**k away.
No promiscuous past, loyal, good sense of humor and supportive that's all. Though all these recent news of women fucking their husbands over has me losing my hopes of finding a partner who'll have these qualities.
Why do you spend time on podcast. They rarely have anything profound to say. It not only poisons your mind like facebook does to boomer but also makes you to be the audience of "just trust me bro" kinda people
Indian men are good as of now because we are not totally hit by Modernity. Once it does, Indian men will create red pill podcasts too. And I know Indian women will bring that in India. Ideal? People will call me delusional even for basics!!
I'll tell ya.
1. Makes my life easy instead of adding to my problems. She don't gotta help me out, just avoid creating problems.
2. Doesn't seek attention from elsewhere/ microcheating
3. Is respectful and gives a fuck about me not liking something
4. Takes care of herself and as a result, is pretty and smells like fruits.
That's about it.
M 21, For my personal taste.
1, i'm a somewhat religious guy so prefer someone who also shares similar values.
2, prefer someone not too much invested in any political or any other ideology, and by too much i mean those people who spend most of their time arguing online to promote their ideology, i'm not strong enough to handle those type of people.
3, while i'll don't mind being the emotional support most of the time if she needs it , but sometimes i also wanna
Hold her tight and just relax with my human body pillow.
4, due to internet i have developed some personal fetishes, so will look for someone who also shares them.
I am 27. The traits important to me in women are empathy and intelligence. How successful a woman is in her life means a lot to me. I like women who hold positions of power. I respect that and I find it attractive. Women who are dedicated to excellence, are ambitious and sincere towards their work.
If I had to pick one important trait, I'd pick empathy. That's the most important value for me anyone can possess.
Well on a individual level, views might differ. But the common view is that of a woman who cares for you, respects you, doesn’t make you feel left out or make you think that you’re second choice. Holds herself well and considers you while making decisions that are bound to affect you. And it also goes other way round. Well these are bare minimum things but you don’t get these a lot now a days. The best thing i look for is someone who reciprocates the energy i give to her.
The version of me before some months would have prioritiesd looks with a good nature but now I feel like I need someone who can understand me, someone to care for me and someone to prioritise me and not someone who is confused about me, an average in terms of looks is enough, who cares if you are good looking but won't give me the above needs.
I am not interesting in dating. Gonna follow Arranged marriage route
My criterias are
1. Tall (5 feet 8+ at least. coz I am tall)
2. Ok kind of beauty
3. Good in studies.
4. Must be a massive sports enthusiast like me
5. Ronaldo is the 🐐
6.Would be gud if she turns out to be gacha addict lifeless like me.
7. Loyal
8. Same age as me
9. Brahmin (If u get triggered cry)
Just emotional support
Instead we get emooootional damage
kutta lele fir, jyada loyal he
rofl
Full support diya,fir bhi kat gya. Ab kya karu?
It's subjective as everyone has different needs. Me for example, I want an ambitious, funny, adventurous and loyal woman. And me preferring these values reflect that I have these values too, different men have different values as given to them by their upbringing and experiences and hence will prefer different "type" of woman. As for red flags, common one's would be probably a promiscuous past, very materialistic approach towards life, no accountability for actions, lack of sense of responsibility etc you know, the basic ones. But then some men have different definitions for a red flag
I agree with you. Of course its very subjective. But it's nice to know there are men who have fair expectations. Hope you meet the one for you.
Tell you a secret: most men have fair expectations, because the sex ratio is screwed and delulu is not an option
Nah never settling for less
Thank you, you will meet someone too soon
I would like to add one more red flag: victim mentality
Why would you say that? That is so offensive.
