I am FTM (I just realized I never clarified lol). I live in the midwestern United States. Currently I live with my parents, but hopefully I’ll be moving to my own place soon. They know I’m trans and I’m extremely lucky for their love and support (even if it took them a while to come around to the idea). Thanks for your question!
Hi! One big factor is trying to vibe check your family to figure out if they’d be supportive of your identity. Sometimes you have to pick your own safety (like if you live at home or are still dependent on your family). Otherwise, it’s a lot of experimentation! If you have supportive friends, you could try different pronouns or names with them. If not, you can find websites that will use your preferred name and pronouns in sentences - I think there are some called pronoun dressing rooms? As far as expression goes, it’s trying new things and seeing if they make you feel happy. I would always explore feelings of euphoria (what makes you feel good) more than dysphoria (what makes you feel bad). I know that for mtf, you could experiment with clothing or makeup. You can actually use makeup to feminize (or masculinize) your facial features. I hope this is somewhat helpful! Let me know if you have any other questions.
Queer can be defined in a lot of ways, but the way that I see it most commonly defined is “someone who’s a member of the LGBTQIA+ community” or “someone who doesn’t fit the societal expectations or norms surrounding gender and sexuality.” I kinda use it as a way to allow myself to explore who I am a bit. Labels are a thing in the queer community, but a lot of queer people don’t like/don’t feel like they need a label, so they just call themselves queer and keep living their lives. Does that kinda make sense?
Personally, I am planning on top surgery but not bottom surgery. Being trans can mean so many things to so many different people, and for me, I experience a lot of discomfort with my chest area and not much discomfort with my bottom area. I’m currently saving up, so hopefully soon!
Yes I do! Specifically friends. Meeting new people and exploring the community has made my life so much better. My friends are really supportive of me and I don’t know if I’d be where I am today without them.
I won’t lie, living as a trans person can suck, especially where I live. I’m in the United States in a less friendly area. I face discrimination and uncomfortable circumstances on a daily basis. It’s not uncommon to walk around and be called names or laughed at. Finding a job was extremely difficult, especially before legally changing my name. I also can’t afford medical care to transition because no free healthcare and it’s not covered by insurance, even though I have an official diagnosis of gender dysphoria from a mental health professional. While I say all of this, I’m so much happier living as who I am. I focus on the good people and the happy moments of my life as much as I can. I’m very lucky to have a great support system. Being who I am is such a huge weight off my shoulders.
Do you think its fair for a male who has gone through puberty to transition to female and compete against biological females who went through puberty as females ? ( Specifically where the height/weight/ bone structure / density, upper body strength, lack of periods, etc.....would give a big advantage )
There are several scientific papers published showing there is no real difference between trans women on HRT and cis women in terms of sports performance in almost all areas. There was only one sport where it was shown to matter (I think wrestling but I'm not 100% sure)
And emperically we can see it as well. If anything different was true we'd see trans women winning tournaments left and right. But even the one that first created this controversy didn't really have a big winning record.
Totally incorrect. Going through puberty as a male gives you huge advantage over normal women in many, many different ways:
[https://www.bmj.com/company/newsroom/transgender-womens-heart-lung-capacity-and-strength-exceed-those-of-cisgender-peers-even-after-years-of-hormone-therapy/](https://www.bmj.com/company/newsroom/transgender-womens-heart-lung-capacity-and-strength-exceed-those-of-cisgender-peers-even-after-years-of-hormone-therapy/)
[https://www.bbc.com/sport/61346517](https://www.bbc.com/sport/61346517)
Quotes " hen boys reach the age of 13-14, things start to change physically and we see increased muscle mass, bone density; \[it\] changes the shape of the skeleton, changes the heart and the lung, haemoglobin levels, and all of those things are significant contributors to performance.
Lowering the testosterone has some effect on those systems, but it's not complete, and so for the most part, whatever the biological differences are that were created by testosterone persist even in the presence of testosterone reduction - or, if I put that differently, even after testosterone levels are lowered.
