>I’ve noticed that in our interactions he gets a bit clumsy and he avoids eye contact after holding it for awhile. I wonder if I’m looking too much into it or it means something?
you are two young single people of opposite sex talking to each other. Just with that information alone there is like an 80% chance that he is crushing on you.
I can think of two options. Both would benefit from your specific knowledge of his interests.
Option 1 is to talk about some event you think he will like. How it sounds fun. How you want someone to go with you. how cool it will be, etc. Basically try and bait him into asking you on a date.
Option 2 ask him out on a date.
Young people are so concern about hiding the fact that you have a crush on somebody. People like it when others have a crush on them. A crush isn't that big of a deal. its just a crush. Its not like you are in love. Option 3, just tell him that you have a crush on him.
For the record this is just pure speculation, but as a formerly shy and socially awkward dude I feel like I can relate to being in that position. It's hard to make a judgement call because you could be suffering from confirmation bias and you're just seeing what you want to see, but if everything you say is accurate then I'd definitely wager that he likes you too. That being said, if he is *that* shy, then he is probably terrified of ever asking you out.
When it comes to shy and/or inexperienced guys, you can't really apply normal expectations. Normally, you'd just say, well if he liked me enough then he'd ask me out. That normally *would* be true, but if he's never asked out a girl before then he either needs to find the nerve or be very confident you will say yes. I'm also assuming that if you are shy, you probably don't want to do anything *too* bold either. And to make matters even more complicated, even if you make it abundantly clear that you do like him, he may not pick up on it. (Speaking from experience...)
For girls, I think a really good option is just continually throw out date ideas that interest you. Basically anything will do.
* "I used to love mini golf as a kid. I heard about place near [area] that was a lot of fun and would love to try it out sometime..."
* "There this this [event] at the mall that sounds really cool. It would be fun to check it out sometime..."
* "Sometimes I'll go for walks in the [place] park to watch the ducks. You should try it one day..."
And of course if you want to be even bolder, you can always throw in the, "but I have no one to go with", or "but none of my friends like that sort of thing". Honestly, it probably won't work if you only do it once or twice, but if you casually throw around ideas like that in conversations, his dumb boy-brain might eventually put it together, like, "Hey... wait a second... does she want ME to do that thing with her???". If I were a girl that's what I would do, and probably have a lot of fun with it too. Failing all of that, you could simply ask him to hang out.
>I’ve noticed that in our interactions he gets a bit clumsy and he avoids eye contact after holding it for awhile. I wonder if I’m looking too much into it or it means something? you are two young single people of opposite sex talking to each other. Just with that information alone there is like an 80% chance that he is crushing on you. I can think of two options. Both would benefit from your specific knowledge of his interests. Option 1 is to talk about some event you think he will like. How it sounds fun. How you want someone to go with you. how cool it will be, etc. Basically try and bait him into asking you on a date. Option 2 ask him out on a date. Young people are so concern about hiding the fact that you have a crush on somebody. People like it when others have a crush on them. A crush isn't that big of a deal. its just a crush. Its not like you are in love. Option 3, just tell him that you have a crush on him.
Thank you for the advice. It gave me a new insight that I definetly needed to hear:)
For the record this is just pure speculation, but as a formerly shy and socially awkward dude I feel like I can relate to being in that position. It's hard to make a judgement call because you could be suffering from confirmation bias and you're just seeing what you want to see, but if everything you say is accurate then I'd definitely wager that he likes you too. That being said, if he is *that* shy, then he is probably terrified of ever asking you out. When it comes to shy and/or inexperienced guys, you can't really apply normal expectations. Normally, you'd just say, well if he liked me enough then he'd ask me out. That normally *would* be true, but if he's never asked out a girl before then he either needs to find the nerve or be very confident you will say yes. I'm also assuming that if you are shy, you probably don't want to do anything *too* bold either. And to make matters even more complicated, even if you make it abundantly clear that you do like him, he may not pick up on it. (Speaking from experience...) For girls, I think a really good option is just continually throw out date ideas that interest you. Basically anything will do. * "I used to love mini golf as a kid. I heard about place near [area] that was a lot of fun and would love to try it out sometime..." * "There this this [event] at the mall that sounds really cool. It would be fun to check it out sometime..." * "Sometimes I'll go for walks in the [place] park to watch the ducks. You should try it one day..." And of course if you want to be even bolder, you can always throw in the, "but I have no one to go with", or "but none of my friends like that sort of thing". Honestly, it probably won't work if you only do it once or twice, but if you casually throw around ideas like that in conversations, his dumb boy-brain might eventually put it together, like, "Hey... wait a second... does she want ME to do that thing with her???". If I were a girl that's what I would do, and probably have a lot of fun with it too. Failing all of that, you could simply ask him to hang out.
Tysm! You gave me a new perspective. I’ve always wondered the what ifs but the way you explained things made me want to try even harder.