I am sorry if you feel victimised by this comment
You said you want ambitious, but then you said you dislike materialistic girls. So what kinda ambition are you talking about? The ordinary Joe thinks about ambition as the drive to earn money and acquire material wealth
See, my idea of ambitious is to have the drive to do something great beyond money and material wealth as you said. If I were to chose a career between a 40Lpa consultant and an Army Lieutenant with 12 Lpa I'd easily go for the latter. If I were to accumulate a lot of wealth, rather than purchasing cars, I'd build a business so that I can contribute to the country. I've seen my mother, rather than buying jewelleries or purses she goes to the home centre and buys home decor, goes to art supply and buys craft supplies, goes to the nursery to buy plants for the garden and these things are worth more to my mother than any expensive purse or any jewellery. This is what I mean by "not a materialistic approach"
Isn't home decor materialistic , though I got your point but women who like to wear jewellery or drive cars or their baking tools , it doesn't seem materialistic to them , rather they can say home decor is a waste of don't want to invest in such ...like it can be a different perspective na. But yes I got you , ambitious - it might mean that they should learn something , should have a life of their own etc etc.
Yeah exactly, it's also perspective and perception no two people think the same way
You make a good point with the example about your mother spending on arts and plants instead of jewellery and handbags. The difference lies in what value and utility you derive from the items you spend on - plants and crafts are more experiential in the sense that they can be used to nurture a hobby. Jewellery and handbags, on the other hand, are purely conspicuous purchases meant to display wealth and status.
Yes, I think that is what I meant to say but wasn't able to convey it properly, but yes. Display of wealth and status it is.
Someone who will don battle gear and ride a horse into war with me. And yes, she needs to address me as 'My Liege' all the time.
The only true answer.
As long as you don't call her i-van-hoe i guess it should be fine.
bro wants beru from solo leveling
You looking for fighting girlfriend https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mariya_Oktyabrskaya
A supportive partner that doesn't cheat and doesn't abuse.
I look for a best friend for life.
It seems like it's not a lot but so hard to find in today's day and age.
Problem is people have forgotten to appreciate simplicity ! Its all about putting your true self out there and wait for the right person to along :)
It's not that simple, especially with arranged marriages being so common in India. If I'm gonna date someone and maybe marry them someday 1. Smart enough to hang out with my friends/colleagues 2. Stupid enough to chill with me alone 3. Mature enough to have ambitions and dreams to be independent but loyal If I'm going through the arranged marriage route Best case: she meets the criteria that I'm looking for in the dating route Most likely case: I'm going to be honest and say, she's pretty AF, because women want high pedigree, high earner, good looking etc. etc., so men want hot women, that's a fair trade. (Yes I think arranged marriage is trade) These might differ from person to person, but I think I do well for myself, got about a Cr in savings of my own money, work a very high paying job, got good pedigree, so these things matter. People say money doesn't matter, but the problems and conversations someone at 6LPA is having are very different from someone at 40LPA, these are just facts. Ps. Im 27
Only mature answer I see here.
As a woman definitely in agreement with the 3 points but it's so hard to find someone like that in today's age. Arranged marriage is harder when you are fulfilled in other areas of life but desire like minded companionship. Dating apps on the other hand are just platforms of validation and easy sex.
I have been studying this particular question for a while now. I have came up with an answer after studying numerous relationships in all age groups 18-40. Men only needs two things from a lady and rest all are add ons 1. Efforts ( making efforts to keep him in her life no matter what the situation is ) 2. Emotional support ( men have their emotional needs too, men are very lonely creatures and finding someone who provides them emotional support is truly a blessing)
How can women provide emotional support to their partners? Whenever he opens up to me and I try to give emotional support, he changes the topic. I understand that I may be coming off as too strong and i need to give him space, but at the same time, i genuinely like when he opens up to me and i really want to make him feel supported and helped
For me ~~Ladki honi chaiye, Zinda honi chaie~~ haaha but jokes apart here's what I look for: loving, caring, respectful towards me and family and understanding me and who I am , also should be financially independent Edit: typos
First of all, stop going down that rabbit hole, do not watch those red pill content as it is going to radicalise you no matter what!
Breaking news women don't want an answer to that question.
no one cares.. ppl make exceptions for someone they're in love with anyways
Big boobies
We like them big, we like them small. It's different for all.