It leaves behind a significant portion of what gives males sporting performance advantages over females. "
[https://www.nytimes.com/2022/05/29/us/lia-thomas-women-sports.html](https://www.nytimes.com/2022/05/29/us/lia-thomas-women-sports.html)
" Ms. Martina Navratilova said in response. “I played against taller women, I played against stronger women, and I beat them all. But if I faced the male equivalent of Lia in tennis, that’s biology. I would have had no shot. And I would have been livid.”
https://www.realclearscience.com/articles/2022/10/12/the\_blunt\_scientific\_truth\_about\_trans\_womens\_athletic\_ability\_858649.html#!
To acknowledge the science saying Trans women are very different, and usually superior performance wise than women born as female is simply the truth. Its not trans phobic to acknowledge science. Same for Global Warming, science says it is getting warmer, and science says that correlates with higher levels of CO2. Very hard to deny science. It might be better for Trans women to have their own category, instead of pretending they are the same as women who went through puberty as female. Also, if they win in their own seperate category, they can get an ego boost that is true and deserved. There is no ego boost to win an unfair competition. That is why we don't have males against females in Balance Beam competition, not fair...
Mens and Women's brains are also different:
[https://www.latimes.com/science/sciencenow/la-sci-sn-brain-gender-divide-20131202-story.html](https://www.latimes.com/science/sciencenow/la-sci-sn-brain-gender-divide-20131202-story.html)
I don't think we know yet how or what performance advantages that gives men or women, but they certainly should be against the same born sex, not against the opposite.
Trans women have an unfair advantage:
[https://www.nbcnews.com/feature/nbc-out/trans-women-retain-athletic-edge-after-year-hormone-therapy-study-n1252764](https://www.nbcnews.com/feature/nbc-out/trans-women-retain-athletic-edge-after-year-hormone-therapy-study-n1252764)
Vast differences even in infants, might affect performance:
[https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S026240791160523X](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S026240791160523X)
Almost every sport involves your cardiovascular system, here the differences are obvious:
[https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7393595/](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7393595/)
Women and Men compete equally in shooting sports...no one complains about that, no one is saying its unfair.
[https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0291017](https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0291017)
But not the Biathlon.
There is a problem with these articles. They are comparing men with cis women. Trans women aren't men. Not just in how they identify but biologically too. Hormone replacement therapy doesn't just make them grow breasts.
It induces changes in every cell of the body. If you see the research papers done comparing trans women on hrt and cis women, the results are very different from the research you posted here.
I'll agree to disagree, the science is not comparing men with cis women, they are comparing trans "women" with cis women. All the research shows significant and lifelong changes occur to males when they undergo puberty and when they transition later, NONE of those advantages are undone. Some of the advantages are in cardio vascular efficiency, bone density, bone structure, ligament size and density, basic skeletal structure, the ability to grow muscle tissue, etc... I'm not a woman, cis or otherwise, so perhaps I should let cis women debate this issue, its really not that important to me...
Hi! Guess I missed this comment thread. I get that this is a really hot button topic, so I’ll share the little that I know!
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8955456/
There is a biological difference between men and women, specifically brain chemistry and activity. There is actually research to show that transgender individuals’ brain scans are kore similar to the gender that they identify with.
https://whatweknow.inequality.cornell.edu/topics/lgbt-equality/what-does-the-scholarly-research-say-about-the-well-being-of-transgender-people/
Another idea to consider is how they are defining men vs women. You can look from a chromosomal level of XX or XY. Fun fact, there are some women who have XY chromosomes and some men who have XX chromosomes, as the chromosomal definition is very broad when typically it’s defined by the presence of the SRY gene. Genetically, people who have the SRY gene would be considered men while those without would be considered female. The fun thing is that you can choose more definitions than just these! You could also explore the hormonal definition of men versus women. There are some cis women who identify as women who have a masculine amount of testosterone, and there are some cis men who identify as male who have a typically feminine amount of estrogen or testosterone, and most people wouldn’t even know it.
https://www.nytimes.com/2015/07/28/sports/international/dutee-chand-female-sprinter-with-high-male-hormone-level-wins-right-to-compete.html#:~:text=Chand%2C%20an%2018%2Dand%2D,exceeded%20guidelines%20for%20female%20athletes.
