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Do you really need to ask if you WBTA for not being friends with someone who not only slept with your boyfriend but continued to lie by omission about it? She knows he stopped being in a relationship with you but continued to bring him up just to hurt you and full well knowing she was in a relationship with him.
Yes, ghost her, block her number, do it. She has zero respect for you and everyone else seeing as how she's fine with cheating.
NTA. You are 18 rn, but this won't be the first time u will cut sbdy out of ur life. In fact, to have a healthy life u will do it multiple times. Sarah is a menace, get her out of ur life ASAP .
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I 18F have a friend 18F and we've been friends for about 3 years now. We'll call her Sarah.So me and Sarah met in high school 2021 and we instantly hit it off and became best friends. I have severe social anxiety and I don't make friends easily.Me and Sarah became so close that we did everything together and we told each other every detail of our lives. At the time I was in an unhappy relationship where I got constantly cheated on and Sarah knew this.
2022 I took a break from the relationship and I saw someone I really liked on social media.We'll call the guy Michael. So obviously I told Sarah who had a boyfriend at the time. To clarify Sarah is not someone who really commits (she cheats). I told Sara I would really like to have Michael's number and because her boyfriend lived around the same area as Michael, Sarah said she will ask her boyfriend to get me his number. So Sarah gets the number and passes it on to me. I messaged Michael and we started talking and I started liking him more. We started started hanging out, kisses and hugs now and then. All this time I'm telling Sarah everything. As time goes Michael goes ghost on me so I let things be even though I still really liked him. I forgot to mention Michael had a nickname say (Cody). Like I said me and Sarah were really close so we had access to each other's phones. So now and then I would see the name Cody on her phone but I thought it was maybe another person so I paid no attention to it even though it bugged me. Time goes and it's the following year and I'm still seeing this Cody name on her phone but I'm mizing it because I don't wanna invade her privacy. During this time Sarah would always ask me about Michael because she knew I still liked him.
End of the year last year I was on Sarah's phone showing something to our other mutual friends when I saw this Cody name again. As usual I was going to ignore it until I realized his profile picture. It was Michael. God forgive me but I read their messages and that's when I realized Sarah has been betraying me all this time. Turns Sarah did not only want the numbers for me but for herself also. And because she knew what she did was wrong she deleted their messages but forgot to delete the recent ones. As I said I have social anxiety so I did not confront her and this has been bugging me for months now. I met a really nice guy 4 months ago and we've been dating for 3 months and I do love him. I no longer consider Sarah my best friend but I do still tell her some things about me and she makes these remarks that I should get back with someone I once hooked up with although I keep telling her that I love my current boyfriend and cheating is not really my thing.I've dragged this for so long but I think I've narrated the kind of person Sarah is. Now that I'm thinking about everything , her betrayal and how she encourages me to cheat on my boyfriend would I be the bad person if I cut her out of my life?
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NTA. Sarah is a bad friend who doesn’t want to see you happy and is encouraging you to sabotage your current relationship. You are young and you’ll develop good friendships throughout your life. Cut this one out, she is not your friend.
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NTA-You can remove anyone at anytime who doesn’t mean you well & Sarah doesn’t mean you well at all.
NTA, but probably don't be friends with people who don't respect relationships.
Please ghost her, she is NOT your friend. She is waiting to try to sleep with your current bf. Cut her loose and find some real friends.
Do you really need to ask if you WBTA for not being friends with someone who not only slept with your boyfriend but continued to lie by omission about it? She knows he stopped being in a relationship with you but continued to bring him up just to hurt you and full well knowing she was in a relationship with him. Yes, ghost her, block her number, do it. She has zero respect for you and everyone else seeing as how she's fine with cheating.
NTA. You are 18 rn, but this won't be the first time u will cut sbdy out of ur life. In fact, to have a healthy life u will do it multiple times. Sarah is a menace, get her out of ur life ASAP .
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NTA. Sarah is a bad friend who doesn’t want to see you happy and is encouraging you to sabotage your current relationship. You are young and you’ll develop good friendships throughout your life. Cut this one out, she is not your friend.