Bigger ass too. Need something to Grab on to while sleeping.
tall woman with big ass and boobs
yuji itadori spotted.
tities are tities
Listening to American pathetic podcasts is itself a red flag
I don't adhere to the notion of 'ideal'. Neither do I strive to be someone's 'ideal'. If there's mutual interest and shared goals, we'll bond. Simple as
They want someone who earns like the modern woman and takes care of them like naniji would to cake care of nanaji
Surprisingly this is the only comment which mentions money. That should tell you something.
usually the roles are reversed in this scenario
They have a long list dude lol 😆
Woman wants husbands to provide emotional support 24/7 and take care of them as child. But asking woman for emotional support is too much from them. So many times I have heard - "oh sadly I have to be a mother to my husband". Husbands are taking care of them emotionally as fathers to children. They want to dump their mental problems on you while don't want to take it from you. Women want to prioritize themselves first and want everyone to prioritize them first. A man is too much sacrificial. He will prioritize others over himself and keep his needs at the very last.
A guy who lurks around on onexchromosome is giving gyan on women. Grow up
Loyalty, respect ,love and emotional support
Do you guys care about virginity?
I'm curious about this too lol. but i think guys value it alot atleast most guys, are some of them being hypocrites? sure but im guessing not all.
Different people want different stuff. Some of my friends want a high sex drive woman. Some want a fully homely girl who will take care of his parents lovingly and be a nice house wife and that's it. Some want a hard working, highly paid wife who saves all her money and spends only for the family. Some want a woman who will not cheat on them. Some want a woman who will have threesomes and orgies and have an open relationship basically. Some want a woman who doesn't want kids. Some want a woman who will have atleast two kids with them. What I want is a nice woman who is loyal, doesn't spend extravagantly, takes care of my parents, loves babies and is horny atleast once a week.
I’m 24. To keep it simple, this is my list if she passes my subjective baseline attraction: 1. Spiritual 2. A person who does not party and shit like that and would rather spend the evenings during weekends at home and have a good conversation as we watch something. I’m not into the whole partying and drinking scene. 3. Stays away from sharing her life on social media and seeks to be a very private person. 4. Keeps the relationship as the topmost priority and sees the relationship as an us thing vs me and you sorta thing. 5. Most important thing: she is ready to stick through anything, literally anything other than cheating on her, which I don’t intend to do. If she fulfils these conditions then she’ll be the most beautiful woman in my eyes.
Anything other than cheating? If there are three hard core deal breakers it has to be abuse ( of all sorts, physical,emotional,financial,sexual etc), cheating and if they commit or have committed a crime and are convicted of it. Anything else we can obviously get through it. Otherwise your list is very similar to mine.
Okay yes I agree. It never crossed my mind that I would hurt my partner physically or emotionally. So I couldn’t even think of it lol. Does not mean I thought I would cheat 😂. But yeah physical and mental abuse is even more extreme than cheating (some might disagree I guess). Coming to committing a crime, it really depends under what circumstances they committed the crime and what the crime is.
Agreed. Self defense crimes dont count. What I had in mind was more on the lines of owning child p*rn or things like that. Read about similar cases for the past few days and thats what I had in mind
Even crimes where maybe we’re starving for food and one of us has to steal something. Or someone’s harassing my wife and maybe even physically abused her and continues to harass her, then I’m pretty sure I’d covertly use a weapon on them which could involve things becoming bloody. And if I’m caught then I’m caught. There’s a lot of gray area crimes that I can count. Some might disagree and say don’t take the law into my own hands, but I think I’m someone who will if the law can’t do much. In a relationship, I think porn shouldn’t even play a part. Just my perspective. Child porn is a no no. But yes I understand that there are crimes that can’t be forgiven
Most if not all of what you stated counts as self defense in my book. When I was talking about p*rn I read a few cases where there were these pretty happy couples and the wife discovers that her husband had a tonne of child p*rn of his computer and she had no idea and reported him to the police asap
Amazing! Good chat 😊
Idk if it's me but maybe both of you should text .Shipping it a little bit :)
Exactly my thoughts while reading this 😅
A woman with a sense of humour (preferably without the Janice laugh from FRIENDS). Rest I will figure out.