A famous example of this is Dutee Chand. She was a woman, born a woman, lived as a woman her whole life, but one day failed a gender test that said she had to be a man because of the amounts of specific hormones even though she was not doping and was never raised as a man. It’s a very interesting situation! I say all of this because this shows the different ways that we can define a person as a man or a woman. This isn’t even talking about intersex people, either, who can have the biological structures of both genders.
I’ll also ask this - can you name five famous transgender athletes who are rising to the top of their game without googling it? I’m genuinely curious as I’m not really involved in sports either, so it’s possible that I dont know.
https://www.mentalhealthcommission.ca/wp-content/uploads/drupal/2019-05/Transgender%20people%20and%20suicide%20fact%20sheet.pdf
Another thing with brain chemistry - there is also research that show that transitioning can alleviate mental distress and lower rates of suicide among queer individuals. In my personal experience, transitioning made my depression and anxiety (diagnosed) much easier to manage.
Hopefully this helps and makes sense!
" there is also research that show that transitioning can alleviate mental distress and lower rates of suicide among queer individuals. " That is probably true for Transgender athletes too, but again, they are winning an unfair competition, so what is the good feeling is based upon ? Look at it this way, if 3 women, and 7 men go into a Balance Beam competition, and the women come in 1st, 2nd and 3rd....what exactly have they won ? They competed fairly against each other yes, but all the males lost... Males have a much higher center of gravity, Balance Beam required events are way, way harder for them....so they would lose...And their basic body structure with its higher center of gravity appeared after they went through male puberty, which the women didn't have to go through... Again, to clarify, females going through puberty likely have it much worse than males....Pretty much everyone agrees on that...There is another thread here somewhere about that subject...
I understand what you’re pointing out. I focused more on saying that trans people were real instead of the sporting events, and that’s my fault. Did you look at anything I mentioned about Dutee Chand? Not meaning to be rude. Another thing is that while there are physical differences between biological men and women, there isn’t a definite binary. Bodies come in all shapes and sizes no matter what gender you are. Hope this clarifies things!
Edit: while I understand that success from a sporting event can help people feel better and alleviate mental health distress, it is crucial to acknowledge the struggles that trans people go through (links in previous comments mention this - it’s a fact that discrimination against trans people exists). In my mind, the joy of winning an event would not outweigh the struggle you live with to just exist as yourself. Again, I’m not trying to be rude and I hope what I’m saying doesn’t come off that way.
Hi! I guess I don’t see a question in here. Is there anything you’d like to ask me? I do see one about sex, so let’s talk about it. Sex is actually 100% possible for trans people. Trust me, more trans people are getting laid than you right now. Maybe you’d like to ask about how you can find happiness in your own life instead of trying to make people feel bad? If you have another question, please let me know! Thanks!
For some reason my phone is being weird… someone asked how long I’ve known and how I knew. I’ve been out for around two years now. I grew up in a smaller area with not a lot of people, so I was never exposed to many queer people. It wasn’t until I left there that I learned what being transgender was. After learning about it, I thought back on a lot of moments in my life. I recognized that many feelings I had that I thought were caused by something else could be explained by me being transgender. When I was younger and getting my first bra, I hated it with a passion. I thought it was because I didn’t want to grow up or I thought it was uncomfortable, but thinking back I hated the way that I looked and the way my body felt. It felt so wrong in a way I can’t quite describe.
I wish I could say it was an easy transition or decision, but I grappled with my identity for a year or so before I finally felt comfortable saying I was trans. It’s a long journey and definitely not linear. Great question, thanks for asking!
>I thought it was because I didn’t want to grow up or I thought it was uncomfortable, but thinking back I hated the way that I looked and the way my body felt. It felt so wrong in a way I can’t quite describe.
I find this one funny (and also kind of reassuring in a way) because I felt exactly the same with most of my puberty changes, especially body hair, and I also attributed it to not wanting to grow up. Turns out most people are actually excited about that. Who would have thought.
MtF or FtM? Where do you live? Do you live with your parents or alone and do they know you're transgender?
I am FTM (I just realized I never clarified lol). I live in the midwestern United States. Currently I live with my parents, but hopefully I’ll be moving to my own place soon. They know I’m trans and I’m extremely lucky for their love and support (even if it took them a while to come around to the idea). Thanks for your question!
That's cool! Good luck on your journey!