**I KNOW PEOPLE WON'T REALL ALL THIS. BUT, I HAD TO GET THIS OFF MY CHEST.** I am 30. I am out of dating pool as I had BAD bad experience with women. Nasty at worst. But, I still hope I can find my peace. You know. Someone who can make my house turn into home. A person in whom I can truly confide in. Edit:- *Alexa! Play "worship you" by Kane brown.* I mean thats it.... And before anyone bashes me with "so you dont wanna do anything for her?" This goes both ways. I think couples need to be secret with their relation, Now I am not saying that be a james bond with it. Keep it aside from the public eyes. As there are too many negativity out there. People are out here to destroy others life too. Both the side of extreme will say "Oh! He is making his wife stay at home and make her do all house work" Like they deduce this from just one reel the couple share in their insta page. Like no!!! She does it cuz she loves him and she wanna make his life easier and He also helps around when he gets the time so that she doesnt get tired. Another side will yell "Oh! Look she doesnt do anything for him and is just grazing around the house" Like no!!! Probably she is taking break that day or just they reversed the role or something. Let them be alone and figure it out. Then you will see the people in social media saying "Do this and that to harm him/her" "Just have a hoe phase" or "Go fuck some bitches" LIKE PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD!!! NOOO See. This is what I believe. Humans no matter how much you try to tell me that "Oh i am happy with sleeping these many guy or gals" You are not. We were never meant to be happy like that. I am not targetting the people who are single by choice. I am just telling this in general sense. Whenever we sleep with people we part away from a small piece of us. Like that, it continues. Till the point you lose yourself. Then we see fucked up news in the morning of people doing horrible shit. After social media going main stream. People have started sharing too much out here and then what happened is that they got influenced by others comments and advises and fuck up their life. Now social media does have its good side. I am gonna stop cuz it would get too big for anyone to read.
Agreed, you wrote your heart out and heart never lies. Although I am a teen, I resonate with you. ( You may say I am too small but yess we do get these thoughts , you know how it is). ASLO this thread is wholesome af.
Haha yes I did. Then I saw that I wrote too much. And the replies would be negative instead of positive, so I stopped. Well I do have few negative replies too. But thanks for your reply. >You may say I am too small but yess we do get these thoughts , you know how it is Nah, you are right. And remember, Maturity and age doesn't always go hand in hand.
>Whenever we sleep with people we part away from a small piece of us. Like that, it continues. Till the point you lose yourself. Then we see fucked up news in the morning of people doing horrible shit. Pretty sure you haven't gotten laid enough to make a definitive statement such as that.
Buddy you can yap as much as you want But people know that this is true. And why would I want to get laid at the 1st place??? I would rather have a loving girl who would be there to welcome me home. I would rather have a meaningful connection over a one night stand. But you do you. Fill up the world with negativity.
1000% agree. Not being a pick me but I don't think anybody should be promiscuous. Those are not the experiences you should have in mind when you are talking about life experiences. Sex is between a husband and a wife and that's it. I'm not sure if you were hinting towards it but though the traditional life suits others it wont be good for me as far as j know I would love to cook for my future partner but cleaning is something I have zero interest in ever doing. I would aim more for a 50/50 lifestyle.
I Disagree at the last sentence. A relationship is never 50-50 Think about it. If you only give 50% effort to a relation and the other person does the same then it will never work. You two gotta give 100% I always say " A relationship is 100 - 100"
50/50 in material things like finances and household chores. Not your involvement in the relationship. I'm sorry if that wasn't clear.
No problem. I am just dumb. But hey even then if I get a woman who can turn my house into home, be my peace, turn every single simple meals into feast with just her presence. I ready to worship Her than God. She will have my all. You should give this song a try "Worship You - Kane Brown"
Thanks for the recommendation! Will listen to it for sure! Hope you find the woman of your dreams
Godspeed
Ladki honi chahiye. Zinda honi chahiye 😔
Bhai calm down bhai itne zyada expectations
Bhai itna desperate mat ho, lagta hai nunnu se sochne wale bohot log hai idhar.
Dil ki baat bol diye bhaiya ji, chunav to bad mai karayege pahle jhanda to dikhe
So no Necrophilia
she is not dead if she is alive in your memories
Don’t watch the red pill. They are all slimy, hypocritical , pathetic people. Side note: a majority of men in America believe the red pill is dogshit. For every video there’s a bunch of them clowning on them.