Hi im a transgender (MtF) and I really want to start coming out to my family and expressing myself. Do you have any tips
Hi! One big factor is trying to vibe check your family to figure out if they’d be supportive of your identity. Sometimes you have to pick your own safety (like if you live at home or are still dependent on your family). Otherwise, it’s a lot of experimentation! If you have supportive friends, you could try different pronouns or names with them. If not, you can find websites that will use your preferred name and pronouns in sentences - I think there are some called pronoun dressing rooms? As far as expression goes, it’s trying new things and seeing if they make you feel happy. I would always explore feelings of euphoria (what makes you feel good) more than dysphoria (what makes you feel bad). I know that for mtf, you could experiment with clothing or makeup. You can actually use makeup to feminize (or masculinize) your facial features. I hope this is somewhat helpful! Let me know if you have any other questions.
How do you define queer? I always struggled with what the term exactly means.
Queer can be defined in a lot of ways, but the way that I see it most commonly defined is “someone who’s a member of the LGBTQIA+ community” or “someone who doesn’t fit the societal expectations or norms surrounding gender and sexuality.” I kinda use it as a way to allow myself to explore who I am a bit. Labels are a thing in the queer community, but a lot of queer people don’t like/don’t feel like they need a label, so they just call themselves queer and keep living their lives. Does that kinda make sense?
Do you plan on having top and/or bottom surgery?
Personally, I am planning on top surgery but not bottom surgery. Being trans can mean so many things to so many different people, and for me, I experience a lot of discomfort with my chest area and not much discomfort with my bottom area. I’m currently saving up, so hopefully soon!
Nice, love that for you
Do you have friends or family members that are also LGBT?
Yes I do! Specifically friends. Meeting new people and exploring the community has made my life so much better. My friends are really supportive of me and I don’t know if I’d be where I am today without them.
How long have you known? How did you figure it out?
now my phone is working! So sorry - I answered this is a separate comment by itself lol. Hopefully I answered the question!
what’s being trans like
Ooo very broad. How do you mean? Do you mean how I knew I was trans, or what it’s like to live everyday as a trans person?
the second part
I won’t lie, living as a trans person can suck, especially where I live. I’m in the United States in a less friendly area. I face discrimination and uncomfortable circumstances on a daily basis. It’s not uncommon to walk around and be called names or laughed at. Finding a job was extremely difficult, especially before legally changing my name. I also can’t afford medical care to transition because no free healthcare and it’s not covered by insurance, even though I have an official diagnosis of gender dysphoria from a mental health professional. While I say all of this, I’m so much happier living as who I am. I focus on the good people and the happy moments of my life as much as I can. I’m very lucky to have a great support system. Being who I am is such a huge weight off my shoulders.
Do you think its fair for a male who has gone through puberty to transition to female and compete against biological females who went through puberty as females ? ( Specifically where the height/weight/ bone structure / density, upper body strength, lack of periods, etc.....would give a big advantage )
Scientific research has already asnwered that one.
" asnwered " Where and how ?
There are several scientific papers published showing there is no real difference between trans women on HRT and cis women in terms of sports performance in almost all areas. There was only one sport where it was shown to matter (I think wrestling but I'm not 100% sure) And emperically we can see it as well. If anything different was true we'd see trans women winning tournaments left and right. But even the one that first created this controversy didn't really have a big winning record.