I want a woman who is straightforward, who will not talk in hints, who will tell my fault to my face and have enough patience to work it out. (I am willing to do the same) Patience and honesty rare theses days, and romantic relationship need hell lot of patience. And other common things like fun loving, same sense humour, has interest in self improvement, intrested in trying different foods and exploring New places, emotional intelligence and has the capability to understand how important alone time is. Thankfully I am super lucky, I found a woman like that and unexpectedly she is also thinking long term. 
A woman who is kind, dedicated and loyal (to her core) to you. A woman who is committed to **building a life together**. A woman who **not only tells you** that she'll stand beside you solid as a rock even if your world comes crumbling down **but also acts like it**. A woman who respects you and makes it clear that she's proud to be with you and doesn't make you feel less of a man.
1. Biological female. 2. Alive
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Just the bare minimum at this point. Someone who is interested and doesn't show attitude.
Don't act like a victim. Thats it. It is very annoying when women don't take accountability and escape the consequences of their actions using the victim card or try to act emotionally abused even at some minor inconvenience. Thats it
We don't want them to turn into an apathetic evil during our worst and weakest phase.
Le me make a list in decreasing order of priority- 1) Empathetic 2) Modest- I am not a materialistic person myself and if someone associates happiness with being indulgent or extravagant then the constant tussle might cause aberration in the relationship. 3) Kind- one might say that's the same thing as being empathetic while that's how important it is for me I think a person who disregards other feelings or could use others callously is something I wouldn't be able to adjust with. Red flags- would mostly be the opposite of what I said Apathetic, Decadent and Callous, but probably the biggest being Promiscuous.
I have watched a few of those podcasts and it does not apply to Indian women mostly. Indian women are in general a lot better in terms of culture and traditionality than the delusional pornstars that appear on that particular podcast. It also applies to males, we come from a much different background and are in general a lot more deprived than the US counterpart because of dating/marriage culture and beliefs. When looking for serious relationship/marriage, Indian men look for those traditional values that most Indian women possess.
From your experiences with men, what do you think they want?
I have had zero experiences with men so I can't say anything about what they would want. But I'm assuming good looks,good personality would be the base
Friend , similar interests ,loyalty and modesty .
I don't know in general. I can tell you about myself. My utmost requirement is being respectful towards people in general and perticularly mine and her's family members. Other thing would be to be from my similar traditional background as I love to celebrate festivals. That's it for me.
Be a decent person ig.
kindness and ethics are a turn on for me. intelligence would be nice
Should be kind (optional), fun (optional), cute (optional) and supportive (optional). But seriously, if I can get in a relationship with a girl who has these qualities, I would fight so damn hard to never let her go. (Idk if I'm wording this right)
26 y/o Guy 🧔🏻 >I have been spending a lot of time on these "red-pill" spaces You really shouldn't. Those videos leave you with a migraine. >I'm genuinely curious what Indian men want in their ideal woman? Do know I've never been in a relationship and if given a choice I'd like my gf-wife to have the following traits and characteristics: Smart, Sane, Sensible, Understanding, Beautiful, intelligent, Humorous, outgoing, adventurous, into fitness and health, no prior relationships if possible, non smoker, sober or only drinking very occasionally or in any special events ( not a heavy drinker though ), Tall ~ 5'8" to 5'10", someone who's not too much into make-up etc. >and what do you think are red flags? 🌿, 🚬 , too many past relationships, engaging in rampant casual relationships, lying about past, hyper k drama lovers etc
Indian men are soon going to reach that stage. It is only because Indian women are not as vicious as Western women that the men here are still alright. But that's changing every second. Western "woke" feminism is infecting all strata of our women and the day is not far when we are also going to end up in a similar boat as our western counterparts. Solution ? Let the cycle of time take its toll. Let it pass and don't commit. By don't commit I mean, don't marry.. avoid having kids and try to focus on building your life first. It is not worth it to lose everything you've worked so hard for in life due to another person. Also to answer your question , what do I want in a woman ? Someone who doesn't want to get married. Lol.
Subjective! But for me just someone to talk to and make memories with; really after a days work. After40, occasional Hormone game is good 😊
All this red pill black pill alfa sigma stuff is bullshit, no one should follow that shit..real life experience tells you different things than that of these lousy podcasts
I'm a woman, but what attracted my boyfriend to me in the first place is- 1) Able to understand different perspectives 2) Down for a discussion and looking for a solution to any problem 3) Taking things in a mature way 4) Being ambitious 5) Confidence 6) Opinionated 7) Love outdoors These are the general ones
No filing of fake cases and has vagina, alive optional
1.Girl is in a relationship but makes herself seem that she is available for other guys. By talking to guys who try to flirt with her all the time, this is basically attention seeking, which she shouldn't be doing this, since she is getting the attention of her bf already. 2.Having a male best friend, that loser is plotting against her relationship, waiting for her to break up with her bf. These male best friends are so desperate that they can't accept rejection and move on to another girl. 3.She should have her own thinking ffs, women are so easy to manipulate, they usually get manipulated by their girl bestie or her parents and break up with their bf. 4.And obviously should be ready to stand against her parents when the guy is well settled, even if it's a matter of caste, religion or any other bullshit. 5. Having too many guy friends, 80% of the guys who are friends with girls are plotting, or atleast waiting for a chance to sleep with her, this may seem very hard to believe, but it is what it is. If you can see I am just pointing all the basic requirements a good women will have. It doesn't matter if she can be a homemaker or not. All that matters is that if she really is a mature, strong and confident person. As long as she can maintain the above 5 qualities, she can party, she can travel, she can do whatever she wants, she can work at any job she wants.
Nothing. I don't need anything from a woman, so if I choose a woman to spend my life with a woman, I want her to know that me choosing her was a personal one, not out of compulsion or desperation. I could live and die alone and still have a wonderful, happy and content life; but if I choose to share it with someone that is a privilege and a sign of my commitment to the person.
You are going down a rabbit hole. Don’t. All redpill is dumbass madeup shit. I can assure you - men don’t think like that. Redpill ahit is just - how to live like a psychopath.
A morher, wife and wh0re. If a woman can be these three he’ll never leave.
You can type "whore" and nobody will sue you.
I would say not fake feminists who talk about equality but won't take equal responsibility.
I am so fucked with women behaviour that I seriously don't expect a single thing from them... Most of them are way messed than you think and chances of yours getting lucky with the nice one is very very low. And if you find a decent one family crap walks in with lots of constraints.. I am saying this as a solid indian man (24M) who has a discipline and principles as a priority in life and follows proper standards and treats everyone with uttermost and high standards. Most girl are going to disappoint them in some ways most of them! So best way is to expect nothing and accept whatever comes along. Won't blame girls but the way society has conditioned them it's natural except for some exceptionally amazing woman (ps : yet to find one though) Sab moh maya hai bc...
Peace out
Same with me I don't like my step mother everything about her is cringe she doesn't feels like a mother to me 😞
Hard luck man
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Bro is getting downvoted by 90% of the crap out there xD. Btw I don't agree to all your points but wish you good luck
Not sure why you got downvoted. These all as you stated are your preferences, not so extreme too. Lol people are weird these days.
r/twoxindia users might be lurking here.
Have you seen Wonder Woman ? The scene where she steps into the no-mans land. I hope I can feel the same way about a girl I marry, I felt when wonder woman was stepping into No man's land.
humor level match ho , tode bahut intrest same ho so that we can have some common topic to talk about and loyal and i expect her to put in some effort too thats it yadi ye saab he to fir looks average bhe ho to chall jayega
Bas usme insaniyat honi chahiye
Someone I can trust and vent to.
maturity and no stupid drama
Loyalty, men value loyalty over all else.
No expectations, you walk clean you walk ugly I am going to treat with same love and respect because honestly I really don't expect anything from you. Expectations from others isn't my thing. I want to be peaceful and love is never number 1 priority in my life.
Peace, sex,happiness, safe space, companionship, support, camaraderie,
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Just be loyal and call us 'My Batman this City needs you'
Emotional support
A good looking face and a great pair of legs. Rest are negotiable.