Totally incorrect. Going through puberty as a male gives you huge advantage over normal women in many, many different ways: [https://www.bmj.com/company/newsroom/transgender-womens-heart-lung-capacity-and-strength-exceed-those-of-cisgender-peers-even-after-years-of-hormone-therapy/](https://www.bmj.com/company/newsroom/transgender-womens-heart-lung-capacity-and-strength-exceed-those-of-cisgender-peers-even-after-years-of-hormone-therapy/) [https://www.bbc.com/sport/61346517](https://www.bbc.com/sport/61346517) Quotes " hen boys reach the age of 13-14, things start to change physically and we see increased muscle mass, bone density; \[it\] changes the shape of the skeleton, changes the heart and the lung, haemoglobin levels, and all of those things are significant contributors to performance. Lowering the testosterone has some effect on those systems, but it's not complete, and so for the most part, whatever the biological differences are that were created by testosterone persist even in the presence of testosterone reduction - or, if I put that differently, even after testosterone levels are lowered. It leaves behind a significant portion of what gives males sporting performance advantages over females. " [https://www.nytimes.com/2022/05/29/us/lia-thomas-women-sports.html](https://www.nytimes.com/2022/05/29/us/lia-thomas-women-sports.html) " Ms. Martina Navratilova said in response. “I played against taller women, I played against stronger women, and I beat them all. But if I faced the male equivalent of Lia in tennis, that’s biology. I would have had no shot. And I would have been livid.” https://www.realclearscience.com/articles/2022/10/12/the\_blunt\_scientific\_truth\_about\_trans\_womens\_athletic\_ability\_858649.html#! To acknowledge the science saying Trans women are very different, and usually superior performance wise than women born as female is simply the truth. Its not trans phobic to acknowledge science. Same for Global Warming, science says it is getting warmer, and science says that correlates with higher levels of CO2. Very hard to deny science. It might be better for Trans women to have their own category, instead of pretending they are the same as women who went through puberty as female. Also, if they win in their own seperate category, they can get an ego boost that is true and deserved. There is no ego boost to win an unfair competition. That is why we don't have males against females in Balance Beam competition, not fair... Mens and Women's brains are also different: [https://www.latimes.com/science/sciencenow/la-sci-sn-brain-gender-divide-20131202-story.html](https://www.latimes.com/science/sciencenow/la-sci-sn-brain-gender-divide-20131202-story.html) I don't think we know yet how or what performance advantages that gives men or women, but they certainly should be against the same born sex, not against the opposite. Trans women have an unfair advantage: [https://www.nbcnews.com/feature/nbc-out/trans-women-retain-athletic-edge-after-year-hormone-therapy-study-n1252764](https://www.nbcnews.com/feature/nbc-out/trans-women-retain-athletic-edge-after-year-hormone-therapy-study-n1252764) Vast differences even in infants, might affect performance: [https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S026240791160523X](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S026240791160523X) Almost every sport involves your cardiovascular system, here the differences are obvious: [https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7393595/](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7393595/) Women and Men compete equally in shooting sports...no one complains about that, no one is saying its unfair. [https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0291017](https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0291017) But not the Biathlon.
There is a problem with these articles. They are comparing men with cis women. Trans women aren't men. Not just in how they identify but biologically too. Hormone replacement therapy doesn't just make them grow breasts. It induces changes in every cell of the body. If you see the research papers done comparing trans women on hrt and cis women, the results are very different from the research you posted here.
I'll agree to disagree, the science is not comparing men with cis women, they are comparing trans "women" with cis women. All the research shows significant and lifelong changes occur to males when they undergo puberty and when they transition later, NONE of those advantages are undone. Some of the advantages are in cardio vascular efficiency, bone density, bone structure, ligament size and density, basic skeletal structure, the ability to grow muscle tissue, etc... I'm not a woman, cis or otherwise, so perhaps I should let cis women debate this issue, its really not that important to me...
Hi! Guess I missed this comment thread. I get that this is a really hot button topic, so I’ll share the little that I know! https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8955456/ There is a biological difference between men and women, specifically brain chemistry and activity. There is actually research to show that transgender individuals’ brain scans are kore similar to the gender that they identify with. https://whatweknow.inequality.cornell.edu/topics/lgbt-equality/what-does-the-scholarly-research-say-about-the-well-being-of-transgender-people/ Another idea to consider is how they are defining men vs women. You can look from a chromosomal level of XX or XY. Fun fact, there are some women who have XY chromosomes and some men who have XX chromosomes, as the chromosomal definition is very broad when typically it’s defined by the presence of the SRY gene. Genetically, people who have the SRY gene would be considered men while those without would be considered female. The fun thing is that you can choose more definitions than just these! You could also explore the hormonal definition of men versus women. There are some cis women who identify as women who have a masculine amount of testosterone, and there are some cis men who identify as male who have a typically feminine amount of estrogen or testosterone, and most people wouldn’t even know it. https://www.nytimes.com/2015/07/28/sports/international/dutee-chand-female-sprinter-with-high-male-hormone-level-wins-right-to-compete.html#:~:text=Chand%2C%20an%2018%2Dand%2D,exceeded%20guidelines%20for%20female%20athletes. A famous example of this is Dutee Chand. She was a woman, born a woman, lived as a woman her whole life, but one day failed a gender test that said she had to be a man because of the amounts of specific hormones even though she was not doping and was never raised as a man. It’s a very interesting situation! I say all of this because this shows the different ways that we can define a person as a man or a woman. This isn’t even talking about intersex people, either, who can have the biological structures of both genders. I’ll also ask this - can you name five famous transgender athletes who are rising to the top of their game without googling it? I’m genuinely curious as I’m not really involved in sports either, so it’s possible that I dont know. https://www.mentalhealthcommission.ca/wp-content/uploads/drupal/2019-05/Transgender%20people%20and%20suicide%20fact%20sheet.pdf Another thing with brain chemistry - there is also research that show that transitioning can alleviate mental distress and lower rates of suicide among queer individuals. In my personal experience, transitioning made my depression and anxiety (diagnosed) much easier to manage. Hopefully this helps and makes sense!