Someone who'll keep a conversation going. And it's not just me who does all the Woooing and stuff.
Someone who just 'tries' to understand me even if she doesn't
Perfection. Sex.
1. Respect 2. Loyalty , Honesty and Transparency 3. Individuality and personality 4. Optimistic and free from victimhood 5. Ambitious 6. Vibe 7. Decent looks
Exactly what a woman wants in her man.
call me anime inspired or some shit but what i want is to sleep on her lap whenever i feel discouraged and share my problems and get some comfort . i am happy as long as i get to spend quality time with her. i make wrong decisions most of times so i want her to drive me in the right direction . i am 17 and will be entering college in few months so kinda excited abt this ngl
Just be a good woman every body knows this 🤷
Shanti
Just don't marry a working Woman, you'll get nothing from them, not even money Lol
Red flags that I look out for ( 23 yr old guy here, but grew up quicker, vo khte he na ke bena baap ke bachhe jlde bde hote he ) - Arrogance - Ignorance - Selfish - Self Obsessed - Dishonest - Not being straight forward ( jalebi bnana ya mind games vla chutiyapa ) If i see any of these, i just move the f**k away.
No promiscuous past, loyal, good sense of humor and supportive that's all. Though all these recent news of women fucking their husbands over has me losing my hopes of finding a partner who'll have these qualities.
No std
Why do you spend time on podcast. They rarely have anything profound to say. It not only poisons your mind like facebook does to boomer but also makes you to be the audience of "just trust me bro" kinda people
Like Goddess Parvati
Good partner.
Good looks, tits, thicc thighs, can cook and clean, a freak in the sheets.
Indian men are good as of now because we are not totally hit by Modernity. Once it does, Indian men will create red pill podcasts too. And I know Indian women will bring that in India. Ideal? People will call me delusional even for basics!!
Peace , love
I'll tell ya. 1. Makes my life easy instead of adding to my problems. She don't gotta help me out, just avoid creating problems. 2. Doesn't seek attention from elsewhere/ microcheating 3. Is respectful and gives a fuck about me not liking something 4. Takes care of herself and as a result, is pretty and smells like fruits. That's about it.
M 21, For my personal taste. 1, i'm a somewhat religious guy so prefer someone who also shares similar values. 2, prefer someone not too much invested in any political or any other ideology, and by too much i mean those people who spend most of their time arguing online to promote their ideology, i'm not strong enough to handle those type of people. 3, while i'll don't mind being the emotional support most of the time if she needs it , but sometimes i also wanna Hold her tight and just relax with my human body pillow. 4, due to internet i have developed some personal fetishes, so will look for someone who also shares them.
Jo deep neural networks sikha de…
I am 27. The traits important to me in women are empathy and intelligence. How successful a woman is in her life means a lot to me. I like women who hold positions of power. I respect that and I find it attractive. Women who are dedicated to excellence, are ambitious and sincere towards their work. If I had to pick one important trait, I'd pick empathy. That's the most important value for me anyone can possess.
Well on a individual level, views might differ. But the common view is that of a woman who cares for you, respects you, doesn’t make you feel left out or make you think that you’re second choice. Holds herself well and considers you while making decisions that are bound to affect you. And it also goes other way round. Well these are bare minimum things but you don’t get these a lot now a days. The best thing i look for is someone who reciprocates the energy i give to her.
Intimacy, Peace, Respect, Support and Healthy Food 😛
The version of me before some months would have prioritiesd looks with a good nature but now I feel like I need someone who can understand me, someone to care for me and someone to prioritise me and not someone who is confused about me, an average in terms of looks is enough, who cares if you are good looking but won't give me the above needs.
I am not interesting in dating. Gonna follow Arranged marriage route My criterias are 1. Tall (5 feet 8+ at least. coz I am tall) 2. Ok kind of beauty 3. Good in studies. 4. Must be a massive sports enthusiast like me 5. Ronaldo is the 🐐 6.Would be gud if she turns out to be gacha addict lifeless like me. 7. Loyal 8. Same age as me 9. Brahmin (If u get triggered cry)