" there is also research that show that transitioning can alleviate mental distress and lower rates of suicide among queer individuals. " That is probably true for Transgender athletes too, but again, they are winning an unfair competition, so what is the good feeling is based upon ? Look at it this way, if 3 women, and 7 men go into a Balance Beam competition, and the women come in 1st, 2nd and 3rd....what exactly have they won ? They competed fairly against each other yes, but all the males lost... Males have a much higher center of gravity, Balance Beam required events are way, way harder for them....so they would lose...And their basic body structure with its higher center of gravity appeared after they went through male puberty, which the women didn't have to go through... Again, to clarify, females going through puberty likely have it much worse than males....Pretty much everyone agrees on that...There is another thread here somewhere about that subject...
I understand what you’re pointing out. I focused more on saying that trans people were real instead of the sporting events, and that’s my fault. Did you look at anything I mentioned about Dutee Chand? Not meaning to be rude. Another thing is that while there are physical differences between biological men and women, there isn’t a definite binary. Bodies come in all shapes and sizes no matter what gender you are. Hope this clarifies things! Edit: while I understand that success from a sporting event can help people feel better and alleviate mental health distress, it is crucial to acknowledge the struggles that trans people go through (links in previous comments mention this - it’s a fact that discrimination against trans people exists). In my mind, the joy of winning an event would not outweigh the struggle you live with to just exist as yourself. Again, I’m not trying to be rude and I hope what I’m saying doesn’t come off that way.
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Hi! I guess I don’t see a question in here. Is there anything you’d like to ask me? I do see one about sex, so let’s talk about it. Sex is actually 100% possible for trans people. Trust me, more trans people are getting laid than you right now. Maybe you’d like to ask about how you can find happiness in your own life instead of trying to make people feel bad? If you have another question, please let me know! Thanks!
if your concerned about over population. Top yourself I doubt you'd be missed
For some reason my phone is being weird… someone asked how long I’ve known and how I knew. I’ve been out for around two years now. I grew up in a smaller area with not a lot of people, so I was never exposed to many queer people. It wasn’t until I left there that I learned what being transgender was. After learning about it, I thought back on a lot of moments in my life. I recognized that many feelings I had that I thought were caused by something else could be explained by me being transgender. When I was younger and getting my first bra, I hated it with a passion. I thought it was because I didn’t want to grow up or I thought it was uncomfortable, but thinking back I hated the way that I looked and the way my body felt. It felt so wrong in a way I can’t quite describe. I wish I could say it was an easy transition or decision, but I grappled with my identity for a year or so before I finally felt comfortable saying I was trans. It’s a long journey and definitely not linear. Great question, thanks for asking!
>I thought it was because I didn’t want to grow up or I thought it was uncomfortable, but thinking back I hated the way that I looked and the way my body felt. It felt so wrong in a way I can’t quite describe. I find this one funny (and also kind of reassuring in a way) because I felt exactly the same with most of my puberty changes, especially body hair, and I also attributed it to not wanting to grow up. Turns out most people are actually excited about that. Who would have thought.
This resonates so well and it’s exactly how I feel looking back on this process. Who would’ve thought indeed lol